First time mums expecting Spring babies

[FlirtyThirty]

Hello!

I'm expecting my first baby on 24 April. I'm currently only 4+4 but have NO symptoms at all! Have just retested as I'm convinced I've imagined it!

Went to Dr yesterday to share the news and have to wait for hospital 'choose & book' paperwork so that I can arrange first scan for around 10 October.

There seems to be so many decisions to make all of a sudden...

Anyway...just wondered how you other first timers were finding things...or your other halves for that matter. Mine is still in total shock in spite of this being a planned baby!

Flirty x

Helloo all!!! ESP flirty who has been hand holding me on he first timers thread in the conception topic!!

Flirty I think you should have called this thread the Fully Proficient First Time Frolickers!!! lol

So glad to find some people who are going through the same stuff. Are you all as neurotic as me?? she asks hoping that she isn't the only neurotic woman in here

Hi guys,
Trying to keep the thread going!
Welcome to heverhoney1 - did you pop onto bonkers anonymous once or twice??? (Thought I recognise the name)

I'm not sure if I feel neurotic - but I'm def a worrier! I worry if I do feel sick, I worry if I don't! lol! Had a terrible day with the sickness yesterday (threw up 6 times altogether!)but I suppose it means beanie is OK! (I however spent most of the day in bed!)

Hope everyone else is OK and your beanies are nestling comfortably in there!

CE xx

CE, SIX times sounds horrendous. I hope you're keeping hydrated, and feeling a bit better today.

I've been interviewing all morning - completely knackered. I do sometimes wonder how people keep this up till the end, although they (whoever 'they' are) do say that it's often like flicking a switch as you go into the second trimester and the tiredness lifts.

Where I work most people don't go on maternity leave till about 2 weeks before the birth - what's everyone else thinking of doing?

Hope everyone's had a nice restfull bank holiday.

Oh, and heverhoney, I go from neurotic to calm and back again about 18 times a day (which I suppose is pretty neurotic in itself )

x

Hi all!

Hope everyone's well - been away since Thurs evening and just got back home today, was off in France with some friends on wine tasting/buying trip planned ages ago! DP and I thought up story about not being able to drink etc because of headaches and slightly high blood pressure (my blood pressure is actually borderline high and I had some awful headaches which the friends knew about around the time we conceived). Not completely a lie but clearly not the truth, I felt awful about it but at 5 weeks +1 today I'm not really ready to tell anyone. They may suspect something is up but they didn't say anything so secret still safe between DP, me and Spring mums for now.

Boobs horribly sore still and nipples very sore the other day, up a couple of times each night to have a pee but otherwise no symptoms, sometimes I wonder if the pregnancy test was lying!!

Feeling very up and down and hormonal, this baby wasn't planned (well it was planned but just not for a while yet!) and I am sometimes quite frightened about whether I will be a good mum, whether I will enjoy parenthood, how we'll cope etc. I feel a bit bad about these worries really. Also worried how my mum will react to news of impending baby as we aren't married and she is lovely but rather traditional about that kind of thing.

Great to catch up on everyone's news and hope all's well today

Littleduck

Littleduck - I think the worries you have about being a good Mum and parent are perfectly normal. I'm hoping it's one of those things that just comes naturally once the baby is born!

As for family's reactions, it probably won't be as bad as you are thinking. My Dad sounds similar to your Mum, quite old fashioned, still thinks I'm his little girl etc. When we told him I was pg he made a bizarre comment like "Well, some people go round the world first, but it's up to you!" WTF!? I am 30 and DP is 33, I think if we were planning to travel we would have done it long before now! LOL! and not to mention the full time jobs, family car and big mortgage! He has totally come round to the idea now though, and had tears in his eyes when I showed him the scan pic! She will be fine - try not to worry too much!

Daisyj - I was thinking about going on maternity leave at February half term, which with the 6 months we teachers get, means I would start back in the Septmember for the new school year. It means I would be finishing at about 7 1/2 months pg - quite nice really! Obviously I will have to discuss this with my boss!

I haven't been sick today - yey! Going shopping tomorrow, hoping to get some slightly larger trousers, NOT maternity clothes just yet!!!

Oh, I meant to say, we're not married either - I have given up caring what others think about this!

Hi all

CE - thank you for your kind words, they are much appreciated. I am still feeling a bit scared and tearful about the whole thing but am trying not to worry. I wonder if it is maybe just a hormonal thing, even a picture of a 5 week embryo (same stage as I am at now) in a pregnancy book nearly had me in tears yesterday!!

Hope everyone is well today

Littleduck xx

hi to you all. not asking to join you yet as still not sure what is happening. i was on the april 09 thread but i have been away for too long and it is quite scary on there now - soo many people - all of whom seem to have lots of experience of pregnancy. i am in a horrid state of limbo - was scanned a week ago - should have been 7 weeks but only 5 week gest sac on scan, have to wait until next tues for another. i think i feel pregnant, none of my trousers fit, tired out but nothing else. will be heartbroken if all turns out to be missed miscarriage but i suppose have to be realistic too . i have been trying to stay off this site as makes me cry every time! could not resist today though.
hopefully will get to know you all after next week. keep well xx

Hi Evs24 - big big hugs to you, I really hope that your scan next week brings good news. Will be thinking of you, please let us know how you get on, and take lots of care of yourself

LD xx

Hi evs, couldn't not say hi. Really hope things work out for you on tuesday. Think positive vibes.......

