Due Nov 2008 - Explosion Risks, Names Dilemmas and Baby shopping Galore!

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Morning ladies! Thankfully managed to get some sleep, the BH have stopped and stress levels have dropped somewhat. Dh managed to sleep to, but is hobbling around this morning with a very sore leg. I was chuckling to myself as told him I doubt he would be able to drive for a while (it's his clutch leg). Downside is that means I have him under my feet but unable to do much and obviously it is much harder for him to do his job from home. He should have been on a training course today so not too bad.

Pinkali, congrats on becoming an Auntie! I am sure your labour will be fine. I remember worrying about mine after both my mum and sister had easy first labours, but mine was about the same length, althoughy a little harder due to ds1 being back to back, but overall was fine.

Good luck for all those decorating. I have to admit to being a little jealous, we have no spare rooms at all now, so no nursery to decorate.

After all the dramam of yesterday, I was a little miffed to see that I had a new message on my Facebook wall, from my Dad. I haven't seen my Dad for 7 years as they live in the US and I left home when I was 15 to fly back to the UK from Taiwan (long story!) to finish my schooling. Anyway, I almost never hear from them unless they want to brag about something or they want a favour, so this message got my back up. Am I over reacting? The message read: "Hey Girl! Don't know what you have been eating but it's making you fat. How on earth do you cut your toenails? Dad" To say I was insulted, hurt and angry is an understatment. Even my hubby would not be as dense as to speak to me like that. Who the hell tells a pregnant woman they are fat?? I wouldn't mind but the scales this morning tell me I have gained a grand total of 12lb and I am almost 34 weeks. I also object to being called "Girl". I haven't been a girl for years! Besides, I have a name for a reason! I would let rip and tell him exactly what I think, but I need a favour from my step mum first, lol! I have to say, I am almost glad they live so far away! I have all the family I need around me for now.

Anyway....I hope the rest of you have had a good weekend, those who were feeling rough are feeling better, those who can't sleep are at least managing some rest. Have a great day everyone!

Hi Pinks. Congrats on your niece. Looking forward to hearing the name. (We've had our girl's name a while and I think I am going off it!) Sometimes a fast labour can still go wrong. Mine was relatively fast, but for a few other (bad hopsital) reasons, it did not end up a very good experience. My friend had a loooooong labour and ended up in a much better state than me. You just never know!!

Heartmum, what a nightmare. I was in stitches when first reading about your dh trying to set up a stunt. Could just imagine what he is like! But then it ended up a bit more traumatic than I expected, so smile rapidly wiped off face. Hope he, you and kids are ok. 9 stitches is a lot. Still, must give you some satisfaction at how he is going to explain to his boss and work colleagues just HOW he had his 'accident'.

I bought my buggy yesterday. I have been bidding on double Mountain Buggies on ebay since June! Haven't managed to get one at what I thought was a reasonable price (under £300) so decided it was better value to get a brand new one. Eeeeeeek. Have dipped into my own savings so dh couldn't throw a wobbly. I'm not really extravagant (eg. I have spent a grand total of £0 on my hair this year - got a friend to cut or did it myself!), so this feels a bit over the top...

Have been very clumsy past few days (worse than usual) and also getting pins and needles in my right hand and a very sharp pain just where my thigh meets my body (ie. down bikini line). I also scratched our new car taking ds to playschool (silly thing, easily avoided) - my co-ordination is gone, not sure how I am going to manage next few weeks. I am starting to really hope there is only 3 more weeks of this...before I do any serious damage to anything or anyone.

Heartmum, very weird message from your Dad. Did he know you were pg? Is he having a dig if you didn't tell him? The 'Girl' thing is just an Americanism, not meant to be rude I don't think...the fat thing is a very insensitive bloke who doesn't realise you don't speak like that to anyone, let alone a daughter you have 'issues' with OR was deliberate dig at you (I don't know him). Glad you have lots of nice family around and are not reliant on his support, but I'm sure it's still hurtful all the same.

No, they know I am pregnant, I sent scan pics from the 13 weeks scan in the Step mothers mothers day card back in May, so they have known for a long while. I figured the girl thing was an American-ism, or the fact that my adopted sister is 15 and probably says it alot. Still, the fat comment is just darn right rude! My Step mother is not a slim lady and I felt like sending a message back telling him he had obviously misdirected his message, but won't drag myself down to that level, no matter how cranky I am, lol! I will be the adult here!

Yay for your pushchair, sounds fabulous and trust me, it is not an extravagence but a necessity, they will be in it for a long while, so worth the money if you ask me! Sorry about your clumsiness issues though, I am getting clumsy but not as bad yet!

Morning ladies!

Congratulations, Pinkali - I don't think YABU about feeling a bit jealous of your sis (that's normal for sisters in my experience). And remember - it's not a race . I bet your baby will be cuter than hers and have a cooler name anyway... My younger sis has a glam media job in Paris and has a natural dress sense that makes me look like a bag lady but she is v jealous of my bump, so it evens out somehow.

