Due in June - Thread 9

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Brand new thread as ordered...

Trib, I'm impressed chocky at that time of the morning ...soooo how do you have yours?? I bite the top off, suck out the filling and save the choc til last, yum!

Laters Welshie x Btw, I eat choc AND crisps

Hi All!
It does seem that we need Spring to start soon, or we'll all go bonkers!

RM, we have been using stickers on DD since she is two and had quite amazing results! I didn't believe it could work! When I got my hand on some Nemo ones (which she adores for some reason) I could just get her to do anything!

I need a little rant too.... DH is being so unsupportive about the recent results!!! I feel like all he wants is that baby is healthy so he doesn'thave to deal with problems, not because he cares for the baby ... Doest that make any sense? I wish I didn't feel DH and I are of different species right now IYKWIM....

sorry to quiz you even more on this WM, but it is a revelation to me! What do you give for treats?

Yes, good to get a reminder of the newborn days. I really can't remember much...keep wondering what to do with the baby. I just remember feeding her, but nothing much else......

by the way, can you remember what you did for naps? did you just put the baby down when it seemed tired? in cot/pram/bouncer or did anyone just use a sling all the time? Does it all come flooding back, or is it like starting again?????

Lua, I know exactly what you mean about your dh, mine is the same. He was worried too when we got called back, but while my worry was 'there might be something wrong with my baby' his was more 'how are we going to deal with there being something wrong', if that makes sense. I just don't think that at this stage they have the same connection with the baby that we do - to be fair, and really not wanting to put the daddies down at all, how can they? If we reckon it's abstract for us, when we can feel it moving (and have done the throwing up etc) it's got to be 10 times worse for them. And bear in mind too that there will also be a powerful element of him being worried about you if he's anything like my dh - dh sees the baby and me as inextricably linked at the moment.

hang in there, what time do you see the consultant tomorrow?

KVG, I think this is definetely the case. He doesn't deal well with stress at all. But I can't have any sympathies for him, I just find his attitude so selfish that is putting a strain in the relationship...
Also, I must admit , I just feel so much sh*t happens to so many people that I think he is jinxing the baby by his attitude.

I want to yell at him - Why do you think we are so special that we'll always be blessed with good news?! Does that make any sense? I just wish he would let me know that whatever happens we will get through it together....

Hi again gals I'm back from the abyss, or near enough. Have had a very chilled time without MN and got huge amounts done in RL. Although tbh, MN is great in that it makes me sit on my arse for hours and when I wasn't logging in I was run off my feet all freaking day But that's due to my own 'anal' , tidying complexities

I have been glossing through the thread to catch up, a few things stuck out.

Welcome to the most recent ladies Red, EYMum and.... eek someone else?? I said hi to nab... hmmm maybe not. Sorry if I forgot you!

Belated Happy Birthday to Pink I actually remember my 25th, it was the first I spent with dp in NZ whalewatching and dolphin swimming and dining out on crayfish, those were the days!

People feeling a bit weird/down/worried about bonding with baby. I think it's pretty common. I'm excited, but not connected to this baby yet as a human being, she's still just a concept to me, not sure that makes sense..? Anyway, loads of people have made very sensible comments I've read, so I wont add anymore. Just rest assured, it's more common than we might think.

Sorry to hear there could be problems along the way for you Lua We'll all keep everything crossed for ya

Caught a whisper that Mrs W is in fact, Posh Spice Does this mean you are incorrigably glam??!! Hehe. Glad you guys had fun on your meet-up in the snow.

I made a chocolate cake yesterday with vanilla cream in the middle and fudge sauce on top, but, I'm more into salami at the moment. No funny comments!! The pork variety, Milano to be exact. Eating packets at a time.

Dd had a massive temp yesterday and was so lethargic and floopy, poor babs, just sat in my lap all day Now i have a a slight cold too. She's much better now, it didn't last long thank god.

Uwila sorry to hear your 'financial' worries seem to be ruling your life at the moment Me and dp have taken control of our spending this year too. For once, giving ourselves a budget (budget??? wtf is that??), it's working. Obviously we have this massive loft conversion to pay for, which isn't cheap. Still, your situation made me feel very humble. I'm sahm and can afford to be for the forseeable future. I sometimes don't think dp and I count our lucky stars enough that we don't really want for anything. Hope that doesn't sound patronising, that was naturally not my intention.