Would be lovely to have another newbie to keep us scaredy cats company!

btw - we haven't heard from flirty recently -- hope she's ok???

oh and before I forget, I bought some maternity trousers !!!! ... obviously I can't wear them yet but it hasn't stopped me trying them on 5 times! (For reference they are from New Look! Not somewhere I usually find much in but they were only £20 and really nice!). I had to take them up 3 inches though as I'm a short arse!

Evs, hi. The waiting's horrible, I know. Fingers crossed for you, and hang out here with us, we'll keep you company.

I've been ordering catalogues, but trying to resist buying anything yet, although I did get a nice loose dress from H&M (non-maternity) which I reckon will last me till 4 months at least. CE, I didn't even realise New Look did maternity stuff. How exciting!

Is anyone superstitious about having baby stuff in the house this early on? My friend gave me some things the other week as she has just had her second and isn't planning any more. I hesitated at first and then thought I was probably being a bit silly. Then I had a bit of a panic yesterday with a tiny bit of spotting and ended up having another scan. Grown another centimetre in 9 days and has proper arms and legs now. I felt a bit about making a fuss, but everyone was really lovely and reassuring, so it was worth it in the end, as I would have been a basket case this weekend otherwise. Anyway, it's idiotic what goes through your mind, but I kept thinking, 'oh my god, if it's not all OK I'm going to have to get those baby clothes out of the house.'

Maybe Flirty's on holiday - she hasn't been on the bonkers thread, either....

xx

Can I join you? I'm 33 and six and a half weeks pregnant. Has anyone else found that it's just one nipple giving them grief?

oh, and I'm getting married on November 15 - but it is NOT a shotgun thing - he proposed on Valentine's Day. Tips for a wedding dress that might fit when four months pregnant very welcome ...

Hi Elpis. With no description to go on (are you six foot and willowy, or very small and round, or somewhere in between?) I'm just going to throw out a few ideas here... I'm seeing you in empire-line old lace... Or maybe the opposite end of the scale, something slinky, sexy and bump-enhancing! Oh, I do love a wedding . You could try Ghost. I've read in several places that their bias-cut dresses can take you well into pregnancy, so I expect some of their styles will easily accommodate a four-month bump. I've just had a quick look and found lots of sites if you google maternity, bridal, etc, too, but I'm sure you've done that already. However, if it were me and I had a HUGE wedding dress budget I'd go straight to Alice Temperley and have something made (in my dreams!)

As for nipples, mostly they've not been too bad. First I had really sore boobs (around two weeks) then tingling itchy nipples (another two weeks), and now boobs are just a little bit more tender than normal, but nothing major. No such thing as tmi on here, so feel free to share at any time .

Hi Elpis, congratulations on baby and wedding, I think Daisyj's idea for an empire line dress sounds lovely and Ghost stuff if gorgeous too.

Only symptom still very sore boobs. Nipples felt very odd for a couple of days last week but seem OK now. Felt hideously tired for the last few days, particularly yesterday when I could hardly keep my eyes open most of the afternoon!

Had great news on Friday - have been accepted to have my baby at Kingston Hospital so might run into Flirty there! I will have all my antenatal at Queen Mary's Roehampton which looks after Kingston patients from my area for antenatal stuff, but go to Kingston to deliver. GP says I am due 30 April but I think it might be a few days before, which puts me quite near to Flirty's 24 April EDD.

Hope everyone's well

LD xx

Thank you for those, daisyj and littleduck ... I have so little time to look for anything this autumn as it's a very busy time at work, but at least I'm not fussy about colour ... and am 6ft, as it happens! Had my eye on a pale blue silk dress from Vivienne Westwood, but I think anything with a bodice would be risky.

If there really is no such thing as tmi on here then I am sorry to say I succumbed to the sickness yesterday - but after dinner: I still feel fine in the mornings. This is a bit disappointing as my mother was never sick once.

Have no idea where to begin in terms of choosing a north or central London hospital - if indeed I have much choice, so recommendations welcome.

Just a quickie as must dash to Ikea to buy kitchen (ugh, it's going to be hideous - being in Ikea, that is, not the kitchen - hopefully that will be quite tasteful). Vivienne Westwood, I'm liking your style, lady, but I know what you mean about the bodice.

I've been getting my sickness mostly in the pm, too. It's probably no comfort, but as long as it doesn't become excessive it is a good sign

I gather they get v. booked up, but for central London St Thomas' have a great reputation. If it's not too much of a downer to say so, I kind of 'had' my mc there, and they were great, but better get in quick if you want a chance of being accepted. Otherwise, for North London the Royal Free are pretty OK, as far as I know. My family are from round there, so lots of experience of the hospital itself, although not the maternity services. However, I did pay for a private scan recently which I had at a hospital in SE London where I live, and the guy who did it is a obs and gynae constultant at the RF too, and he was excellent.

