Due In Fab Feb 2009 - The Secret Is Out - Third Thread Already

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morning all.... lovely weather again today

good luck with your scan McDreamy, hope it goes well

Hello

11 weeks down! Crazy. Had a good weekend but ended up feeling guilty have been doing so little with dd - as we did plenty with her this weekend. So, going to get a bit crafty... papier mache today. Hmmmm.

Good luck with the scan McDreamy, can't believe mine is not for another three weeks. Boo.

Welcome to charlie7!

Can't believe we're getting to the 12 week scan stage now....good luck to those of you starting with those and let's keep our fingers crossed for healthy beans......!

I hope to "bloom" soon....

Oh what I would give for this sickness to pass Still I know that it did go at 12 weeks almost exactly for me in my 2 previous pregnancies so only 3 weeks to go.

Welcome charlie! We are a huge group aren't we?

well mine only started at 8-10 weeks before and went on until almost 20 weeks so am dreading it going on as long this time.

fecking idiot of a man dp didn't check his emails all week and there was an email from payroll asking him to post his attendance card in order to get his wages as the scan 'didn't pass screening' whatever that means. i found it when i was about to email last weeks card so we might not get paid this week. lovely!

Herbgarden, I?ve just got my Healthy Start vouchers through, I?m getting £6 a week so I plan on making lots of smoothies and shakes with them! If you want some good recipes have a look at the Innocent website, they publish everything that is in theirs. 100ml OJ and 50ml AJ to replace oranges and apples (trust me it?s better that way)

Hi charlie7 welcome to the group and congratulations on the pregnancy.

PinkTulips don?t worry, he?ll be back. I?m finding Tink can be distracted or just forgets about asking sometimes, but there?s no way she would give up all together!

I?ve had a great weekend, feel like we never got out the car [sigh] it?s one thing I hate about going to London to see the boys. It?s nice though to see Tink with her brothers, they love her to bits and she does them, she was heartbroken each time we had to leave them at home. I can?t wait till we get proper contact arrangements sorted out, it?s going to be impossible to take two small children to London and then have to take four children around London next year. We need to be able to have them here or they won?t get any time with their half-siblings. She?s about to drop so she?s not going to want to bring four children to Birmingham and she won?t let us have them here without her (see my AIBU) so we?re going to end up in a stale mate until the arrangements have been sorted but I can see it will be us backing down! But she has started the divorce now so it shouldn?t be too long.

I?m still feeling totally normal (apart from the sore breasts, anyone else tandem feeding and really sore?) 11 weeks tomorrow and I have my 12 week scan next Friday. Can?t believe how far through I am, but I did skip a few weeks by not knowing!

yep... my nipples feel bruised when ds feeds recently. tis agony, have started leaking already as well (it just gets better and better doesn't it?!

sounds like a very stressful situation with regard to your stepkids TBM, surely she can't actually refuse to let them come without her when there are no safety concerns? have you talked to a soliciter to see if you can get enforced visitation..... hauling yourselves up and down to London while pregnant with a high risk pregnancy is hardly ideal, surely you could us that as leverage with the authorities to force her to let them stay by themselves?

Problem is after the Nissi is issued if there are any outstanding contact arrangements a judge can refuse to issue an absolute. The only way to go ahead with contact arrangements is if you can be sure you're not going to go through a divorce for the next year or two! Which is why we've not done it already. She can refuse then if he tried to take them report them kidnapped, we really are at her mercy. She is very precious about the children, it wasn't until she got a new partner that she would even let him take them anywhere but the park on his own or she would let him drive her in her car to the cinema, she'd then go do what she needed to do and meet them there afterwards. Until she had a new partner they used to go out as a family! I would be going mad here, "You're NOT a family though!"

We'll probably go down for the youngest's birthday in August but after that it's not going to be practical, I'll be nearly mid-T and once I'm past viable I'm not going more than six miles from The Women's Hospital!

