Due Nov 2008 - Explosion Risks, Names Dilemmas and Baby shopping Galore!

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New thread ladies

Hey, my fingers have just gone all chubby - can still get rings off and on though, so not getting worried yet.

I have lovely boob and hip stretch marks - tasteful - despite moisturising religiously since 2 months with substances that claimed all kinds of wonderful things - weirdly, bump is so far unmarked. I keep thinking I have a stretchmark on the middle of my bump but it only appears after I wear a certain pair of sweatpants and it's always gone by morning...

I've just come out of an incredibly long, hot and boring meeting during which bump was mostly badly behaved and I kept jumping in response to increasingly hard kicks. I love that bump, it's well entertaining.

My bump looks like a large snail trail! It's really disgusting, plus I have that brown line thing really massively and my belly button is one huge brown blob about as big as a saucer now.

Midwife said to me today, "My, you're getting enormouse." 4 people spontaneously came up to me in Tesco and asked when I was due, "Any minute?". No, November actually, though probably 4-5 more weeks. Cue pitying faces...and a lot of Good Lucks! It's nice when people chat spontanteously, but just felt like I must be SO huge to be getting that much attention.

Everyone, but everyone has always said ds looks like my dh. But seeing baby photos of me, he is actually the spit of me at that age (I don't look anything like that now). People also think he's a girl even though he has pretty short hair and although he's not always wearing blue, he's generally in green, red, burgundy, tracksuit bottoms etc. I am really wondering what my little girl will look like, I was a pretty cute baby tvh, shame how I grew up! I'd rather it's the opposite way round for her, you don't care what you look like when you're a baby!

Ah Coolkat, you are my fellow bellybutton pain sufferer! It is quite 'nippy' (for want of a better word) for me when it starts and its been happening loads this pm. Pray it is a foot, pray it is a foot!

Got a txt from my boss this pm to check up on me. However my house has been like Piccadilly Circus with people checking on me so only got to reply recently! Def couldn't have made it to work today tho so no guilt there. See Doc again on Mon so will discuss my giddyness and complete exhaustion with him. (Have I validated my reason for being off enough yet??!!). Bring on the fanjo....

LOL at your bump's antics during meeting Rutho it is always a good source of entertainment!!

So of all of you finishing up soon, I have still got ages to go - assuming I last to end of Oct...

Hi everyone, had a strange ante natal hospital visit today that has left me more confused than ever. First of all I was expecting a scan to get an idea of size but there was some problem with some of the machines so no scan. Then, I wanted to discuss the plan the doctor had put on my file to review me for induction at 38 weeks but that doctor wasn't available. The doctor I saw in the end is totally against the idea as is the midwife I saw. Funny really considering it was a staff member who suggested it in the first place. Also doctor told me to come back in 6 weeks with a GP visit in-between. I'll be almost 38 weeks by then, thought they would want to see me before then. Blood pressure was strange too, 140/60. I've had a bad cold this week s doc said maybe I have a virus.

I am confined to the sofa . Had a horrible afternoon; fell asleep for an hour or so which was bliss, but not enough so I woke up feeling groggy. Have been feeling really sick with horrible pain all over my bump and braxton hicks contractions which are sore and lasting for about 3-4 mins each . Had to hobble to school and was late picking up DS, and then it took half an hour to crawl home (usually a 10 minute walk) as I had to keep stopping.....and being simultaneously kicked in the cervix and headbutted in the liver each time my bump went rock hard was NOT fun . Things have calmed down a bit now, but I guess it's just my body telling me to slow down . DH is home now (thank goodness) so I'm off duty for a wee while. He might even finish building the storage units which I started this morning

Lacks - I really do think your body is telling you to slow down so maybe you should listen to it?

HM2J - me and DH also get 'looks' when we are out and comments about milkmen as DS is very blonde and me and DH are very dark - it tends to be the first thing anyone comments on.....grrr! But DH was blonde as a baby but is not sure at what age he went dark so I guess DS is following the same pattern.

