Due in Fab Feb 2009

[Davidsmom]

Hi

Couldn't see a Feb thread so thought I would start one as am so excited to get a faint but definately positive HPT.

Fertility friend estimates a due date of 4th Feb.

Unfortunately (or fortunately)am off this afternoon for a hen weekend in Barcelona the first holiday in at least a year and a half and can't drink. Ohh well will have to be the responsible adult..... Hence checking to see if up the duff before I went drowning myself in Sangria.

Hope to see some others on here when I get back!!! If anyone cares to join me?

Hi Guys,

I was recommended to have an elective ceasarean which I absolutely hated. I would like to explore having a VBAC if I get that far with this one.

However have of course heard horrific tales of problems with natural births

Homebirths sound great. I would have done anything to have slept in my own bed after having the section- instead I got a busy ward and a fire alarm that went off at 2am for 3 hours that night. Someone burnt the toast!

Hi Jenandbean,

I am the same (v tired) although DS not a toddler he is an olympic standard crawler and is into everything which doesnt help.

Have gone off food a bit and retched after a coughing fit yesterday but still dont really feel pregnant.

Going back to work tomorow after 12 months mat leave so glad not to feel too rotten. But....if few symptoms is everything OK???.....

Hi all and congratulations to Newb, Knax, MissMitford, ruthmollymummy, idontbelieveit, Ewemoo, hopingforasecond and goodtiming. Hope I've not missed anyone. There are so many of us now!

This is going to be a long post, so sorry. I?ve been catching up on what you?ve all been saying and I have a lot of comments about IM, doulas, VBAC and HBAC especially. I hope you will all forgive me for being so opinionated!

ruthmollymummy ? we can?t afford an IM (but would so have one if we could afford it) but we are going for a doula AND I?m having a home birth (of course, that depends on it all going well from here on in) as I don?t want a repeat of last time!

And hopingforasecond, I know what you mean about baggage from last time ? we had the unnecessary induction that caused the cascade of intervention which in my ignorance I went along with, leading to equally unnecessary and ineffective ARM and finally EMCS! And after that totally lack of continuity of care, with over-worked midwives often taking an hour to get to me and DS.

If I had done the research then there is no way I would have trusted the ?professionals? who, after all, work to policies and time frames and out of date charts about size etc.

Davidsmom and idontbelieveit ? Have you joined the yahoo VBAC/HBAC group yet? And idontbelieveit you really need to, so you can get that daft ?they wont let me? idea out of your head. It is your baby, your body and you can do what you want. Professionals are there ONLY to advise and you are of sound mind, healthy and you can refuse any treatment they suggest!!!

Sorry to be a doom monger, and I am no hippy mum, but I can now say I really do think that over-institutionalisation of birth has made women doubt their own instincts!! And ChocolateEclair, I totally agree that hospitals cause fear and are not conducive for having a baby!

On a ?symptoms? note I am also getting tender boobs in the evening, and they actually feel like my milk?s coming in. I know it?s not, but that?s about the only sensation I can liken it to! And I feel like my belly is bigger already too. Surely it can?t be, this soon!?!?

Just want to pass on, FYI, my fave websites:

Association for Improvements in the Maternity Services (AIMS) (The best pieces are the ?website article links?. This is my fave site for info and it has a brilliant piece on NHS Home Birth Bullying)

Doula (All about mothering the mother)

Homebirth (It has a really good bit on ?You can't have a home birth, because....? which covers all the ?high risk? scenarios and gives you honest and forthright information about the risks)

Radical Midwives(Good for reading real life stories)

Remember you don?t have to argue your case. Save your energy for the pg and other DC. I?m going to say something like ?Thank you for your advice, but I?m sticking to my decision? if I come across any problems. Am seeing the Dr tomorrow, so will let you know how it goes!

morning well I fell asleep at 7.30pm and I am now wide awake - not great when I have 3 to deal with tomorrow anyway - glad everyone is well and hope to manage to be around when everyone else is awake!!!

Ah Monday, gotta love the early morning "how do I make myself look presentable for work when feeling a jetlag / hangover combo". Still a bit nauseous, with a few little tuggy kind of cramps. Went swimming yesterday and been drinking lots of water / eating veg. Spot the "keen to follow the textbook" first timer

I'm looking forward to learning from the wisdom of all those of you who've been there, done that before. Reading your posts about birth with interest. Here it's pretty all hospitals. Idea of giving birth pretty terrifying. Hmmmm I'll give myself a few weeks before I try to think about that part of it!

