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[nelix2000]

hey all, hope you all find the thread! we can niggles and worries!

Congratulations wasabi that's fantastic news!!

Aww poor you nelix, i hope she doesn't hang on for too much longer! Fingers crossed xx

Heeby your weekend sounds like it was lovely. I envy that as I'm feeling very low today.
DH and I went shopping (briefly) saturday, started to sort out the garden yesterday, then DH went out with his friends, and today I feel I have been robbed as DH was too tired to do anything so I ended up doing nothing as parents and sister are in Florida on hols.
It must be an emotional thing but I've been so tearful, I feel very lonely as most of my friends are still in the "party all night" stage so now I rarely get a phonecall from them. Plus DH has been going out with his friends very frequently lately (every other weekend) and works most weekends too. So, I feel alone, especially since my parents and sister have been away. I haven't talked to DH about it as I don't want to make him feel guilty about going out but I just wish he would make an effort with me. All we seem to do is sit in front of the TV and it's getting me down

Sorry for the downer ladies, feel i need to vent before i spontaneously combust!

Any advice?

Congratulations wasabi, I've just seen your news on the other thread ! Positive, sticky vibes (and I've got them to hand out this time) coming your way.

Blimey Nelix - she certainly likes it in there. Hope something happens soon, I've got the bubbly on ice and my 1-2 units waiting .

Hi Guys.

nelix i just said to DH 'i must log on to see if we have our 2nd little girl!' She is a stubborn little madam eh! Sweep away and pull her plug out of her luxury bath .... shame she's not a pisces, you could of understood her wanting to hang around! Hang on you're going to have a Gemini girl ... oh dear, i am a gemini (so is DH) and we are both split personalties for sure, great with teenage hormones in all ... sorry to put you off! girls are great honest! tee hee

wasabi wonderful news honey! Warm welcome to you babe, good girl for keeping positive, best thing for sticky babies!

wanabe sorry to hear you are feeling blue honey, am i right in thinking this is your first? if it helps i felt exactly the same with our DD, all my friends either had grown up older kids or none and i lost 2 over growing apart from them tbh, but it felt totally right after a while and my new friends with toddlers are lovely and we have so much more in common, my best bud of 2 years was through a pg yoga class! So don't feel blue about friends, half the time they don't know how to treat you but they will come round and be all over the new bub.

I remember someone famous, not sure who now, saying 'having a baby rocked my world but for my husband it only jiggled his a bit' which is so true, my DH loves his 'own' time and gets more than me but tbh i get to have DD to myself on these times and i do fight for my own time as well. Once DD arrived i truly knew what my purpose in life was and i am a better different person for it. Sorry if that sounds soppy, i think i what i'm trying to say is don't worry, life will be so wonderful in a few months time and you will move into a whole new world - trust me you will - and speak to DH, in a way that he can understand how blue you are, maybe can you book some time for yourself such as a facial or hair treatment or tell him you want to make the most of your freedom for nights out before bub comes along? chin up honey, be honest with him tho xxx

Wasabi Fantastic news, well done you its great to see you back on this thread again. I sure this one will be an extra special sticky bean xx
Nelix any news yet??

Wannabe Its so hard when your life goes off in a different direction to those around you and theirs stay the same.

Don't worry they will be there for you when you need them. Have a talk to your best friend, tell her how you are feeling, if she is a true friend she will make time for you, she probably hasn't stopped to think how you maybe feeling now that you are expecting, most people see the glam side of it & not the side that you are feeling right now (have been through it myself). As Heeby says see if you can join a class where you can meet mums to be. I still have some very close friends that I meet just after ds was born at a breast feeding group, bumps & babies groups are great as you all have something in common to talk about xxxx

Aww thanks Heeby your comments made me smile. It is my first and it's all very new to me, hormones, changing relationships etc etc. I love the fact that I'm going to be a mum and feel a bit like what you said about it being my purpose in life. I truely believe that as I've been excited about babies for as long as i can remember and couldn't wait to get married and become a mum. I guess now it's happening I'm disappointed that the whole pregnancy isn't the fantastic happy time I thought it would be. It impacts on so much of your life! Very naive starting off obviously lol
I'm so glad i've got this thread and all you lovely ladies to support me!
Smiley it's difficult with my friends at the moment, my closest friend is just finishing a 4 year degree and is planning to go travelling this summer, and my other close friend is in Turkey at the moment and is making plans to go on a 6 month travelling experience in June so wont even be around when my bub is born . It's just not a priority to them, they're at a different stage to me i think.

