Due In Fab Feb 2009 - The Secret Is Out - Third Thread Already

[Singingintherain]

Hi thought I might start a new thread for us all. Hope you like the new title

Feel free to join us.

Ihaveasecretsmile - so sorry about your news. Good luck in the next wee while.

I am very emotional right now. Was reading stuff out to df about PND (which I didn't have with dd) and it was mentioning various factors that could contribute; loneliness and difficulty of dealing with an older child too were mentioned, anyway I burst into tears. Argh. Just thinking about being on my own all day everyday with baby and dd (5yr) and how it'll be. Last time it was quite relaxed, I was tired but I could spend plenty of time reading/watching DVDs/napping, this time there won't be much of that. I'm sure it'll be fine, mostly I'll probably enjoy it but I do worry about feeling lonely and bored and cut off from 'normality' at home. Then watched Monsters, Inc this morning and cried! [Losing the plot emoticon]

Hi all from Canada, and sorry about your loss SLS.

Had my first appt. today, I can't believe I'm showing already, it's not even 10 weeks... she said my uterus felt fine and she didn't think it was twins (I had been worrying about that!)

This is my third and it's the first time I've bought those belly band things, I'd like to wear my regular clothes for as long as possible!

My first scan is next Wed, and next day we leave for Ireland for 3 weeks, I hope everything looks good so I can spill the beans then! Big family party planned...

The doctor asked me what I thought about the delivery and as I had an emergency section with ds2, I'm going for a planned section this time.

Hope everyone has a good week!

LittleSarah - please dont get yourself all upset; it is probably the hormones making you feel much more upset than you did with your first pregnancy. Look on the plus side - you now know how to deal with a baby (so the learning curve will be much less steep) and am sure your DD will love helping you with her sibling (5 year old girls all seem to love babies for some reason) and she'll be understanding about you needing some rest time, watching dvds etc with her.

IHASLS so sorry to hear your sad news.here myself many times Have been t Lots of babydust to you for when you decide to TTC again

Singingintherain I dont have gall stones but I got what I can only describe as IBS which started at 5wks with DS and the same again this time. Part of it is that I get really bloaty and loads of trapped wind. So much so that can have me doubled over in pain by the end of the day. went to the Dr last time as they dont prescribe anything until 12wk and then it would be colpamin or a peppermint based capsule. I find that drinking peppermint tea and taking deflatine (safe in pg) really helps.

Guitar girl your boss shouldnt not promote you because you're pg! That's discrimination. You should be entitled to the promotion regardless. Will be good for your benefits whilst you're off too

dinkystinky - thanks, I'm sure you're right! Now feeling even more emotional unfortunately. Df phoned to say he'd be about half an hour late as he was going to go to the pub for one after work. Totally not a big deal at all but I feel angry and upset. I've been on my own with dd all day and he needs a pint because of all his hard graft. I know he didn't mean to make it sound like that but it was like he was saying you don't need to do stuff like that with only looking after dd and despite talking to him about my fear of loneliness just yesterday he obviously hasn't taken it seriously. Fuck. I wish I could just go out for a drink but he's my adult company and that's it. (Plus dd is not his so is my responsibility and can't therefore complain about that)

Anyway, I realise I'm totally irriational but feel alone and shit. Is this what it'll be like when we do have our own? See you later darling... I need a drink...?

He is lovely, lovely, lovely so I know not but I don't feel it right now IYKWIM.

Plus - I'm still worried something is wrong. Firstly have still put on NO weight and sorry if this is TMI, was drying myself doon there after bath just now and saw a couple of deep red gooey smears on towel. Sorry sorry! But what the feck is that??

Sarah - can you go and get a scan at your EPU just to reassure yourself ? It hard when your mind goes round and round and sometimes what you need is good scientific reassurance that all is ok. It is normal not to put on weight in the first trimester - often feeling sick means you eat less !

I had a big yellow teapot! I fell over it when I was two and knocked myself out, until I had a m/c that was the last time I spent a night in hospital. I used to love that thing!

