Dec 08: but that doesn't mean you can touch my bump!

[rosmerta]

New thread with bisou's title suggestion

emma that sounds really hard for you, maybe she just needs half an hour to cool down or something?

veggie well done on the yoga! I'm determined not to go out today so will avoid the temptation of more chocolate etc!

Emma: you have to screen out office noise as far as poss I find. I don't have swearing but I do have constant wittering about pointless stuff which is driving me insane.

Office noise is always why I had headphones plugged into my PC & a CD ready to go!

emma don't feel bad work is there to be done she needs to either get on and do it or ask for extra help putting the case forward that the work has more than she thought it would. Oh i'm so glad i'm not a manager anymore, i didnt mind if staff whinging and ranting had a cause and a purpose but when it had no purpose and achieved nothing that was annoying.

Thanks All, the office seems a bit calmer now. Swearing etc has died down. All fun and games. Afternoons like this make me look forward to my maternity leave even more

Hello everyone - thanks for all the sympathy. Am fine but still feeling a bit wobbly and tearful so may be kind to myself tomorrow. Will have to see how I feel in the morning.

DD1 was bitten by a dog this pm - her own fault alas for trying to pat it when I have told her not to . I may have to miss work anyway to get her tetanus jab done. Ah me.

Hope everyone is OK - sorry only had a brief skim read and am off out now as DD1 has recovered her cheerful spirit after a cuddle and a winnie the pooh plaster.

Blimey Emma what a nightmare.

Arti glad to hear your DD was ok what a panic. On the P&T front we choose the vibe as the seats are wider which make it a bit more comfy for DS and the doubles seat when it goes to the underneath position can be reclined also you can fold it with the double seat on it.

Kimberly bra wise I too am generally v small but my boobs do expand when up the duff . I hated all the nursing bras last time round but I checked out figleaves and emma jane do a drop down sports bra which is just the ticket for weeny knockers actually figleaves had the best selection all round.

Am absoloutely knackered today and weirdly feel on the verge of tears DS is being a norror well actually he is just being a toddler but he is driving me bonkers at mums and tots this morning he spent the entire time trying to drink the paint then at home he has figured out how to climb up the exterior of his highchair and climb onto the table. aarrgghh One 15mth old for rent any takers.

Have a pile of ironing a mile high that I must crack on with.

You could have mine Jam but he sounds much the same as yours! Have also found myself on the verge of tears a lot recently and shouting at the poor boy, not his fault he is small and furious at being unable to communicate. Patient mummy has won out the past couple of days and of course he has responded much better than to shouty mummy. Dh just gets the tears later on as I bawl about what a rubbish mother I am.

Poor dd Chutney. Ds was got by one over the summer, I do sympathise! Take care of yourself

Veggie, well done on Yoga, however chocolate is there to be eaten not resisted

Arti hope dd gets better soon.

Zoe keep the pillows! I had a veritable nest of them by the end last time, dh just got used to clinging to the edge of the bed

Caramel squares are yuck. Tis all about good, bitter, dark chocolate. Non of this sickly sweet nonsense. And fruit puddings, crubles, pies, baked apples etc.

You could have mine Jam but he sounds much the same as yours! Have also found myself on the verge of tears a lot recently and shouting at the poor boy, not his fault he is small and furious at being unable to communicate. Patient mummy has won out the past couple of days and of course he has responded much better than to shouty mummy. Dh just gets the tears later on as I bawl about what a rubbish mother I am.

Poor dd Chutney. Ds was got by one over the summer, I do sympathise! Take care of yourself

Veggie, well done on Yoga, however chocolate is there to be eaten not resisted

Arti hope dd gets better soon.

Zoe keep the pillows! I had a veritable nest of them by the end last time, dh just got used to clinging to the edge of the bed

Caramel squares are yuck. Tis all about good, bitter, dark chocolate. Non of this sickly sweet nonsense. And fruit puddings, crubles, pies, baked apples etc.

'small and furious' sounds about right . Thing is, DS can communicate much better now but is not prepared to be thwarted (sigh). His favourite words at the moment are MINE and DO IT MUMMY.

oh now i don't feel like such a bad mum, well still bad just not the only one. Poor DS came home from nursery with loads of energy and wanting to bounce around generally with me or on me. i suddenly lost all my energy and patience with him, i think he needs his Daddy, DH seems to have endless energy and patience for him. he was not naughty just jumpy and loud and happy and i was snapping at him. poor little man.

