Due Sept 2005 - Thread 3

[franch]

here we go

Hi Kamini, welcome to the September thread! I've got my nuchal scan on the 9 March too (I'm due on 22 or 23 Sept) and I'm also quite nervous.

Hi kamini and welcome to the September thread .

I'm due on 22nd September and having my scan next Friday (although it's just a dating scan, not a nuchal one).

I'm generally at my worst during the evenings although I have been feeling a bit better this week which is very nice .

BTW, is anyone else still absolutely knackered? I haven't really been sick at all (massive commiserations to those of you who have) but I'm still going to bed before 9 if I can possibly get away with it.

Piccalilli - YES!!! zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

I am knackered . But still end up going to bed too late.

Need to stay up for a while as my mum and dad are picking up DH from Liverpool station (his train should be getting in now ). Haven't seen him for a whole 36 hours or so .

I will go downstairs and be dutiful daughter and do the washing up .

Hi everyone,
sorry I haven't posted much lately. I'm ok tho! Have just had the flu this week, and been working hard, which don't really go together!

Does anyone else find their boss to be less than sympathetic with their pregnancy requests? I am now doing (mostly) 8 hr shifts (as opposed to 12.5 hr shifts!), but I noticed soon I am down to do 8 days in a row, then one day off, then another 2 days on.... this is crazy!!! I reckon that even if I 'have a word' with her (the lovely boss), she will be less than helpful!

At least I have an appointment with occupational health on 7th March, so I will beg them to let me stop doing night shifts!

oh and Picallilli... I am going to bed every night at 9pm if I can, so don't feel guilty!

Morning every one. I get about one nose bleed a week, did when i was pregers with dd this one seems to be following the same pattern. Have you all got good ante natal care? I came to the conclusion that some mid wives really are crap yesterday. Went for my booking session and as advised I had listed any concerns I had. Midwife couldn't care less about these told me to wait till 19 weeks when i would see the doctor. Did not ask me the medical history questions just typed in what she thought ought to go there and got upset when i kept on correcting her. Although i had mentioned a huge increase in frequency and intensity of my migraines she did not take my blood pressure! Have booked an apponitment with the community mid wife for monday but am feeling pretty p'd off. Work are adding to the stress by deciding they want to do an investigation into my absence levels and are threatening me with a disciplinary (its all preg/miscarriage related can they do this) and to cap it all my morning sickness is getting worse instead of better!!!!!! Sorry to be moaning again but I really needed to get it all off my chest!

A huge hug to you, mummyhill - what a lot to deal with. That mw does sound crap - hope the community one is more helpful. The attitude from work (and LadyL's) sounds awful too - can you get some sort of backup from the comm mw/GP, maybe in the form of a letter? Or do you have that already?

Franch - I am so sorry you are feeling ill again. After a week free of nausea I am getting little bouts again but able to cope.

Kamini - welcome!

Piccalilli - I am also shattered, especially on week nights when I cant have a afternoon snooze. Have now started telling people so it is so much easier. I hated lying and looking like a wimp!

Mummyhill - how awful. Do they know you are pregnant? Surely they cant do that? I am changing departments in May and meet my new boss on Monday. Not looking forward to telling him that instead of being the enthusiastic newcomer he hope for I will only be in post for ten weeks. Ive never met him before so not sure how he will take it!

lady lazarus........check your contract to see what hours you have signed for. i am pretty sure it is ilegal to make you work more than 48 hours in a working week unless you signed the opt out. check the Citizens Advice Website.....i found it quite helpful for stuff like that.

mummyhill and ladylazarus, i had a look at the maternity alliance website too and that might be helpful to you.

maternity alliance

Isn't it awful how negative it still feels to be pg and working? I'm dreading telling my agent - she was lovely last time round but it's such a short gap and I haven't exactly been her most lucrative client for the past year ...

