Due Jue 2005, Thread 5

[LipstickMum]

Katz, thanks for your email. I have replied but also said I would post on here my suggestion for luch tomorrow. Basically all I suggested was that at lunch we give our doatios to someone, and they send off 1 cheque to Katz, makes it a bit simpler. I'm happy to send a cheque.

The belly has landed!! OMG - I actually look H-U-G-E!!! Don't know why or where it has come from (A bowl of porridge every morning has probably helped!) To cap it off I feel like I could sleep for a week - we must be on a growing spurt!

Good morning all,

Scraggy - about time too - I'm sure your bump was non existant on saturday!

Mrs F / Pink good luck for your scans today.

Choccy craving here too - massive chocky craving so maybe you've got a girl too Mrs W!

Better go - busy work day today, hope you all have a good day...and not too much chatting - it'll take me ages to catch up, he he he!

Hehe Scraggy, sometimes you wonder how that baby can appear to grow so much in the space of a few days. It really is remarkable.

Quick survey: DId all of your dp's/dh's go with you to the 20 week scan? I reminded dp last night that it is a week on Friday in the morning and he completely freaked out because he forgot about it When I say 'forgot' he has an awful on his plate with work and relies on me to tell him what to do when. I had been telling him, but somehow it hadn't registered. Anyway, it's too late for him to cancel appts and he also has another obligation that day which he has already re-arranged because he is on holiday (at home with us, not galavanting on his own!) this week.

This means I shall have to go on my own, can't even take dd. I considered taking a friend, but tbh, it wont be the same, I'd rather be on my own. Am considering re-scheduling if I can, but I know they are really busy and this is unlikely to be possible.

He's really that he fucked up and feels like he's missing out on something really important.

Might go and phone now...

Oh yeah Lippy phone and see if you could get a cancellation for this week, it would be a shame for him to miss out especially as he'd really like to go.

I'd try and rearrange too if possible Lippy. My DH didn't come with me to my 14 wk scan, I took my sister with me and it felt very odd doing it without him (even though I'd had three scans already by that point). In fact I'm going to ring my DH now and remind him ours is next week as he's bound to have forgotten.

Good luck MrsF. And Pink too, sorry I didn't realise yours was today as well.

Hi Lippy,

dh will certainly be going to my 20 week scan but then we are both 'resting' just now so he has no work commitments. He would certainly forget what day it was on if I didn't remind him though - yesterday he was booking a taxi to take us into town for my birthday meal and he tried to book it for today. It was only when the woman on the phone said "so, the 26th" that he realised he was booking for the wrong day. I asked him if he could remember what day we got married on (last November!) - he couldn't even get the right month. Dear oh dear. Admittedly this kind of confusion is part of his illness (he has fibromyalgia) but even so - bloody irritating at times!

Anyway, I hope you can rearrange the appointment. I would definitely not want to go without dh.

My question for the experienced mums today is this: I've been given ANOTHER of those 'baby diary' things which you're meant to fill in over the course of the baby's first year. This one is quite amusing, I have to say, as it's called "Baby: Owner's Maintenance Log" and is in the style of a car maintenance log, service history section for trips to the doctor, etc. (The other one from the MIL is a Flower Fairies one I might try and lose when we move house ). Anyway. The question is, does anyone really have time to fill one of these things in? Surely anything very important about the baby's first year I shall remember, and we'll have millions of pictures and vid clips as well.

I'd reschedule. If was being a selfish jerk and didn't care about the scan, I'd be furious with him and go alone. But, as he does sound to be genuinely upset and he really would have trouble rearranging, I think the hospital can accommodate. They have to. I have a person deep rooted grip with the NHS about these things. Their service is NOT free. Your dp pays for it every month in his NI contributions. (as did yours when you were bringing home a paycheck). So, I think it's your right to ask them to accommodate. It might mean you wait a couple of weeks. But, I don't think that matters so much with the anomoly scan. With the nuchal, you have a small time fram where the scan is valid. But as far as I know, there's a much wider range for the anomoly scan.

My dh went with me. He took the day off, and was rather disappointed with me for going back to work (which I had to do because I have used ALL of my holiday).

I phoned up and changed it, I was pretty lucky, those appts are booked weeks in advance, I had mine sent to me back in October! Now I just have to wait even longer!! It's Wed 9th now. The woman wanted to know if I would still be under 21 weeks, which I will be, just. It seems weird, some of you have had scans at 22 weeks ..? I don't understnad the system at all!!

I am feeling little 'Jamelia' moving all the time, so that is comfort while I wait.

By the way, if it's a girl she will not be called Jamelia, dp 'christened' her that a while ago hoping she might become a pop star... don't ask !!

I think the diaries are nice actually. There are definitely things you will forget, like date of sitting up, first steps, first word, etc. I think the real purpose of these books is that one day dd/ds can look back at what mummy had to say in their firs year. Although, I think that if you do it for one, you have to be bound and determined to do it for subsequent syblings as well.

Charley, Re yesterday's sushi thread, do you by any chance fancy some non-raw sushi this evening. I have a babysitter booked and nothing that I actually have to do now. Rather than cancel her at the last minute (which I regard as rude so don't want to do), I thought I'd just go find something to do. Was thinking about sushi. There's a place in Kingston. I work in LEatherhead so Weybridge is pretty much on my way. I could pick you up on the way, and then take you home of course.

Sorry everyone for posting this message that is really only relevant to Charley (unless anyone else happens to be near Kingston Upon Thames this eveining and would like to join for sushi), but Charley has blocked CATs so I have to post here.

I think the diaries are really nice too. The kind of thing you have to keep on top of otherwise things become a bit hazy, and it's amazing how quickly they do in the first year! When friends ask my advice about when I did this, when I stopped that with dd, I have a hard time remembering!