Anyway, feeling a little happier today and i've noticed that the DFS sale has been extended a further 6 days so hoping we can get down there this week. Going to Torquay this weekend on a sun holiday with DH and a close friend couple so really looking forward to that.

Heeby i will speak to DH now I've calmed down. Don't want to cause a row or for him to think i'm making mountains out of mole hills because of my "hormones" . Will sit down and go through some plans for the next few months while we are just a married couple, before we become parents! how exciting!!

Thanks again xxxxxxxxxxxx

Thanks for your good wishes and your warm welcome everyone. It makes me smile to see such nice words!

Wanabemum I'm glad you are feeling better today. I echo what the others have said. I have kept most of my pre baby friends but we see eachother far less often and not through the old haze of wine and fags. I am still the only one of my old girlfriends to have a baby and that did make things a bit difficult sometimes.

In a couple of cases friends broke up with a long term relationship in their mid to late thirties and therefore felt their chances of having children were dropping all the time. I can see why they avoided me at times.

I've also made lots of new friends through NCT and the usual mummy circuit. The NCT group I am still really close to. We were very lucky - with 6 couples you might expect a couple of personality clashes but we all got on like the proverbial house on fire.

Well, Nelix is quiet.

Congratulations wasabi thats wonderful news!!!!

No news here yet, have been on birthing ball, walking, eating spicey food.....lol but no show(well actually a small bloody show) but no actual labour.!!

Grrrr nelix naughty baby. She is a stubborn little madam. I had one of those, after 12 days overdue i was SOOOO fed up of everything - esp everyone keeping on asking if the baby had come , maybe if we don't ask she might want to turn up!!?!

wanabe so glad you are able to chat to DH, it is a really hard time for you both and lots of adjusting, i had plenty of wobbles during pg so you are not alone i am sure.

Well i have a sicky toddler to keep me company today, it's my last week at work so taking time off is really rubbish but can't be helped, off to dr later to check out what's up but really only symptom is a very high temp - prob a nasty virus i am sure.

Hi all,

Congratulations Wasabi ? fantastic news

Nelix I hope your little girl comes soon ? hopefully the sweep will get things moving if not.

Wanabe ? I?m totally with you on having the ?feeling down? moments. This is my first baby too and over the past couple of weeks I have struggled with feeling up one minute and really down the next. I think we just have to be kind to ourselves ? and realise that its okay to feel this way and to want reassurance from our DH?s that its okay not to want to go out and party like we used to but to spend some quality time just the two of us before the baby comes. I?ve had a few teary moments and some have ended up with me shouting in frustration with DH because I don?t think he understands how I feel. Thankfully my DH is fabulous and does try to spend more time with me and help out around the house.

We had a wonderful time at the wedding and stayed the whole weekend in Folkestone which was very relaxing ? especially with the lovely weather we were treated to. On the Sunday the newly married couple held a BYO BBQ which was perfect. Lots of lovely babies for me to coo over. My DH was smitten with them too.

I have my 25week appointment with the midwife tomorrow. Have woken up the past couple of mornings with really puffy eyes ? which today have not gone down ? so will be interesting to see what she says about that.

pezz how did your appointment go???

Had sweep, 2cm dilated, cervix favourable but still quite firm so I am going back on saturday for another if she is a no show!!!...bit crampy now as one gets after a sweep...off to eat some lunch! hope everyone is ok!!!

Hello everyone

Pezz that's it exactly, you've hit the nail on the head with how I've been feeling. So glad it's not just me! DH is fab usually, just sometimes a bit oblivious to how his actions may affect me in my heightened emotional state

Just had some disturbing news too, our admin worker has had to have an emergency C-section this morning at 28weeks as the baby was in distress and had the cord wrapped around it's neck. Very scary times, we are all waiting to hear at the moment. Makes you think definitely.