I'm covered in sunburn today from the breastfeeding picnic, I didn't realise how hot it was!

wasn't hot here how'd the picnic go? would have organised an isish one but think i'm pretty much the only bf-ing irish MNers so would have just been me sitting in a park on my own with ds refusing to stay still for a feed!

shubiedoo, where in ireland are you gonna be? not the west by any chance?

my cousin had a big yellow teapot and i was dead jealous of it

littlesarah, blood of any kind is a good enough reason to head down to the hospital and get scanned... seeing the baby will put your mind at rest about it all

[sigh] my baby is in a big bed for the first time. we bought him a mattress today and dismantled the cot (we let them practice on a mattress on the floor first before getting a bed)

am excited and a bit sad all at the same time will be nice not to have a cot up in the house for the first time in 3.5 years though, for a whole 6 months lol!

Picnic was nice, not as big as the others though. Had a photographer from the local papers group (so could be in any paper) come out. Got loads of signatures.

You should have asked on the picnic thread if anyone would be interested and there's lots of groups that are interested too, doesn't have to be breastfeeders anyway. There's going to be one next year so maybe you can get a group together for that?

Morning all - hectic weekend here which ive only just gotten over ( not sure ill be camping again for a while )

Was really sad to read ihaveasecretsmile's news and it makes me fretful - it seems that every few pages someone else asks to have their name removed and ive still got 3 and a half weeks to go till 12 ... worrying times indeed

On a happier note have got a date for my scan at the hospital - not for another three weeks tomorrow though which seems ages and its only a dating scan anyway. I am wondering when the midwife will contact for booking in though as still heard nothing from her at all ... Oh well im sure she will get in touch in due course - i wonder how long it should be left though without getting in touch with her myself? The doctor did refer me in the end but that was 10 days ago.

LittleSarah - honestly hon, it is the hormones making you feel this way (I'm the same in early stages of pregnancy: in fact realised I was pregnant when I threw a total tantrum at DH for working (at a time when other people in his department were being sacked so he was really worried about job security etc) while I spent an hour making dinner!). I pride myself on generally being a well rounded individual with fairly laid back approach to life, but when the pregnancy hormones take hold its a very different story... Look on the bright side - feeling this way is a pregnancy symptom Am hoping you're feeling much better about life today and am sending lots of reassuring hugs in your direction {{{{{ hugs }}}} I agree with Pinktulips and the others - if you see any blood at all, you should call up your GP/midwife (if already booked in) to see if you should be worried and if need be go to the Early Pregnancy Unit.

Rosieposey - glad you survived the camping trip (though the fact you're not sure you'll go again for a while now has me worrying about our weeklong camping trip in August)and you have your scan date through. Did you let your friends know you're pregnant while on the trip?

Thanks for all the supportive comments!

You'll be pleased to hear I had calmed down and did not have a go at df when he got in (literally half an hour later than usual after one pint). I was sad though and he was worried about me but I cheered up later on. Phew, fricking hormones.

The doppler arrived after I left for work so going to use it tonight. If I don't hear anything I'm going to go into meltdown!

rosieposey - yes I feel fretful too! Can you tell.

Right, at work so really must go, will check in later and let you know how doppler went.

Please would you vote for [[http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/#vote Bliss] in this poll? The top four will get a grant each. Bliss has dropped down to 5th place, so we need to bring it up a bit. Statistically (as long as we don't lose anyone else) 8 people on our list will have a premature baby so this is something that will affect a lot of us.

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Hi all...............still waiting for scan date..............

Me too, it sucks!

that's a scary statistic tink

my last antenatal thread was very lucky, only 1 baby 2 months premmie. the lady having twins went to 36 weeks. one other woman had her little boy at 36 as well and besides that i was about the earliest at 38. it was a slightly smaller group though.

well ds was a very good boy in his big bed last night... think he might have had one little run around but can't be sure if it was him or dd as they share a room. he was all cuddled up happy as a bug in a rug when i checked on them on my way to bed and the 2 of them came tramping into my room at 7.30 this morning.... so cute!

miserable stormy weather again here... what the hell happened to gloabal warming

littlesarah, afaik those home doppler things can't really pick up a heartbeat before about 20 weeks for most people, you might be lucky but please don't count on hearing anything

