First time mums expecting Spring babies

[FlirtyThirty]

Hello!

I'm expecting my first baby on 24 April. I'm currently only 4+4 but have NO symptoms at all! Have just retested as I'm convinced I've imagined it!

Went to Dr yesterday to share the news and have to wait for hospital 'choose & book' paperwork so that I can arrange first scan for around 10 October.

There seems to be so many decisions to make all of a sudden...

Anyway...just wondered how you other first timers were finding things...or your other halves for that matter. Mine is still in total shock in spite of this being a planned baby!

Flirty x

Bicnod - I had a horrendous cold last week and really felt quite poorly - now the cold has gone, a lot of the sickness and tiredness that I put down to being PG has also gone

I was also bemoaning the lack of drugs

Things that worked best for me :

1 - drinking lots of water to thin out all the mucus - stopped me feeling so congested.

2 - Drinking lots of hot lemon squash with honey

3 - Sprinkling Olbas oil on my pillow at night - cleared the airways and helped me sleep

You can apparently also use Vicks vapour rub and saline nasal sprays

A useful link that I used here

Afternoon all. I can completely understand all you ladies who have lost their libido! I think DH and I have done it 3 times since finding out about the bean and 2 of those were purely down to me feeling sorry for neglecting DH, but I didn't feel like it at all (though it was ok once we got going ). I think everyone feels very fragile, either through feeling crap or worrying about doing some kind of damage. I have to be honest though and say that on Saturday morning, for the first time since I got pregnant, I felt like jumping on my DH!! I seem to have gone from one extreme to the other!! Maybe it's because I've started the 2nd trimester (13+3)??? (and I'm feeling quite a bit better than before). DH was surprised and pleased at the same time!

On another note - is it just me or is trying to do any work after lunch completely impossible these days? I seem to be falling asleep after every meal I eat...

Kalikaroo - you give us (and poor long suffering men folk) hope, thank you!

And work after lunch? About as impossible as work before lunch. I need a sick bay and a sleep pod in the office!

Blimey lolianja ? I though Egyptian and Polish Jewish was exotic enough, but you beat me hands down, dammit! Lovely names ? I love Rosie and Molly (oh, and Daisy, of course!). And Noah, too.

Binky, lol on the sex front. I actually posted on another thread about this, as I was feeling a bit and about our lack of sex life. I have felt like it a few times, but always at the wrong time/place. I?m nervous after mc, plus knackered and stressed and living at my parents. Doesn?t make for any sex life at all. As far as we?re concerned twice in the past two months would have been a positive sex fest, flirty ? we haven?t had any AT ALL. I?m doing the treat-promising thing too. Am really hoping it will get better after we move back home. DH is being really sweet, but I?m worried he?ll go POP!

Hi brettgirl - hope your scan went well, and welcome to the party!

lolianja - fab names! How will you narrow it down?????

brettgirl - welcome! hope all goes well at the scan!

I am so relieved to read all your posts about sex - feel I could have written the first one myself it was so accurate! We have only done it 3 times I think sice finding out I was pg. It's a combination of a previous mc, feeling really sick and just being too tired! DP has been great and has also had some concerns himself about hurting me or pip, or making me sick! I am 14 weeks now and can just feel things starting to liven up a bit! (hoping to drag him off upstairs one night this week lol!)

For what it's worth, in all of my MANY books it says its perectly normal!!!!!

It's official. I have given my DH a permission to have a sex friend for the duration of my PG and for as long after as I need. Not sure he'll take up the offer though ( too much stress for him).

Thanks Jools DH made me some lovely hot lemon and honey, and he also went to buy some inhalation stuff... fingers crossed I'll get some sleep tonight.

Booking in appointment tomorrow morning - still hoping she'll listen for the heartbeat...

skiing - i assume you joke about the sex friend! quite alarmed when i read that.

i too had a horrid cold last week. paracetamol is safe to use and does help cold and flu symptoms. honey and lemon was fab.

hope your all keeping ok. we have our nuchal thisafternoon at leeds screening centre. feeling v nervous.

sex has actually increased for us as i have been feeling v horny indeed whilst pregnant!! its been lush, not sure how long it will last as i get fatter and fatter. i think he is enjoying it whilst it lasts!

going swimming today as really have to start some exercise now, figured swimming was much less stressful that a sweaty gym.

good day to you all.lol, evs xxxxxxxx

Good luck with the Nuchal Evs

I'll be interested to hear what happens, as mine is still over 6 weeks away !