Didn't go to work today and got lots done. Sorted out all the baby clothes from the loft and now have 2 crates full of clothes that need washing - who knows when that is going to get done!! But, one thing became clear - this baby is not going to be short of vests I swear there must have been at least 20 in there!! The boxes of clothes have come back from my bro's with extra stuff in which is fab.

Well, DS went to bed quite happily with his quilt - I sat and read him a book and he kept looking round with a chuffed look on his face - very sweet! Lets hope he stays asleep for the rest of the night (I don't really know why I am worried as the lad sleeps for England and always has done)!

Lacks - hope you've got your feet up now lady or I shall be nagging you incessantly! I've noticed that I get strong Braxton Hicks when I've been quite active and busy - I do think it's your body's way of telling you to slow down. Glad your DH is about now so you can get some much needed r 'n' r.

All of our children have come out looking quite different, so there's no real way of knowing what newbie will look like. I have always had dark hair with blue eyes, while DH was blonde as a child and is now dark, with green eyes. There are ginger genes on his side of the family whereas in my family, you're most liklely to be dark haird and brown eyed or blonde with pale blue eyes. I'm the freaky hybrid who got the dark hair but with dark blue eyes.

DD had masses of black hair and dark blue eyes at birth - now she is still naturally dark haired but her eyes are a hazel-brown. DS1 was blonde at birth with dark blue eyes but now has dark hair and green eyes. DS2, at 16 months, still has the blonde hair and dark blue eyes he was born with. Of them all, I would say that DD and DS2 look more like me while DS1 is the image of DH. It'll be interesting to see how this one turns out!

I also meant to say that it was our anniversary today - a special number one, I feel anyway. We spent it buying a new laundry basket.

all of my girls have come out looking very dark, with brown eyes, but as both dh and i have blue eye genes from grandparents, then we kno this could change. dh and my famiyl also have reddish hair as well along the lines. all girls have gotton lighter hair wise after the age of about 18months. dd1 was told by another girl at school she looked ginger, she does have a red tint to her hair but def no gingery. more like brown with red tone to it. dd2 is lighter than both other dd's she goes almost blond in the summer.

i am having a buggy/carseat/car crisis. decided to fit the baby seat in the car to free up a box to pack things in. atm its fine, as dd3 is in her second stage car seat, but once she outgrows it, then will have to use the 7th seat in the zafira due to lack of space. thuis means i cant get my buggy in the car. so am now having to find a small buggy suitable from birth which will fit behind seats 6 and 7. i have found one, the bugaboo bee, but is far too pricey. unless i sell a kidney.

I have found myself silly upset cos my brothers GF is nearly due and my bro said she was big but still 'neat' with it.
My instint reaction was angry jealousy, it only lasted a moment, but it was cos he was describing her as still neat. No idea why I instantly reacted like that.
But later on I was telling DH and he said that I could not be described as neat when pregnant with DD. Bit angry again, but not so much.
Then, and this is absolutely true, he mentioned that I put weight on my face. I agreed and said that it had begun already, hoping for him to tell me 'no, of course not' Instead he said, 'yeah, little bit'
grr, gee thanks DH!!

Was walking past shop windows the other day and glanced at them to see my profile and thought 'woah, when did that happen, I am huge!'
And here is potential SIL with her 'neat'ness. jealous, moi??

And, of course, my bro is just a love, he would say that anyway and would see her that way even if it weren't true.
So silly for me to react at all. But I thought I would share and then feel better for having shared!

LOl at Twinkling's 'woah when did that happen' - I feel like that. I too had a look at myself in a shop window and thought, ' god, who ARE you, and when did THIS happen, without me noticing' ? Really very odd.

Happy anniverasry for yesterday Creena!! It's my anniversary today, 7 years, but I know we won't be doing much more exciting that cleaning up and making some soup for lunch!

LOL at Twinkling and Oblomov. I tend to be the same, even misjudge how big my belly actually is and constantly knocking into things. As for shop windows, I see my belly waaaay before I see the rest of me

Happy anniversary, Creena - how many years is laundry basket? We used to celebrate the anniversary of when we got together and then the wedding anniversary but have now let the first one lapse, which is a bit of a shame. Hope it's a nice basket and, hey, look at it this way - every time you put anything in it you can be reminded of your big day (iyswim).

