Dec 08 - the one where we wonder what are our bodies going to do next?

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Sorry for rubbish title, best I could do

Cheers LadyT they really can be on a planet of their own can't they! I do hope you get things sorted - I find DH can't quite get his head around things sometimes until nearer the time.

I remember him saying last time around when I was about 20 weeks that he wanted to go away with friends at the point when I would be 35 weeks.

The hospital had said to expect full term for twins to be 37 weeks so I was not happy at all. I went mad, he got cross but agreed not to go.

When it got to 34 weeks, I was in a lot of pain and discomfort and I think only then did he realise then what a big deal it was and how I had seen ahead to that possibility. My rambly point is that often I think partners can't get their head around something that seems so far off and that they aren't physically experiencing every day. He was great on the day and during the pregnancy, but did tend to forget that like you, I wanted to get things sorted in advance as I was anxious and scared and excited and a hundred other things...

Christmas stocking is just the most gorgeous idea. I've bought my girls a Christmas decoration each every year since they were born and it was lovely last year hanging 6 special ones on the tree. Will be getting them and the new babe one this year. I love Christmas .

I hope your partner comes around nearer the time - I imagine you don't have to let the hospital know for a while?

Turnip laughing my head off at the massage quote. That's just the sort of thing my DH would come out with! Expecting rational, lucid behaviour from a woman in labour!

Hatty, I love Christmas as well and yes, I don't have to let the hospital know for yonks. Thank heavens your DH didn't go on holiday that time...

Right - all this talk of food is making me hungry, off to find something good...

Hi all -

I have PUPPPS (again!) 3rd pregnancy, second time i've had it - last time was induced at 37 weeks because f it - am now 22 weeks so fairly obviously the can't induce me! Any ideas? Anyone else had it?

b x

Ha ha - on funny quotes during labour. I had painstakingly written out a very detailed birth plan which I promptly left in the car. When it came to the third stage (delivering the placenta)the midwife asked if I'd like the injection. DH very cleverly remembered that I had said that I didn't but was met with an exorcist moment where my head swiveled round and I growled 'give me the injection I'm not doing anything else by myself'. He actually looked a bit scared!

ooh no - that sounds so awful - you poor thing!

Thanks Turniphead - am on dandelion root and steroids and cold showers and ice packs etc etc - just worried because it's not supposed to happen until 35 weekish (am i going to go into labour early? or is it just bad luck!) Looking for moral support! Have doc's appoint later...

hello babblington whats PUPPS? (soz for ignorance)

oops just refereshed and seeN link- please ignore!

Preggiejane - Turniphead1 put a great link in - b ut basically its an excutiatingly itchy rash that covers your pregnant belly and keeps you awake all night scratching...

you poor thing PUPPS sounds so awful,i cant help but scratch an insect bite incessantly, not sure i could cope.

Poor babblington, the itchiness sounds awful. Haven't got any suggestions I'm afraid, just sympathy.

I will remember those quotes for when I'm in labour, they've made me giggle!

I love those Christmas ideas - not being due til Christmas Eve, I'm not planning on buying little one a present in case it misses Christmas this year - but now I'm very jealous so might relent.

Forgot to say ladyT that I only ever argue with DH when we're apart and on the phone, for some reason telephone conversations don't get the point across, so I meant to add wait until you're together to bring it up again. PG brain there!

ladyt the stocking idea sounds lovely, I might start knitting some. Though the rate I knit the dcs will probably be at university before they get them

babbington poor you, no advice here I'm afraid. Hope it gets better

oli glad you got a better night's sleep

Babblington...that sounds horrible. The soles of my feet have been itching a bit for a couple of days and I was worried it was OC but what you have got sounds AWFUL. Do let us know what the docs say - interesting that it's not supposed to come in until much later. I've never heard of it before. I suppose Calamine Lotion is no good? Yucky stuff though, I know.

I think Veggie is at her scan.

oooh sooo full up...went to wagamama for lunch and discovered that I don't think I quite have the capacity for noodle soup any more. I feel like I have grown to the size of an 8 monther!

Nor me for pizza. Although managed to eat most of it. but feel sooooo bloated now.

I hope I have room for my kitkat later!

Jealous of all these lunches out...I had a couple of Quorn sausage rolls and a mountain of salad.

