Due Sept 2005 - Thread 3

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Zubb - I have persuaded him to go. I think once you have kids you view these things so differently, the expense, the time away from home. Pre-kids it would never have seemed weird to travel so far for just one night away.

I think DH is just grouchy because he had a local stag night and sees the purpose of the stag night as different friends getting to know each other pre-wedding. I did the same with my hen-night. (But we already had dd when we got married )

His friend doesn't yet have children and probably feels the pressure to do something wild and exciting and different for his stag night. Anyway, I read a few of the emails that had been flying between DH and the best man and reading between the lines could see it was potentially going to cause a rift if DH didn't make more effort to go.

It is a good friend getting marrued, one who we see a few times a year. DH will enjoy the stag night once he gets there, he just needs to get over his principles. He is a teacher too and I think he expected his friend to accomodate him a bit more by tagging the stag weekend onto the end of half term.

Thanks for asking. Did you expect such a long answer?

Right - I am dressed now and off to see the midwife. I'll report back when I'm done.

Zubb - I have to think of maternity leave now, as our rotas are done quite far in advance (well, a couple of months), and I need to be thinking do I need to request annual leave yet... my job is very physical, on feet most of the time, so the thought of working until I'm 36 weeks or something is pretty horrendous! . I too am thinking of finishing work at the end of May / start of June, taking my 7 weeks annual leave in a big chunk, going on holiday, moving house, and then starting mat leave right after that... aah roll on the summer!

LL finishing at the end of May means only 12 more weeks-ish at work which is manageable. I worked up till 35 and 36 weeks with ds and dd and just don't have the energy to cope with it this time around. Plus work is a lot busier than it used to be now.

Sallie - yeah there's no way I am going to kill myself by working till I'm 36 weeks pregnant. If I had a more "sedentary" job then maybe, but as a nurse no way!!

Do you need to have a meeting with Personnel before you request your maternity leave or something? I have no idea how it works!

You don't actually need to have a meeting with personnel, you just need to let your employer know (via personnel is probably best) what your expected due date is and when you want to start your maternity leave.

Being a first-timer I was planning on working til about 2 weeks before I'm due...then had a horrendous journey to work this morning on the tube and started to re-think.

Reading all of you thinking of maternity leave - I wish it were possible to have a maternity job - would give me more of a rest that being a sahm. I worked before I had my first so do appreciate how tough it gets towards the end but at the moment it does seem like a holiday compared to what I have to do now. Have been thinking of having some more help around the house and wondering how I'll get through the summer holidays (which I love but I wont have the energy for). Al of this depends on the preg going well - so far scary nuchal scan & now waiting for more results.....fingers crossed.

Morning all! Have had 2 days in bed with flu/cold virus, but dh back to work today so had to get up! Still feel dreadful, but now have ds1 off as well - luckily at 8yrs he can sort himself out! Need to walk dog now - why did we think puppy good idea?!!
I've decided to make my fortune inventing a decongestant for pregnancy
Milward, when do you get further result from your scan/blood test - the waiting must be awful. I'm with you on dreading the summer holidays as it often ends up feeling like WW3 in our house! We're away for 2 weeks, and I think I'll resort to bribery for the rest! I think maternity leave as a relaxing option is a bit of a joke once you have other kids! With ds1 I finished 10 wks before - just the way it worked for teachers. I had a great time, decorating, meeting friends for lunch....it seems like another world now!!!

We have all been very quiet today, I hope you are all feeling ok?

Goodness, I haven't been here for days - just catching up with you all. Had a few sick-free days (miraculous) then threw up twice this morning - not that surprised tho as I wasn't kidding myself it was all over. Hope I'm OK tomorrow tho as I'm going across town to see my agent and finally admit I'm pg!

On the subject of moving, our neighbour had a valuation done on our place the other day and we're still on tenterhooks waiting to hear from him - if he puts in a reasonable offer we're going to be spared estate agents' fees, viewings, etc etc. So fingers crossed. Need to get out of here asap as we're on the 2nd floor and also DH & I are camping on the office sofabed while DD sleeps in our huge bedroom - although I have a cunning plan to move her into the front room temporarily so that I can sleep on a real bed again - my poor pg bod needs a proper mattress!

andif - hope you're feeling better. Know how difficult it can be to be sick with little ones to look after. Hope your 8yr managed ok. Would love to have a puppy - but think the dream is probably much easier than the reality! Thanks for asking about my results - in a way I don't want to get them and have been enjoying this week as it could be the last week before major preg stress. So I've decided just to not worry and so far I've stopped myself when I've started - trick for me is to remind myself I'll have all of next week to worry & more if results not good & then the amnio to look forward to so I'd better use my time now for the best - iyswim. Tried on some of my old maternity clothes - couldn't believe I got that big - but some actually fit now (can only blame the flab). Best wishes.

Not posted for ages been in france!! yipee lucky me it was bloody frezing and i got to stand round with the camera a lot as most of the rides were not suitable for me!!!!! DH and DS had a wale of a time though. Glad to hear most of you are feeling better now. I intend to start mat leave beginning of august but i will be usung some of my holiday entitlement for the last two weeks of july. As i have a sedentary job i can get away with it!!!! Has anyone been feeling any movement yet I swear I could feel number two doing cartwheels first thing this morning.