Daisy, I'd say this means put your feet up! Por you, sounds awful. I know what you mean about the, um, lower kicks, though - I spent half an hour last night reading teh paper on all fours as that was the only way I couldn't feel bump literally kicking my ass from the inside...

Twinkling - I'm there, hon. I look like a weeble and my 5 year old nephew said "hello, fatty" when we went round the other day. Mind you, he said it to DH as well and asked if he had a baby in his tummy as well! DH said it was a beer baby.

and a bit worried:
I have got to the bottom of why DH has been being an arse recently - last night he apologised for frankly appalling behaviour in the morning and told me he'd been trying not to worry me but that his work are having a reorganisation and no-one's job is safe - basically, they will find out who's staying and who's going in a few weeks. Timing, eh? I tried to reassure him that redundancy isn't the same as getting sacked, and that he would be entitled to a redundancy package if the worst happened and that he has good skills and a good CV and will find a job quickly, even if he has to take a pay cut for a bit initially.... I kept telling him that as long as the three of us are healthy and have a roof over our heads it doesn't matter about anything else... Bit of a bombshell, but I'm SO relieved to find out why he's been being so weird - I was starting to think he was one of those blokes who turns into a bastard as a reaction to pregnancy, which would be out of character, and a bit of a delayued reaction at this stage, tbh!

Sorry for the whinge, I needed to get it off my chest and I don't want to tell people on the outside yet in case it's a false alarm.

Ooh, sorry - happy anniversary, Heartmum! Manners, Saurus...

Happy anniversary HM2J and belated one for yesterday Creena

Ruth - glad there was a reason for your DH's behaviour - men are funny creatures aren't they? Instead of talking about things that bother them, they just start acting weird Really hope things are ok with his job but, as you say, the main thing is that you are all healthy!

Well, didn't get disturbed at all by DS last night spending his first night with the duvet - but he did wake up at 6 this morning and by 6.15 was stood up in his cot shouting 'mammy'! This is quite out of character for him as, when he was in his grobag, he never used to stand up - he was quite happy to lie or sit in his cot and chill out until we could be bothered to go and get him so I am hoping this morning is just a blip but I fear not!

Happy anniversary H2JM and belated one for Creena.

Er, I hope you are relaxing Daisy?

Well I am shattered today did not sleep well as my younger sister phoned me last nght with a huge small problem. She has thought period was late and you can guess the rest I feel very sorry for her as although her and boyfriend seem settled its not exactly been a longterm relationship and the timing is incredibly bad. She was due to pay a deposit on a flat to rent next week so that she had moved out from mums but think she may have to rethink that. Want her to talk to mum but she still not done that and I don't want mum to know that I know IYSWIM.

Oh and DD let the cat out of the bag yesterday whilst mum was here she said we don't have secrets and told mum we were having a girl!! Bless her, she has always still gone along with might be having brother or sister but obviously got bored of playing our game

Any how sorry for the pointless ramble!

G'day all!
Wow this weeks gone fast - is nuts! Have got somewhat behind with all the chat - I hope you will forgive - totally plan to catch up this weekend. Hope everyone's o.k.

Got my comfirmation of maternity leave and entitlement yesterday - decided to not take the work half pay + maternity as it has to be paid back if you don't return to work so it looks like this could be my last 6 weeks of work for a while (before the real work begins that is!!)Can't wait to finish though.

Had Ofsted in school for the last couple of days which was a bit crapolata (although they didn't come into any of the lessons I was in and cake was plentiful in the staffroom so can't complain ) Had a bit of a wierd moment yesterday tho - a boy said to me 'go away miss or I'll hurt your baby' which freaked me out but I didn't freak out I just gave him a raised eyebrow and said 'I don't think you will'.

Feeling quite vulnerable - does anyone else feel their senses are heightened - am still clumsy but I jump at the slightest thing and worry more about scary men (who probably are very lovely really) when I'm out and about.

