Due in June - Thread 9

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Brand new thread as ordered...

Trib, I'm impressed chocky at that time of the morning ...soooo how do you have yours?? I bite the top off, suck out the filling and save the choc til last, yum!

Oh Franni, glad you are ok

I was made redundant once, and it was a horrific experience which I hope never to revisit. Oddly enough, it was the same company I work for now, but in the US. At least you get SMP.

Where do you live? What do you do? When do you expect to be looking for work? I would so like to help if I possibly can.

hi everyone - thanks for all yr welcome messages

I've been trying to post for a few days now but for some reason this thread is crashing my computer! Seems to be working for now but has been tempermental today....

someone asked me to go to the stats thread and fill in my details...what does this mean and where do I find it??

And yes, my Dd does have red hair, as well as Dh....pretty much assume the next one will have red hair too...?

I breastfed Dd for 17 months in the end, though I'm not sure how long I'll last this time! I was pretty annoyed that the midwives just pushed breastfeeding and refused to discuss other options of bottle or mixed feeding.

At my 20 week scan they detected a weakness in the uretha (?). They said it was lazy. I've got a re-scan at 32 weeks. Does anyone know more about this? The guy said it was nothing to worry about, but hey I'm pregnant and that's what you do......

stats thread

Welcome redhead... don't thinkI mentioned it before. I've been keeping alow profile since my shameful due in june thread pollution stunt.

My dd had red hair when she was born. But it's not read anymore. DH's mum has red hair. Her two brothers and both parents had red hair. Dh's mum has eight children and only ONE has red hair. So, I'm afraid there's no guarantee there.

I think I am being stalked

Spread a little happiness

Ok, this is getting really silly! I think all the apologies have been done, and all disagreements and misunderstandings have been discussed to exhaustion! Can we just go on with our normal chat now!?! Please???

I think the more the better, and I was really happy to see other people posting here and letting us know what kind of star they dream of!
But really, RTKM, why come here just to continue continue your personal bickering with Uwila when you can do it in at least three other current threads....?? It would be really nice if the new three people that join MN could be spared of all that happen last week. Could you join us in making them wellcome and talk about something nice, fun, warm or welcoming? We would love to know how long you breastfed, your favorite type of chocolate, etc. If you can pop in the stats thread and add your detail too would be great.

Thanks!!

Oh Well, I guess I am a big the biggest gossiper of the northeners mums...

We had a great meeting, and it is true, Katz do have purple hair, and Mrs.W. is in truth Posh Spice!

Just kidding... Now, really DH and I had a really good time and DD loved to be surrounded by snow. She spend the whole way back talking about Mrs. W DS and Katz DD... Hopefully we'll be able to meet after bubbas are born or she'll be heartbroken .

Lua I am being friendly

And because I don't want to be angry any more

Anyway if I told you my story it would probably worry you.

It is too traumatic to be shared here.

Thanks for the birthday wishes
I didn't do anything for my birthday Just a normal day. I stayed in and caught up on some sleep. I didn't get cards or presents or anything - I haven't had a real birthday since I was at school. I don't really mind,I used to get the same stupid chimes off my mum every christmas and birthday as she would always forget what she had given me and I was glad this year that she didn't bother at all - I tell a lie she sent a plain postcard saying she had found the music that had been lost in the move (I have been in a cold fury recently that all my violin music was lost, I thought she had thrown it out like every item of clothes I used to own just to spite me) She was quite apologetic about it and even embellished the postcard with a sticker

Its wierd though, it makes you think. I have been through a really rough emotional experience since being pregnant, of killing my mother mentally. The other day I sat up at midnight and I often visualise what I'll be doing in the future. I used to wish until very recently that I would have a proper family and maybe there would be some reconciliation with my mum. Then the other night I was sitting visualising what the future might hold, all different scenario's and things and I saw me and my son a new start but no mother. I was very upset, but I realised it was such a good thing - the death of hope. I realised I will never ever have her in my life again and before now I have never been strong enough to stay away from her coercion and guilt tactics and basic cruelty. I have never been ok with being me as it has never been good enough for her. And just this one day I realised all the thinking I have been doing (and boring people by talking about it) about the past has helped me to let it go. I was sad though - that I needed to kill someone in my head so they wouldn't have such a hold over my life. I moved cities to get away from my old life. Moving wasn't enough though. I guess I am kind of happy as this is the toughest I have been in my life. I no longer feel victimised or anything I just feel free