Not posted for ages been in france!! yipee lucky me it was bloody frezing and i got to stand round with the camera a lot as most of the rides were not suitable for me!!!!! DH and DS had a wale of a time though. Glad to hear most of you are feeling better now. I intend to start mat leave beginning of august but i will be usung some of my holiday entitlement for the last two weeks of july. As i have a sedentary job i can get away with it!!!! Has anyone been feeling any movement yet I swear I could feel number two doing cartwheels first thing this morning.

i'm having an awful stressed time..........work related and yesterday on my lunch break i had to dive into the back of a friends cafe as i started to bawl my eyes out half way round town.

i am really short tempered with people too and feeling a bit lonely i suppose. i don't have any friends in the town where i live that i can go and have coffee with and as i don't drive (yet) i can't go and see my best mate because even though she only lives a few miles away the rural bus service means its a nightmare and expensive to get to see her.

i'm supposed to be blooming aren't i? i actually have very few reasons to be unhappy or worried but i just feel so down at the moment.

((((moschops)))) I hope that you feel happier soon.

Mosschops - sorry to hear you are having a bad time of it. I am not blooming either, if that makes you feel any better! Have constant headaches and sickness and am utterly exhausted. Under lots of stress at work at the moment which doesn't help and am going to see the doctor this afternoon as not sure how much more I can cope with.

Hugs to everyone who isn't feeling great.

I think (whispers very quietly) that the sickness might be coming to an end. Still feeling sick quite a lot but haven't been sick since Sunday. Saturday was awful when I managed to be sick 4 times in 90 minutes (and had DS pointing at it and laughing )

I haven't really been posting here much as I have been rediagnosed with depression and have been feeling a bit not great. I think I didn't want to bring anyone else down at all.

Had PND (although not sure if it was PND, more just D) diagnosed when DS was 10 months, was on anti-depressants which I was weaning myself off before Christmas and then stopped taking completely when we found out about small one in January.

I have been feeling more "depersonalised" if there is such a word from things in the past few weeks and getting really angry about really little things which was worrying me. Was also acheiving virtually nothing at work although keeping up the appearance of someone who was all right.

So last Wednesday went to see GP who referred me to the Community Mental Health team and I saw a doctor there on Friday. Am now taking ADs again (different ones from before) and I think they are having a bit of an effect - yesterday I felt a bit more "real".

Have been signed off work until the beginning of April. So on the days that I should be at work (7 days a fortnight) DS is at nursery and I have some space. Have been managing to do some moving things (luckily we are moving next Friday not tomorrow as moving tomorrow would not be possible ).

DS has his MMR this afternoon . He has been preparing by having a long sleep this morning - really should wake him up some time .

Anyway, that was a very long post indeed. I will try and be slightly more succinct in future .

Thinking of you PC - what a rotten time to get depressed again. All those hormones whizzing around really can't help. Maybe once your move is over you will begin to feel better - you've got an awful lot of change going on at the moment. Try not to avoid posting on MN - we're all here to support you, as I'm sure we'll all need it sooner or later in the next 6 months!
My 5 yr old finally had his 2nd MMR at half term with no reaction whatsoever so hopefully you'll find the same!
Take care of yourself.

PC - I am sorry to hear about your depression. Antenatal depression is a lot more common than people realise so I am pleased that you have been able to see a good doctor and get some ADs.

Please don't avoid posting here. Everyone is a valid contributor - you included. We need to know how the move goes.

PC, we are all on this site for encouragement and support so please dont feel alone. Try to use the time you have not working do things for yourself.

It is by no means the answer, but I have found that small amounts of exercise can raise my spirits and make me feel more human again...forget doing it for the usual reasons like weight loss or physical health, your mental health can benefit too.

I sound a bit too much like a text book but it seems to help me....even going for a walk with happy music in my ears is a tonic. I laughed the other day when I felt the urge to go clubbing when I listened to an old dance track I wouldve been dancing to in the 'good old days'! Errm, needless to say I gave that idea a miss!

Would love to do some exercise right now and I am sure it would lift me physically and emotionally but just don't have the time with a full on job and two littl'uns at home. Shouldn't complain as its my choice to have three close together but didn't feel like this at all during my previous two pregnancies. I exercised right up until labour with ds and did a regular amount of exercise although less when pregnant with dd. This time have managed nothing because of the time pressures I am under.

Would love to do some exercise right now and I am sure it would lift me physically and emotionally but just don't have the time with a full on job and two littl'uns at home. Shouldn't complain as its my choice to have three close together but didn't feel like this at all during my previous two pregnancies. I exercised right up until labour with ds and did a regular amount of exercise although less when pregnant with dd. This time have managed nothing because of the time pressures I am under.

PC, so sorry to hear about your depression. Please stick around and talk - at great length if necessary!

I'm starting to think about exercise - that's as far as I've got but it's progress after nearly 2 months languishing in bed! Yes it is incredibly difficult when you have a little one to look after etc.

Saw my agent today, she was very positive about my 2nd pregnancy in a short space of time - I presented it as a career decision to limit my career break to a minimum, and she went along with that

Hey, now that some of us are slowly beginning to feel better, is anyone in London interested in meeting up?? If so I'll start a thread in the meetups section

Glad to hear people are starting to feel a bit better. Ooh a meet-up! I might be interested to meet people somewhere in London, if it's happening! Bit nerve-wracking tho!!

PC - don't stop posting here, we are here to listen to you + try to support you as best we can. I have had depression in the past, the anti-dep's will def. help, so stick with it xxx

Why nerve-wracking LadyL?