Dec 08: but that doesn't mean you can touch my bump!

[rosmerta]

New thread with bisou's title suggestion

VG - agree wholeheartedly

re: names - if it is a girl i was considering giving her my mum's name - she was german and had a beautiful and unusual name (annelie), but then i wonder about putting pressure on her to be like my mum and to embody her spirit and all that stuff. also, mum's name is so precious to me, that i don't know how i'd feel saying it all the time - can't tell whether it would be a tribute, or my mum's memory would get lost and mixed up with the sproglette's new personality.

am somewhat resigned to being mrs evans for all things school related - that's fine, but does make me feel like my lovely, but somewhat mad and tricky MIL

WG i know what you mean, my dad died when i was young and i always wanted to call my DS william but have decided against it (as did with first DS) as suddenly it felt weird and kind of a bit spooky. Also i didn't want to put pressure on him to be like my dad.

WG annelie is a beautiful name and i would consider "stealing" it if i didnt already have an alannah so would sound too familiar. We have given all our children family middle names, dd has my moms name, ds1 has my dad's name and ds2 has dp's dads name (he died when dp was 6). Dc4 will have either dp's moms name or dp's stepdads name. I think its lovely to pass on family names, although i can understand that you maynot want to use it as a first name. We nearly broke with our tradition and considered call dc4 elizabeth if she is a girl, which is dp's moms name, but i just know she would get called "little betty" and like you said WG she needs to be her own individual.

Sorry to hear about your mum WG. I think having a baby really makes you evaluate your relationships with your own parents, and that must be esp poignant for anyone who has suffered a loss. I'm lucky to have both parents, though sadly my dad is very ill and doesn't really know that I am pg or even that I have DD2. He finds it very confusing as DD1 looks very like me as a child, and when he is with us he is clearly baffled by having someone who he thinks is his daughter but at 2 different ages.

Names - a tricky one. I think Annelie is beautiful, but wonder if it would be difficult to use it all the time. I had a bad day with DD1 yesterday and must have fishwived her name about 100 times. Could be hard if it's your mum's name, though I expect you called her mum rather than her name. Perhaps you'd feel happier with it as a middle name.

Great thread title - well done Bisou and welcome back. I was thinking about some of the ladies who posted right at the beginning and was wondering if they are OK. A few of them pop up elsewhere on the boards, but some seem lost forever......

Food - quantity important round here. And lard. Lots of lard. It's pasta with prawns, chilli and pesto tonight. Yum central.

Found you again!

Am off work this week and looking after DS, so exhausted. Feeling v tired and achy a lot of the time, I think the baby is having another growth spurt or something - does that sound right for about 23 weeks? If I am 23 weeks that is, must check!

Catching up on messages: yes I am planning on working till mid-Dec but DS not due till the 30th which makes it 37 weeks. I stopped at this opint with DS and thought it about right. I can rest when at work (in fact they tend to insist on it the bigger I get) and my journey isn't too bad atm (one bus ride and I always get a seat). Must say I;m finding it much easier than looking after a hyperactive toddler

TENS machines: I used one and liked it, didn;t actually get round to any other form of pain relief (things went a bit quickly) so am open to suggestions this time round... I like the idea of using a birth pool and am planning to bludgeon the mws into filling the damn thing .

Better go and put the oven on for DH's supper...

Am being dim - where is this shower saga of Beanss? I want to see!

Far fewer BHs tonight - think I just overdid it yday.

On surnames - I never wanted to lose mine as it's very unusual (my father was from Latvia) so it was a toss up between keeping my name and DH keeping his or hyphenating and both having the same. We hyphenated in the end - but sometimes I wish we hadn't as it causes no end of confusion at times (with call centres particularly, who usually call me Mrs Husband'sSurname, rather than the whole thing .) Anyway - DD has the same surname as both of us, so I suppose that at least is straightforward.

(Sometimes we both book things over the phone like restaurant reservations using DH's original surname as it is just too much hassle spelling the whole thing! Oh - and some of DH's family STILL send me things at times addressed to "Mrs Husband'sSurname" even though we've been married seven years!!!!)

verso glad they have settled down, how is the infection has that settled?

i am having so much trouble bending down. It is inpeding me. I can't tidy up after DS cos i have to crawl around the floor to do it and that is almost as uncomfortable. I squatted down before and bent a little and that side of bump still hurts a bit.

I'm not sure re the infection - will be happier once they've given me the results of the culture so I know for definite what ti was.

I'm not bendy either - and it startles me from time to time because I forget. I must say, despite my whingeing (!) I'm actually so far having a much easier/more comfortable pregnancy this time than I did with DD.

Morning all! Wow, missed a couple of days, new thread, I can't keep up! UP early today, and don't have to be - hate that! tried to read through all the posts but have to admit I had to skim a little otherwise i'd get left behind! Anyway, must get brekky and will chack back later.

sorry meant to say "check" - or I could say it's combination of check / chat! Perhaps I should go back to sleep.......

morning all, much better night again last night! Though our mouse seems to have made a return!