Hi LD - well done for getting your hospital of choice - good start for you.

I'm feeling more confident about using Lewisham after I had an emergency scan there on Friday, as they were lovely. Still want to know why they have a 36% c-section rate, though, when the national average is around 22%...

Hi ladies
welcome to elpis - how exciting, a wedding and a baby! TBH if this is your first baby you prob won't have much of a bump at 4 months pg. My sister reckons I won't show til nearer 6 months! . I am 10 weeks today and have not put on single pound! Still wearing same jeans etc. I am appreciating this while it lasts! As long as you don't have a bodice you prob will manage! Good Luck!

I am back to school in the morning and am not looking forward to it! Thought the sickness had gone as had a few good days, but was sick this afternoon. Grrr! Totally don't know what to take for my lunch as never know what I will fancy!

Hope everyone else is ok - flirty come and let us know you are alive!!!!

Evening all!

Elpis - re: hospitals, a colleague recently had her baby at Royal Free and they took very good care of her, she had some complications during her pregnancy and they were great. Other colleague used the Whittington and had a nightmare with both antenatal care and birth. A friend had her baby at Queen Charlotte's last year and thought they were great.

DaisyJ - thanks for your thoughts re: hospital, I'm really pleased about it!

CE - I'm back to work tomorrow too after 10 days off and not looking forward to it either - hoping I don't get all sleepy in the afternoon, I've got a long meeting to go to!

Hoping too that we hear from Flirty soon and that she's OK

Littleduck xx

Hello ladies

I'm another refugee baffled slightly by the April 2009 thread (although I did join it). Mine is allegedly due 5th April but dodgy online pregnanacy calculators suggest anything between 2nd to 16th April.

Getting pregnant was a bit of a shock - although it was planned, I have a very erratic cycle so I expected it would take at least a year, but happened on only the second attempt! I feel well used to thinking of myself as pregnant due to the 'over-inflated melon syndrome' , dodgy digestion, daily abdominal cramps, continual nausea, exhaustion and inexplicable bursting into tears. At the weekend, though, we went to pick up a cot someone was giving us and I started to freak out at the fact that I'm not just pregnant - I'm likely to actually have a baby. Aaaargh!

I didn't think my breasts were any bigger, but I noticed on Friday that I had a visible cleavage where I didn't have one before. I can't work out if it's me getting larger or if it's just the effect of the high impact sports bra I'm having to wear to keep them under control.

We've told lots of people, in this order:

1. anyone who invites us round for dinner.
2. anyone who asks us directly.
3. anyone who's offering baby stuff on Freecycle.
4. a few close friends.
5. parents.

A bit of a weird way round, but it seems to combine telling/not telling people in a reasonable balance. I think the plan is to wait till 12 weeks to tell everyone else. It's been hard for my husband having to explain why I'm not eating / not there ("she's lying in bed groaning because she's pregnant" isn't always the best thing to say).

9+1 (allegedly)

Hello everybody (1wish waves)

Can I join too? The other ante-natal threads look abit to scary at the mo

I'm due around the 1st of May with my first very much longed for dc.

Still very much in shock and can't quite believe it especially as I have very few symptoms, bring on the sickness I say I think I may live to regret saying that.

How is everybody feeling today?

Hello spring first timers!

I too joined the April thread and then went away on a holiday planned with girlfriends ages ago and lost track of that thread. So I'd love to join this one!
I'm 32 and did not really plan the pregnancy, but got pregnant as soon as I did not use any protection. According to first scan I'm due on the 3rd of April. I just moved to London as my husband had to transfer here for work from Sydney and I live in West London. I was actually planning to look for work, but now it may be tricky. Excited, scared, and getting lost in too much information!
Not feeling too bad, even managed to party till 4 AM 3 nights in a row with girls!
Wishing everyone easy pregnancies!

Oooo 3 newbies! Welcome to skiinggone, 1wish and angeldog.....it's so nice to chat to other first timers! Maybe you guys know people with lots of babies and know loads of good stuff to tell us!

I went back to school today. Thought it would be a total nightmare as was sick at 7.30am after breakfast but was OK once I was there! We have a brand new head starting today so I went to tell him my news (what a things on his first day!)...anyway he was lovely and said if I need to throw up give him a shout to cover my lesson! . He said he will work out roughly when I can go on maternity leave....it's all sounding a bit real now!

Apart from that I only told one colleague who had a MC at roughly the same time as me and I know will be very supportive.

Hope you are all ok....here's the sickbucket if anyone wants it! LOL!

Thanks for the welcom ChocolateEclair! I'm afraid I'm not a very useful source of info, as I never had any younger sibings and actually never babysat anyone...so will have to get all the knowledge now! Some of my friends have kids, but none of them are in London, so lots of skyping to do soon once I can tell them. So far only my twin sister, my mum ( not even my father) and my husband know.
Sorry to hear you are feeling sick. Take it easy if at all possible.