Due Jue 2005, Thread 5

[LipstickMum]

Katz, thanks for your email. I have replied but also said I would post on here my suggestion for luch tomorrow. Basically all I suggested was that at lunch we give our doatios to someone, and they send off 1 cheque to Katz, makes it a bit simpler. I'm happy to send a cheque.

Scraggy, research from Foundation for Study of Infant Deaths recommend baby sleeps in your room up to 6 months. This has shown to reduce the risk of SIDS in babies. Couldn't find anything about it on the WHO website. We didn't have dd in our room for that long at all.

we had problems with DD and sleeping until she was 18 months when i stumbled upto the no cry sleep solution book, although we never really implemented it all some of the ideas are great. The best one which we were going to do but because of how the summe went for us we didn't was to make your child there very own bedtime book. In it you put pictures of your child doing their bed time routine, for eg first page is them in living room putting toys away, then on the stairs going up, then maybe cleaning teeth ect ect. You then read this book at bedtime and also during the day to get to learn the routine. it sounds like both fun to make and read, i should add the last page is them asleep in bed with the words something like - and DD slept all night in her own bed.

Katz mine stole my blood at the dating scan, greedy buggers!! I've been told by my mw that if I have a scan at around the time a mw appointment is due I only need to have the one checkup and so won't then need to make an appointment to see her until the next scheduled time...so in beds ours run at 18, 20, 22, 28 weeks...so I had mw appoints at 18 & 20 weeks, have a scan tomorrow at 22 weeks, and so won't see the mw again now until 28 weeks...maybe yours is run like that too??

the other thing that has worked really well with DD is stickers!

i know i'm due an appointment, i've seen the midwife at the shops and she keeps saying oo your on my list to phone!!

Maybe just phone the surgery for an appointment then, rather than waiting for her??

i've got a great scheme where she comes to the house and i book everything direct with her no need to contact surgery at all, its fab! she will also in theory deliver the baby, yeah!!

Sounds like some health authority's are so much different to others!! I remember trying to contact my mw last time because I Was worried about something and just got the ansafone day and night. It was awful, I couldn't work out if my worries were new mum pregnancy stuff or real emergency.

Katz that's nice that you get her to deliver too - we have to take whoevers on duty at the hospital...nice people but I had a change of shift partway through with ds so you never say the same person for too lng - also some of the mw's were trainees, eek!

God I really must use preview...'see the same person for too long...'

I had a mw appointment at 15 weeks, my scan is this week (20 weeks) and the mw doesn't want to see me until towards the end of Feb, so 24 or 25 weeks. That's a lot less than last time, whether that is a difference with second pregnancies I don't know. But as I say, they would happily see me if I have a problem.

teabelly its a great scheme, i had it with DD too but because she was early i got my second midwfe. The best bit is that i had built up a relationship with both first time round, so they kinda knew me reasonably well and what i did and didn't want in labour. Like no additional people other than her and the extra midwife at the end, so there were no unnecessary questions during labour. The best bit was i'd said in advance that i didn't want to have a cheerleader all that push go girl stuff! and she didn't.

Looking foward to the same this time round.

Quick update: I'm back from the midwife's and all is fine. She found the heartbeat much quicker this time as I told her where it had been last time and also took the precaution of going to the loo immediately before we saw her.

Very relieved, as you can imagine, I can almost start to focus on the rest of life again.

I had all my bloods taken when I did the triple test, so about week 14. At least I hope they don't want any more at the scan! I'm not due to see the midwife again til week 25.

Glad everything was fine for you tribpot. It's lovely to hear the heartbeat .

so pleased for you

Yeah Tribpot! At least that's one less thing to worry about...now you just have to get through the rest of the 'most depressing day of the year'

Katz am very of your system...where abouts are you again?? may have to start investigating rightmove.co.uk, he he he!

Yes, I am a bit annoyed about this being allegedly the most depressing day of the year - the day before my birthday! Nothing depressing about that, even if I will be 33 tomorrow Could cope better if people didn't keep asking me what it's like being married to a younger man when dh is 35 this year!

Well actually it's great fun...dh is younger than me and the stamina is much better with a younger man, he he he!!

Uwila - thank you again for you words of wisdom re the rocking. You're quite right - I don't want to be rocking on demand as well as everything else!

Hi Katz, I'm in Weybridge, Surrey. I love the idea of making your own book to manipulate your child into doing what you want - very sneaky!! Another great MN tip!

I wonder, however, if I should use the carrycot part of my Very Expensive Pram instead? What do you think? Looks like the same sort of thing to me...

Tribpot - Good for you re the heartbeat - I'd feel the same about the heartbeat if I hadn't heard it last week. I know you can buy devices (Mothercare I think) that let you listen whenever you like, but I've heard that if you're a bit overweight they might not work so well. Certainly not implying you are of course, having never clapped eyes on you! Does your Dh look like a boy?

I definitely going to go hippy in Spring/Summer! can't wait! So if you come across any cool kaftans, let me know!

Teabelly! Glad mines older! Still No Cigar on THAT front yet!

Blimey ladies - stop talking I can't keep up!!!

Glad everything is ok tribpot, and happy birthday for tomorrow. I'm also 33, 34 this year unfortunately.

Sounds like the meet-up was a great success. It must be funny to actually know what people look like on here.

Mrsflowerpot, sounds like things are the same here as they are with you - saw midwife at 18 weeks, 20 week scan is next week and then I see the midwife again at 28 weeks. I think they've cut down the number of visits since I had DS.

Katzguk - the cheque is honestly in the post! You should get it tomorrow. I assume no one has heard anything from Aprilmeadow as to how things went?

Hi All,
Tribpot, glad everything went well. I'm 21 weeks now and still dont think i'm feeling kicking. I'm feeling something above my tummy button, but I dont know if that's baby's foot or just the usual twinge sensations. I'll be honest and say I'm quite worried, but I've not dared to tell DH that as he is, quite clearly, panicking, especially after last weeks terrible news. I got some reassurance from one of my (many) books which said some people dont feel them until 22 weeks, so i'm hoping everything is okay.

Katz, I love your book idea. Might try that myself.

Do people really keep their babies in their rooms for 6 months!!!! Is that paranoia from the medical profession or justified?

We didn't keep ds in our room for that long - heaven forbid...he went into his own room at about 6 weeks, we had him in a moses basket in our room, then put the basket in his cot (as someone else said) in his room, so he had comfort from the basket but could get used to his new surroundings, and then after a week we got rid of the basket (god it makes him sound like a puppy!!!)

lol at babies being like puppies! but tbh having ds has always been very like having the unruly labrador we had as teenagers - needs lots of exercise, excitable, totally wilful, very affectionate, tendency to run off, and don't mention the house-training. Utterly adorable with it of course.

Jonah - i have just been having a good think and i definately didnt feel movemwnt with DS1 till about 23 weeks.
Re - babies in your room - i think it comes down to personal preference and experiences. I have one friend who has her babies hooked up to a breathing monitor which sets off an alarm if baby stops breathing - this is because she had a brother who died of SIDS. I on the other hand have always been quite relaxed and confident about the whole cot thing and mine have always been practically straight in their own room. I personally find it very hard to get to sleep when i am woorying that my every move may disturb a baby sleeping right next to me. But then again if i am really knackered and need the sleep i would bring an unsettled baby in with me so i could get some extra sleep ... it is all just trial and error really