I once looked up the statistics for carrying a baby to term. Taking off the babies who miscarried at each stage, then the babies who would be premature. If I told you how many were left you would be sick through your whole pregnancy

That's why we need more research done into prematurity and autoimmunity. I'm convinced a test for what I have for every pregnant woman and women who miscarry first would save thousands of babies. The positive doesn't come from one test either, for me it's IgM, for someone else it could be IgG or not even an Ig, so by testing for it they would pick up other autoimmune problems too.

i already panic all through my pregs thanks to dp very kindly sharing a story with me when i was 3 months with dd about his workmates girlfriend who had a stillbirth at full term...... for some reason the fact that it was real person we knew and not just someone in a magazine or on the internet made me convinced it would happen to me too. and then it almost did so i was worse again with ds.

i didn't know there were test available to determine if women were at risk of premmie births, of course it makes sense that there would be given that it's an autoimmune response but it just never occured to me. sad that it's not common practice

Hi, tried out my new chair last night and it was a nightmare. I could not fit in the lifts. At on epoint DH had to put me in a lift press the button and run upstairs to catch the lift as it opened to let me out. The roads were not designed for crossing either, so we are not going to bother with it in the city again.

I had my bloods taken yesterday and they are going to do the blood test for a Nuchal scan, I think. They are going to contact the Doctor who sent me to make sure. Last time they only did the scan and not the blood test, which I did not know. Aparently they take the blood and test between 11 and 12 weeks. Then you go for your scan at 12 - 13 weeks and take the scan details back to the blood centre who enter the scan details onto a computer and match it to the blood to give a chart of data. This is what I was told. I will wait and see next Tuesday for my 12w scan.

I was lying in bed this morning and really felt strange around my bump. I felt around and felt the bump, it was very hard and lying completely to one side of my tummy, not in the centre. It really does feel strange down one side of my body. I hope all is well.

Dinky yes i told everyone i was pregnant which was nice ( whilst everyone was busily quaffing beer and lovely wine ) lol and the camping would have been alot better had it not been so bloody cold!!! Honestly i didnt take enough warm stuff so there were people sat around the fire at 11 pm with hats and scarves on and me wrapped in a sleeping bag ... Added to this DP failed to blow up the airbed properly so i felt like i was sleeping on rocks ect ect i wont elaborate anymore - just make sure you have lots of things for warmth and plenty of battery life on the blow up the airbed thingy!

Littlesarah dont worry if you dont pick up a heartbeat - its farily unlikely but i think home dopplers can work on you from about 14 ish weeks ( if your slim and judging by that gorgeous wedding dress it looks as if you are ) I would honestly go and ask for a reassurance scan if i was you at your early preg unit it will put your mind at rest and if you have been having a bit of spotting i think you are more than entitled to ask.

I see its not just me throwing the odd hissy fit either lol - i had a total meltdown at DP when he opted to stay up late and then came to bed looking for his i pod for the morning ... i called him all the selfish names under the sun and more besides only to stomp downstairs and threaten to sleep on the sofa ... poor guy i would usually wake up and say good night then go back to sleep again but these hormones have me in their vice like grip and are making me very slightly fiery atm!

Cant believe you are still waiting for your scan dates markstretch and nervousmouse - maybe you should chase them up - its probably silly but i always get a bit paranoid that they have forgotten about me and im really looking forward to my scan because aside from that there is nothing else to say that i am pregnant - even my boobs are much less sore - something i might have worried about before but i figure its normal for 9 weeks ... well i hope so anyway.

I had my first MW appointment and though it was a bit early (I was only 9weeks+2). It turned out that my GP had scribbled down something on his initial note that got translated into "cardiac disease" and I was considered high risk pregnancy. Luckily all was a misunderstanding, first scan is booked for 4 August now.

I too have felt sick for so many weeks and have developed a real adverse reaction to cooking. As DH is away a lot, I'm in charge of the household and walking the dog on top of working full time, and- of course- DS is teething and crying all night long poor little one. In short, I'm knackered and very short tempered which is not fair to DS or to the dog. Hope that this doesn't last for much longer...