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[nelix2000]

hey all, hope you all find the thread! we can niggles and worries!

Howdy! All.

WanabeMum and Heeby I am looking into starting a yoga class but thought I would wait until the 12 weeks as I have been feeling v poorly. Today is a little better but I still feel like I want to gag.

Pezzina I am going to buy an Angel sounds fetal doppler, it sounds amazing to give peace of mind.

Jools the diet chef food were lovely. Except the snack bars don?t get them as they were awful but their other snack treats were lovely. Cambridge will work but it will not change eating habits, so ensure that when you come off the weight does not pile up again. I loved the idea of the Diet Chef as it was normal food all calorie counted and that you was still eating. But you need to do what is right for you. I am definitely going on the Diet Chef when my bean is born as I can see myself losing the weight gradually.

Heeby This morning I got off the train and was yaking to my DH about sick bands ? as I had read another post which I believe you typed. DH said it will never work? did you find them useful? I am feeling okay a little now but it won?t belong when the nausea slips in!

Nelix the sickness makes me think, yes there is something there but I can?t wait to see it and know that everything is fine? let the weeks roll on !!! Hope you are feeling better, and goush don?t worry about the labour pains they are not really that bad ? okay they are a little painful but hey as the saying goes ?No pain, no gain!? You will be fine. Try doing breathing exercises or meditation, I understand they are good. When I had my first one, I took all the drugs going ? but that is a bad example and I ended up having a c-section, my cervix would not open up! So hopefully, I will have an elective c-section again. My note doesn?t give you the reassurance you were seeking right? Ignore me, I am emotionally sick and am just rambling on and on ?

Sparky MS is okay today?. I now start to worry when it disappears if something has gone wrong!! What am I like!! I do feel very weepy today and am extremely exhausted. Goush, are you 29 weeks not long to go. At least you will be able to enjoy the summer!

Good morning ladies,

wanabe isn't it strange that different areas differ so much, i wouldn't worry too much, have the bloods and then see what the risk is as if it is high i assume they will have to send you for further exams.

cindy yes i used the bands 24/7 for about 4 weeks, they were a godsend!!!! the only thing that worked and i wouldn't of gone anywhere without them. I 100% recommend them, although you do have to make sure they are fitted properly as they won't work if they are too high or low, it's all to do with pressure points.

Well i had my 20 week scan and all is well, although the little minx(or minx-man) wouldn't lie on it's back for them to see the heart properly (despite my walking around, rolling around, shaking myself silly etc) so i have to go back next Tuesday for another scan just to look at this properly, she said from what she could see there were no problems at all which is great. We had lots of 'waves' and it was lovely to see everything, my how much he/she has grown!

I also chatted to the consultant (note cindy) as i had to have an emerg c-sec last time after my cervix didn't open and we talked about VBAC and ELCS, i had been determined to have another c-sec but to be honest now i've spoken to him and talked through it all properly i have a much more open mind, i didn't realise all the risks associated with c-sec (apart from the obvious surgical ones) like if you have a second c-sec you will then have to have a c-sec with every baby after that if you have more, and that it can affect fertility and increase your risks of birth labour/problems/still birth. I'm sure it is quite low and they just have to mention it but it did make me think twice.

so the thought is i shall wait to see them again at 34 weeks and see how i feel, apparently i can decide at any time and back out anytime so that reassured me.

Also he did confirm that if you labour normally they won't push you half as far as before and you can back out and make that decision for a c-sec at any time.

Heeby I had a horriable time the first time around, this will definately be my last child so I am going to opt for the c-sec... as I am worried that if the problem occurs again then me and the baby may not be that lucky. My DD had a big bump on her head as she had been pushing to come out and I couldn't dialate proberly... her heart beat started to lower and on top of that it took them over 24 hours to agree to have a c-sect!! so you can imagine what I and my DD was going through. I don't trust the NHS, so I am scheduling mine in so they have no excuses on the day. Heeby, just the way I feel ... but you must do what you feel is right. I am going to be 40 next month, so this will be my last bundle.