Well there you go. That's gotta be quite a long one

Merry I did send another txt - did you get it?
Happy anniversary to HM2J and Creena

Also just want to say am full of admiration for all you 2nd+ timers. I hope you're all getting time to rest (lacks!!) xx

Happy anniversary to HM2J and also to Creena for yesterday!
Ruthosaurus Glad you've got to the bottom of DH's weird behaviour - typical man bottling it all up! Sorry to hear about his potential redundancy though - not exactly the best time Fingers crossed he finds something quickly if he does get made redundant.
Barabareeba Glad you've got your maternity leave sorted and bet you can't wait to finish. I know what you mean about feeling more vulnerable at the moment - I guess it's a mother's protective instinct kicking in maybe.
Twinkling I've also had that shop window moment I also look at myself in the mirror and think how did that happen and I'm constantly having to squeeze out of the car when I've parked up because I haven't left enough space on the driver's side for my bump to get out!
Hope everybody is having a lovely weekend

Thanks ladies - Glad to report that DH no longer being weird and seems much happier. If this baby is a boy I really want to bring him up to be able to TALK about stuff instead of just being weird and male.

OMG, Coolkat, is that definite with your sis - has she done a test?

Barbareeba - Bloody hell, what an odd thing for that kid to say. What age group do you teach, and did you report it? Bit worrying if primary school. Mind you, nephew (age 5) said "I'm going to take your baby out of your tummy and kick it" to me last night, but then he also said he wants to be a helicopter when he grows up and that his mummy had a poo on her head, and wouldn't hug me goodnight on his way to bed because he said he was scared of the baby. Bless . Nothing odd going on there at all (Nurse, the screens).

I'm glad it's not just me getting jumpy, but I'm more physically nervous - going round B&Q is a nightmare as I keep having to jump out of the way of people with ladders, planks, etc. Also, other people's kids, trollies etc in Tesco - I felt like screaming by the time I got the checkout today, v unreasonably.

Felt crap physically today and got nothing done apart from laundry and washing up - I'm getting really worried about the decorating - 8 weeks + 3 to go!

Night, all - off to watch Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire and eat cookies til I feel sick. Got to be done.

Hello dear MNers! Just got back from a lovely week in the South of France - c'etait tres relaxant! Met up with my parents out there and the witch MIL. MIL and DH had an almighty falling out and are no longer speaking. Am hoping that in around 7.5 weeks time, there will be a good reason to put it all behind them....
We got the train down which was fab - much nicer than dealing with Heathrow etc. However, due to the fire in the tunnel 2 days ago, we had to cash in our train tickets and fly home, and so I had to go to a local French doctor to ask for a certificate to say I was healthy to fly etc. So funny - he didn't even bother checking my BP or anything, just wrote the letter and chatted about England. And then BA didn't even ask to see the letter in the end! Ah well, we got home which was the main thing.
I've been trying to catch up on the past week but as I anticipated, there's been far too much chin-wagging going on!
Ruth glad your DH has opened up about why he was being an arse - aren't men hopeless at sharing their feelings with us. At least he has a good reason to have been behaving like a sod.
Hope everyone else is well.
MM My "linea nigrea" thingy-job has also appeared whilst on holiday (must be the sunshine) and it's totally odd - it's all wibbly wobbly, not straight at all, and does indeed resemble a snail trail!
Had a chinese takeaway earlier and now have heartburn from hell. Toodle-pip!

happy anniversaries for heartmum and creena.

I had a full night's sleep last night and then another hour and a bit on the sofa this afternoon, so feeling much better thanks all. did a bit of gentle gardening this afternoon (pruning and then planting up the garlic and some onions to be ready in the spring). DH did all the heavy stuff.

rutho, glad you have got to the bottom of DHs weirdness. He was probably overcome with his need to look after you and the baby and couldn't quite rationalise that with potential redundancy. The job market is still quite bouyant so if it comes to it; he should be able to get something else.

at that pupil barbareeba! I hope you reported it to someone.

