Due October 08 - Moaning, Groaning and Baby-Homing

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BIRTHS
10th Sept (Due 1st Oct) - loulou33 - Boy - Joe Louis David - 6lbs 12oz
12th Sept (Due 6th Oct) - iuseantiageingstuff - Boy - Fred William - 8lbs 13.5oz
14th Sept (Due 14th Oct) - twinklytoes - Boy - Samuel - 7lb 4.5oz
16th Sept (Due 8th Oct) - Ksal - Girl - Emma Rae - 6lbs
21st Sept (Due 5th Oct) - myjobismum - Girl - Naomi Caitlin - 5lbs 10oz

LADIES IN WAITING
29th Sept perkypopsy first baby Surprise North Herts (Ware)
29th Sept WombFor1More 2 ds's 1 dd Boy
30th Sept Aubergenie first baby Surprise
30th Sept sambrads 1 ds Girl
1st CantSleepWontSleep 1 dd Boy North Herts
1st accessorizequeen 2 ds's Twins - one of each
2nd snowymum first baby Boy Near Oxford
2nd 1sttimer80 first baby Surprise. Hydronephrosis discovered. Extra scan at 28 weeks (7th July) planned. Edgware (Royal Free, Hampstead)
2nd FranMum2B first baby Surprise Kingston
2nd my3honeypies 2 dd's Boy
2nd mishkamoo first baby Surprise
4th minervaitalica first baby Surprise (unintentionally!)
4th hedgepig 1 ds Surprise
4th pistachio 1 dc Secret
4th annwoo 2 dc Surprise
5th rosebury 3 ds's 2 dd's Boy Bristol
5th BabyNubie
6th Bethoo 1 ds Girl Salisbury
6th ronshar 2 dd's Surprise (with dangly bits ) West Sussex
6th hoff first baby Boy Spain
7th belgo 2 dd's
8th kookiegoddess first baby Surprise
8th Alexa808 first baby
10th Lozza70 first baby Surprise NE London (Woodford)
10th emkay 1 dd Surprise West London (Queen Charlotte's and Chelsea)
10th pepperrabbit 2 ds's Surprise
11th staceylouisex first baby Girl
11th dooleymum
11th heather1980 1 dd
12th milfakamonkeymonkeymoomoo 1 dd Boy Salisbury
12th star6 first baby Boy Surbiton
13th YumMum22 1 ds Boy
14th tedmundo 1 ds Surprise Bristol (Southmead)
15th mum2jakeyroo 2 ds's Surprise Near Lancaster
16th moodywren 1 dd 2 ds's Boy Lincolnshire (nr Spalding)
16th bigmouthstrikesagain 1 ds 1 dd Girl Mid-Beds
16th WheresTheAuPair 1 ds Boy
19th MrsTittleMouse 1 dd Girl
19th rach010 1 ds Surprise (but dp knows!) Lincolnshire
20th 07mumstheword 1 dd Surprise Bristol
20th AandMsmum 2 dd's Surprise Bristol
20th KnickersOnMaHead 1 dd Boy
20th jenwa 1 dd Girl Worcestershire
20th firsttimer08 first baby Boy. Dilated renal pelvis - rescan at 34 weeks. Greenwich
21st hansnava 1 dd Surprise Luton
21st rowanmac 1 ds Surprise North Scotland
21st caramelbunny 1 dd Surprise Manchester
21st jess1996 first baby Surprise
21st GirlWithTheMouseyHair first baby Surprise (but written down in case of moment of weakness!) SW London (St Thomas)
21st lilbitmum 1 dc
22nd SmudgeyDoodle 1 ds Surprise Newcastle (Gateshead)
22nd wombleprincess 1 dd
22nd pingviner
23rd Sallypuss first baby Probably girl Herts/Essex border
23rd Emmsy1 3 ds's 1 dd Girl The Wirral
23rd ajm200 1 ds Girl Camberley, Surrey
24th sparklesandnowineforxxweeks 3 ds's 1 dd Surprise
24th Personanna 1 ds Boy Peru
25th Flum 2 dd's 5th June Wiltshire
26th 4andnotout 3 dd's Girl
26th mariekg 3 dc Girl
27th Rhian82 Boy
27th mybabysinthegarden 1 dd Boy Scottish Borders
27th beaufies first baby Boy
29th Ekka 1 dd Surprise
30th Jambers99 1 ds Girl NW London (Hillingdon)

ok thanks Really curious as to what it feels like now!! I know I'll be kicking myself for saying that when they finally come!

I'm almost disappointed when there isn't a new baby each time I log on.

Big hug to sambrads and wombfor1more sounds like you need them.

star from what I remember of proper contractions the whole bump goes rock hard with a rising level of pain, you will be unable to think about anything other than the pain and breathing. There may be a strange screaming moaning noise which you will later realise is you! Then it begins to fade which is the best feeling in the world until the next one begins to build. My cousin (who has 3 children ) and is a climber/outdoor type like me described it as like climbing a mountain, bloody hard work, it hurts, you'll be sore and out of breath but its really worth getting to the top. I climbed the same section of mountain in my head with each contraction and it did help but then thats me.

