Due In Fab Feb 2009 - The Secret Is Out - Third Thread Already

[Singingintherain]

Hi thought I might start a new thread for us all. Hope you like the new title

Feel free to join us.

It'll probably be during your appointment which is why you don't have a scan appointment if it's anything like my hospital.

morning all- how are we. Dp told his parents at the weekend (who HATE me and didn't know we were back together)- they took it rather well. Not looking forward to seeing them in the flesh right enough.i have a question- does anyone have a playpen type thing for their dc? I'm finding it really difficult to go for a shower, pee, anything with ds running riot and putting building blocks in every open crevise he can find.will a travel cot do? i dont have either but really need to get something as i'me beginning to look like a tinker.

Blimey dinky - 12 weeks! I thought it might be a bit quicker than that but i think im going to have to wait a similar amount of time too as they have known since i am 5 weeks - Im sure i was only about 7 or 8 weeks last time ... ah well

Clarabumps had a playpen 11 years ago for DD3 and was really useful - think it was some hybrid travel cot/playpen thingy, anyway i dont know what the done thing is now but you should be able to get one at babies r us or something i think

aah - thanks Tink. Come to think of it that probably is how they'll do it as letter also said appointment would be for hour and a half which is alot longer than the booking in appointment last time round!

Clarabumps - a friend of mine did the playpen thing with her ds; worked until he figured out how to pile the toys up against the wall of the playpen and escape (mini houdini!) - she rapidly became the world's quickest speed-pee-er! Generally I find its easiest to either (a) plonk DS in front of CBeebies or Wallace for 20 minutes if am on my own and need loo/shower (he doesnt get to watch much tv so is in seventh heaven when he gets to watch something - anything - on tv) or (b) if he's in particularly mischievious mood, take him upstairs into the bathroom with me when I go for shower and put up with having lots of toys ending up in the shower with me!

TBM.... but it doesn't! my back and ribs are already starting to throb and once i get bigger i'm just in agony 24/7..... i find the whole pregnancy drags so horrendously. would love to experiance the second trimester blooming that people talk about but never have.

clarabumps, i just used a travel cot with my 2 and it worked brilliantly, shove a few toys in there with them and they're entertained for a little while at least, and even when they get bored and cross they can't hurt themselves (or your electronic equipment!)

well my booking in will be at approx 16 weeks, haven't got a date yet. gotta love the irsh healthcare system, they really make you feel cared for

I used a travel cot too - but depends on how old ?? He soon got to the stage of not wanting to be in there. What about locking you both in and shoving a few toys his way which are waterproof and won't land up in the bath. I've always found ds quite happy to play/chuck things around til I'm done. Not quite as peaceful as 10 mins on your own but hey,things aren't quite like they used to be are they. Now, he's 2 and he'll sit in my bed with his books/my alarm clock/ any other rubbish he can find and amuse himself for 10 mins or sometimes he gets in too !!...

Had snack attacks twice in the night last night - 1.30am and 5am (this is like newborn feeding ?!) .....I really hope this insomnia/hunger thing passes sooooon !

sorry I mean "may" land up in the bath

i used to lock my 2 into the bedroom and use the en suite shower with the door to the bedroom open to keep an eye on them.

electric shower is broken now though and i don't dare lock them in the other bathroom with me as they're obsessed with the taps and would sald me alive playing with the bath taps while i'm in the shower!

i gate them into their room and hope to god the screaming is just them arguing and not someone with a broken arm for 10 mins while i shower..... needless to say i miss the other shower!

I went to see a client today that I have supported for about a year but not seen for a month or so.

I walked up to her front door and she opened it and said

'BLOODY HELL! Are you pregnant or have you just put on loads of weight?!'

Nice.

How embarrasing would it have been if I had not been!

ouch.

she sounds charming

Last time I was pregnant I was in hospital from 20 - 24 weeks which actually didn't seem that long, then I came out and was in hospital three times a week for scans which made the days seem to go fast, I had a stay in at about 29 weeks because of strong BH ended up in for almost a week because I made my back worse and then delivered two weeks later. My pregnancy whizzed past in a mash of hospital appointments! Looks like this one isn't going to be much better.