Tessie, I'm with you on the same sex thing. I'm sort of over it, but my god it was a 'tragedy' when I found out!! It's ok to be a bit disappointed if that's what matters to you, admitting feelings is the only way to 'get over them' sometimes.

Man, my nose is far too congested

Oh, and thanks for all the sweet messages asking about my whereabouts, I missed you crazy muthas incredibly

It's true, I am Posh Spice.

And Katzguk is really Jordan .

Welcome back Lippy . Hope the cold doesn't get any worse.

Lua, I can completely understand what you are saying. It does sound like he is being a bit of an arse - just when you need him to be strong, he's wobbling. Are you usually the strong one in your relationship?

Oh Lua, sorry ... i missed your post on your appointment .... have just scrolled down and found it - really hope everything is ok. No advice on the size/ fluid thing - but what is it about antibodies that might be a problem??? Re: DH's - i feel totally with you on that one. DH is soooo distanced from the whole thing. THe only time he has asked me if the baby was moving well etc was on the day of my 20 weeks scan - i suppose as he had just seen the baby and he was more "in tune" with it. Since then it is business as usual. I feel like we are on different planets when i am pregnant

Lua - prehaps DH will be more supportive when you KNOW what is , if anything, wrong. Men are better at dealing with actual , instead of hypothetical , situations IMO

Hi All,

So sorry that everyone seems to be (understandably) quite down right now.

Uwila, money and work stresses are just horrid, aren?t they? As I?m basically the sole provider, I have many a sleepless night worrying about paying bills. Usually while the DH is snoring loudly. And as for the imbeciles at your work, that is so frustrating for you! This is all new to me ? total strangers feeling it appropriate to make comments on my pgy and post-birth choices.
Lua, sorry you are feeling this way. You know, if you want a cup of tea and to get away from it all, or even have a rant, you are always welcome to give me a call (sorry everyone, not being cliquey here, we live about 10 minutes away from each other).

Mrs Wed, thanks for Lindor advice. I?ll go and check them out. Charley, yes, I am deeply ashamed

Welshie ? my dh calls me, the cat and the bump ?sausage?. And certainly not for any smutty reason that Uwila is implying . I think its lovely!!!

Well, my ?exciting? news of the day is that I nearly blacked out in Sainsbury?. I was wandering around and had that, ?I?m so hungry, I feel sick? moment. So I bought a banana, intending to eat it as soon as I paid. Unfortunately, while I was paying, the world started closing in on me and I had to sit down to recover very very fast, before I embarrassingly ended up as a big heap on the floor. Anyway, I ate my banana, recovered enough to get home and burst into tears on my poor DH, who now taken to glaring at me if I so much as move from a seated position. I feel okay, just appalled at myself for being so cr*p.

KVG ? that?s so true about MN . Men don?t have the support network we have and don?t talk like women do. I am so glad I?m female?.

Jonah - I am sure that my mum passed out in Sainsburys once when she was pregnant with me, I will have to ask her when she gets back from hols. Good (?) to see it is still part of the pregnancy experience. Hope you're feeling okay now, if in need just munch the banana, that's what I say.

Lippy - hurrah for your return, nice to see you again.

Lua - sorry your dh is stressing you out. I think blokes in general tend to take a more pragmatic view of problems, i.e. what is it and how do I fix it. They tend to be somewhat out of their element when it's not something which can be fixed. As per the others' advice, I would suggest you sit him down and explain your fears and how his attitude, however unintentionally, is making you feel he doesn't care in the same way. Hopefully all your worry will have been for nothing, I just wish all these things didn't involve so much waiting

Just had an irate email from my youngest SIL, they had a 'second opinion' visit from their social workers' boss yesterday. Among other things, she took it on herself to lecture them about child safety with their dog. The dog is as old as the hills and as soft as can be - at the time of the lecture he was asleep with four paws in the air, lying on his bean bag, poor old thing.

Oh Jonah - What a scare! I don't like fainting, but ina public place is that much worse. I hope they gave you the banana for free!!!

