Due October 08 - The Only Way Is Out!

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Thought we'd go with twinklytoes suggestion since she's gone and got herself admitted to hospital in a desperate bid for attention .

Have left everyone on the stats for now, but will do another cull of deserters soon....
(and apols if I've missed off any of the recent joiners)

29th Sept perkypopsy first baby Surprise North Herts (Ware)
29th Sept WombFor1More 2 ds's 1 dd Boy
30th Sept Aubergenie first baby Surprise
30th Sept sambrads 1 ds Girl
1st CantSleepWontSleep 1 dd Boy North Herts
1st accessorizequeen 2 ds's Twins - one of each
1st loulou33 1 ds Surprise Southern Scotland C-Section 12th Sept
2nd snowymum first baby Boy Near Oxford
2nd 1sttimer80 first baby Surprise. Hydronephrosis discovered. Extra scan at 28 weeks (7th July) planned. Edgware (Royal Free, Hampstead)
2nd FranMum2B first baby Surprise Kingston
2nd my3honeypies 2 dd's Boy
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6th hoff first baby Boy Spain
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14th twinklytoes 2 dd's Boy
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20th firsttimer08 first baby Boy. Dilated renal pelvis - rescan at 34 weeks. Greenwich
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21st lilbitmum 1 dc
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23rd Sallypuss first baby Probably girl Herts/Essex border
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26th 4andnotout 3 dd's Girl
26th mariekg 3 dc Girl
27th Rhian82 Boy
27th mybabysinthegarden 1 dd Boy Scottish Borders
27th beaufies first baby Boy c-section 17th Oct
29th Ekka 1 dd Surprise
30th Jambers99 1 ds Girl NW London (Hillingdon)

Pistachio - Can't believe they are making it so difficult for you.

Hope this lot I'm dealing with are better organised. They do seem to make everything difficult though so maybe not. Last time with a different team of midwives, they brought everything in the back of one of their cars and carried it through. I got male neighbour to give them a hand with the heavy stuff but they didn't expect it. I had to get a prescription for some drugs, don't remember which and they brought something else, possibly the syntometrine. Two days later they reversed the process when I developed PE. Morphine at a homebirth? Last time they would only allow G&A here but eventually agreed to something stronger but not that strong.

Maybe the midwife who was stroppy was just having an off-day.

Must admit there are times when I wonder about a homebirth. I do have moments of just wanting to go to hospital, be drugged to the eyeballs and avoid all the hassle, mess and drug-free discomfort.

ajm - I know how you feel, I feel the same way sometimes. But I honestly think even by being drugged up to the eyeballs in hospital you are unlikely to totally avoid pain and discomfort and mess.

At least by doing it at home, you have your own home comforts and can do things your own way.

pistachio - the earliest appointment they had with her was 15th October... I'm due the 12th!!
Sorry they are making the homebirth so difficult for you. I'm SURE they won't be mean to you when you're in labour... no one can be mean to someone in labour, right??

I called back the gp surgery and cried into the phone about how I was not going to go to that gp again and I want to see the midwife. The mw finishes her day at that surgery at 1.15pm on tuesdays, but they are squeezing me in an appointment right at 1.15 anyway... talk about mw not being happy with the patient... I think the receptionist just didn't want to listen to me anymore.

I'm envious of those of you who are brave enough to do a homebirth... I cant imagine being that far from an epidural (even though, yes, I will TRY not to use it!). But it would be SOOOO much better to just do it at home and then right afterward, you're HOME with your baby!!! You couldnt ask for anything more.

I think my main problem is that it is all getting a bit too real at the moment and I'm not ready for it and DH is not really taking anything very seriously expect his precious work project.

He cleared his junk out of the spare room and dumped it all over the place, moving a lot of my things out of cupboards in the process so i can't find anything About 30 days left and DS is living out of a linen basket as he doesn't have wardrobes or a cupboard. No car.. it's still broken down so can't get out to get anything. DS is bored and climbing the walls. I'm gonna put a pic on my profile so you can see what a mischievious tyke he is..