Heeby I just brought the sick bands... come over here I want to give you a kiss... I am feeling better already

Cindy i have tried sea band but don't realy work. I have put them on wrist 3 fingers down which is what the packet showed but still feel sick. Does it make the symptoms totally go away for you?

Just found out another girl at work is 15 weeks og which means i have someone to go through it with - horray. I hate the bit when your fat , i feel like freak show waddling around work so at least i will have company.

Pezz the nuchal results were really good. How old are you? Met the girl at work who had down syndrome baby. She was given odds of 1 in 650 and said it was low risk which i suppose it is as cut off is 1 in 250. Yours is well good odds, hope mine is good. I am 35 so odds are less i suppose. Have to wait until next week. Thanks for info on angel doppler, once i have had scan will definately purchase one. Remember going up to mat ward in the hospital where iwork a couple of times coz hadn't felt baaby kick last time. With the doppler i can lisen every day - expect will become obsessive!!

heeby - what a naughty baby!! trouble from the start i see, at least you get to see it again soon. LOL about your scan saying you conceived after your BFP!!! I hope my fue date doesn't get pushed back too far. 40 weeks is long enough. My others were late so sure this one will be, husbands always late so assume its a genetic thing

Oh well back to work. hope everyone OK. Oh did anyone find they couldn't face eating a meal in the evening. I go off eating food about 5 ish and so havn't eaten proper dinner and then am hungry. Filling up on sweets at mo. Was so ungry in bed one night had to eat biscuits, just can't face a proper meal. Any suggestuions. Tried to eat lunch time but hospital canteen food isn't the most appertising !! x

(heeby leans in for a hug & kiss) thanks cindy i'm so glad they are working, you do have to get them right as i had them wrong (a bit too low) the first time and they weren't much good so i kept fiddling and found that your wrist has to be straight to get the 3 fingers width etc and kept trying till i got it right, i was then left with an indent every time i took them off (which was only to have a bath!) and although after a few weeks they started to get a bit sore it was sooooo much better than the sickness. In fact when i took them off my sickness had already gone so not sure when it actually went!

cindy i totally know how you feel and i am still in 2 minds. my DD was in the same state and needed to visit an osteopath a few times after birth, we were in labour for 2 days and like you they mentioned the c-sec around 12 hours or so before actually agreeing to do it! i was totally exhausted and really upset by the whole thing. But yours sounds really frightening and i think you have to make sure you are both safe, if i get to a point where i am still worried and baby is getting big etc i will opt for one, def not ruling it out at this stage.

Hopefully it will be our last one - but that depends on the flavour!

ps spats i was the same about evening eating, i couldn't have big meals at all and found it made me feel worse. I would just keep snacking but on healthy things if you can, fresh fruit is good, i made a huge fruit salad and helped myself to that when i was hungry, sweet things like pineapple, starwberries and watermelon etc are nice and juicy. Your appetite will get back on even keel soon enough so don't worry for now - like me you'll be stuffing in the food again soon enough!!!

Spats My boss at work uses the sick band for his children, so he helped me to place them on. He actually said, ignore the instructions... what you need to do is find your pulse and then place the button on that. He also said its helpful to get someone else to do it for you as it is much harder to find your pulse doing it yourself. The nausea disappeared after 2 hours but I did then get a mild headache. Last night I could still feel the urge to be sick but there was no sea-sick feeling.

I haven't managed to eat anything in the evening have been too tired and really can't stand being in a kitchen or seeing food being cooked... strange eh??

I eat little and often ... I find the Tropicana drinks lovely... I am sipping on Pomegranate , grape and apple at this moment. Also, snacking on Jacobs crackers stops the sea-sick feeling.

