Due October 08 - The Final Countdown!

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Here we go again then ladies....

29th Sept perkypopsy first baby Surprise North Herts (Ware)
29th Sept WombFor1More 2 ds's 1 dd Boy
30th Sept Aubergenie first baby Surprise
30th Sept sambrads 1 ds Girl
1st CantSleepWontSleep 1 dd Boy North Herts
1st accessorizequeen 2 ds's Twins - one of each
1st loulou33 1 ds Surprise Southern Scotland
2nd snowymum first baby Boy Near Oxford
2nd 1sttimer80 first baby Surprise. Hydronephrosis discovered. Extra scan at 28 weeks (7th July) planned. Edgware (Royal Free, Hampstead)
2nd FranMum2B first baby Surprise Kingston
2nd my3honeypies 2 dd's Boy
4th minervaitalica first baby Surprise (unintentionally!)
4th hedgepig 1 ds Surprise
4th pistachio 1 dc Secret
4th annwoo 2 dc Surprise
5th myjobismum 1 ds Surprise Poole, Dorset
5th rosebury 3 ds's 2 dd's Boy Bristol
6th Bethoo 1 ds Girl Salisbury
6th iuseantiageingstuff 2 ds's 1 dd Boy
6th ronshar 2 dd's Surprise (with dangly bits ) West Sussex
6th hoff first baby Boy Spain
7th belgo 2 dd's
8th kookiegoddess first baby Surprise
8th Alexa808 first baby
8th Ksal first baby Surprise Hitchin
10th Lozza70 first baby Surprise NE London (Woodford)
10th emkay 1 dd Surprise West London (Queen Charlotte's and Chelsea)
10th pepperrabbit 2 ds's Surprise
11th staceylouisex first baby Girl
12th milfakamonkeymonkeymoomoo 1 dd Boy Salisbury
12th star6 first baby Boy Surbiton
14th tedmundo 1 ds Surprise Bristol (Southmead)
14th twinklytoes 2 dd's Boy
15th mum2jakeyroo 2 ds's Surprise Near Lancaster
16th moodywren 1 dd 2 ds's Boy Lincolnshire (nr Spalding)
16th bigmouthstrikesagain 1 ds 1 dd Girl Mid-Beds
16th WheresTheAuPair 1 ds Boy
19th MrsTittleMouse 1 dd Girl
19th rach010 1 ds Surprise (but dp knows!) Lincolnshire
20th 07mumstheword 1 dd Surprise Bristol
20th AandMsmum 2 dd's Surprise Bristol
20th KnickersOnMaHead 1 dd Boy
20th jenwa 1 dd Girl Worcestershire
20th firsttimer08 first baby Boy. Dilated renal pelvis - rescan at 34 weeks. Greenwich
21st hansnava 1 dd Surprise Luton
21st rowanmac 1 ds Surprise North Scotland
21st caramelbunny 1 dd Surprise Manchester
21st jess1996 first baby Surprise
21st GirlWithTheMouseyHair first baby Surprise (but written down in case of moment of weakness!) SW London (St Thomas)
21st lilbitmum 1 dc
22nd SmudgeyDoodle 1 ds Surprise Newcastle (Gateshead)
22nd wombleprincess 1 dd
23rd Sallypuss first baby Probably girl Herts/Essex border
23rd Emmsy1 3 ds's 1 dd Girl The Wirral
24th sparklesandnowinefor9months 3 ds's 1 dd Surprise
24th Personanna 1 ds Boy Peru
25th Flum 2 dd's 5th June Wiltshire
26th oliviaelanasmum/4andnotout 3 dd's Girl
26th mariekg 3 dc Girl
27th Rhian82 Boy
29th Ekka 1 dd Surprise
30th Jambers99 1 ds Girl NW London (Hillingdon)
?? mybabysinthegarden 1 dd

mumstheword - what could happen that could dictate not being allowed an epidural?

I was really sick this am, I never did wet my pants though so feeling relieved about that! I was sick yesterday and today, maybe its the iron tablets so will see otherwise it may be pickled onions as had them two nights on the trot!!

hey ladies, my net has been down so been lost without it!
thought would quickly jump on now while ds having a nap..
ref lady garden. last time after the birth i glimpsed it and it wasin reverse, the centre was bald and patchy and the bikini line was everywhere!
mega pain in bladder the other night, baby must have been really low.
i bath with ds at weekends so much easier
yummum the buggy board i think is too old for ds adn the second suggestion is a good idea though ds is a wanderer and i would panic about him getting off and getting lost the second i turn my back. having him strapped securely in a buggy is my only option.
well i should get on and tidy before little man wakes for tea!

jenwa, hope you feel better soon.

smudgey, saw the nipper double last week, I agree it is absolutely fab, so easy to push. Unfortunately won't fit through our front door!