I'm not leaking, but my nipples seem to be peeling a lot as it's like dusting them sometimes! I feel very bruised, like chomp bruises, but it's not normally. Often between feeds my whole breast aches. One of the boys stopped in front of me on Saturday and caught his shoulder in my boob, I had to bite back the tears. They all noticed and I tried to play it down, DSS said "ha-ha did it deliberate cause I love being mean to you!" He didn't, he didn't even know what he'd done. He loves to play me up but in the nice way, we call each other names and play fight. Apparently his step-dad he really doesn't like and isn't playing when he's mean to him. Not sure if that's because he's around all the time or an authority figure (which I go out of my way not to be and try to defuse situations with their dad) or what, or maybe because we spend around £200 a weekend when we visit! But it's nice knowing they do both like me.

sounds like your a great step mom TBM, bet they love having a slightly more relaxed playful woman in their lives if their mom is that uptight and precious.

sound confusing how custody works over there, you'd think there'd be some protection for the fathers rights wouldn't you? unfair that he only gets to see his kids on her say so.

having such an unmotivated day again today, have a million things to do and i'm just sitting here checking out cloth nappy sites lol. poor ds looks like he's going to doze off on my lap i'm boring him so much

Thank you, not sure how good I really am, but they don't see me moaning about going! They just see that they get better trips and food when I'm with Daddy and I stop Daddy getting too angry with them. Had to really tell him yesterday, his eldest kept jumping on him and pulling him around, he'd been told a few times and eventually Dad had enough and told him off. Fair enough but the looks he was giving were out of order. I pulled him aside and told him he needed to say it and drop it because it would get back to his mother otherwise. He told them off about play fighting each other once, I said "ah they're only playing" and landed in the middle of the pile

Personally I think if it was up to her he wouldn't see them, but she likes all the extra money she gets out of him and the babysitting duties Under the European Court of Human Rights, parents don't have rights over their children, only responsibilities, the children have all the rights. The rights to see anyone are with the children to see their parents, siblings, extended family. So she is preventing the boys right to a family life as their dad and sister are part of their immediate family.

Normally it's simple, but because judges like everything to be in order before they grant an absolute, the timing of divorce and contact has to be done carefully.

lol at you landing in the middle of the pile.

hope it does all get sorted for ye in the long run without too much strife.

It was fun at the weekend, "Duff duff Daddy Tink!" he had the four of us lying on top of him in the park! Tink couldn't quite figure out what we were doing but will always laugh as she hates to miss the joke!

I don't see any reasonable judge will allow things to continue as they are, TBD has a lot of people on his side - Mum is a senior practitioner child protection social worker, Tink's godfather is Mum's boss, her godmother is a SW in their team so lots of glowing character witnesses! His family are willing to help out with bringing them here, we have enough room to accomodate them. The hurdle is the divorce.

Hi all.

I've not posted for a while, still suffering with terrible sickness, all day every day. I'm hoping ive just got 2.5 wks left of it.

Im 9.5 wks, had my scan last wk and my booking in apt with MW today. Ive also been to see my consultant as i've got HBP so they have put me on labetalol and i also have to take an asprin a day to keep the placenta working well. Anyone else on Asprin?

I've been really impressed with the care I have received so far, i know some of you seem to have had a tough time in other pregnancies but i feel like everyone has been really quick to sort out my HBP problems.

Off on hols on Mon, but not looking forward to coz i feel so rubbish. DP says my sickness is 'boring' he is really annoying me at the moment, he just seems to be moaning that he has to look after DD whilst i'm sick. I would love for him to feel how i felt for a day.

Sorry, ramble over!

Hi all - much too tired today after a super hectic weekend and it has been a bit of a stressy one so far today too, car wouldnt start ect ect ect...

Welcome Charlie7 Tink you sound like youve got a load of stress on too, hope it calms down a bit for you.