Heeby If I was going private (which I can't because we can't afford it) then perhaps I would go for a natural birth this time around. But I just don't trust the NHS, they do anything to reduce their costs, even putting lives at risk. I want to ensure I am booked in, so they have no excuses. Just the way I feel, I have heard so many horror stories! Can you have a date booked in, and then change your mind nearer the time?

heby so glad your scan went well!!!.....I hate that thats it until we see them now lol. If I could justify the expense of a 4d one I would!!! but moving house is expensive good though as I don't have to lift anything I just get to dictate what happens

My sickness seems to have eased off at 27 weeks hoorah! only being sick maybe once a day now! does not help that a feild near my house had sprouts in it and they still have not dug it up so you can imagine the smell!!!!yeeeeuch!

I never tried sea bands wish I had now! esp when you feel sick ALL the time. Now it just seems if I look at a toilet I need to show it my lunchor certain smells set it off but at least its not all day....I do not miss that!!!

So glad I am not top of the list now!!! lol but this baby is eager...I get teh feeling she may come early....like mid house move early!!!!.

Has anyone else lost their ribs to feet and hands yet??

Ha ha nelix i remebmber surrendering my ribs at an early stage and it got so bad i had to keep her feet out of my ribs most of the day towards the end! ladies and their wriggly legs huh!

cindy i know how you feel, i did get a sense of 'this is about money partly isn't it' but i think i shall have a think nearer the time, he said even if i leave it till very late i can at any time from 38 weeks i can even book a date for the next day if i wanted! i think i will probably book a date and then see what happens, like you say at least if it's booked i can always cancel it later on or if he/she comes early!

Difficult isn't it ...... i keep going back and forth, trying not to dwell on it too much and will wait and see. DH wants me to have CS, he's determined and doesnt want to see me in pain, he's worried that i'll have complications again and be in danger. And it is a 2 way thing so i have to take his feelings into account too, i want him to be involved so we talk a lot about it. Plus what happens if i labour in the middle of the night?? who will have DD? all these things have to be thought about eh.

I bought some maternity jeans and some nice new (bug) bras today, then DD and i had chips, salad and garlic bread at a local pub, it was lovely just the two of us and she's now sleeping off her huge lunch!

Hi ladies,

Heeby ? so glad your 20 week scan showed all was well. I can?t believe you?re 20 weeks already . And well done on the swimming too.

Spats ? I?ve just turned 37 so was worried about the risk being high ? but very glad with the results. I also felt the same as you regarding evening meals. Thankfully the sickness has started to ease up, which is such a relief. My main problem now is spots! I feel like I?ve gone back in time to being a spotty teenager again. Not good!

Nelix ? I?m looking forward to feeling the baby moving ? without having the Doppler to listen to its heart beat I would start to wonder whether I?m pregnant at all.

I?m enjoying a gorgeous sunny day where I am today ? feels almost summery. Was such a struggle to drag myself back to work after lunch.

It?s got me thinking towards the summer though and when to start maternity leave. I had thought 32 weeks but think that might be too early and will possibly work till the end of July which will work out at 35 weeks. Has anyone got any idea when they are planning to start their leave?

Hi Ladies
Heeby glad to hear everything went well

Nelix 27 wks & only just getting over your ms....I'm only 13wks & its just easied up & I thought I had it had

I'm planning on finishing work on July 17th, my ds finishes school for summer on the 22nd so I'll finish up the wk before. We have then booked the ferry back to Pompy on Aug 3rd, I made DH book the one from Caen so that I only have about 4hrs on it rather than an over night crossing...just incase
I was 4wks early with ds so I'm hoping this one doesn't follow in its brothers footsteps & will stay put till we aleast get back to UK

After our sucessful scan on Monday we have now gone public with our news & it really feels great that I can now finally tell people esp. as I'm showing quite a lot already, It feels good not having to pull my tummy muscles in everytime I see someone, I can't remember the last time I let it all hang out in public

wow pezz that was good scan then. I assumed you were early 20's. I am 35. My friend was 34 and got 1 in 850 when her sister who was 31 had 1 in 9,000 so she panicked all the way through , luckily her DD is fine. I assumed i would get a 1 in 850 like her as i am a year older. I am paying for a private one at fetal medicince centre which does extra tests to local DGH ie blood and nasal bone so hopefully odds will be better. I am panicking now.