Good thinking moschops. Boompi, thanks for the sympathy - I spent a lot of yesterday bursting into tears at regular intervals because I'd been so convinced I'd be OK by now. It's definitely going on longer this time and I think I had 6 weeks as my kind of mental 'limit'. But what are you supposed to do when you go over your limit? Not so bad today though so fingers crossed. DD is going to Mum's for the night so I should get a lie-in tomorrow

Mummyhill - I looked on the Maternity Alliance website, and it says:

Your employer should record any pregnancy-related sick leave separately from other sick leave and it should not count towards your total sickness absence for disciplinary or redundancy purposes. It is against the law for your employer to dismiss you or treat you less favourably because of your pregnancy or for having taken sick leave during your pregnancy.

Hope that helps!

I had to go out and buy some proper maternity clothes today... I couldn't do up my normal trousers! Do you think this is 'normal' for being only 11/12 weeks pg?? It seems to have all happened in the last few days! I look really pregnant now, which seems strange to me as I didn;t expect to look pregnant til a bit further on!!

Ladylazurus, I know exactly what you mean about expanding rapidly. Weird thing is that I have only put on 3-4 lbs (not exactly out of the ordinary!) so why can I only do up one pair of jeans and one skirt?? A friend has lent me a big pile of maternity stuff that is sitting in a corner of my room, but have to admit I wore one of the skirts the other day. Am planning a trip to TopShop maternity (also online, but limited choice) but not until after the scan as it feels like tempting fate! Don't really have a bump though, just a roll of blubber (TMI?!!)
Anyway, getting ready now for a hot night out clubbing.....or alternatively, on the sofa, falling asleep by 9.30...mmmm, hard choice, but I think the latter wins!!

Franch, I'm also feeling yuck again, after a few days of normality. I think I tend to totally overdo it when I feel OK, as it's such a shock to have any energy. My solution has been to stomp around the house shouting at anyone who crosses my path, and bursting into tears at regular intervals - it helps to share the pain around a bit!!

Andif - I haven't actually weighed myself, but the tummy area is definitely looking bump-like! or maybe it is all the chips and ice-cream ... it's just I haven't been pg before, or known anyone close enough to follow their bump size to know how big is normal!

Thanks for the words of wisdom, and I think I will join you for the night on the sofa followed by bed at 9pm hehe. Rock 'n' roll.

Mummyhill, sorry you're having such a dreadful time - just wanted to add to what everyone else has said about your work, they can't discipline you for pregnancy-related absence and that includes miscarriage related absence. I would suggest you keep a note of anything anyone says to you at work about this - it helps if you need to take any action later.

Hello everyone - it's Monday mnorning and freezing - well actaully less than freezing as it was -5 as I was driving along. .

Rest of weekend was good although think I did too much on Saturday as the sickness returned and I felt pretty urgh on Sunday as well. Went to bed at 7:15 last night and feel OK this morning (apart from being in work of course).

Mummyhill and LadyLazarus, sorry things aren't going too well for you .

Was starting to feel less sick and less tired over the weekend and then I came down with a rotten cold. Heaps of work to do this week. But scan this afternoon. Excited and nervous....

Hope scan goes well Sallie .

Good luck with scan Sallie, mine is this time next week, so feeling more real!

PC - I am not really having a "terrible time"... feeling MUCH better in myself. The work thing I am trying to take with a pinch of salt, and good humour! There's no way I will be able to work 11 days with only one day off, so I am not stressing about it, I will do what I can and then take sick days here and there if needed. Just a bit frustrating when your manager is not exactly sympathetic! Hoping the visit to occupational health will give me more clout!

I am so sick of feeling sick. I've had morning sickness for 7 weeks now. Just when I think I am getting better I have a bad day.

I suspect I am the mummy from hell at the moment as I just don't have the patience for my 2 year old... and it is worse that we are hardly getting out of the house.

How much longer will this go on? If I am not feeling sick I have an all-day headache instead... the type which paracetamol does nothing to relieve. I hate feeling so incapacitated. I don't have the energy to acomplish the most minor of tasks. By the time this is over my house will need the biggest Spring clean it has ever had.

Sorry to be such a downer... I just want some normality back in my life.