I am sure it will be difficult when Bubba comes along and she tries to worm her way back into my life - I just can't imagine I would even let her hold him without being scared of what she'd do or say. I can't imagine caring about anything she has to say. She leaves me mildly amused these days. I giggled when I got the card the other day - the same incipid tactics to strangle me again like a boa constricter. She exists yes but I no longer value anything about her. In my head my mother is dead but the woman xxxxx is alive and she is simply a woman I have no time for just like anyone else you don't really hit it off with.

Well it was a good birthday because I feel freer than I have in my entire life and I no longer feel like the past is suffocating me Not sure if that means much to anyone else but it means alot to me I guess it must be nice having people round for your birthday and having cards and presents. That kind of a fantasy for me - I settle for much simpler things, just waking up in the morning and being glad to be alive mainly. I guess you don't appreciate that unless you realise how close to death some people really come. I wouldn't wish that on anyone but it isn't something people can understand easily if they haven't been through it. I'm gratified for my Bubba I hope everything goes ok and he's healthy

Cooperoo - Its seems Bubba has had a growth spurt the last few days and he has really podged out, though that may be the ben and jerry's I have been indulging in. Cookie dough yum He isn't tiny or anything I just was overly worried I think. Did people really not think you were pregnant even until before the birth??? Like Cindy crawford on the cover of that magazine? I guess I just hadn't realised how much I have had invested in him. Well night night - finished my shopping on ebay and totally avoided the college work I should have been doing on the other window. Procrastination - that word was invented for me. I must stop this ebay addiction but the stuff is so cheap

Hello all,
Pink - Cindy Crawford I wish!!!!
I put on a lot of weight with dd but just had no proper bump. It was also the time of year (as she was a March baby) I would be wrapped up in sweatshirts and fleeces. I did continue to wear nearly all my work stuff as well leaving the zip half undone on my skirts with a longish top and jacket etc. We went to get a car seat two weeks before I was due and the shop assistant asked how old the baby was! I had to say due in two weeks. I am not sure who was more embarrassed. I had been clambering over the passenger seat to get a better look at the time Maternity clothes did not work at all as I had no discernable bump to keep them up. I was just WIDE! It is different this time though. I am wearing maternity bottoms this time although on a tight setting for now. The tops I have been given are all huge though so I am still on my shirts and t-shirts for now. I do have a bump though which is very exciting for me. DH still says it isn't noticable in clothes but I think it is.
It sounds like you have really been through it with your mum etc and I am glad you are feeling things are resolved a bit. You are obviously a very strong person (you have had to be) and you will be a great Mummy to your new baby when he/she arrives. Take care
For those interested (anyone?) I had the Caramel egg yesterday. Not much to report. Again better off with the bar! It is bigger.
Franni - Glad you are back and good luck for tomorrow.
Red - Hope all is OK with the next scan etc. I am afraid I don't know much about it but wish you well.
Glad the meet up was a success too.
Bye for now.

Mornin everyone. I see I have missed the first post of the day. Although, I can't remember where you are Cooperoo so not sure it it was legal (i.e. if you are living in the official UK time zone).

Not much to say really. Have a busy day ahead. So I must keep this short.

Has any else been having dreams about some horrible fate of the unborn bubba? I do now and then and I'n not reassured 'til I get up and feel him kicking around (chocolate and jumping can expedite this response from him ). I think it's normal, but still unpleasant worries. Oh well, part of motherhood I suppose.

Have a wonderful day everyone.

And, RTGM, if your still lurking horrific birth stories are welcome here (at least I hope they are now that I have invited yours).

Hi everyone. Wondered if I could gate crash this thread? I am officially due on May 27th, but have a feeling that baby will make an appearance in June!