Wishing you all a good Monday.....

I'm feeling a bit down today I'm 5w+4 and I seem to be losing symptoms. This happened last time I was pg, and resulted in a miscarriage at 6w+6. I'm tempted to book a private viability scan, but won't be going back to where I had it done last time. The sonographer/consultant was really quite blunt and rude when she came to tell me what I could already see on the screen, that there was no foetus in the sac. I'm sure she does plenty of scans like that all the time, but there was no tone of sympathy in her voice. She could at least have prefaced the news with "I'm sorry..." or something. But no, she just came out and said it all very coldly.

It's taken two and a half years to get here, and I'm 41, so time is running out, and I was really hoping that this one would make it, but I'm beginning to feel it might not.

I'm so sorry nonickname, I don't know if it's any consolation but I don't feel like I have any symptoms this time around. If booking a scan would put your mind at ease then it would be a positive thing, you are completely justified in your concern. But I agree - don't go back to that place!

Hi everyone,

Have been lurking on this thread for a week or so - I had a BFP last week and according to BabyCentre my due date is 7 Feb so have added myself to the list:

IHaveaSecretLittleSmile DC2 due 21/2/09 or 25/2/09
florrieandme DC2 due 26/1/09
goodtiming DC4 due 30/01/09
NoNickname DC2 due 29/1/09 or 2/2/09
Davidsmom due DC2 around 4/2/09
jenandbean DC2 due 2/2/09
ChocolateEclair DC1 due 1/2/09 (??)
MissDelighted DC1 due 5/2/09
MamaGoose DC3 due 3/2/09
Newb DC1 due 6/2/09
Knax DC2 due 4/2/09
MissMitford due 31/1/09
ruthmollymummy due 2/2/09
idontbelieveit DC2 due 5/2/09
Ewemoo 10/2/09
Hopingforasecond DC2 due second week of Feb 2009
Guitargirl DC2 due 7/2/09

NoNickname - sorry to hear that you're worried. I have also been a bit concerned as almost no symptoms at all compared to last time. I am hoping that it's because I am too busy running around after DD to think too much about how am feeling whereas last time I used to flake out as soon as I got home from work...

Thanks for the info IHaveaSecret, i know you're right about refusing treatment etc but it never feels so simple when they're telling you that a certain course of action is best, even if you know they're wrong, the doula idea is a good one though, will definitely think about that.

NoNickname, fingers crossed for you, my symptoms come and go, i've had some days where i've not felt pregnant at all. Sorry you had such a horrible time with the consultant, could you go to your local EPU and get a scan there? Thinking of you.

Hello,

Can I join..I have just found out I am expecting DC#2 on 25th Jan. I was due in late Jan last time and actually had DS1 on the 14th Feb 2007.. so feel that this may be history repeating itself a little! Also, the Jan thread seems very established.. I hope you don't mind.

I am a very long time lurker, having lurked though my first pregnancy, through breast feeding/weaning issues..right to back to work and so promised myself I will join in this time..

Don't feel very pg at all... yet

Sorry to hear you feel bad NoNickname. Def go for that scan though! Somewhere else, and ask for someone sympathetic!

IHaveaSecretLittleSmile DC2 due 21/1/09 or 25/1/09
nkweto DC2 due 25/1/09
florrieandme DC2 due 26/1/09
NoNickname DC2 due 29/1/09
goodtiming DC4 due 30/01/09
Davidsmom due DC2 around 4/2/09
jenandbean DC2 due 2/2/09
ChocolateEclair DC1 due 1/2/09 (??)
MissDelighted DC1 due 5/2/09
MamaGoose DC3 due 3/2/09
Newb DC1 due 6/2/09
Knax DC2 due 4/2/09
MissMitford due 31/1/09
ruthmollymummy due 2/2/09
idontbelieveit DC2 due 5/2/09
Ewemoo 10/2/09
Hopingforasecond DC2 due second week of Feb 2009
Guitargirl DC2 due 7/2/09

Welcome nkweto - I've added you to the list. (Also changed your date IHASLS - you were down as 21st or 25th Feb - but surely it's Jan??)