From the classes we went to they suggested the DH/DP is in charge of hand holding ( may suggest removing wedding ring as apparently it hurts when you nearly break their fingers), sips of water, forehead mopping and turning the fan off when baby about to appear. I remember the MW saying to DH to do that and thinking 'oh thank goodness'

I have to say one of the funniest things I ever saw as a student was a very earnest couple who'd been to NCT classes or similar and when she was screaming he leant forward and said 'now remember dear, its not pain, its a new experience' to which the reply was 'it f*ing hurts' and smacked him on the nose.

I suspect this may not be a helpful post for first timers. Sorry. I would also say that within 12hours I'd forgotten how sore it was and was on top of the world and obviously I'm doing it again.

Rowanmac, that is so true about the mountain. Also the other thing we all need to remember is that is is soon over. The pain is always managable either by yourself or with an epidural. The pain wont harm you or your baby. Keep a positive mind and it makes it sooooo much easier to deal with.

Sambrads. I am thinking of you my love. You are so close. You have made it this far, just hold the thought inside you that within 2 weeks you will be a mummy to a beautiful baby girl and you will be able to sit and stare at her just like with DS.

I have already reminded my DH if he strokes my forehead/back, comes at me with a flannel or trys to help me breath I will punch him really hard. He doesnt want more children I will arrange it for him

That's very true, ronshar. I'm going to remember that. The pain won't harm me or the baby. I think it's a bit of an instinct to think that something that hurts so much is causing you harm (and in turn, the baby inside of you!) but that makes a lot of sense. The pain is helping the baby out, not harming anyone. I have no idea what I want DH to do. And he has no clue either. We'll just have to wait and see!! We have decided on a name, too!!! Hooray!

Cool. We still havent even really talked about it. We have waited until both the girls were born before we named them. We wanted to see what they looked like.

Tell your husband to stay away from the business end if he is even slightly squeemish.
My DH was traumatised by DD1 birth as he really wasnt prepared for the reality of childbirth. He has more of an idea now but still stays away from all the "lady bits". Quite right if I ever want a sex life again he will avert his eyes
I know some men love the whole thing. One of my friends whilst giving birth to DD's 1&2, her DH was almost removed by the midwife because he kept getting in the way. At one point my friend though he was going to try and deliver the baby himself. An elbow in the ribs from a scrubbed up midwife soon put that idea out of his head.

my dh is like yours ronshar. We would never have sex again if he looked down there during the birth. He's already struggling with what he knows will happen from reading in books! He couldn't be in the room while they took my blood... he's going to be fetching drinks during some parts of labour I think...

star - you might like to read this thread. It is one that I started when I thought that I might be in labour with dd, and asks exactly what a contraction feels like .

Very funny story rowanmac .

Are you sharing the name yet star, or keeping it a secret until the birth?

Secret until the birth so no one can say anything about it

I really, really, really wanted rowan... but it's out as dh found out its unisex. Oh well.

I haven't been able to get on the internet since Saturday and was sure there would be some birth announcements.

Sambrads Are you PG? How ridiculous Chin up it won't be long now.

Rosebury I haven't got to Cabot Circus yet was it good?

Star We look forward to your questions on the postnatal thread

Sorry for any of those who seem to have had false alarms and to anyone I've not responded to personally but it's so difficult to keep up.

Bethoo Where are you???

I want to know where bethoo is, too!! Either she's REALLY happy with new DP and he's so much more entertaining than us (how could that possibly be???) or she's in labour!

Star the best thing dh did for me was to hold the cartons of juice for me to drink from . They were the most useful thing in my labour bag! TBH he reckons he felt he was useless, but it was just the moral support of knowing he was there that was mainly enough....

Now, I've got a silly question (given that this is dc2!) - after the first feed with your baby, when you & baby have settled down for a well deserved sleep/nap - should you wake baby after a certain time (3-4hrs?) to feed or let it go a little longer as it needs a rest? Know this sounds a daft question, but last time round we got to bed at 2am and woke at about 8am to feed dd. Subsequently had issues with bf (mainly I think due to tongue-tie) and wondered if I should have woken her earlier to feed, to help her be less lethargic..... Does that make any sense? And what have those of you who have had hospital births experienced about bf in the first 24/48hrs.... I will also try and remember to ask the mw, but my memory is like a sieve these days!