Ikwym about feeling more cautious and careful; everytime the ids come anywhere near me, I flinch. It is just an inbuilt reaction that I can't really control, but poor DS, being older notices it and gets really upset that I don't want him . I've tried to explain but he is so sensitive at the minute I can't seem to get through to him.

IME these last two months are just the very worst bit of pregnancy....you are getting cumbersome, not sleeping, feeling grouchy and over sensitive and hormonal and it seems to drag; at least my first two were like that. I've got a stinker of a cold and earache as well at the minute, which really isn't helping. that elective section at 39 weeks is starting to look more and more appealing

Happy anniversary heart2mum and creena. Love the washing basket thing.

Right, can we please talk swaddling.
I have sorted all of stuff from garage, everything is in drawers and bags labelled for the next stages 3-6 mths etc. Feeling very very pleased with myself.

Right, I have no bedding - no fitted bedsheets, and no muslins. Remember I gave alot of my stuff, including COTBED (yes, how could you forget) to nephew and his gf. Do I buy new from mothercare or 2nd hand from e-bay. can't decide.
Plus, dh was a brilliant swaddler. Much better than me. Ds loved it. Can't remember what we used. Do I succumb to one of these swaddling blankets/ miracle blankets from mothercare, or is it all a gizmo and a con. Or do we just use a sheet. Read some threads but can't decide. Oh decisions decisions. What are other 'swaddlers' using ?

morning all - or should that be very very early good morning! Looks as if the dreaded early morning awakenings have started again - haven't had since about 16 weeks and really thought that as I was running around after 2 DC's all day, would be so tired that they didn't re-appear - can remember erally well in pregnancy numero uno, I would be awake for an hour or so in the night watching birth programmes on Discovery Health!!!

Happy anniversaries to creena and HM2J and am glad that Mr ruthasorus is behaving again....i stil think that men do have a funny moment or 2 during pregnancies when they realise the enormity of what is about to happen, and how their lives are going to change!!!

Is everyone having lovely weekends? The Rugby season has started so that is my Sunday;s taken care of for the next few months whilst watching DS who absolutely loves it! Got my parents over for lunch tomorrow and a HUGE 3 rib roast beef which DH always cooks - it truly is enough to feed 10+...why do men insist on buying huge slabs of meat......must be all about providing going back to the "caveman mentality"

Anyway, am now sadly about to watch "Dirty Dancing, the time of your life" which is reality TV looking fo rthe next Jonny and Baby - does anyone else watch it? I have Sky + and not had a chance to yet!

DM x

Morning all!! dozy you had an early start this morning!!!!!

Glad you had a good hol Monkey and good job they let you fly home! Sorry to hear your DH and MIL had a fall out but like you say there will be a good reason for them to talk again very soon

Daisy pleased to hear you are feeling a bit better, I too have a horrible cold and now a cough which is driving me mad, and poor bump every time I cough must be wondering whats happening I agree that these last couple of months are the worst as everything becomes uncomfortable and you just want to get to the end, luckily its not long to go now

oblomov I swaddled dd and plan to again with this one, I just used a sheet with dd and have looked at the things they sell in mothercare etc but think they are expensive for what they are and have decided to just use a sheet again as that is what worked first time round!!

Hope everyone else is ok sorry if I have missed anything, but I only have to miss a day and by time I have read everything to catch up I have forgotten what I read at the start, shocking memory

I know they are prob a silly con but I think these just look fab!
We did buy one of those blankets from mothercare, but DH could never really get to grips with the whole thing. He never swaddled her tight enough and she would manage to wiggle free within minutes.
With one of those, he would just have top pop baby in.
Though they don't look very tightly swaddled though, do they

Yup, men are so silly. Poor DH was in a right confused mess after DD arrived. Fine before, but kinda lost it after she arrived.
We got there in the end, but it took me nearly a year before I really got to the bottom of it!
Your poor DH ruth must have been worrying himself so, and then being scared to tell you cos he would not want to worry you too. I suppose, in a weird logic way, it is sort of sweet?