I've booked a viability scan for Friday, when I'll be 6w+1. I'm trying not to feel too despondent, but it really does feel like before. At least I'll know one way or the other by the end of the week. It's not at the same place as before (where the consultant was unsympathetic) and I've warned them I'm feeling fragile about it!

Yep, you're right, it's Jan!

Hope all goes well at the viability scan!

Thank you NoNickname, I hope everything goes well for you.

Saw Dr today, and she put on my booking form that I 'hope' for a homebirth, but that it might not be 'feasible'. She talked about 'trial of scar' (oh how I hate that phrase as it suggests I am set up to fail from the start) and how aspects of my obstetric history were 'stacking up against me'. Grrr! Long way to go yet. Next step is the midwife booking-in and dating scan. I also apparently have to have an obstetrician review!

IHASLS - sounds like our birth experiences were really similar, I bet I get the same response to homebirth at my appointment next Monday.
How old is your first dc? My dd is 2 on thursday.

Nonickname, good luck with the scan on friday, hope it is still there.

Welcome nkweto and congratulations!

welcome nkweto and guitar girl, please do join in!
Got my GP appointment on Wednesday morning, I think I may not even mention homebirth!
If you'll indulge me I'll tell you my story quickly - then I can bang on about it later and you'll know what I'm on about!
My dd is 9mo and my blood type is rhesus negative, so when I went to get my anti-D injection they found that I had already had a cross of blood between baby and I and I had started making antibodies which were breaking down her red blood cells. So pretty stressful but it all worked out alright - pretty crappy early induced birth which ended in a forceps delivery - but anywhoo!! got some extra appointments with my specialist from last time to check it wont happen again. I will be letting you all know!

congrats to the newbies....no need to lurk. I think we are all feeling pretty fragile and a tad worried at the moment...I know I am. I thought I had started with the morning sickness but it seems to have faded a bit. I confess I did another pg test to make sure and it was really strong so I guess I still am although don't feel it really. It sounds like a few of us feel that way which is quite reassuring to me.

Nonickname...sorry you are thinking the worst, try to stay positive til your scan. Thinking good vibes for you.

I went back to work today after half term and told my boss, who was lovely and said he would look into all the maternity stuff etc for me (felt quite tearful and happy all at the same time!)

I have bought a doppler off ebay to listen to the heartbeat which hopefully might be soon! (I too am going to be a first timer going by the book LOL!).....having a very healthy salmon dinner with roast veg!

I have a GP appointment tomorrow. I called the surgery this morning just to ask about the procedure there for booking in as we've moved house since having DD and I know they do it differently in different surgeries and she gave me an appointment for tomorrow. I was a bit surprised as it's still so early but I guess all GP will do is refer me to midwife and the antenatal clinic anyway.

DD (17 months) was born by emergency c-section following a failed induction and long, difficult labour. Would hate to be induced again but I guess that's still so far away. Got to get to 12-wk scan first!

Hi and congrats to Nkweto and Guitargirl- although have already congratulated you on your conception thread Guitargirl-Glad to see you made it over.

No nickname-Sorry to hear that your symptoms have gone I hope the scan shows things are going well. Know it doesnt really help you but thinking of you anyway

I have been a bit worried the last few days as my sicky feeling has gone, havent had any cramps and am marginally less tired. Although seem to remember that I found out about DS when around 6 weeks then didnt start MS feeling until later. Now 5wks+3 I think.
I had first day back at work in over 12 months and was a bit disappointed to feel I hadnt even been away by the end of the day. Have been quite worried as away for so long. Havent told work about possibility of another mat leave yet. Dont think that will go down well.

PS also tested again today- still +ve

Hi Nkweto and Guitargirl

idontbelieveit, my DS was 2 in April. A lot of similarities. I really think I am so much better informed this time! My advice for newbies is to make yourself informed and don't automatically think the professionals have your best interests at heart!

Take care all.

Thanks for all the welcomes, I have a question immediately. For all of those with toddlers already, is it ok to keep picking them up? DS1 likes being picked up a lot.. is this a problem ?

Don't see why not - so long as you feel fine doing so! I think you know in yourself when too much is too much! IMO!