Wat kind of support work do you do MarkS ? Obviously the kind that involves people with little tact !

Tenancy Support laidback. Am getting very bored of it though.

I often find myslef a little bit unfocussed on work when pregnant....maybe you could do something different after maternity leave - will you have to go back to work ?

I think so. I would love to do something different but I'm just not sure what? It has been ok up until now and suits me fine as I can work from home and can pick dd up from school and stuff but it's just not interesting me anymore y'know?

Oooh MarkStretch, I'm into Resident Involvement. I'm just starting up a new RA, been invited onto the HA's newspaper and Forum (the group below the board who discuss things to go to the board) and they've just asked me if I'll be on the Best Value Review (in the middle of writing this I've just had another email asking if I'll be the resident on something else!)

Cool. We're always trying to get more people to take an active role in the way their support is delivered. I woke up this morning and though 'oh noooo work again' and then actually had a really productive day and really made a difference to two people so it does have its rewards.

It's great doing the court work and going in front of a judge and helping people to keep their tenancies when they have been on the verge of eviction but you do hear the same old excuses a lot.

Tell me about it! The biggest objectors I'm getting at the moment are the old RA who are slightly put out that I'm doing it and also so jaded by their experience they think we're wasting time and money.

The one complaint I keep hearing is that they ran a children's group on the estate and the parents didn't want to get involved. But why is that a problem? Surely that's what children's groups are for? I used to be in the Girl's Brigade and very few parents were involved, those that were it was bringing their daughter's more than coming with them. I want to provide a service to the estate and if that means providing childcare so the kids aren't climbing on garages and playing football on people's fronts and allowing parents to get on with things, then so be it.

Maybe the difference in my attitude will make a difference? I hope so!

It's really hard to change people's attitudes isn't it? I remember being really excited about starting this job but you do get more jaded the more people you encounter!

Ideally I would like to stay at home and pop out loads of babies, and make things, like pretty dresses or bake cakes. And keep my house nice and tidy, and walk lots and drink tea with nice chatty people.

ROLL ON MAT LEAVE!

McDreamy - you had your scan yet ?

I've been in RI for about 4 years and seen some really good results, I'm also aware of changes in law, HA management and attitude that means a lot more is getting done than people are used to. Working with the HA from the top down means I have a different attitude towards them.

I had to laugh recently at a residents meeting there were only four residents there and I just sat looking between the other three as they listed their problems one after the other. I ended up jumping to the HA's defence and talking about an RA and what it can do. One of the guys from the RA said "she doesn't work for us, honest!" But he is going to learn that I will defend the HA to the residents but I will also defend the residents to the HA, some staff already don't like me because they know I will be honest and don't take messing.

Hi All

Please can you take me off the list. Bleeding started yesterday morning. Went to doctor. Missed miscarriage. Baby stopped growing 2 weeks ago (at 8 weeks) went to hospital for D and C. Home now recovering. Won't come back to this thread but i wish you all the best over the next months and will think of you.

DH and everyone here very supportive but I'm scared it'll be just a thing that happened that gets forgotten as we never saw him, just have one picture. But I was his mum for a few weeks....

Please think of us and send me baby dust for when we try again in couple of months....

Love Newb x

So sorry to hear that newb, good luck and baby dust for the future.

