Due in June - Thread 9

[teabelly]

Brand new thread as ordered...

Trib, I'm impressed chocky at that time of the morning ...soooo how do you have yours?? I bite the top off, suck out the filling and save the choc til last, yum!

Morning!!

Thought I'd shock you all by being the first to post for once.

Pink - there really is no pleasing you is there? I've just started taking Lactulose - seems to be ok at the moment - are you still taking it or just using the Linseed oil now? I asked my gp for it and though he looked it up on his pc and found he could print a prescription for it, he was reluctant because he didn't know anything about it. He did say he'd find out - so looks like we've taught him something.

Trib - thaks for clarifying that for me - that's so progressive of Scotland isn't it? Hope it happens here soon too.

Morning Charley!

Yes, progressive of the Scottish Parliament, although a shame the legislation was needed at all, in my view. I think if anyone gives me grief about breastfeeding in public I am going to say very knowledgeably "it is against the law and you could be subject to a fine, so please give me the name of your supervisor" and let them worry about finding out the law doesn't apply in England and Wales

Off to visit one of my other brothers today (other than the one I saw last weekend, I mean). I hope his kids aren't too excited about the prospect of the arrival of their next little cousin, I don't want to have to act all enthusiastic about the adoption of the baby when it may not happen ... sigh.

LOL Trib - you know, I'll say the same!

Have a nice time at your brother's. When do you think the other one will find out about the adoption?

lol trib, will have to remember that one (and hope that postnatal brain doesn't lose it) . Actually never had any negative comments or problems feeding ds out and about at all - the only looks I even got (that I was aware of anyway) were from one young trendy type couple who did look appalled in a restaurant one lunchtime. But I think they were just appalled at the sight of a child generally. The only negative response I ever got was from the PIL, MIL once made noises about 'would you be more comfortable upstairs', which dh said to with 'no she looks quite comfortable there, would you be more comfortable upstairs?' and that was the end of it. MIL never bf and doesn't really understand why anyone would, she seemed to think it was some wierd whim of mine to be humoured and joked about. My mum bf all of us (actually she must have been quite unusual in the early 70s) and she was fantastic.

Charley - this is the adoption that hangs in the balance because my bro has a suspicious lump which is due to be scanned in mid-March. Bad result = no baby. My other bro doesn't know about this, so as far as they are concerned, the adoption is all on course for Easter time - argh.

MrsF - My mum breastfed in the early 70s too, but the MIL is convinced that dh's health problems stem from the fact she didn't - much against her will but she was ill after he was born and of course the hospital was massively discouraging as it was more hassle for them. Fortunately I am pretty committed to breastfeeding myself, otherwise I think I would be getting it in the neck from the MIL in the other direction, i.e. "wouldn't you be more comfortable breastfeeding? Let me hide the bottles so you have no choice"

Funnily enough, the only person in dh's family who was supportive was his otherwise rather horrible grandmother, who told me I was doing a fantastic job, how disappointed she had been that none of her daughters had bf and how glad she was it was coming back. DH nearly fell off his chair with the shock of hearing her say something nice to anyone.

I do remember that sad post of yours Trib. I so hope it's good news in March

My mum bottle fed me as a (very) early 70's baby. I blame all my shortcomings on her Seriously though, that must have been an awful time for your dh's mum, especially as she really wanted to bf when it was just not "the done" thing back then.

LOL MrsF re dh nearly falling off his chair

Just a quick one, have got computer problems so am using my sister's but will be at the meet-up tomorrow.

Hello
If you choose to b/f the support you get is so crucial. I was lucky too. Both my mum and MIL b/f successfully and enjoyed it.
Just to continue my experiment I tried the Mars egg today. Revolting, very sickly and a waste of time. Stick to the bar IMO.
Trib - thinking of you.
Pink - not sure if you saw my small bump messages on the previous thread but I had a small bump last time and was told to expect 5-6lbs baby. DD was 8lb 7 but had no stretch marks on my tummy. Lol about never being happy.
Where is teabelly?
We are off for a BBQ at the rugby club in a bit so have a good afternoon everyone.

Enjoy the meet up if I am not online again today!!!!

Where oh where has Franni gone? Doe anyone know if she was made redundant?

Somebody tried to CAT Franni but she cant get messages. Hope she is OK too.

Uwila, I?ve been catching up this afternoon on all the threads. Doubt its much help at the moment, but big hugs from me. After one loss of self control, I?ve decided to leave my soapbox well alone now, but you know my thoughts??

I am doing the NHS classes they offer too - they just start so late though. I really thought it would be important to get the NCT parenting class cos when I am tired and cursing I want to know I learnt everything I could as I won't have anyone to fall back on. Also we have the Breastfeeding group on a different day to the ordinary meeting so I'll be getting loads of input. I think it is important if you are going to be a single parent as nobody else is going to step in or give you a break. Just having a partner to bounce idea's off and ask for a second opinion is a big support which I won't have.