Heartmum - a lot of dads (again in my experience) are crap at stuff like this. It sounds like your dad was aiming for a cheery tone and missed by ten miles, the fool. Mine put his hand on my bump to feel the baby kicking without being invited to do so and we're not a physically close family at all, so that was a bit odd. Tell him his bald patch is affecting the earth's albedo and is actually slowing down global warming or something. Don't dignify the toenails comment with a response, though!

On a cheery but fatty note, a colleague I hadn't seen for about six weeks came into the office the other day and blurted out "Ooh, look at your little fat legs!". but at the same time - it was too funny at the time. She didn't seem at all mortified, though - it's like all those people who ask if you've been eating for 3.

Got to go - bloody work, eh? 5 more weeks...

Sorry Heartmum, was so bothered by your dad that forgot to say I'm glad you all made it through the night in one piece - I bet your DH feels like a right pillock (although secretly I bet he's pleased he's going to have a macho scar and will brag about teh life-or-death A&E visit to his mates...). Take care x

Ha ha saurus, the eating for 3 comment made me laugh. If ANYONE else comes up to me and says, "Are you sure there's not 3 in there?", I will actually smack 'em one!

Merry, just say yes, there are in fact 3, well done you, and then give them a free gift for being the 20th person to say that to you today, while congratulating them on their original and side-splitting take on the whole pregnancy thing . Eeediots.

Or, as you say, you could just smack them one (or side-swipe them with the bump and then castigate them for not getting out of your way in time - hey, it's the hormones, what can you do?)

Hang on, I just thought of a good one for this stage - just stare blankly at them and say "I'm not pregnant". It would only work on strangers, though, but I bet it would be deeply satisfying.

That's a good one for the next thread title: I'm not pregnant, I've just eaten too many pies - denial sweeps over us as reality looms large.

Large being the operative word... Is it lunchtime yet? All this talk of pies, you know.

heartmum - Glad everyone in one piece. Can't believe your dad left that message. He is either a really nasty person, STUPID or maybe just a guy! Sorry if too direct ... .

pinkali - Congrats on your niece and on the quick delivery. My DS took about 20hrs (I think) from first feeling off to being born (3.15am Fathers Day 06). DS was back to back and WE ended up being rushed to theatre in case of CS but just ended up being assisted. Afterwards I was beyond exhausted, looked a spotty wreck, starving & thirsty (not been allowed anything for about 15 of 20hrs). But when I had DS in my arms it was all worth it. Just got a little stressed when I was wheeled back to ward thinking s**t i've now got this baby to look after, havent got a clue and I'm out of it. ARRR! Then I put myself through it again .

comments from people do annoy me. Especially from people who see me regular. MIL yesterday acted surprised at my bump size and I thought havent you noticed it before?!

It also amazes me the change in people's faces when you say I have got a couple of months yet!

My FIL who is quite stupid (in a lovely funny way) once was at an airport on holiday and tried to help a lady get her bag off the luggage carousel saying to her "when's it due" looking at her belly she responded with "i'm not pregnant". LOL

feel sick - All my fault. DS at nursery until 1pm so under orders from DH got to "try" to rest. Not in my nature. So much to do ... decorating, nesting organisation and cleaning, grass in garden is overdue a cut but been told to rest. SO ... i've just eaten half a tub of pringles and a big bar of green and blacks 70% dark cocoa choc to try and distract myself. YUM but such a piggy and I will end up paying for it!

I know DH is correct and I should try and rest these 2 morns a week DS is at nursery especially with all the stuff we have got going on the rest of the time. Just find it so hard to do nothing ...

The most frustrating things are that I can organise or do nesting cleaning because what is the point with all the plastering and stuff going on AND the grass needs cutting so DS can play in our garden without getting wet or lost and try to avoid all the cat poo!

duh - meant to say cannot organise not CAN.

Hi there, not posting much here as the thread goes so fast... but lurking from time to time...

one questions though - when are we supposed to get Braxton Hicks contractions? Don't think i have had any yet.... and im 32 weeks.

Hi Vbab - get on that sofa, young lady! I am doing all my relaxing at work .

I'm with you on the decorating etc and I want to do stuff too but my back is so bad I now cannot even go round picking up the wallpaper DH has ripped off . So I bought myself a cheapoid bar stool from Ikea so I can at least do the ironing without getting piggy feet.

I definitely don't think you ought to be mowing the lawn, mate.

H2JM - DH's Eh!? Don't suppose it will get him the £250 either! And message from dad I woud just ignore it, you are right though some peoples comments. You are doing really well I have put on 1 1/2 stone last time I checked. Sure stone of that is Boob!!

Glad you got your pushchair Merry, like someone said it will be long term investment and its one less thing to worry about.

Well took my sick note to work and then came home and logged straight on and did loads of emails that needed doing On a brighter note I am having a pedicure tonight and my hair highighted tomorrow after consultant appointment, my hair has gone really dark, anyone else found this?

Pinkali, congratulations, I said on my saturday post about my younger sister coming to me with her problem. Def pregnant only test to convince her was a CB digital. I feel cross with her for some reason as she always have to be the one with 'something major' happening, this is not like me at all and think it may be hormones but I feel pissed off.