Have been feeling sicky, so broke out a pack of my fave M&S Jellybabies - all except the lemon ones taste foul now !

Good afternoon girls!

Evs - sorry, didn't mean to worry you, yes it's only a joke about a sex friend for DH. I'm glad he's able to joke about it...
You're so lucky to have kept the libido up!

You have now inspired me, I have been thinking about doing some excercise for a few weeks, but have been lazy. I'll go to a pool tomorrow for the first time in a while.

Good luck with the scan. Let us know how you go.

Wishing a lovely day to everyone else!
x

Good day, ladies. A friend sent me this useful link - from today's Guardian. Interestig about the flu jab. I'd assumed you couldn't have it when pregnant. Our HR manager has arranged for flu jabs for us at work, and the fact sheet she sent out from the company that does them indicates that they are not safe in pregnancy, but this article says the opposite, as well as giving other useful tips on staying well in pregnancy.

www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2008/sep/30/healthandwellbeing.women

evs - about the sex.

skiingone - I told DH he was welcome to spend as much time online as he wanted (poor think). Don't think he believed me, though.

evening all. scan was amazing. grown so much. arms and legs waving, heard heart beat, saw heart in detail, lots of measurements taken and these combined with blood results give us a low risk of downs and edwards which is good news.

it was sooo cute. 70 % certainty that we are having a girl.

feels more real now and i am v v excited.

skiing - the swim felt great, plan on going tomorrow too. you shoud go, was lovely getting the muscles going.

bicnod - get well soon!

goodnight, evs xxxxxxx

Lovely lovely news Evs Will you go PINK shopping now ?

Can't wait to see mine ....

Very glad to hear this Evs!
Well, now you can concentrate on girls' names, just keep a couple of boys names in mind in case of those 30%.

I'm going swimming tomorrow now, but I'm going to a salsa bar tonight, so some dancing is also an excercise.

Have a lovely day girls! X

Am so glad to hear about all these good scans. I finally got the letter with my first antenatal appt and 12-week scan today - the scan comes first, a week tomorrow. Needless to say my fiance has a work commitment but I really hope he can get out of it. I just want to know it is there and alive because I can't quite believe in it yet. A friend who is 23 weeks told me that pre-scan she felt as though she could be growing a pie, and I know what she means.

Final business trip of the season ended today. So good to be home! Is anyone else feeling faint when they stand for a little while? I had to go to a drinks party on Sunday and couldn't sustain any conversation for more than five minutes because I was sure I would keel over.

Needless to say I tend to only feel frisky when my fiance is away or I'm away - ie 70% of the time recently. We spent much of last weekend with respective future in-laws, and there's nothing like that to kill the mood.

Does anyone else's mother urge you to "look after my grandchild" at every opportunity? At that point I always feel tempted to have a glass of wine.

Bicnod - it can't be just a myth about the second trimester. There has to be some compensation for losing your waist and having to find maternity clothes.

Oh, and I expect some of you have already seen it, but I've been enjoying this site www.i-am-pregnant.com/Pregnancy/calendar/week/11 - colour pix of the foetus in each week of pregnancy and descriptions of exactly what it's up to.

Morning girls

Couldn't resist a quick post - have finally given in and am wearing maternity trousers to work today for the first time! Definite rounding which has increased a lot this week.

(hoping none of the kids notice!) LOL!!!

CE (14w4d)

Ooh I am envious CE

It feels like I am wishing this pregnancy away - can't wait to actually see the bean / hear a heartbeat

I've been scaring myself this morning, reading up on the dangers of being an older mother, chances of Downs etc

I've also got my first MW appt in just under 2 weeks and am convinced she is going to have a go at me about my weight I'm stacking it on at the mo, despite eating very healthily and continuing with the exercise (spinning last night) but my tum has grown, and its not bump shaped

Skiingone - hope you enjoyed the salsa

Jools - Please fell very proud of yourself! I may be technically 'normal' on the old BMI scale...BUT...I don't do any exercise of note (take my hat off to the spinning) and yesterday my diet consisted of a large (and I mean large) bag of salt & vinegar crisps, an orange ice-lolly, a good smattering of wine gums and a bowl of plain pasta. (My pre-pregnancy diet was far removed from this rubbish!!!). I did not actually eat a vegetable Oh, and as for tummy...I have grown too. It is not a bump and I know it is neither baby or uterus or anything...it is just bloated. I am turning into a balloon

CE - Maternity trousers! Wow! Where did you get them? I've hada look ata few sites which some pretty nice stuff but I'm going to try holding off for a while...may rummage in the wardrobe and find something left over from my larger days.

