Due in Nov 2005??!!!

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Hello!

I'm starting a Due in Nov thread! A bit early maybe, but hey! By my calcs(!) I'm due Nov 3rd, are there any other ladies out there around the same time? I'm sure loads for Nov haven't even missed their period yet!

Anyway, I'm 27
pg no 4, dd1 born ar 26 weeks, sadly didn't make it, but now happily have dd2 age 5 and ds age 3 next week. And 1 lovely dp of 7 years!

Sorry if you've read this for a 2nd time but was advised by sallie to post on here!! x x x

Thanks Tex111, no i didn't have anything done at all last time, i described what i had lost the first time, just a few clots not particularly large, and they did a pregnancy test and it was negative, didn't offer me a scan or a d&c just sent me home. no follow up from doctors or anything. We're trying not to hope for anything and will be mega shocked if there is anything there in 2 weeks. But am still going to look after myself until we know for sure, stay off the wine etc.
You're right to be optimistic this time and i hope that it all goes well for you. thank you for your kind words.

Hello, new here. Due 18th Nov, I think, already got a 7 month DS seemed like a good idea to "fit in" the next and last quickly (Crazy? Probably!). Last time really sick and tired all the time, this time had a week of feeling sick now nothing! Still tired like being hungover after 4 bottles of gin (I wish!)in the morning, but no other symptoms, getting worried! Is parania part of the process, getting paranoid about everything, pregnancy, husband, know I'm being paranoid, or am I? See, paranoia! Also deciding I cant spell paranoia, now I do know you lose brain cells at a rapid rate at this time so I dont care!

Good luck to all and look forward to discussing the finer points of nipple creams and maternity pads, oh the joy!

charlie, yes to the paranoia!

Enthusia, have you tried doing your work in the evenings? I don't seem to have the energy to do anything in the day but have gotten through a few bits and pieces tonight. Seems have more energy in the vampire hours...raaaahhhhhh!

ChaCha - No I have my energy burst in the mornings, by about 2pm you get nothing from me. That is the time I lay on the sofa thinking I really should be doing something, then 45mins later I actually convince myself to get up for about 10mins. When DH comes home at around 7pm I am a zombie!!!! Not a Vampire unfortunately!!!

I am hoping to meet up with a friend for lunch today it will be the first time I will have got out of the house and met up with someone in two weeks - hopefully I will survive with blubbing all over them - or the other alternative - puking all over them. I must admit it has been a bit lonely as all other mates are teachers or Mums and have been away for the Easter period, it should be nice to see someone different, although still have that can't be bothered to make an effort kind of feeling. Better start preparing though only 5 days til back to motivating a class!!!!!

Have you given any thought to maternity leave, I am due on the 11th which puts me in a bit of a tricky situation as October half term (the sensible time to go) is my 38th week, is this a bit late? Will I be an absolutely knackered wreck by this point? However if I don't go back after summer I will be going on maternity leave 11 weeks before my due date. I also have a slight problem as I am only on a years contract. I have been offered another year which I accepted - before I knew I was pg - but no contract yet, I wondered whether they would turn round and say that they are not going to extend it now. Very worrying!

Anyway, better go, don't want to bore you stupid.

Welcome also to CharlieJ - I can't wait to start talking about nipple pads etc, beast whinging about feeling sick and tired at the mo!!!!

Enthusia - I think 29 weeks is the earliest you can go on mat leave. You just lose the time off the other end IYSWIM.IF you are a first time mum and IF you dont like hanging around the house on your own and IF all your friends are working and IF you are having a good preg, then you might find 29 weeks a bit early to stop. But some women do loads around the house ect and stay very busy - you will probably feel MUCH better than you do now.It might also depend on whether or not you can afford to take unpaid leave from work from weeks 26 - 52. Do do you want to go back when your baby is 6 months old? Its such a personal thing - some mums are climbing the walls by 6 months, other love it!! Personally I have taken the full 52 weeks each time - but thats just me

Charlie - I had a paranoid week a few weeks ago - its quite scary isnt it?A small part of me knew I was probably being unreasonable but the rest of me was convinced my Dh was having an affair and was about to leave me

I don't know about whether I will want to go back or not. DH and I had always said that I wouldn't, but I don't think you really know until you are there. As for feeling better - I bloody well hope so!!!!!

