Due Jue 2005, Thread 5

[LipstickMum]

Katz, thanks for your email. I have replied but also said I would post on here my suggestion for luch tomorrow. Basically all I suggested was that at lunch we give our doatios to someone, and they send off 1 cheque to Katz, makes it a bit simpler. I'm happy to send a cheque.

Mrs Flowerpot - i have 2 DS's and a labrador puupy and tend to agree!!!!

Re the number of visits, I think it's a bit of both. If you had a normal pregnancy first time, they don't give you a whole lot of attention. I think they did also revise the number of visits to accommodate their budget. I'm not really too bothered about it. God knows I'll stirp up some trouble if I want more attention.

Ah, yes, I too got really worried after Sweetheart's news. But, luck for me, my 20 weeks scan was already scheduled for the next day. So, I didn't have long to freak out aboout it. Although, when the sonograoher said the heart was beating, I did let out a big sigh of relief and said "Oh good!".

As for the kicks, ah that a bit of a tender spot with me. All the books/website you read start talking about kicks and how exciting they will be for you somewhere around 14-16 weeks. I've only felt them for a week or two and it is still only very slightly. And I'm a second timer. I think the books are to blame for prtraying it like this big exciting event at some 14 or 16 weeks. Rubbish! So those of you who haven't felt anything, I don't think you should worry until about 23 weeks -- oh I know easier said than done.

Did I say I was going to stay off this this today? Well, that was a dumb thing to say. You shouldn't listen to me first thing in the morning anyway, as I might still be half sleeping and therefore can be responsible for the rubbish I type.

What a lot of chat today, I also heard it was the 'most depressing day of the year', why is it today? Because it's a monday in January?? WEird.

WEll done for being pro-active Trib and hearing the heartbeat, that will put your mind at rest I'm sure.

Apart from the usual regional variations in ante-natal care and frequencey of visits. I know in Oxfordshire there has also been a general change in that area, mainly for 2nd time Mums though. I saw my mw @ 16 weeks, then she said due to the changes she wouldnt see me till 28 !! In between I would have my 20 week scan, but she also recommended I see the doc at 24 weeks too, perhaps suggesting she didn't quite agree with the changes?!

Jonah, it's up to you where your baby sleeps in it's early weeks. People's sleep habits are so different. I loved having dd in the room with us, dp and I used to stare at her while she slept before going to bed marvelling at how beautiful she was in a kind of 'new parent stupor' I was also very glad when she graduated to her own room!

Katz, your cheque's in the mail.

Wonder how Sweetheart is doing ?

Oh I forgot re sleeping in your room. Personally I think they make a really big deal out of nothing when it comes to SIDS. I suspect the difference is probably because baby is so close so you notice changes in breathing more, and you can check on him more often when you just have to turn your head rather than get up and go into another room.

1- I would NEVER put the baby in the bed because it is very dangerous. You could roll over on the baby and suffocate him/her. Or baby could wiggle down under the covers and suffocate.

2- If the baby gets used to sleeping in your room, you may face a traumatic phase of putting him/her into his own room when you decide you've had enough.

3- If baby sleeps in own room right away, you might not like him/her being so far away, but he/she will probably be fine.

Personally, I will have bub in moses basket next to bed until I am recovered from caesarean. (by the way, if you have a caesarean the very last thing you will want to do is bend down to the floor to pick up baby from moses basket which has no stand). I shall also invest in a really swish monitor this time.

Anyone have any recommendations for a good monitor which has minimum backroung noise / static?

Oh yes, Charley, I think the babaloo moses basket attachment is a good idea. In fact, you could just put the pram in your room at night and then not worry about getting moses basket or stand. Good idea!

Maybe I'm alone in this but I'm really enjoying not seeing too many medical staff this time around. I was backwards and forwards the whole time with dd and got pretty stressed out as a result. Now I'm just bowling along like nothing's due for...ooo...at least a year! As long as I can feel the odd movement I'm ok.
On the sleeping front I went on to full mummy alert after dd arrived and just couldn't sleep with her next to me. By 4 weeks I was totally, totally exhausted and we had to get in a maternity nurse, she soon put us on the straight and narrow! DD was in her cot in her room and on a routine from then on and to be honest it suited us all and things really picked up.

Lippy apparently they've calculated a formula based on daylight hours, debt incurred (during xmas run up and after), amount of time until summer holidays etc. and come up with today as the most depressing...statiticians - all I can say is they must be even more bored than I am at times!! Personally I'm having a great day...big porridge and syrup breakfast, fruit all morning, cheese sandwich and massive packet of yoghurt covered apricots for lunch, at least 6 cups of tea so far and I've already planned my dinner tonight...not that I'm a foodie you understand!...oohh and I have my scan tomorrow so hopefully we'll find out if it's an Adam or a Lucy, yippee!