Elpis - You can call your hospital and re-arrange scan time if your fiance can't change his work commitment and really wants to go...it happens all the time.

Evs - Yeah for little girls! But as the others said...keep that 30% in mind! They do get it wrong at this stage... How exciting though!!!

Flirty
10+6
(scan 2 weeks today!!!)

Oh...and my boobs are getting bigger. Had to trawl my underwear drawer this mornign for a bra I bought in the sale by mistake and was too big. Put it on and DH said...that's nice. I told him I thought My bust had increased...to which he said...2yes, I was just thinking that last night"!

THE SPRING COLLECTION
lolianja 14+4 due 2 March
CE 13+4 due 28 March
Daisyj 13+6 due 28 March
Skiingone due 3 April
Kalikaroo due 3 April
BinkyB TWINS due 7 April
evs34 due 8th april
Flirty 5+0 due 24 April
Elpis due 25 April
Bicnod due 26 April
Littleduck 8+0 due 30 April
Brightsideoflife 9+3 due 1 May
Jools1 due 29 May

just changed my due date to line up with scan .

Ok...so we haven't yet told anyone we're expecting a baby next year....and we weren't planning to tell them for a another 2 weeks, when we'll have had the 12 wk scan. HOWEVER...we have now decided to tell my parents on Saturday as they are staying with us before big party and I'm sick enough that they'll either start really worrying about me or guess. I don't want either, so have decided to tell them. Stupid really, but I'm very nervous about missed miscarriages and I'm worried about 'jinxing' anything by sharing the news before the scan. I realise that sounds stupid...but I need to find a way to get it out of my head! Any suggestions...?!

Flirty we are eating the same diet! Fatkins, it's all the latest craze. My pasta though was the filled kind, and with spinach - surely that's one of my 5 a day, and the lolly (mine was a Fab) is another..? Right?

Not in maternity gear yet but hammering the same 3 long jumpers and 1 dress. Just about getting away with it I think (hope). Jeans are getting bigger but that's just because of all the puking, and also they are so obscenely low cut that they sit underneath the little pot I've developed! Bras also an issue here, the B cups I so enjoyed growing into are now starting to pinch. I don't think I'd be able to buy a C with a straight face, it's a day I never dared think I'd see!

My rough guide to pregnancy though told me wrinkles would magically disappear due to all the collagen. Er no, that's not happened. In fact I think I have new ones from the permanent grimace I wear while wondering if I am about to be sick.

Elpis yet I also get faint when standing for ages, so public transport is not ideal. Bloody 'baby on board' badge doesn't work so have taken to sitting on the train carriage floor until some city gent is embarrassed into getting up for me!

CE - hey glad you loved your scan and wow that they can tell that already. So clever, isn't it? We're not (or are going to try and avoid) finding out the sexes so we have to pick 4 names.

Finally (and phew) Drs have decided not to do the cervical stitch thing on me, just said no sex or swimming for a few weeks. Which is fine by me

Flirty - I'm visiting my parents on Sunday and, although not sicky yet, having a tum the size of a house might give it away - plus my sis knows we've been TTC so I think I probably will tell - bit nervous like you of jinxing anything but, on balance, I think I would want my mums support if things went wrong so would rather she knows now.

The exercise keeps me sane and happy - I've cut down but the size of my tum at the mo (even though I know it must be PG related) is a massive encouragement to keep the exercise going.

I've had to relegate one pair of jeans to the back of the cupboard today - hadn't worn them since Spring, so it is possible they would have been getting tighter anyway but there is no way I've put on enough weight through overeating to make the button and button hole over an inch apart !

May have to go plus size shopping at the weekend.

Firtly/Jools I told my parents ages ago - but only as I knew they'd be the first people we would call for support if anything went wrong. I told all my close friends on Sunday as we'd had our scan and they were over for my birthday and would wonder why I was puking / not drinking / only eating carbs. Funny but I felt more jinxed after Sunday, even though we'd had our scan. Had a real wobble thinking now we've let it out there, bound to all go wrong... Silly really. Think we are all bound to have these fears - just starting the worry now so we're used to it before they start going out on their own!