I walked around playgroup today for an hour cuddling my friend's newborn whilst trying to keep my DS and his best friend out of mischief. Juggling a baby and keeping up with two boys aged about 2 was a challenge. Came home with baby sick down my back and a toddler covered in felt tip pen and thought OMG this will be life full-time soon...

Feel better for getting all of that out.. I'll cope, we all will but right now.. arghh. Got to go as DS 22 months has just announced "I make tea mummum ok?" and opened the freezer.. better stop him before he eats something he shouldn't. I'm a bad mother me..

Hi Everyone! thanks for the birthday wishes. Belgo: yep the baby has the same. We don;t know if it;s a boy or a girl. I'm not too worried as they say it is more common in one sex than another and can be easily sorted out.

I guess the thing that worries me is that as soon as the family learn the little one is on antibiotics everyone will panic, which so far (fingers crossed it stays like that) I have tried to avoid!

I'm just waiting to see hwo things progress, but I've been having loads of scans and loads of appointments so I guess it;s betetr they monitor me then let me get on with it! :-)

I have to book mw appointment 2 weeks in advance. Lucky not had any problems where I had to see her at short notice - no chance.
Still getting period type pains. Not sure why? Any ideas

Congratulatons TWINKLE. Almost first. Brilliant that all is well with both you and baby.

Loulou. I'm sure that it wont be long before you are both home safe and well.

It sounds like we are all beginning to panic a little. Not surprising really.

Star, you are legally entitled to a basic level of midwife care. a 36, 38, 40 week appointment are all included. Of which if you are haveing a homebirth then 38 or 40 week should be a homevisit. If you need to get in touch with Birth unit manager. Should be the senior Midwife manager. Explain your issues. She/he will be able to give you reassurance that you will be cared for properly. You will be when you need it. Do not let incompetant GP surgery work you into a state as your birth will be great.

Sambrads. Would I be right in assuming your DH will be with you? I am worried that you have noone with you and when you really need the support you will be alone. Please tell me that isnt so?
Are you on your bouncy ball as we speak

I had my reflexology this morning. Lovely. I dont think I am on my way yet as she has asked me to book in for next week! Rubbish.
Also I have finally got some Raspberry leaf capsules and Evening Primrose. Is it supposed to have an effect straight away? My belly really hurts, more than yesterday!

Midwife asked me last week about my plans for DD's when baby arrives. I told her that baby will arrive on a Wed or Fri during school hours. Either that or at night. So child care is not an issue! She laughed in my face. Which I think is a bit rude really.

LOL about the childcare, ronshar! Everyone asks me how I'm going to work up until baby comes... what if my waters break in my classroom... I always say, "oh that won't happen. I'm due the 12th and that's a Sunday!"

hi ronshar my dh is a good source of support for me and wil be here holding my hand through out
i have been bouncing flat out but no contractions as yet
i have been feeling alot less movement today is this normal? i have been pushing y bump about to try and incourage her to move but no luck think she has ran out of room

can you believe i have 10 days to go to my due date !!!!!!!! its madness on sunday i will be down to single fiqures [shoock]

im scared

Awww loulou - really hope that you and ds get home soon. I would hate to be away from dd for more than one night (and she'd hate it too), so can understand how you must be feeling about that.

sambrads - depends when I go into labour and how quickly it seems to be happening as to what happens to dd. Hopefully she'll be in nursery school and I can just get the in-laws to pick her up and bring her back here for some tea, and then dh will be home in time to put her to bed. Probably a bit optimistic though .
Her occasional childminder is another option, but only really for daytime, and one of my post-natal group has offered to have her overnight at hers (her dd sleeps really well, so she will be in for a bit of shock I think if this happens!).
In-laws are about 40 mins drive away, so are on standby for whenever, and have a spare car seat in their car ready that we have borrowed for a couple of weeks. They never remember to have their mobiles on when they are out though, so getting hold of them could be the biggest problem!
I just figure that we'll work something out when it happens, as enough people are willing to step in if needed.