Congratulations Indith! How grown up do you feel now?

Surnames, I took dh's name which is hyphenated anyway so would've been a bit tricky to have been mysurname-dh1-dh2surname!

Re names, we've used my dad's name as ds's middle name and we'll use pil as juniors middle name if its a boy. If its a girl, then the middle name will be my mum & mil's middle name as they have the same one. I like using family names but personally wouldn't use them as a first name, just as someone said you want them to have their own personality & character.

Hello all i'm feeling quite domestic this morning i had the washing out on the line at 8.15am, thats a first for me. Lets see how long it can stay out there before it storms again.

DH has gone down to London for work and will be there tomorrow and next week, so we are joining him tomorrow afternoon and will stay until next friday, apart from friday & sat we get a hotel paid for through DH's work so will stay with friends the other 2 nights. One of DS's little NCT friends is having her birthday party so will be nice to catch up with all the NCT girls on saturday and also have a week to catch up on other friends. Though must say my favourite bit about going away for a week and staying in a hotel is someone else cleans up after us yay!!!!

ooh that was me yesterday Veggie - did the washing, cleaned the floors, dusted, sorted dinner - was such a stepford wife! Today I'm feeling bored though - decided to try and do a mini pedicure, but difficult to reach my toes!!!! Why do I decide to try these things for the first time when I have a bump?? Too bad we can't do a meet up while you're down in London Veggie - I'd love to meet more fellow Aussie's!Forgot to say Congrats Indith!! Any photos??

Morning all, thought it wouldn't take long to read this new thread, but it's already got plenty on it!

My SIL kept her maiden name when married and had real trouble at the bank opening an account for her son, who has her husbands surname. The bank lady couldn't understand why my nephew and SIL didn't have the same surname and questionned whether she was the mother! And then suggested that she fill out the forms in her firstname - DH surname, even though that person and related signature don't exist! Like veggie said, its really hard to understand in this day and age.

I had a fab evening last night - there's a local mother and baby centre which has antenatal pamper evenings - so I went and had a head massage, relaxation session, buffet tea, CHOCOLATE FOUNTAIN, free samples and general chit chat - all for free! They also offer BF prep classes, plus 24 hr BF support later, plus have free equipment loan, baby play groups, sensory gardens etc etc I was so impressed with the centre, and so pleased its on my doorstep. I'm feeling a very lucky and spoilt lady today.

ZJ that sounds amazing what a good idea.

KMP my advice on toes treat yourself and get someone else to do it.

Veggiemummy - for the snoring my boyfriend uses the breath strips coz he breathes like Darth Vada but you have to make sure you put them on the right place of your nose otherwise they wont work.....I've also started to wake myself up snoring so cant complain too much although my lungs do feel like there moving slowly up my body!

Hi all Glad to find the new thread.

I have had a bit of a rough time this week I had to spend the night in hospital Tuesday because of a small bleed.
The whole saga is on this thread
I wont cut and paste what I typed because I did go on a bit. But its safe to read, no gory or sad bits.

It took me all of yesterday just to catch up on the other thread so I am going to say hello and then catch up on this one....if I don't speak now I'll never manage it! Hope you are all well!

Hope you're ok Missmama? That's scary stuff..

Just went to docs and they say I'm dehydrated but think my bladder will explode if I drink anymore water!

Hey missmama, sorry to hear about your scare and glad things are looking ok for you at the moment.

I had a bleed at 22 weeks, although it sounds like less blood than you had. I started a thread about it here and got advice from some lovely MNers who had had similar experiences.

I'm 26 + 4 now and haven't had any more bleeding. Fingers crossed that we will both make it to December.

Oh and I also tested positive for protein in my wee at the hospital but was told is was probably because the blood had contaminated the sample.

I've just been to the docs for my ante-natal appointment. Mostly all fine. Although I mentioned my swollen ankles and he did think they were a bit too swollen. Plus my blood pressure, while still normal has gone up some. I was 110/60 and am now 119/59. Does anyone know what that means???!! Means nothing to me! Anyway, he's told me to start taking things more gently and not do so much. Was a bit of a fright because I've thought life was the same. And he wants to monitor me more closely, so am seeing him every 2 weeks now and probably for rest of pregnancy, but will see if it levels off. Fingers crossed. Just went in to tell boss about it and embarrassingly burst into tears! Dont' know why, wasn't feeling remotely emotional before I went in there! Anyway, he's a lovely man and made me feel very relaxed.

And poor missmama - yours is far worse and I hope you're ok. Sorry I'm a bit self-indulgent! xx

PS No protein in my wee, which is good!

Beans, I don't know what the blood pressure means but I think it's worst if the bottom number goes up? Really not sure but hopefully someone else will give you reassurance soon. Glad everything else was ok my due date buddy!