Vbab, your treats sound nice, I am trying to be good as been a bit naughty lately with chocolate

I feel so unreasonable today, just text DH in tears saying don't forget about me I won't be fat forever and my legs will work again soon

Congrats on becoming an Auntie Pinkali!

Tostaky - I never got BH last time around and don't think I have had them so far with this one either, don't think it is actually a given that you will get them... But get impression that if you DO get them you will know about it!

Heartmum (& everyone else for that matter) - sorry but YOU ARE NOT FAT!! You may feel it somedays, but you are pregnant and that is the big difference. Sorry but it really infuriates me the way people think they have the right to say such insulting things just cos you are with child. You are blooming and you are beautiful

Heart2mum, sorry to hear of dh's accident. Sounds horrendous. All for £250 eh ? Sorry for message from dad.
Congratulations to Auntie Pinkali. Vbab sympathy to you with pains and needeles and all that you have left to do.
Laughing at MerryM and her 'too many pies' - thats what I normally say, I n just say, "naaahhh, just eaten a few too many pork pies" - I don't even like pork pies, although ds and dh love them, so I don't know why I say that !
Vbab sympathy to you with pains and needeles and all that you have left to dodecorating wise. I am so glad we have finished all that - it was a nightmare.

Yes, I notice that Vbab and MerryM have had pins and needles. I have too. I have mentioned them, here, before. But it has moved on. I have been in terrible pain. I did have suspected carpal tunnel a couple of years ago and pain was same. But then it just went, so nothing was done. At the time Gp totally unsympathetic and went private for £250 consultations - plural being operative word.
Rang consultant, he has booked me in for a steriod injection into both hands on wednesday @ 5.30pm. Luckily I ma now covered by BUPA at work. Hoooorah.
Went to see GP. See if she could give me anything in meantime. She seemsed horrified,at the idea of steriod injection whilst pregnant, advocating 'less is more' and said paracetemol.
Well paracetemol and co-codomal do nothing for me, other than make me sick, so I declined.
But I have rung MW at Kings to inform her of steriod injection. Wonder what her re-action will be. She hasn't got back to me yet.

Sorry a about your hands obs, I hope my babies are out before it progresses anymore. I can't imagine the private people being careless about the injection...more likely the NHS don't want to fund them, so they pretend they are awful or something.

hana, I had to use staff loos when pg with ds1. I haven't been on tube much this time!

comments. a MAN at ds's playschool (a dad) kept smiling at me today and then finally came up and said, "You look RIPE." Then asked when I was due. RIPE! RIPE! I didn't tell him it was twins, just said November.

tostaky, didn't get braxton hicks with ds1, maybe at the very, very end, like last few days but I don't remember.

coolkat, I know how you feel and had to smile at your text to dh even though it is also . I felt like such a stooopid when I scratched the car. Don't think I'm even gonna tell dh though.

vbab, SIT DOWN! just reading your posts is making me tired! LOL, saurus at "don't think you should be mowing the lawn, mate"

V-shaped pillows. Was someone on here talking about a beanbag one AGES ago...can you link it? Any advice on a good one (didn't use one for ds, but will need to tandem twins).

I'm just jealous cos I don't have a garden! Seriously, how painful does mowing the lawn in our delicate conditions sound? My back went twang just thinking about it.

Merry, "ripe", really? That sounds like a fairly dodgy chat-up line to me. Hope you called him a perv.

*Sparkle, you are lovely - I spent yesterday feeling like a danger to shipping and realised that tying my hair back makes my head look disproportionately small, so having someone tell us we're blooming and beautiful is sweet (DH says things like that as well but I SO take him for granted in that respect - "You look gorgeous", "Yeah, whatever, have you seen my bump band anywhere?").

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Still can't get over "ripe". [shudder]

HI all
Heartmum, sorry to hear of your woes.My dad is prone to making chubby comments when I am pg but he is not a very nice man. I think your dad was maybe trying to be funny, but when you are not close to someone it comes across as over familiarity and does not work.

DH and I are currently logging the number of cliches we are getting from people- like 'going for the football team', 'you'll have your hands full' hahahaha Dh was out last nigth and someone went through the full gamut- even the haven't you got a tv' line YAWN Oblomov carpel tunnel- my FIL had that, had it operated on, didn't improve things that greatly, unfortunately. Sorry you are suffering.

MM v-pillow. I don't have the beanbag one, it's more like a cushion. I think Blooming Marvellous do same one- I got a new cover for mine from there. here but don't forget to go through the mnet thign and get discount if yuo do order it from there.

Lol Rutho- mayber that is why hair gets thicker when pg- to balance out the proportions?? DH says I look gorgeous but I just give him a yeah, right kind of look

Vbab
I'm just not sure you'd get across the whole lawn. I'm getting very good at starting jobs then running out of steam half way through at the mo.

Why is it that the less you are able to bend down, the more things you drop?? Anyone else finding this?