Hiya Sam,
Nice to see you. I've been doing the very same thing for ages. But, consider this fair warning that this thread is WAY chattier than the May thread. You have to read often to keep up. 50 - 100 posts in a day are not uncommon here.

But, you are of course welcome. My official due date is 29 May. So I think you are only 2 days behind me.

Behind? Duh... that's two days AHEAD of me. Still sleeping... ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ... wake me up when it's Friday.

Morning all!

Welcome to Sam, I ought to be doing the same thing on the July thread but the June thread keeps me fully occupied

Pink, glad you had a nice birthday.

Franni - fingers crossed for you. A former company of mine went bust a few years ago and laid off 2/3 of the workforce (without even paying them for the month they'd just worked). A friend of mine missed out on SMP by a few weeks Amazingly, she did get a new job during her pregnancy, so it all worked out in the end.

Uwila - glad to see you back, have a good day!

Morning all,
Big to you Uwila - pleased to 'see' you across the web.
Pink - Belated Happy Birthdays to you - sounds like you've worked through alot of stuff when it comes to your mum. I hope you're feeling more peaceful about your relationship with her and it's taking up less of your head space.
Franni - I hope your day isn't too dreadful. Redheadmum - 17 months is pretty good going - I managed 6 with a bit of mixed towards the end. Stopped because of returning to work. It's seems a strange idea to me that midwives would be on hand to help with feeding decisions. I was very much left to get on with it. I don't think anyone said anything to me about it in hospital at all.
Samcattie - hello to you. I've dropped in to say hi on the May thread as this baby may decide to appear then (due early June)
RTKangaMummy - hello to you, please feel free to share your stories with us, I'm sure we'll cope You never know - some of us might have had a hard time ourselves.

I meant to say, Cooperoo, well done on your excellent work testing out every form of chocolate egg you can lay your hands on This is important research for which I am sure future generations will thank you.

Being a first-timer, I am not v keen on reading detailed accounts of other people's horrific birth stories, so I shall avert my eyes if we have any of these today.

Thanks for invite but think it would be very wrong of me to put it somewhere where you are all pregnant.

And you will all be about the same gestation as me so think it would be wrong of me.

Hi
Just to confirm I am cheating on the first post of the day! I am a full two hours ahead.
Welcome Sam
I have just read that Jordan's baby is due in June. Do you think she will join us too??
I had lots of dreams about awful things happening last pregnancy but fortunately not so many this time ....yet. At one point last time I could not drive a car as I had visions of us all dying and my family dying etc. DH used to drive me around regularly with tears streaming down my face because of awful thoughts I was having. I also had to stop myself watching nature programmes as I cried when the lion caught some prey etc. Awful really. I am grateful that I seem to be more balanced in that respect this time round.
I did have some awful dreams this time about giving birth (being given a general anaesthetic etc etc) when I was first told I had to deliver in the Cypriot hospital but thankfully they have passed too for now....

Morning

Welcome Sam, nice to have you join us. (Hope for your sake that you don't go over into June though - those 5 extra days will feel like eternity at the very end!).

Glad I'm not the only one with the horrible morbid thoughts. My speciality at the moment is worrying about something happening to dh. He works away Monday and Tuesday and every Monday morning when he leaves I'm convinced I'll never see him again. Stupid thing is he was away lots in his old job and it never bothered me, apart from when I was pg last time.

Have to go back into pre-school early today to talk about ds, who they are 'having problems engaging' in some activities whatever that means. I think it means that he is a stubborn little so and so who wants to do what he is interested in and stuff the rest of it, but I'm a bit anxious now about what they are going to say to me.

RTKM, I do know a little of what you experienced from other threads I have seen, and I am very sorry.

Thanks for your consideration RTKM and very sorry that you had a traumatic experience. Incidentally why are you called Radio Times?

morning all

Was lovely to meet you yesterday and the food was sooo yummy! i didn't manage any tea after that chocolate torte!! DD has also been going on about the little boy and girl yesterday and the nice big puddles!! and when can she play again!

Thanks

HunkerMunker and some of the other members gave me that name but it had to be shortened because it was so long.