I'm so glad I changed the appt. Thought I was being a bit daft, but it would have terrible if he hadn't been there. He was so happy I changed it

I didn't think it mattered that much about the timing of the anomoly scan either Uwila, but the booking lady suggested it needed to be under 21 weeks (in Oxfordshire at least). As I said before; it seems to really vary from region to region, I can barely keep up!

I'm going to my mum's today and will meet up with my sister and her 2 girls (almost 3 and 7 weeks). I'll be able to pick up a huge swag of my old and sis's maternity clothes that she is finished with - hurrah!

God, this time next week I shall be 32 and entirely sober

~eavesdropping~ What I wouldn't do for some proper raw fish Sushi has to be my all time favourite food, preferrably at 'itsu' in London, washed down with some warm sake...

Perhaps we need to arrange a post pregnancy sushi/beer/wine/saki girlie evening in London after the babies arrive. This, incidentally, is my post pregnancy ritual. Lots of women go out and get drunk. I add sushi to the plan. Do we have enough interest? Lippy? Charley? Anyone else?

I am definitely up for any melt-in-the-mouth raw tuna and drunkeness. Will have to make sure baby 2 takes expressed milk from the bottle, unlike dd who never did

Right, I am off for the day don't talk too much !!!

See you all later

Tribpot definitely agree with Uwila and Lippy...you think you won't forget such momentous occassions but it's amazing what a crap post preggie brain can no longer retain, he he he...I've got a great 'funny' one for ds and hope to find similar for this one too, but I must admit I often filled in things a little after they happened , still ds will never know!

Uwila...you're entitled to have antenatal appointments and not take them as holiday/annual leave...so make sure in future that you get any appointments gratis and not deducted out of your holidays!! Depending on your employer you may even be able to claim back any you've used so far.

Hi everyone - not read any messages yet, sorry. I just need to ask if anyone knows anything about calcium oxalate crystals ++ in urine - just got my urine results back from last week and I'm ever so slightly freaking..... can't find anything really on the net (apart from they are the major component in kidney stones) and need to know what the significance is of these in pregnancy!

Can't get through to the midwife - I'll keep trying..

I think I was probably opposed to the whole baby diary thing cos it came from the MIL She is driving me round the bloody bend already, all her comments about babies are directly solely to me, as if dh isn't going to be at home full-time as well.

I guess we'd better get used to it though - I think stay-at-home dads are still sufficiently unusual in this country that we'll get quite a few comments about it. No-one would bat an eyelid in Sweden!

Charley, skip the midwife. Ring NHS direct. They are much more knowledgable on this stuff. How do youknow you have crystals in your urine... did it come back on a routine test from the midwife?

And, READ the bloody thread. I need a response about sushi TONIGHT.

Charley, hopefully you got a definite answer by now on your quest... But I think it indicates what you already know which is the possibility of kidney stones. Sometimes that can also explain the reocurrence of an UTI. My guess is that it has nothing to worry for your bump. But it is something that you want to chase for your well-being.

Hi all again

Sorry for the hysteria in my ealier post I managed to get through to the midwife eventually but she just said if I didn't get a letter in with the results then not to worry and if the "culture growth" bit was negative (which it is) I've not got an infection and that's all that mattered. You're right though LUa, it's just not satisfactory for me though, I need to know exactly why I have this stuff. Uwila - I'll call NHS direct now, thanks for reminding me.

Uwila - thanks so much for thinking of me, but can't, I promised dp I'd cook tonight (for once). He's been getting to that stage with me where he's been getting really pee'd off with me for never having ANYTHING to eat in the house when he gets in late from working all day and having to go out again to the local Tescos. Domestic I am NOT (yet anyway, hanging on to being irresponsible til the bitter end - ie June )

Last night he put his foot down and told me to sort it out (as he does occasionally) so tonight I'm doing a nice organic steak thingy so that should shut him for a few weeks He really appreciates it when I actually do cook. Got him well trained in that dept! But I know not to push it too far...

DEFO up for sushi/beer/wine/saki session to celebrate babies!! Anyone on here not had sushi, you've GOT to come too you'll be ADDICTED!

I don't know what the deal is with my CAT being blocked, I keep unblocking it, but my comp's not been the same since dp messed it up last week and the cookies don't work. He's taking it to his boffin friend tomorrow to sort out (so I won't be on line most of the day AARGH! )

Well done Lippy for getting rearranged "Jamelia", so dp has musical pretentions on the sly then? As you know, our pre-person is currently "Podrick" which I'm making the most of because I'm upset that I won't be using that name now for him (if it's a him) and it is my favourite ever name in the world (and partly made up by me!). I LOVE Itsu. I worked in the original one in South Ken for a while you know when it very first opened and was called Tsu! Mmm Sake - slips down a bit too well doesn't it?

Yes about time Scraggs! next time we meet I bet you'll be bigger than me!!

Charley, everyone is bigger than you... except maybe Posh Beckham. And she looks like an ape, so you have nothing to worry about.

Hi Ladies - just wanted to say a big thank you for everything you have done for Sweetheart.

I hadnt realised the significance of the different foods and whether they point to boy or girl, although i do have a thing for clementines and oranges and i know that i am having a little boy - so i guess it does work!!

Good luck with your pregnancies and especially enjoy having the whole summer off of work to spend with your little bundles of joy!!

Take care of yourselves
Aprilmeadow x

Uwila! I wish - LI've got a feeling my lean lithe days are over for good. It was all a big con anyway - I've always been a bit "soft" round the middle, just kept my eating in check so I wouldn't have to excerise too much

I used to be 10 stone

Sorry Aprilmeadow - our posts crossed.

Thank YOU for mediating. Good luck with your boy, love to Sweetheart xxx