I expect i will start mat leave end Aug as my due date will be around 15th sept and 2 DS starts school in sept so want to settle him in. I usually work until 37/38 weeks as get bored at home. Not like you can do much and DH works from home so will just get on each others nerves!! enough time for that after baby born

I will try sea bands again, however don't seem so bad in morning, its after lunch and evening and the chewing gum helps. just got aching jaws now!! Was feeling this way until 20 weeks with DS #2 so only 9 weeks to go!!!

Better go as DS#1 was feeling sick and is in my bed. That the thing with children, you never know what the day will hold for you. Hopeful yit doesn't hold being up all night with a sick child!!!

Hi,

pezz you're lucky to have the sun today, we saw a bit but it soon turned cold! I am finishing work on 28th May which is at 33 weeks, i have 4 weeks holiday to use up before leave starts so in theory it will be like starting leave at 37 weeks! i think i will need to leave early as my DD is only 2 (in fact she's 2 on sunday!) so she will be a handful for a large mummy, i thought i'd have the time to try and rest up when i can. But tbh if i feel great at that time my boss has said i can stay on if i want to, they are really flexible which is great.

x

I think we have dug ourselves a great big hole that I may not be able to get out of...
Before we found out on Monday the new due date it was set at 09/09 & my DH has to go away on course a couple of days later, so DH asked his mum if she wouldn't mind coming down to our house for a wk or 2 after the baby was born to help me out (not with the baby but with house work etc) & of course she said yes (my parents both work, she is retired) she has been on holiday this week with us & she fell out of bed on the 1st night, we put her in a single bed & she is use to a king, anyway she hurt her back & we have had her up the hospital & they said its soft tissue damage & given her pain killers..which she has been taking along with the 20 other different tables for all numbers of different things....

anyway to cut a long story short she has been a total pain in the arse all wk, I know she has been in pain, but its now 10 days later & she is still playing on it ( I have caught her doing things without her knowing so know that she is putting it on alot)& she has the telly sooooo loud my ears hurt all the time & farts a lot & not quiet ones either

I am sooooo knackered after running after her & trying to please her & have told DH that I don't want her to come down after the baby is born as I'll have enough to cope with & don't want to have to entertain his mum as well.
Now that our new date is the 4th Sept I'm hoping that we can get out of her not coming down to help if the baby is early or on time, but if its late.....help what can I say to her to put her off but not offend too much...any ideas

Hi guys, well we had a lovely weekend as it as our DD's 2nd birthday and she had a fab time with all her family and some little friends here to play, our house looks like a toy shop now! Lucky girl.

smiley oh dear what a predicament, i remember asking my MIL to come and help out once i'd had DD as i knew it would all be very strange and different, tbh i wish i hadn't as they 'always' know best and they won't take any instruction from you, i felt i just wanted everyone to sod off (in the nicest possible way) so i could bond with DD and get into some sort of routine, also with someone else around at that early stage i didn't feel i could cope with someone watching my every move and offering 'advice' all the time. I know this was my own experience and it may be different for you but i think you should be honest now, explain that you actually feel you'd like to change the arrangement that she's on call should you need someone rather than her coming down as booked, that way you will be letting her down gently and not actually booking her in, plus you get to ask for help should you need it. I think you'll find that you'll need to be alone more than you think to get your own thing going. hth xx

Smiley that sounds awful poor you. Last thing you want is to run around after her after having baby. You have a few months to think up a good plan though!!

My scan is on Weds and i am scared!! Its at the local hospital and is just a nuchal scan no blood tests so expect risk will be high. We are going next day to London clinic to have on done with bloods and nasal bone etc so hopefully risk will be lowered, but i know i will stress on Weds if scan is not good odds. Girl at work had 1 in 650 which is classed as high risk and baby has downs syndrome so if mine comes back that risk i will be really upset. Working tommorow so will keep mind of it i hope and then have DS school play first thing Wed morning and then scan t 11.40. Fingers crossed.