My turn to ask for some middle-of-the-night sympathy . Here I am in a hotel in Brussels, and I've hardly been able to sleep because of swollen glands, a sore throat and now conjunctivitis in one eye! I'm supposed to be giving a big presentation tomorrow (today!) but look, feel and sound terrible. I have one of my deputies with me, who could give the presentation at a pinch on my behalf, but I would feel dreadful leaving him in the lurch at the last minute - not to mention the fact that I don't have notes for half of it as I tend to 'talk round' a slide rather than read it verbatim.

I feel such an idiot. I knew I was poorly earlier in the week but insisted on still coming . I've not had conjunctivitis in YEARS and I think that's the worst part - for one thing it just looks terrible! Most of the people at the meeting today I will have met before, but there will be some new faces from France and Germany and I'm not exactly going to make a good impression with a weeping red and green eye am I?!

Timing!!!!!!!!!!!

Gosh I've had to do a very quick skim read again - I'm up at what feels like the middle of the night to go to work! Emma that sounds uncomfortable to work with - hope it has cleared today. Chutney hope your DD is ok? I'm glad you have that attitude about the dog - My dog is only 9mths but big, and has boundless energy always wanting to play with little people her height! If little kids approach her she tries to play and I've had some awful comments from parents who don't seem to understand that she's not aggressive one bit - they just need to teach kids not to run at dogs they don't know even when on a lead! Veggie hope your DH is coming back soon? Can't even imagine the patience u'd have to have with another DC while pregnant! I struggle some days with my DH!

Verso hope the presentation goes ok? I'm sure the new faces will understand and appreciate the fact that you're even there! Ok I'm off to work now.....

Verso so sorry you're feeling so rotten and how completely typical to get yet another ailment when you're pregnant, ill and in another country

I hope your colleague is able to give the presentation but if not, I bet no one will notice the conjunctivitis anywhere near as much as you will notice it yourself IYSWIM.

Will be thinking of you and sending good vibes for today.

Wish I could give you all a big hug - so sorry to hear everyone having such a rubbish time.

Verso are you feeling any better today?
WG hope you are feeling a bit calmer - middle of the night panics are horrible.
Chutney appalled by the people on the bus - feeling very riled on your behalf.
Emma are you feeling okay - is work any calmer? Please don't feel responsible for people covering your maternity leave - I'm sure you'd do the same for her, without all the muttering and swearing.
Arti your poor DD - is she all okay now?

Beans I am the same in the mornings. I lie there looking at the clock not quite believing I haven't got up yet - its like someone has glued me to the bed. I always used to be a jump out of bed the minute the alarm went kinda girl.

Veggie my sense of smell has gone loopy again as well. Poor DH was leaning over me last night showing me something on the computer, having had one bottle of beer. I was feeling really queasy at the smell of Becks- poor DH!

Can I poll you all on a question? For my twins we bought the bigger, stay in the car seats straight away as I knew theres no way I'd be able to carry them both in stage 1, lift out of the car seats. For no 3, I want to get a car seat I can lift out of the car.

There's a lovely girl who lives near me who I've got to know fairly well over the last 6 months. She has offered me her stage 1 britax car seat to use for the baby rather than us forking out to buy one. She is a good and sensible driver, as far as I know, and the seats have never been in a bump or crash. Do you think it would be okay to borrow it? I'm fine with pratically everything else second hand - I just have this nervous feeling around car seats that unless they are still wrapped in the shop packaging I might somehow be risking my baby's life. .

Do you think it's alright to take it?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/1012/612602

Discussion about Phil n Teds prams.

verso - you poor poor thing. however, i'm sure no one else will notice your conjunctivitis as much as you think.

thanks to all for words of calm encouragement - have now had my first unbroken night's sleep for 6 days - got the first of my 3 workshops for 12 year olds out of the way yesterday. i am used to teaching adults, not children, so it was quite an experience - the midddle i met them i started giggling because there was no way i could possibly teach what i had planned. oh well, at least we had fun (i hope).

arti - your poor dd
it seems like we are all at a low ebb, doesn't it?

hatty I would say if you're confident that the car seat has never been in an accident then use it. But if you're not 100% sure about using it then don't as you'll never relax about it. Fwiw, the car seat we had for ds had been used by 3 of his cousins before him & its still been used now for another of his cousins! Admittedly that was coming from family so we were much happier about taking it than we would've been from someone else.