Do you think working up to 38 weeks is too late?

Paranoia - def - I was covinced DH must have been in a road accident when he was an hour late home one night, got myself so worked up couldn't explain what was wrong to him when he did get home through the tears. Luckily he is a fab supportive DH.

JenJam - Are you still out there and ok?

Morning everyone. Well now am 10 weeks i think and still no sickness. This is so wierd i may get away with it this time.I am really drained though and very emotional. I cried at super nanny last night.

First mid wife appointment next week, how exciting. Still dont know if i will get into Frimley or not. At the moment i am getting help from the Wokingham Primary Care Trust and our local Mp. What a palava, just what i dont need.

Plus my Dp.s mother has had a stroke and is also ill with a chest infection. She is quite poorley and i fel pulled in all directions. Dont know wether to take the kids to see her or not. If any thing should happen to her ill feel dreadfully guilty but on the other hand she will feel bad as the kids are only little and they will cause havoc in the ward. her speech is slurred and breathing laboured so she wont be able to talk much. Any advice, what would you do???

Had similar experience with grandparents. Always went to see them, even young grandchildren. Never stayed long, but always seemed to perk grandparents up a bit. The other young grandchildren didn't seem to mind - they all saw it is a game and a new place to explore.

But is up to you, as it will be hardest on you than anybody else, do you feel up to it?

No to be honest i dont. I know i will end up in tears. She really us lovely and it will be horrible seeing her so ill. But i know i need to take the kids otherwise i will feel too guilty. She dotes on them. I think i will see how she is by the end of today and maybe go up tomorrow.

Good morning all,

Enthusia, I haven't even thought about maternity leave yet - i can't see past tomorrow at the moment. Let me know if you find out any useful information. How are you feeling today?

Paranoia - been there! Last week accused my colleagues of conspiring against me!!!! It's not funny

cp3 - Hope your Dps mum will be okay. Keep us posted.

Diddle - How are you feeling now? Do you have friends or family around?

Who is due late November please?

hi chacha - i think happysecret and myself are both due nov 28

Cha Cha

From my workings, does that mean you are due on Dec 1st? That was the date my mum was due with me (and started labour)didn't arrive til the 2nd though 36 hour labour - God I hope I do not inherit that!

Am feeling - not too bad - actually looking forward to going out, that's a step in the right direction!!!!!

How about you?

Yes i have my hubbie with me, although he's away on business tonight. Feeling pregnant still, tired, sick at the normal times, and fat. Have bought some tests so that i can check to see if it goes to not pregnant before i go back to the hospital. The rest of my family are over the country, but my mom is on call if i need anything bless her. I have a house full of kids so they are keeping me busy, got 3 today. Can't afford to not work being self employed and a childminder means that if i have too much time off i risk losing the kids i have now. They've all been really good though so far.

Diddle, if you feel up to it you might want to ask your GP for what they call a beta blood test which measures the level of HCG in your blood. I think someone else mentioned it on here. The best thing is to have at least two tests a couple of days apart. They'll actually give you a number for the level of HCG in your blood. This number should about double every two days. With the two tests you can see if the level is increasing appropriately or decreasing. It could give you some answers before the two weeks is up. Good luck!

thanks Tex111 thats a good idea might do that

CP3 sorry to hear about your dp's mum, hope she will be ok. This is a really tough call for you with regards to the kids. When my Nan went into hospital with what started as a broken leg but quickly became very complicated with heart failure etc my brother and I did take our kids in to see her at the hospital, they were 5, 2.5 & 2 and it did seem to brighten her day, but on some occasions she was just too poorly to see them so I would suggest that perhaps you go in with your dh first to gauge the situation and then if you think you and the kids will be able to cope then perhaps take them in the next day.
You can always phone the ward and ask the nurses whether they think she would be up to seeing the kids that day before you take them in, that's what we used to do.
Some hospitals don't like you to take kids in at all as obviously they are not the healthiest places in the world for little people. So in short check with the hospital first and make any decisions from there and if they aren't allowed to go in or you don't think they could cope then you could get them to do some drawings etc or make a card and perhaps take a framed photo in of them that can be put on the bedside. This was what we did when my nan became far too ill to see them. Sorry for long message but hope it helps.