Now going to sit upstairs on the sofa for a bit (there's only me in the office after all) as I have some urgent reading for work and eat a 'Fab' ice lolly, one of my few remaining vices.

ooh, LT, that sounds amazing. Lovely. I think I need an afternoon sleep every day at the moment. Hits about 3pm and I feel completely wiped out. God knows what I'm going to be like in a month or so! Might have to reduce my hours a bit! See if I can sneakily do it, without anyone noticing, so my pay doesn't decrease!!!

hello everyone, suffering from extreme demotivation today. I have done so little work, and it's not that I haven't got anything to do!!
Any ideas how I can start concentrating (starting with not coming on here I guess!)

ladyT sorry about the disagreement with other half. sounds like it might be best to talk it through face to face. I would be put out too. but it sounds like you would be well looked after by midwives etc if he wasn't there, looking on the bright side, and I expect he will come round when he realises how important it is to you. I would try not to get too wound up by for now, well in an ideal world anyway. In reality I would probably throw a tantrum.

My husband is very understanding, though I sometimes thinks that he secretly thinks I am quite lazy when I don't do so much. He may be right though , I am lazy when I am not pregnant. I am trying not to use it as an excuse, only when I am genuinely tired, etc. I have had quite an easy time of this preganancy so far so I don't have much to be lazy about to be honest. My friend is pregnant at the same time and she is having a much worse time, so I think this makes him appreciate that it is actually quite difficult!! He also wouldn't miss the birth for the world, why he is so keen i don't know, as I have an aggressive side and he is expecting strops and being told to F* off and to have his hand broken, etc. Which is probably correct.

However, he has booked me on a mountain biking weekend with him and our friends at 7 months . I will just have to chill out on my own and go to the pub with them in the evening. will probably be used as taxi service! I think he is only just starting to "get" that I really will not be able to join in!

Sorry for long post, I am bored!!! had better do some work - am on holiday next week, thank god!!!!

babbington sounds horrible, sorry no advice, I had not heard of it before! But lots of sympathy.

Re food, this week I have had a craving for a full massive fry up. Am resisting though as am on holiday next week and will troff ou then anyway!
Pizza Express sounds good too!!

Hi babblington have you tried calamine and glycerin cream from boots? Its great for chicken pox so may be soothing for you?

Beans very jealous of your new king size bed .. im not sleeping very well at the mo so the thought of spreading out in a big king size would be wonderful ..... im sure dp would appreciate it to as apparently i spend most of the night pushing him out of the bed

Cant remember who was talking about how you cope with sleep deprivation but just to relative my theory ..you just never know what you are going to get! My dd slept through from 6-8 weeks going 7-7 not long after and i managed to get her off bedtime breast feed quite easily at 6 months. Fast forward 5 years and my ds1 would not got to sleep unless i fed him, held him, rocked him and general got him into a coma before i tried to put him down, and even then he would sometimes wake up and we would have to start it all again! And he would wake up several times a night. Anyway by 12 mnths id had enough and did a sleep routine (i would have done it earlier but dp was reluctant) which thankfully worked but at that point i was 7 months pregnant with ds2! He came with his own personality. When he was new born i was getting really frustrated that he wouldnt go to sleep with all the rocking etc so i put him down in his moses basket while i dashed to the loo. Came back and he'd gone to sleep! Still like that to this day in that he doesnt like to be fussed or held when he is tired, he just wants to lie down and go to sleep. God alone knows what this little one will turn out like but i am hoping for a great sleeper, eater and all around little angel

sorry just remembered the other stuff i wanted to say!
Winter maternity coat .. if its your first and you are gonna have more i would because i went through 2 consecutive winters pregnant and froze because i didnt want to bother with the expense.

LT re your husband staying with you after the birth. You may find that he completely changes his mind once LO arrives .. especially when he sees what has to happen to you to get baby out!

Also i think alot of men just dont get the physical restraints of being pregnant .. im sure some just see it as having a big belly for a few months .. but my dp has had the hormones etc to deal with so many times now he is just used to it - though soetimes he does suspect i am being a tinsy bit lazy

Reban - you're right. I don't think men do understand the restraints of being pregnant. we had quite a lot of furniture moving to do ie: old spare bed downstairs for ebay collection, our bed into spare room to make room for new one. Blanket box downstairs to become toy box, dressing table from spare room to our room and loads of bedding and bits and pieces into the attic. I was really worried about it because DH was expecting me to join in fully and I just couldn't. And then got some pains down my side because I'd stretched myself doing it. I did ask him to get a friend round, but he got quite p*ssed off with me because he thought we were fine doing it on our own. Turned out we were, but to be completely honest, I'd have far rather someone else had been there as I was so nervous about it!

A little understanding would have been better! Then again, think I'm quite a whinger anyway and have probably cried wolf too often!

And then there is the other side of things, which is people telling you that you can't do things ... sigh.... like have 1 cup of coffee a day. Or climb a little way up a step ladder.

Moving beds downstairs sounds a bit crazy though beans - did you have to carry it down whole and assembled?