Hatty - Thanks for the P&T link, I'll have a look now. I would not hesitate to borrow a good carseat if you know the first owner well. I would worry about one off E-bay in case an unscrupulous person was trying to make money and so not being thruthful about accidents etc, but your friend is hardly likely to be doing that. Go for it I say.

Verso - I hope you feel better this morning and the presentation goes well. With big presentations I sometimes find that the adrenaline overrides all ill feelings until afterwards when you crash. I hope you get through it.

Sorry not to have time for more personals. I am still at home and late for work. DD is still a bit poorly and woke for 2 hours in the night (luckily lovely DH dealt with it all). This morning she slept really late so I am way behind before I have even started!

Hatty - that's a tough one. On the one hand, I think it would be sensible to get a new one, but from the sound of your friend, I'm sure the seat is ok - particularly as you only really use them for 6-9 months - there must be such wastage on car seats. We've bought a new one because I don't know anyone with a second hand one and also because, like you, I'm nervous about second hand car seats. Gosh, really difficult. Will think on it a bit!

I'm picking up our cot from my sister this weekend. We have bought a new mattress for it. She has only just mentioned to me that it's broken on one side ie. the side won't go down. Not really a problem as we can put that side against the wall, so I'm still going to take them up on the offer! If it's too knackered, we spotted one in the John Lewis sale for £100 so we'll go for that one instead!!

My only issue with borrowing it is that her DS is horrible and I really don't want to taint our baby with the same brush - jinx it into being a screaming, shouting vile little beast! I have 2 nieces and 2 nephews and I love the others so much, but this little boy is just dreadful and I feel so mean saying that about family, but he's vile. We went to her 40th in France a couple of weeks ago and he's nearly 4, knows I'm pregnant and punched me in the stomach as hard as he could. I was furious and gave him a total bollocking and he just called me Pooface (actually quite funny now!). My sister is so wet with him, she didn't even tell him off. Grrrrr! No wonder he's such a brat!

Hello ladies - will try and scan the thread later today but hope you are all ok. All good here...that 'eating thing' has started to kick in. I just wanna eat allllll day!
Speak soon x

Oh Verso - only just read your post. I'm so sorry you're feeling so horrific. There is nothing worse - you should be tucked up in bed at home, not in Brussels doing a presentation. I really hope you woke up feeling a bit better and that the presentation went well. Conjunctivitis is horrible as well, but hopefully it all went ok. Let us know how it went. We're all thinking of you.

Rosmerta I hope the funeral for your granny went ok and you're feeling ok this week.

x

Quick hello - sorry to hear so many of us are feeling crappy at the moment what with all the various ailments, stresses & strains & general unpleasantness of some people.

Verso hope your presentation went okay (if you can read this!)

hatty I wouldn't think twice about a second-hand car seat if it's a gift from someone you know and trust (buying one's different I think).

It's Wednesday now - is anybody still interested in meeting up this Friday or should we leave it for another week? I don't mind either way - thread is here.

oh Verso you poor thing, i wish i had jumped on earlier i could have given you some tips for cleaning up your eyes and getting a little over the counter ointment that would have staved off the icky green stuff enough for you to do the presentation. Could you have done it kind of in conjunction with your deputy. I ended up having to write out a lecture i used to do to nursng students because it was often on different campuses (which were all miles away considering they were supposed to be attached to our hospital) and while i was pregnant i was always running late or feeling squiffy so i would give them a run down and then give them my notes.

Beans your nephew is a little brat, he should have been really disciplined for that and at 4 he knows that you shouldn't do that. My 3 year old accidently knocked me n the tummy once and DH a bit over protectively jumped dow his throat for it, poor DS was in tears and appologising and has never done it again. Poor thing, he was so upset to think he may have hurt the baby so your 4 year old nephew would know exactly what he is doing.

I used a 2nd hand car seat for both the up to 9month seat and the up to 15kg seat we finally bought DS a really good backed booster seat because we had saved so much on the other two. However i would say if you are at all nervous about it just get a new one as you don't want to be worried about things like that while driving, plus if you are nervous now you will be even more so when the baby comes.

About dogs, i have always tried to get DS to pat dogs if the owner will let us but speaking to a lot of dog owners they always feel they have to keep their perfectly behaved dogs away from kids cos most parents are scared their children will be mauled by them, i know there are some bad dogs but it's a shame that kids are being made to be scared of them. I thought if i taught DS to approach the dog quietly for a pat it would reduce the chances of him running at dogs when he is a little bigger and freaking them out, or getting them excited.