Ohhh im so pleased everyone is getting on and not far from their 2nd trimester - 12 weeks seems like bloody ages to me still only 3 weeks and 5 days but a month does seem like such a long time. I think there is definately something to be said for not knowing too early!

Afternoon

Welcome to Charlie7!

How did it go McDreamy?

It was dd's sports day today. I said to her 'oh no dd I won't be able to do the mum's race, I stupidly wore my flip flops instead of my trainers!'

(cunning I thought)

Instead dd marched about announcing 'My mum can't race because she's pregnant!'

Think my secret is definately out now!

Jellie, I'm on Aspirin and Heparin.

Scan is tomorrow - trying not to think about it! Just found out we have an address to move back to the UK in the Oct half term - soooooooo excited!!!!!! Unfortunately the local school doesn't have a place for DD at the moment but there is time

Hi all, thanks for the welcome! My sickness is not too bad today so I feel a bit more positive. Does anyone get paranoid when it is not too bad?!! Its like you hate having it but then worry when you have a day when you don't have it!!
Anyway, I am back home to scotland tomorrow and my internet access is limited so I may disappear for a short while.
Hope everything goes OK for everyone. My first scan seems so long off I haven't even worked out how long as it will depress me!!

Evening all. Yay ! I got my promotion at work. That means I can piss them off by telling them I am pregnant soon ! It shouldn't bother them too much as it's only a 4 month secondment.

Well done on the place to move to McDreamy - is it in Wiltshire ? Don't worry about the school thing too much - When we moved to Devon this time last year there were no places for DS1 at our preferred school, but things change, families move and invariably a place will come up.

MarkS - we had sports day today, but sadly I had to go to my interview - so not opportunity to humiliate myself participate !.

or even humiliate myself

Well done laidback!

My work have announced that they are cutting their budget and increasing our hrs from 35 to 37 and a half with no pay increase and cutting sickness and maternity benefit! Noooooo!

Hopefully I will go off on maternity leave before the changes are enforced and hopefully I won't even go back! (but this is still under discussion with DH...)

rosieposey....hear hear! this is the stage i found out with the other 2 and it was so nice only having 2 or 3 weeks of the first trimester to deal with. this preg is dragging along already!

well dp's pay mess got sorted and ds took hi sevening feed tonight so i'm feeling more cheerful, lol.

lol at your dd markstretch bet you were relieved not to have to race anyway though!

ds started grabbing my tummy in tescos on sat and schreeching 'baby in belly, baby in belly' at the top of his voice and dd promptly joined in, thank god it wasn't the one near my parents or sods law my aunt would have been at the end of the aisle or something... lots of old ladies were grinning at me though!

Lol PinkTulips glad you know what i mean. In everyday life a few weeks feel like piffle but when your edging slowly towards the 2nd trimester it seems to take forever!

Just to say good luck McDreamy - it'll be great to see your lo and im sure itll be lovely all round

I cant remember the whole booking in process but being as i was under the EPAU because of previous MS they scanned me last week and said all was well and it was indeed a viable pregnancy and they would let my doctor know. Well i am just wondering how long it will be before anyone gets in touch only because i thought it was around 10 weeks or thereabouts? Booking in will make it real somehow and a scan at 12 weeks will be something nice to look forward to

But PinkTulips, you already know once we're past the first trimester things will start to speed up. I can't get my head around being 11 weeks already, the last four weeks have gone fast, I'm glad I didn't have the three weeks before them as well.

Aargh - have the mother of all colds (DS, DH and our nanny have all got it and passed it on to me with a vengeance) and cant even take anything to make me feel better... Lol at all the mummies being "outed" by their DC - havent told DS that there is another one on the way yet (he's only 2 and 7 months would feel like a life time to him) - will tell him when is nearer the time I think...

My booking in appointment is when am 12 weeks - got the letter through yesterday which indicated that they'll organise my scan date when i go to the booking in appointment.