Must book pedicure, that sounds lovely as I have a voucher for somewhere nice to use!

Morning all. Hope you had a nice birthday on Saturday ronshar.

Still feeling well here, thankfully. Spent all weekend lugging stuff (books, shelves, computer etc) around the house, but we've finally managed to move DS into his new bedroom. He's a bit confused at the moment and keeps trying to get into his old bedroom, but I'm sure he'll get used to it.

Saw the midwife last week for my 28 week appointment, and she says the baby is measuring too large - 33cm - so I've been referred for another scan next week. The wee test was ok, so it's not diabetes, and given that DS was only 6.5 lbs, I can't believe I'm carrying a 10 lb baby this time. Seems more likely that the baby was lying funny when she measured, or that everything has just expanded more quickly this time.

morning everyone i have been reading threads but not posting

cant believe its only 7 weeks tomorrow til im due its madness relly starting to think what the hell am i going to due with two babies under 2 ???

my ds birthday is next month so i have been thinking about it and wondering what i am going to do .

he is 2 on 25th then i was going to have his birthday party on 27th as its a saturday then i am due 30th do you think im mad???
was going to get abouncy castle for him and his wee friends .

was out last night having a meal and ds threw up everywhere !!! everyone was looking at us t was awful i was trying to look calm but people were giving off at the end of the day he is only a child!!!!

Just a quickie to say to Jambers that the wee test generally tells you jack all about diabetes. I've never had glucose in my urine, despite having diabetes since week 17.

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same here knickers with ref to double buggies!!

on an all time low today ref dp, and the fact that he is a uselss piece of shit and do i really want him aroudn the children as he is sucha crap role model. come to the conclusion he is a liar and a thief. just want to cry today, seriously thinking about adopting, i mean as a single parent can i provide for two children when dp has not put a penny towards our ds? then if i hang around with him in the hope he will contribute all the time draining me of my finances since i feed him and pay for his petrol and parking i will have no chance of finding an ideal partner and better father figure for my kids! so angry and sad at the moment! must be the hormones kicking in!

So sorry to hear this, bethoo He sounds like a waste of time tbh. is he at all supportive emotionally for you with the pregnancy?
Financially it sounds like you'd have more money to provide for your dcs without him...

star6 i dont doubt he loves me but actions speak louder than words and telling me he loves me is not gong to change a thing. when he is with me he is always rushing off. its little things alwell like ds wakes at 6 sometimes earlier and on a sunday i would like a lie in when he is here but no he will get up leaving me with playful ds when he could take ds with him and make him breakfast but instead he goes to the kitchen to make himslef a coffee and have a fag! i suppose it is a man thing when they dont think of others first?? we will always be second to his own welfare!
then the other day he had the audacity to roll his eyes up when the food i said i had in the freezer was there and it was not! i mean he has not put a penny towards the food whcih is ds food anyway! sounds petty i know! i sound lie a complete scrooge. but it is me who sacrifices nights out and clothes for me and i rarely eat a full meal so ds does not go without. i had pumpkin seeds for breakfast and am now sipping a slim a soup!
dotn get me wrong, i am not skint but that is cos i budget and make sacrifices. if it was not for the tax credits i have i would be screwed!

Bethoo - you do NOT sound like a scrooge at ALL. I would be so upset in this situation! I'm for you.
Has he ever had to be responsible for himself financially in his life? He sort of sounds like the kind of guy who has always had someone to fall back on or lean on financially. Maybe he could do with some time on his own to learn these skills so he can see how hard it is - and perhaps then appreciate what you do for him a bit more.
He's ds's father, right? He should most certainly take him for a bit on a sunday morning... especially if he's going in for a cup of coffee and getting up anyway.

star he is one of those guys who scrounges off everyone yet it is hard toget cash off him! he has now moved back in with his mother! yes he is 36! wow what a role model!

morning everyone

bethoo he does sounds like a waste of space to be honest - of course he should be a part of your dc's lives but it seems hugely unfair for you to be paying for him as well as them! doesn't sound like his mum's helping the situation much

we had a lovely anniversary weekend but now suffering the consequences of coming back from scotland via sleeper train - am exhausted beyond comprehension!

had a good 28 (29) week appt on friday, midwife really positive about homebirth (1st baby) so think we're going to try to go for it...