TinkerbellesMum DC3 (3rd baby. Lily-Hope born 20 weeks 28-29/9/05, Tink born 31 weeks 17/7/06) Anytime from Christmas! (age 27, Birmingham)
nkweto DC2 25/01/2009
florrieandme DC2 26/01/2009
laidback DC4 27/01/2009 (age 34, North Devon)
oooggs DC4 30/01/2009 (age 34, Cornwall)
MissMitford 31/01/2009
Plethora 31/01/2009 (age 37, East London but moving soon)
Ethelredtheunready (age 40, 2nd Baby, Tilly born 19/2/06, DC2 01/02/2009- Currently Chichester, soon to be Epping)
AngelDoll DC1 01/02/2009 (age 31, Sheffield)
jenandbean DC2 02/02/2009
ruthmollymummy 02/02/2009
Supersteph DC2 02/02/2009 (age 24, Torbay)
Littlesarah DC2 02/02/2009 (age 26, Edinburgh)
MamaGoose DC3 03/02/2009
Tummytrouble 03/02/2009
Pregnantpopcornprincess DC3 04/02/2009 (pregnant with twins)(age 31, West Sussex)
Knax DC2 04/02/2009
PinkTulips DC3 04/02/2009 (age 24, Roscommon, Ireland)
Davidsmom DC2 04/02/2009 (age 39, Cheshire)
MissDelighted DC1 05/02/2009
m2alyssa DC2 05/02/2009 (age 30, Isle of Man)
idontbelieveit DC2 06/02/2009 (age 31, Leeds)
Jelliebelly DC2 06/02/2009 (age 37)
Guitargirl DC2 07/02/2009
Aila DC2 07/02/2009
Littlemissnorty DC2 08/02/09 (age 39, Kent)
MarkStretch DC2 09/02/2009 (age 29, Norfolk)
Tinasan DC2 09/02/2009
LuluBai DC2 09/02/2009 (age 34, London)
Herbgarden 09-11/02/09 (age 38 Berkshire)
Ewemoo 07/02/2009
Singingintherain DC3 10/02/2009
KazzaL DC2 10/02/2009 approx (age 34, Ciren, Gloucs)
littleboyblue DC2 due early-mid Feb (age 27, Surrey)
IHaveaSecretLittleSmile DC2 due early-mid Feb (age 28, East Anglia)
Jenniferturkington DC2 11/02/2009
Biscuitytrousers 11/02/2009 (age 31, Thames Ditton)
Clarabumps DC2 12/02/2009 (age 27, Glasgow)
BumpVLump 12/02/09 (age 29, Surrey)
Louisebunny 13-15/02/09
Mapleleaf 13/02/2009 (age 38, Cambridge)
Jelliebaby DC2 14/02/2009 (AGE 29, Cheshire)
Loopylula DC2 14/02/2009 (age 28, Sussex)
Francesrivis 15/02/2009 (age 38, Devon)
onwardandupward DC2 second week of Feb (age 38, south west)
Americas 16/02/2009 (age 32, London)
shubiedoo DC3 17/02/2009 (age 37, Canada)
Neeerly3 DC3 17/02/09 (age 31, Mansfield)
NervousMouse DC2 17/02/2009 (age 36, Berks)
Fruitstick DC2 19/02/2009 (age 32, London)
Imaginewittynamehere DC2 19/02/2009 (age 32, Cambs)
McDreamy DC3 19/02/2009 (age 37, Cyprus but will give birth in Bucks)
WarmFuzzy 19/02/08 (age 40, south London)
Rachrox DC3 20/02/2009 (age 28, Glos also!)
Mentalpup DC2 21/02/09 (age 30, Glos)
Rosieposey DC4 21/02/09 (age 36, Wilts)
Chilledmama DC2 25/02/2009 (age 31, Hampshire
Nellstar TBC
zikel DC2 TBC (23, Coventry)
Cocodrillo DC3 26/02/2009 (age 34, south london)
MrsBick DC2 26/02/2009 (Age 25, living in Surrey)
charlie7 DC2 28/02/2009 (Age 33, living in the Inner Hebrides)
Dinkystinky DC2 TBC but poss 20/2/2009 (age 31, London
dd1ofcolandgerry DC2 25/02/2009
theSuburbanDryad DC2 (age 26, living in South Bucks)
Babyignoramus DC1 27/02/2009 (age 27, Brighton)

Sorry to hear that Newb

Good luck for the future xx

Sorry Newb about your loss. You had a scan at 8+4 too didn't you when all was ok so that probably makes it all the harder....take care of yourself.