Appointment went well, thanks Nelix

Blood pressure was fine ? so she didn?t seem too concerned about my puffy eyes (which have gone today!). It was wonderful hearing baby?s heartbeat

Sounds like you should have welcomed your little baby girl into the world by the end of the weekend. I hope she does come soon.

I?m off on holiday on Saturday ? a week in Cornwall with my DH. We?re celebrating our three year wedding anniversary whilst we?re away and have booked into a lovely hotel over-looking St Michael?s Mount for the last two days of the holiday for some serious pampering. Can?t wait!

Wanabe I hope your admin worker and baby is ok.

Pleased to hear the all is well Pezzina and have a good holiday. Hope that your friend and her baby are OK Wannabe and that you're feeling a bit better today too.

Come on baby Nelix - time to get a wriggle on!

Hi all,

Best wishes to your colleague wanabe i do hope she and baby are ok, its amazing what they can do to help premature babies now. If you think it appropriate you could mention www.bliss.org.uk, they are a group offering advice and support for parents of premature or sick babies.

Come on baby nelix bored of waiting now .... tee hee only kidding honey1 Good luck with Sat if not before

pezz great news about your appointment, so glad you are doing ok.

Well it's my last day today .... eek! i have mixed feelings about leaving, i have a lovely boss and i don't like the girl taking my job over so it's a bit weird. Still sure it will be lovely soon!!

xxx

Wanabe Am hoping like the others that your colleages baby is becoming stronger. The way that very prem babies can survive and thrive now is incredible although I don't doubt that it is terrifying for the parents. I hope that all is well in this case.

Pezzina glad to hear your 25 week appt went we. It only seems like yesterday that you were announcing your BFP on the conception thread! Wishing you a lovely anniversary. Cornwall is such a great place. Looks like you will have lots of sunshine for it!

Heeby hope your litle one is on the mend. It is tough when they are ill.

Nelix Best of luck for tomorrow if there is no action today!

Well all is well in the peanut house, I think. I have been very tired this morning and am just starting to get the beginnings of queasiness which is a relief. Not even 5 weeks yet.

Time is crawling by soooooooooo slooooowwwwlllllyyyyyyy.

Good luck today Nelix big hug xx

Hi all, been bit busy and trouble with co9mputer so not on for a bit.

Welcome wasabi - congrats, nice to have some new members.

Nelix , good luck with it all, thinking of you.
Meant to have 25 weeks appointment next week but midwife not got back in touchb we me so who knows when it will be. Not really impressed with midwife services, i always seem to have hassles with them.

Hope everyone else doing OK, i am going outside to enjoy the sunshine, at least being pg you can laze around ( as much as you can with 2DC around) and not feel too guilty.

Have good weekend everyone. x

Hello everyone! its such a glorious weekend! I am treating myself to a chilled(v small) glass of rose, since the baby won't come out and I am roasting I feel I deserve it!!!!

Had another sweep this afternoon, lots of cramping as to be expected. Still 2cms dilated...cervix softer, and on the bishop scale thing I went from a 4 to a 6 I think anything above a 5 makes induction more favourable if thats the route I chose at 40+10. So another sweep on wednesday and book my induction....but lord please let her come before then this heat is a killer!!!

I really feel for you all being pregnant now!! the thought of going through the summer pregnant would turn me soooo cranky!! You must all be boiling with it!!!

This may be it for me ladies....or a false start but every 15 mins and getting more painful so its a waiting game!!!!.....and ow!!!

Oooh how exciting - good luck Nelix Hope it is swift and not too painful. Looking forward to hearing of a lovely new arrival soon

Good luck Nelix - thinking of you!

Sparky - Evie is a lovely name

Pezzina - Howard is def a fab name - it;s time is yet to come but very underrated at moment.

I'm on 2ww - so still not ready to join you guys.

xx

Nelix good luck!! I am thinking of you.

Hope you ladies are all well! I am going to ttc this month, thought about waiting till the end of July but then thought nah... why wait!!

Take care and big hugs to all.

Cindy
x

Oooh good luck Nelix - will stay tuned for further announcements!