Teabelly - hope your scan goes very, very well tomorrow. Sorry for not revealing results of mine. DH is off to NY on Wednesday for almost a week so I might get pissed off enough to start hinting!

I had DS in a moses basket in our room for about 6 weeks but he often ended up in our bed - I couldn't sleep for worrying about squashing him, it was awful. And he was a very noisy sleeper considering he was so little - I couldn't believe how much fussing, sniffing, sighing and snuffling he did. We then put him in his cot next to me for a few weeks - it helped him sleep but not me! So after about 3 months he went into his own room. I think this time I'll skip the moses basket, put the baby straight in the cot next to me and see how we go from there.

(by the time I've got round to posting this you'll probably be talking about something else, but bloody work keeps getting in the way of Mumsnet today).

Teabelly, all the very best of luck for your scan tomorrow! Love the food obsession - I'm like that, I am constantly planning my next snack/meal. I drive DH mad planning tea at breakfast time.

Welshie I don't know if this is correct but...'Enillais t ddeud ai enillaist t. bachgen ai bachgennes?'

Mrs W it's a good job ds loves his food too...well he had to with parents like me and dh!

Welshie - if it's a load of gobbledy gook blame the babblefish website, he he he!

I am so happy to hear about other food obsessed people! DH and I celebrate anything with food, and cure any bad days with it, too !

It is terrible, I know.... But it does explain why I already look like 7 months pregnant!
So charley, I would make sure to go to the next mtg. so I will have the biggest bump of all, I guarantee you!

Teabelly bach - dw'i ddim mynd i ddweud hyn o bryd - diolch am gofyn eto! Dwi'n meddwl bod ti fedru guesio rwan....

Oh gawd now I've got to go and look that up - teaches me not to be a smarty pants eh!...back in a mo...

It won't help you in your quest teabelly! I'm off now - will chat later x

Ha ha ha you should see the translation it gave me back ...I dread to think what you got the first time around...but so from what I can make out of the translation I'd say it had a lot of hair!!! possibly 'bachgennes'??

Bloody hell - I go away for a few hours and the thread is out of hand again. Well I am not on my computor I am stealing some time on the one in college. I should be working on a rather large assignment but it doesn't seem very alluring.

If You haven't seen neighbours - don't bother I'd be straight down the surgery for a heart beat if I wasn't being kicked by a footballer half the time. Needless to say I won't be climbing ladders for a while. Think I'll keep my feet firmly on the floor and buy a lamp to go on the staircase up to my flat. Izzy lost her baby falling down the steps. Its just unnecessary after last weeks events Mmmm well I don't feel so invincable today. I have been kinda getting pains which I am sure are braxton hicks but I guess you take it forgranted that everything will be ok.

Anyhow I am off now until Wednesday night at the earliest. I need to stop procrastinating and do some work. I have emplyed my Dad to help me build a chest of drawers as after neighbours today I might take to sitting on the couch eating bonbons.

Oooh bon bons that sounds nice!! Pink good luck for your scan on Wednesday (and to someone else who's also got a scan on Wed...sorry preggie brain can't remember )

Well I'm off home now after a very productive day on MN (shame about the not alot of work tho!!) Will log on tomorrow evening to let you know how mine went.

Tribpot HAPPY BIRTHDAY for tomorrow - hope it all goes well!

See ya later x

Thanks teabelly! Have successfully badgered dh into buying a card and booking a restaurant, so now I just need to pressure him into buying me some flowers and I'm done

Funny to think of this as my last birthday not being a mum (fingers crossed, obviously). It's been quite a year, this time last year we'd just got back from a fantastic three week holiday in Chile and since then we've got married and got pregnant (not necessarily in that order )

Best of luck to all for scans this week.

Uwila,Tessie, thanks for alleviating my fears. I'll pass this on to DH too.

Teabelly, best of luck for tomorrow!!!

Tribpot, happy birthday for tomorrow. You've got married and pgt in a year? You dont waste your time, do you?

I'm having problems with food. I love it so much, it runs my life however I've gone off so many things recently its a nightmare trying to decide what I want to eat. Now that really does take up most of my day...ha ha

Ah, yes. Good luck all you scan people. And HAPPY BIRTHDAY, Trib.

May be your last non-mum birthday. But, you have an extra one now -- Mothering Sunday. Don't let him get away with forgetting it.... EVER.

DD was born a week before mother's day, and we went to visit his mum on the day. when I later moaned that he had forgotten me on mother's day, he replied "Uh, your not my mother"

I almost killed him that day. Mother's Day last year was a SLIGHT improvement. I haven't got my hopes up much for this year.

Oh yeah, and I had dd by caesarean and his mum is a 2 1/2 hour drive away.

Ok, rant over.

In his defense, my DH ALWAYS buys flowers, remembers birthdays, goes way out of his way for every possibly holiday/celebration. So, I guess they need a bit of training on why they need to worship us on mother's day.

when is mothers day?

I think it's March the 6th.