GWTMH gosh you are brave, good on you. i am too much of a wimp and besides my living room is not big enough for a home birth! though apparantly it is actually safer to have a home birth and less chance of infection.

Sorry to hear about your useless DP Bethoo, you really don't need the extra stress at the moment. If he's not helping you financially or with DS then surely you're better off without him? Don't think you're being a scrooge at all, why should you have to pay to support him as well as DS?

Thanks (I think) CSWS for the note about diabetes - there goes my complacency! They took more blood at the midwife appt so guess they'll confirm whether it's diabetes when I'm at the hospital next week.

dont talk to me about gtt!! i have another gtt this thursday. it is though theyare adamant i will get gd again! so far all tests ahve been negaitve. i just think if they are so sure i will get it cant they just give me the date of induction? i know inductions are painful (my first was induced) but i am too impatient to go overdue. rather heartless i know. i swear my hormones are all over the bloody place! now feel terrible for phoning dp and telling him to never contact me again if he is not going to support us and pay me back the £600 for a PS3 he just had to have when ds was only 4 weeks old and saying how of course he would pay me back, how could he possibly let the mother of his child and baby go without?? what a f£$$%%$$£ idiot i was for believing that one!

oh bethoo, things are not great are they, to be honest he is sounding like a wast of time and money! You are a better parent and person without him around. He needs to provide for you not scrounge of you and then go back to his mothers!! 36!!! he sounds more like 16!!! get through this and you will be a better person and find a better man or at least give him another 10yrs to grow up, he needs to know you are not standing for this shit anymore.

Knickers hope you feel better soon, dont worry about coping, you just will and soon DD will be out of that stage. You will most probabaly surprise yourself!

knickers do yo have family and good friends around you? i would not worry about the mess your dd is making, i usually leave what ds does adn as soon as he is tucked up in bed i throw all his stuff back behind the sofa where it is dumped stored. there are many of us in the same boat who will have young toddlers, me included (what have i done?? )and i am sure we can support each other on mn too, you ladies are my lifeline as i dont get out much and no family here and few friends who are good friends but several are expecting too and have their own issues and things to get on with. the one thing i will miss is our afternnon naps when i get back from work! hope ds wil still want to chill when i am trapped on the bed with a bf baby!

ugh bethoo what a knob head honestly - trouble is though I suppose is do you still love him? damned hormones and emotions...sounds like he needs to seriously grow up, does he support you emotionally at all?

for the record, we have a small living room too so opting for homebirth without the birthing pool! (not sure my landlord would be best pleased if we tried to squish one of them in there!)

i dont think i have any feelings for him at all now tbh, too much damage has been done over the years. i mena in the two years we have been together he has never taken me out for a meal, i have paid for cinema trips, in fact i dont even know if we have been to the cinema togehter! money is not important to me but it is when your dp uses you as his personal cash withdrawal system with no intention of returning the cash!

Poor you bethoo. Sounds as if you are probably better managing without him at least until he sorts himself out.

Knickers my dd is 14 months now and has started to get to the point where she will play by herself for short periods of time and has finally worked out that she can (occasionally) put toys away when I ask! She also 'helps' by emptying the washing machine and tumble dryer and the dishwasher (the last one is a little scary as our floor is not very forgiving when you drop plates on it). I'm not saying she isn't hard work at times, but she has got easier over the last month or so.... Whether that will last when the new baby arrives I'm not so sure!

Bethoo You sound like you are getting stronger and stronger everyday with regards to DP. I hope I'm not speaking out of turn but it sounds as if he is taking advantage of your generocity (sp??) STOP IT NOW Don't give him any more money and if he's not happy with your menu I'm sure his mother would be happy to feed him? Its so difficult when "love" is involved but I have just watched my Auntie be screwed for thousands of pounds over the last 4 years as her husband (yes she married him) extracted money from her bit by bit.

As for a Sunday lie in and all men are like that, I have to say my DH and I take it un turns and have one lie in each at weekends. Actions certainly do speak louder than words

You sound like a fantastic mother, a strong independent woman and your pictures show you are pretty and in those heels you ROCK! So I hope you can sort your situation out and feel happy. We are here for you.

Star Don't be alarmed, sorry to worry you I had pre-eclampsia and my plateletes were too low.

The best thing I did when DS2 arrived and DS1 was 22 months was to buy a new selection of DVDs of his favourite characters. That bought me enough time to feed DS2 in peace mostly at least for one of his feeds a day. Not quite the recommended technique I'm sure but it worked really well for us - though I was absolutely sick of Bob the Builder after a while and found myself childishly arguing over what we were going to watch