I don't know about breastfeeding. I intend on doing it but the whole thing sounds pretty alien and basically revolting. I'll do it as it is supposed to have health benefits. I won't breast feed anywhere in public I couldn't live with it. I am not an au natural type of person anyway and will be expressing milk for the out of the home times. I don't like being pregnant to be honest and it is something I am basically enduring for the end result. I will probably be a terrible mother but I am as I am I'm afraid, no amount of love for my child is going to make me liberated about my body I am quite resigned to that.

Mrs F - I haven't a clue about looking around the unit. It is a big fat nothing at present. Just popping to the midwife once in a blue moon. I asked the consultant at the unit about it and she was saying she would inform me straight away about things but as most people have said with NHS it is usually just so late near the time when you want to get a picture of things earlier. I haven't even got a clue about when the Antenatal GP classes start. I'll have to ask the midwife when I go again in a few weeks

Pink, first of all you will be a brilliant mother, you are so strong doing this by yourself. With BF, just keep an open mind and see how it goes and how you feel, there are no prizes for it. The NCT bf counsellors in Bristol are good if they are still the same ones that I have met, and I found most of the midwives at Southmead to be very very supportive of bf last time - it really helps that they are a neo-natal specialist hospital I think, in all sorts of ways. I don't know what the policy is now about visits, but you can always ring the labour ward up and ask if you do want to look round. It's 4 years since I had ds so they might be more amenable to it now. And your midwife might know about group tours (sounds like a stately home) that are being organised.

Thanks Mrs F it just seems like alot of uncomfortable waiting just now.

Have I like missed something huge? I went offline for a few days and everyone is offended. Dare I ask to be pointed in the right direction to see what on earth it is all about? Not to bring whatever it is back up again but I hate being totally in the dark

Oh well I'm 25 tomorrow, another year gone by gosh it does go quickly. I feel like I haven't done anything of worth since 1997. Oh well. take care everyone

there has been a bit of a ruck, you can see some of it on the previous June thread, then another thread was deleted I think. All stems from some comments made about birth choices and some very sad events on the previous thread, which got picked up in the wider forums and upset a lot of people - then quite a lot of mud got flung this way and I think we are all just feeling a little wary now. But it will blow over as these things always do, something else will kick off soon enough! But a good reminder that this is not a closed board and that what we post is open for everyone to see.

ps happy birthday for tomorrow, are you doing anything nice?

just a quickie to say happy 25th for tomorrow,pink

Pink, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!
I hope you are able to have a fantastic day.
I echo Mrs F 100% that you will be a fantastic mother. I wasn't aware that you are going through all this on your own and I can appreciate how daunting it must all be. I know what you mean about lack of contact from the NHS etc too. I often felt that I was just being left to get on with things with my first pregnancy and didn't feel special or looked after at all. On the topic of b/feeding as you explain it isn't for everyone and I admire your determination to give it a go and also wish you the very best with it. I am pro breastfeeding but feel that there is far too much guilt associated with it or with not doing it. I think a happy healthy emotionally balanced mother is much more important in the great scheme of things. I had a friend who hated it and cried all the time she was doing it. She eventually stopped and the transformation was amazing. She regained all her confidence and began to enjoy her daughter at last. I should point out that with a positive attitude most things are possible and I loved it (and I am no earth mother). So basically good luck. (Hope this makes sense seems like a lot of waffle now i have written it down).
Chase your m/w too an don't be put off that you are being a pain. I completely missed all my post natal classes last time as they 'forgot' to let me know about them and I was really miffed about it so do nag and don't worry.
Take care and have a GREAT day.

Pink, Happy Birthday!!!!!

Hope you have a lovely day.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY PINK!! Hope you had/are having a great day

FWIW, mrsflowerpot, I think you summed things up very well

Hi girls, here I am, not been made redundant, but the axe may fall tomorrow at 1pm. Kind of resigned myself to it really, but I have found out that I will qualify for SMP, by one day!! Think the whole thing stinks personally, but am now going to try and stop feeling sorry for myself, cause at least I'll have more time with Oscar if it happens.
Pink Happy Birthday, hope you are having a great day.
Just had a quick scan through and it seems like a pretty eventfull time recently.
Big hug to sweetheart at this sad time.
I agree about the pressure of b/f, there is alot of guilt about it, give it a go, but don't beat yourself up if it doesn't happen for you. I b/f Oscar for 8 weeks, and new he wasn't 100% happy and struggled for ages about giving him the bottle, in the end I did and he was a different baby, much happier.
On the subject of NCT, it's such a shame that there are so few places, I still meet all my NCT girls on weekly basis, and it's been 16 months since we all met, they have all been the greatest of friends, and all really supportive through out the year, wouldn;t be without them. Only thing I would say is that the post natal class I did happened too late, it would have been better if O was younger. Found my anti natal class better than the course!
Anyway, off now for harrisa roast chicken, anything with chilli will do.
Hope to catch up with you all tomorrow.