I've had less movement the last couple of days too sambrads, so I presume it's fairly common. As long as you're still getting the 10 a day I don't think it's cause for concern.

Sambrads - I know what you mean about less movement... since the braxton hicks kicked in about a week ago my bump is often rock solid and the kind of movements I feel have changed a lot. I did read in one book that the level of amniotic fluid goes down around this time so that it's not surprising there's less room for baby to float around, as well as baby being bigger, of course! My midwife reassured me all was well and suggested that feeling roughly 10 movements a day was okay... I just can't keep count and like to worry anyway!
I think I'd just trust your instinct on this one and if you're worried get a mw to check you out. Worth it for peace of mind.

Crossed post CSWS - glad we agreed on the 10 movements!

We have a similar number of 'what if' arrangements for people to look after DD... so difficult not knowing when it's all going to happen.

My mum has just been on the phone for the past hour 1/2! Not even sure what she wanted!! We all have different issues with our mothers.
I am less worried now Sambrads. I am pleased you have a fab DH. Mine is down the pub.

I find that the movements now are bigger & slower than before. Almost like baby is trying to stretch ou but cant get enough room. A Bit like Alien the film.
CSWS & Star, I'm glad I'm not the only one who has their time of birth all planned out.

Congrats Twinkle! Missed that. Hope you're well.

Loulou, I hope you and ds will be home soon and fully recovered!!

My parents are the same as your in-laws CSWS, absolute rubbish when it comes to answering phones, having mobiles switched on. Their excuse: no one ever calls us Probably a bid for me to ring more often

I am the most disorganized, dippy individual: I have yet to write a birth plan, the nursery is an empty room and DH and I had a lot of events to attend lately and there wasn't one evening where he wasn't drinking beyond drink & drive limits [argh]

This is officially our last WE together. [sad somehow, I know, silly of me] Am reminiscing a lot. Very nervous about the baby. Cold feet if that makes sense. Bit too late, I know. Does anyone else feel that way? I'm scared of everything changing.

Alexa, I know how you feel. I'm quite organized (so have things sorted for what's about to happen as much as I can... but prob missing some important bits!!), but I'm definitely scared of the change that's about to come to our lives... I'm worried about everything, sometimes think I've made a big mistake (but I know deep inside that it's OK) and I'm worried that DH wont be able to cope with the change either...
I feel like I'm the only one on earth who wants her baby in for the full 40 weeks - becasue I just have to much to do before that date and I just want that time before everything changes forever... it's not that I don't want the baby, we're both really, really excited for it... just feeling nervous about the imminent arrival.
It will all be ok. I'm told once you hold the baby in your arms you can't imagine your life without him/her It will be a beautiful change and only make your love for dh stronger (from what I'm told ).

My ramble translation: I think "cold feet" are normal

alexa and star i sometimes feel like that to and this is my second the way i try to understand is that you start feeling scared and doubts creep into your mind but just try and focus on the the wee baby half you half you partner lying in your arms looking up at you there is no better feeling in the world.

also when your in doubt rememb that feeling you got when you read the positive on your pregnancy test all those months ago thats the same feeling that should keep you going on a bad day
hope this helps

felt baby move last night and a few small movements this morning but they have definately have got less and less which i had a scanner at home

Sounds like some of these babies are starting to settle down to conserve energy for birth.. I wonder who'll be first to go into labour naturally?

I was in a panic and tears when I got that positive pregnancy test (we wanted to wait another year) - it only took about a month to get used too the idea.

ajm200 THANK YOU!!!!! I received the CD this morning! Can't wait to listen to it! Thanks so much, that was so kind of you

that should read, "to get used to the idea", not "too".
sorry. dh seems to think the baby could come at any second now... he's so excited but I really want baby to stay in there for 3 more weeks!!!

sorry star did not want to seem patronising i forget pregnancy can sometimes happen unexpected for people
i had to get help to get pregnant this time with clomid so a positive for me was like no other feeling in the world