Due October 08 - The Only Way Is Out!

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Thought we'd go with twinklytoes suggestion since she's gone and got herself admitted to hospital in a desperate bid for attention .

Have left everyone on the stats for now, but will do another cull of deserters soon....
(and apols if I've missed off any of the recent joiners)

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loulou What does the evening primrose oil do and visualisation and acupressure do then?
Good luck though, wow cant believe you will soon be having your baby!! How sacry and exciting. I am not really ready, 6 weeks to go, am looking forward to finishing work this week though

Went to town with MIL today, am sooooooooooooo sore down below, walked alot and now paying for it, Very swollen...ouch!
MIL got DD new shoes and bath toys and wants to pay for dolls house for her b'day too. Its a difficult one as we want to buy it for her and so does MIL so I suggested going halves but she wants to pay, I sound awful saying it but as I really wanted to buy for DD MIL is saying they want to aswell! I am going to order it next week and make sure I pay half as MIL coming with me or at least what ever else she pays put towards the furniture for it. She also wants to buy DD a winter coat and a vanity table. She does spoil DD!

how big does the baby need to be to NOT go into an incubator or intensive care? How big does it need to be so that I can hold him straight away without any interventions?

Thanks myjobismum! Yes, worrying is what I do best it seems That's really encouraging! When I went into a panic because baby keeps measuring small (but healthy!) Midwife tried to "reassure" me by telling me that even if it is born with a low birth weight, modern medicine does wonders and special care could help the baby if necessary... and all I could see in my mind was baby being rushed away before I saw his face to an enclosed incubator and not being able to hold him for a long time. I know, it's a silly worry!!

Wow - loulou way to go, good news on the cervix - hope all goes well this week.

ajm sounds like you have had a really poor time. hope things get better for you.

Thanks for the book recommendation wherestheaupair really want to work on getting a flat tum back after no. 3 as didn't manage between no. 1 and 2. Got to pre preg weight but not toned iykwim.

Took ds to nursery for 1st time today and dd had a fab time as well. Hope he settles in okay this week.

Managed to pick up a Stokke Tripp Trapp highchair from local charity shop for £10 this week, am so happy with my bargain!!!

Hope everyone else is doing okay, and managing to cope with all that the third trimester has to throw at you.

Nice one anwoo - tripp trapp chairs are usually really expensive aren't they? We have a babydan on ewhich is very similar but about 1/2 the price. i coveted the tripp trapp one for months!!!

Jenwa the evening primrose is supposed to help cervix soften i think or at least make it more receptive to induction. The acupressure i guess is the 'diy acupuncture' and there is lots of evidence that acupuncture and visualising what you want to happen helps with onset of labour etc. I posted a thread and i got some great advice and a website called homebirth.org was good for advice. I don't know if any of it worked or not. i have also been consuming large quantites of rasp leaf tea and tablets, scrubbing carpets and generally rushing around so it could be all/none or a combination of the above...

Doc says baby was about 2.9kgs last week (?6 1/2 lbs) so imagine its weight if i went to 40 weeks. Dh was 11lb 10ozs .

11lbs????? Could that be delivered vaginally? WOW.

lol watch my baby be like 15 lbs after all of the drs/mws/sonographers telling me how tiny it is... it will be the size of a 12 month old! ha ha!!! (yeah I know, I wouldn't be laughing in the delivery room!)

Yes - it was a vaginal delivery. Dh was born early sixties in a rural cottage hospital and had full head of bright red hair [which he still has i'm proud to say]. I saw a picture of him and thought he was about 3 months but MIL insists he was only a few days old!! Apparently staff from all over hospital came to look at him as he was soooo big and looked so grown up for newborn. Funnily enough she was advised not to have anymore (it was her third) and i think she was quite relieved!!

Was absolutely paranoid when preggers with ds that he would be huge like his dad as friends kept telling me that baby's weight tends to be like father's birth weight (think they were having me on - bad buggers). Ds was 7 1/2lbs so they were wrong thank goodness.

As this will be our last baby, dh very pleased he still holds family birth weight record - why are men sooooo competitive or is it just mine???

STAR- the general rule in our hospital is that baby can go home if they are feeding, filling a nappy and weigh more than 5lb (unless low birth weight is linked to parental size, my boss is only 4ft11in and both her kids were tiny and they let them home after a few days)

Loulou, ooooo for a ripening Cervix, you lucky girl. Goodluck if I dont get back on tomorrow.
Bethoo, young lady. I hope you shagged and kicked him out back to mummy
Star, there is so much to worry about but really nothing you can do about any of it. The best advice any one can give you is to take one day at a time and do not put your self under to much pressure to perform. That goes for the birth, feeding and being a mummy generally.
I have been busy baking cakes and flapjack for my DD2 birthday tomorrow. She will be 4. Not a baby any more.