Congrats to all 'new' mums (have lost track again of who has had a baby recently), and positive vibes to all of you eagerly awaiting those contractions

07 cabot circus is fantastic i was only able to walk around it for a short while as not very mobile at the moment but lots of designer clothes shops as well as the usual high street shops and more mens shops as well it is a good job that i wiill be to fat to buy new clothes for a while as i would spend a fortune I love shopping but only when i feel slim and sexy which may be a little while yet.

getting a bit worried about bethoo where is she. birth vibes to us.

thanks ladies so much for your kind words and support

ekka when ds arrived he took a feed then mw said he would let us know when he is hungry i think ou will get into a better routine when you get home as the baby does take a few days to get rid of mucas and ajust to time outside the womb

to be honest even though ds is only 2 i feel like i going into the unknown again

Ekka I have fed both girls straight away and then left them to wake up as and when. I think if they go for too long then there can be issues with blood sugars etc. But as long as you get that first feed in thenit should be ok. HTHs

OH yes where is Bethoo. Maybe she is just too exhausted to get to the computer. Lucky girl. Or maybe she has had her baby oooooooooo its a mystery.

Bethoo must be having baby to be away this long.

Ekka - good question, but no idea what the right answer is, as dd didn't actually sleep when she was born (or for months afterwards) - she just screamed and cried, so had plenty of awake time to feed during. I do know that the more skin to skin time, pref with them latched on, you have during the first few days, the quicker your milk will come in, which obviously helps with stress levels aside from anything else. Feeding during the night is also important in the early weeks, as the prolactin levels are highest then.

Thanks all... You'd think I'd know as this is no2 . That was the only thing with the homebirth - no handy mw to ask whether I should be waking her up to feed or not. TBH, after the first couple of days, she turned into a screamer as well CSWS! But then we had plenty of issues with feeding, till we got it sussed about 6-8 weeks!!! Am really hoping things go better this time round, so am trying to prepare myself as much as I can in advance.....

Come on someone - have a baby!!!! Its getting exciting now....

Big hug Sambrads! I've also been told, within the space of 2 weeks; "are you having twins??" and "you dont look pregnant"!!!

Star, my hospital are really good, they don't do tours, I think due to MSRA and/ or privacy, but they have a DVD which we watched in the antenatal classes, perhaps your hospital have something similar? I'm not sure it's worth kicking up too much of a fuss, as you'll be needing their sympathy soon enough!! But you should definitely get some numbers!

I'm totally depressed, have split my fave maternity trousers in the backside. Bent over to put something in the freezer and DH said "have you got pink knickers on??"

I HAVE to mend them, I cannot live without these trousers!!!!!

Just can't wait to lose the bump now so I can properly assess just how HUMONGOUS my arse is.

Rosebury Sounds fantastic! I think it might be the new year before I get there due to being so big that I can't be bothered to walk far on top of the fact that I can't buy anything due to size Although I may give it a try later in the week when dd is at pre-school

Ohh, I am wonderering about bethoo too. Hopefully all well and either man or baby

star glad you made decision on a name.

When I was in labour DH rubbed my back alot but after awhile I did not like it any more, its funny how things start to irritate you. Also I was feeling sick so Dh got me a carrier bag and I threw up in it and it all came out the bottom and landed back on me , At least they had a proper sick bowl when I arrived at hosp!!!

ekka I got DD latched on straight away as heard they can lose their sucking reflux within an hour and then just waited for her to wake, was far too tired to have woken her. She was fine but I only did it for about 5 weeks as leaking lots. Will do same again this time and see how we get on! Also was not confident about BF when out in public.
sambrads sorry you had a shitty appt today! and listening to babies heart by your boob was she thinking it was near your heart !

Lots of stress here as DH's job is really stressful at mo and he has alot of decisions to make, not great timing but hoping all will work out. He is well stressed tonight as his mother been on the phone and made him more stressed! I am keeping calm though, think if I went in to labour this week it would not really help him , legs crossed for me, I have another 3 weeks to go anyway!

ajm200 thanks for website info, will check it out in a few minutes X
sambrads sorry your feeling so down at the moment, really hope things happen soon for you X

hello ladies, sorry not been on all weekend, jsut that new dp stayed all weekend and only left this morning! and so i was doing the entertaining bit and getting to know him better! on friday he took me to the cinema then sat we chilled then went into town to get him some clothes then on sunday he took me and ds to a petting farm i mentioned before so it was a busy weekend. we did more in that weekend tham ne and ex dp did in 2 years!
just caught up on this thread, blimey i have missed loads!
Congrats Lozza i envy you.
mw said that at my next appointment at 40 weeks they will do a stretch and sweep, has anyone had a successful labour following this? i am 39 weeks today and just feel like she is never going to come!

Morning ladies just having a drink and a snack will return to bed later. Welcome back bethoo so it was love and not labour that kept you away good for you girl.

come on someone have a baby the waiting is driving me mad.

see you all later.

Just wrote a list of questions for my MW at appointment today - I put number of labour and delivery at the hospital on the top of that list. I've looked everywhere on my notes - it's definitely not there. Maybe they just forgot. They do have a lot of patients. Everyone says Kingston is a great hospital, but they are always really, really busy. I think the good part is the intensive care unit for babies? Not sure. I might let her examine me just to see how things are progressing, but I really want to know - if she does examine me, it's not the same as a "sweep" right? It won't induce or start things happening? If there's a risk of that, then I won't want her to examine but if not, then it could be informative