CP3 I've just gone into week 10 too and not feeling too bad, do feel rough at about dinner time & I'm whacked out by 9pm and I also find I heave when I empty ds's potty as we've been mastering potty training this week - I think ds & I deserve lots of cyber pats on the back as the little star as virtually cracked training in 3 days although he is three so I've left it quite late, we've even managed to break the fear of the toilet this morning so hopefully I won't have to empty too many more potty's - yuck!

Diddle glad that your dh can be with you so much at the moment and I'm really pleased for you that you are still feeling pregnant, sounds strange to say to someone glad you're feeling but on this occasion I think it's ok

Have a good day all, has anyone heard from Hellkat recently, I know she said she had a busy week last week, just thought I'd check she's ok?

Enthusia, good that your going out. At the moment, getting up the stairs to visit the ladies room is a journey!
Slight cramping, nausea and bad headaches this morning - feel like crap. It's like everything goes on hold when i'm like this. I have put off friends coming round as i just do not feel at all like socialising - i just want to curl up and be totally anti-social.
I think my EDD is Nov 27th. Will know for definite soon.
sick! sick! sick!

Thanks beks mum and well done on the potty training. I do get a bit sicky in the evening and may heave a bit but surprisingly enough i am coping well with the dirty nappies. Totally drained though i feel like ive had the stuffing knocked out of me. Everything is a struggle and an effort at the mo. I am on a new healthy eating regime for my kids aso am home cooking every evening for them now. Its Jamie Olivers fault as i felt guilty about feeding them too much processed food.So its been lentil patties and turkey burgers all round.

I may go up to see his mum later on, will see if she is any better tonight, but the sorry fact is that she has got worse since been admitted into hospital last week.

CP3 I lol at the healthy eating regime, yum yum to the lentil patties not! Anyway what's wrong with a turkey twizzler every night

I decided at the beginning of this year that it was about time I became a bit more of a domestic goddess as my house was always a mess and I couldn't cook to save my life. All my friends thought I had been possessed or that I was having an affair as the house was suddenly always tidy and I started having the dinner on the table when my dh got home, which was an even bigger miracle as usually I can burn water. Had even started working out three times a week to the Davina McColl dvd but am glad to say that have quickly gone back to normal now that I'm pregnant and can't be arsed any more. Wonder if it will take me another three years to become a reinvented domestic goddess after this bump is born just like last time

Sorry to hear that your dp's mum has got worse since she went into hospital, that is often the case they seem to get worse before they get any better, it just takes a while for the drugs etc to kick in - I'm sure she'll pick up in a day or two.

Cha Cha I do feel for you at them moment as this being pregnant lark is not much fun but I promise you and Enthusia that after about 14 weeks you will feel fine and everything will return to normal, it's amazing that something so small can make you feel so tired and rough but then when you get to 38 weeks and are the size of a small house you will feel fine and pretty energetic and you'll feel like cleaning the house from top to bottom just for the sake of it - very odd!! Hope the early symptoms go away as quickly as they came for you both after the 12 week worry time.

Is anyone else so turned off by the smell of their kitchen/hourse, they have got the bleach out? I have also used shake and vac on the carpets, I normally hate the stuff! I am not normally so domestic.

Just got back in and feel completely knackered. Friend was amazing though and treated my all day. Even bought me flowers! What a star! Am just going to curl up on sofa til DH comes in I think!

Cha Cha sorry you feel so crap today, maybe it is a one day on, one day off thing and you will feel great tmrw.

DH is off tmrw, so I am really happy to be pampered two days in a row.

But God do I feel weak and sicky now. yawwwnnnn!!

How can you tell the difference between prenatal depression and the usual hormone pregnancy madness? I'm starting to become concerned at how I feel, so sad and irritable all the time. All I want is some peace and quiet but of course with a two year old that's impossible. He's jumping around now singing the gruffalo song and it's like nails on a chalkboard to me! I just want some calm.

Does anyone have any advice on coping second time around when there are small children in the house? I feel like I'm losing my mind and we don't have any family or friends nearby to help. Preschool starts up again next week which will provide some relief but I know that I'll spend the morning dreading when DS comes home. I hate feeling like this and I don't know what to do.