Feeling so sick its getting anoying, think its getting worse nearer the 12 week mark not better. I was 20 weeks with DS#2 so still long way to go, grin and bare it i guess.

x

spats poor you, i hope it doesn't last too long for you, mind you maybe the worry about the scan is taking it's toll and making things worse?hopefully after Thursday you can relax a bit more. Good luck with it all honey.

I am feeling excited about having another scan today, they are only looking for the heart chambers so not going to be a long one but i have paid for pictures this time so it will be nice to have them to show people.

I'm bored with my only pg symptom now - congestion - i can't breathe properly at all and at night i have to breathe through my mouth which is awful, i have a bad nasal construction anyway so it doesn't help to feel bunged up all the time.

Heeby I suffered the same with DS & have a cold now so am going through the same problems at the mo. Last time the doc said it was ok to use a nose spray ( I used the boots own ones) & it really helped. I am using one now at night for this cold & if the congestion keeps going I'll carry on with it.
I remember last time that I couldn't leave the house without my bottle of gavison & my nose spray otherwise I'd be in a right state when I got home...oh the joys to come

smiley thanks for that, thet is a good idea, i will try one, hope it helps as it keeps me awake at night now.

nelix how are you coping with a toddler and a big bump? any tips?!

Just had scan and everything was OK. Risk of downs was 1:1200. They only do nuchal scan not bloods though. I am going to fetal medicine centre tomorrow to have their one done as you get the bloods and nasal bone scan, so hopefully the odd will be better. The fluid behind the neck was 1.1mm which i think is quite low. Doesn't it have to be under 2.5mm? can't remember. Anyway only 1 there which is lucky. Will email when have news from London scan. THe sonographer had to press so hard as baby in difficult position my tummy hurts. Made me laugh though , i have been so protective of my non bump, making sure boys don't knock me and this man shove his ultrasound so deep i swear it was going to go right through me Hope everyone is OK. x

Spats I know what you mean mine was really uncomfortable at times & after she made me drink a bottle of coke & jump up & down a few times my bladder was about to pop & she seemed to press even harder than before

Glad to hear your mind is at rest with the results & that tomorrow will confirm this for you, my beans thickness around the neck was 2.0mm & I got results of 1 in nearly 4,000 with the combined test so yours should be even higher

Hi All, I went to the doctors today as its Week 9 for me. Loved the expression on his face when I said I was 9 weeks. He is going to book me in to have a scan in about two weeks time. They are offering all the tests to me, seeing as I am a oldie (well according to their age bearing mothers!). The midwife is scheduled to visit me at home next week to discuss ... well ... everything.

Heeby the doctor even tried to convince me that perhaps I should try for a nature birth this time around! but I have insisted to have a C-sec so will discuss this with the hospital advisors.

oh Heeby I forgot to say well done on the scan going well. You can now relax and enjoy your pregnancy!!

SPats great news!

My MS is a little bearable, apparently it should get better by next week - Here's hoping!!

The doctor told me to start exercising as there was no risk to the baby so am going to start soon (no date plan yet but want to wait for the nausea to stop before exercising). My plan is to not gain a lot of weight like I did in my last pregnancy, so am going to write down everything I eat and drink! I want to come out of this being a yummy mummy.

Speak to you all soon
Cindy
x

cindy i'm glad you stood your ground, i think they are pre programmed to try and get you to have a natural birth, i hope you don't face too much opposition.

spats great news about the scan, yes it does hurt huh, i really went overboard on the drinking front too and nearly wet myself!

I had another scan last night and all is great, they had to check the heart properly and all is good. i even saw a bum! but despite looking for 'bits' i couldn't tell what it was, i really want to know but DH doesn't so it was a no go area for us sadly.

i have a pic but not sure how to load it up for you all to see??