Lots of breast feeding chats. I really wish that when I had DD1 I had support like this. I was totally isolated and no one in my family had BF. My mum kept going on about giving a bottle so you can see how much they are getting. I never responded just got on with it. Why are older women so obsessed with BF? My mum just couldnt cope with the concept at all!! Even though I have BF two children and so has my sister Poor mum still struggles.

Finally got baby room sort of ready. Cot is up, Moses basket is back down from the loft.
I have packed a just in case bag. Nappies, towels, breast pads, cotton wool, vests, babygrows and spare pants for me.
I am hoping that it never gets used and I get my home birth!
Hello to the new ladies. This is a fab place for support

maybe it's a jealousy thing with grandmothers about bf? Because if you bf, they can't feed them like you can? Just a thought...

hi ladies had a bit of a disaster last night.

when dh came home from work we had our dinner then went to tesco. when we got there i was having really bad pains and could move in tesco. i told dh i needed togo home but by the time i got home it was worse !!

i phoned over to hospital and they said to come over .
when i was there i was put on the monitor and it showed i was having contractions mild that how the mw described them but i swear i was in agony !!!

it also showed the baby is stressed as her wee heart rate kept going up .
i had to sit on the monitor for 2 hours .

the doc also done ainternal to see if i was dilating but i wasnt thank god .
it was so so sore i thought i was going to be sick

the doc said i am over doing it and its showing through the baby she said i need to get help and need to rest up for the next 3 weeks. she wanted to put min the hospital but i told her i would take it easy !!

she said she would know if i was taking it easy or not as i would be back in hospital within a few days if i dont !!!

i am trying not to stress and to rest but i cant . i dont really have any help as mum is useless and dh works all day and my friends work so what am i ment to do ???

Sambrads, you poor thing - do try and get some rest (easier said than done with a toddler though, I know). Hope you and the baby both manage to calm down and de-stress.

Good luck to loulou, very exciting to be in the early stages of labour, am very .

And tedmundo, don't beat yourself up about how your son's eating would be better at nursery - my son has been at nursery since he was 6 months old, but most days when I pick him up they say that he's eaten hardly anything. I think his eating is worse there than it is at home.

sambrads Poor you. How long have you got to go before baby is due.

I've been ordered to rest on and off through both pregnancies and it is difficult when you have very little support. Even if you mum is useless, why not ask her to help. She can make you food and drinks, stick the washing on and run the hoover round

Can DH work from home for a few days? That is how we have coped this time round as it is impossible to rest on your own with a toddler.

Take it easy

sambrads where are you located?

Sambrads - sorry to hear you had such an awful time

Is there anyone here anywhere near you as I'm sure one of us would be more than willing to help out?

I know just how un - easy it is to get rest with a toddler. Dd is 13m and has just found her feet. Not the best timing in the world, I barely get to sit for more than 2mins before having to rescue her or something from her!

Hope you are feeling better today

xxx

poor you Sambrads i hope you do manage to get some rest.
blimey ladies you chatted loads yesterday!
finally got my urine sample results back yesterday and all is fne, apparantly those wee sticks are ultra sensitive adn pick up the minutest of things and mw agree the blood picked up was prob from my piles!
i also mentioned the increase in my blood pressure as has been consistantly 80/40 adn last week was 110/60 so another mw is coming to re do bp and then take bloods if still high incase it is a sign of pre-eclampsia. just to be on the safe side as prpbably not.
i may have to stop shagging ladies as it brings on the most painful BH, never had them with last pregnancy but basically doubled over, i too was in tescos yesterday and was waddling in agony! not helped by twinges in lower back too and thighs starting to ache!
takling about stretch marks i am now on my 4th bottle of baby oil!
must go as ds at cm so i can get on and sleep tidy the house with no distractions!

i live in northern ireland think im the only one on the thread

as for my mum i just phoned her and told her what the doc said she turned round and said to me that i was abviously doing to much shopping and that ds was an easy child and no hassle at all and that i am making a big thing out of nothing!!!

i wish i never told her i was even in hospital!!!!

she always makes me feel like i am a shit mum .

when the doc was asking me about my mum the baby heart rate went up i never even noticed it was the doc that commented on it partf me feels like she was giving me conselling and pregnancy advice!!

i have 3 weeks to go so hopefully they will go quick enough .

i feel like i have more support from you ladies than my family and i really do thank you all for it

Sorry you are so far away, I was going to offer to come entertain your little one for a bit for you so you could rest. I don't think I could make the trip to Northern Ireland at this stage...

Don't listen to what your mum is saying. That's ridiculous! Do they forget what it was like to have a toddler? I've never even had one all by myself, but when in university and i was a nanny, I remember how it was... never easy, no matter how delightful the child!!

My mom passed away when I was 14. When I hear things like that I wonder how she would be/what she would be saying to me right now... I wonder if I'm missing out or not sometimes. I do wish that she were here though...