Trib - I can't believe social works harass people adoptig child about dogs.... Sometimes I wish they were half as concerned with the real parents of some neglected kids as they are with decent people trying to adopt a child!!! It makes me mad

Thanks all for your support. In a way or another all will be ok!

Hello! Thanks to those who asked where I was and to say hello! To be honest I get so confused with who is who and where you are all at I only read a bit. Want to be involved but can't keep up. The thread is very long too!
We are completely snowed in. hubby took 7.5 hours to get home yesterday, having left at 1pm. Normally it is 1.25 hours.
Feel really crap today. Have a cold and a headache and didn't sleep very well. Been lying on the bed until DS came to get me. He wants me, so why is he so naughty to me?
Just put cat out in snow for knocking over DD.
Baby just having a few wriggles. I am 24 weeks today!! Where has the time gone? Can't wait for baby to be here, still no name......

Just been to our local Mothercare World (massive) and they only had ONE size 8 maternity item in the WHOLE of their shop

Lua - It must be so frustrating for you! If it's any consolation, Im sure my dp would be the same, anytime I mention any of the things that could possibly go wrong he has a mini meltdown. When we were looking at the sonographer's results in the hospital teashop and he noticed that a couple of the little measurement markers weren't exactly in the middle of the "average" scales, he hottailed it back to maternity and demanded to know what was wrong! I can't for instance talk about my brother's asperger's because I mentioned it can be hereditary. I agree with MrsF - I think it must be different for our partners because they aren't carrying the baby. I think a lot of men need to meet baby first before it becomes a person. I'll certainly need to see it before I can believe it! I also think it's a control thing - they/we aren't used to not being able to make choices, especially about really important stuff like this.

Redhead - Welshie's gone now for a couple of days, so don't worry if she doesn't get back to you re the stickers for a while.

Oh goodmess MRsFlower, my DH (who is increasing close to sole H status today) still thinks DD and I are one single unit, and she'll be 2 in a few weeks.

JonahB - your fainting episode sounds scary and unpleasant. Perhaps you should buy some Lindor chocolates and keep them in your pocket for emergencies. Hope your DH is looking after you well. How did the nursery visits go?

Nab, where in the world are you to have so much snow?!

Lua, I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. Really hope there is nothing to worry about.

I won't be back until Monday, I've got no computer at home at the moment...sigh. Will have to resort to talking to DH in an evening instead of mumsnetting.

Have a lovely weekend everyone.

LIPPY YEAH!! So glad you're back I was holding off CATing you cos I suspected you needed a bread, but I was going to do it this week.

Jonah how scary! thank goodness you had dh with you! Where did you sit? Did you have to sit on the floor? I felt really dizzy one day a few weeks ago, never previously or (touch wood) since, and luckily I was at home, but it was weird. I would've probably fainted had I been out.

Very of your 25th! I have no idea what I did on mine. Probably nothing as per. Sorry to hear DD's been sick Hope your cold doesn't get any worse.

Ooh - Katz and Jordan eh? how very glam of you Northerrners! We do have Halle Berry though!

Trib - that image of your sil's doggie is so sweet! I love old smelly mutts

Hey nab! I still get confused about who has said what and stuff, I wouldn't be suprised if everyone on the June thread did it moves so quickly! Sorry you're poorly, at least you're nicely snowed in and can snuggle up in the warm. Wow, you cat knocked DD over?? Do you have a massive cat?? I'm 25 weeks today! Well done for getting to 24 weeks - baby is now officially a child

What's that Charlie? Katz and Jordan? Does she look like lovely Katie Price then?? Man, I was just getting to grips with having Posh Spice in our midst and the possiblity of having to wear make-up before I come on here

Halle Berry Ah dear. Oh for her boobs if nothing else.

Good luck Lua with your appt tomorrow. I have caught the gist that you are seeing the consultant about the low amniotic fluid and possible implications?? Big hugs ((()))

Sorry, if I've appeared to ignore certain issues or points raised, but 600 posts is more than enough info for any woman to take in!

Can I be the 600dth poster??

Hooray!!

Yes Lippy, Katz is Jordan, only with purple hair