Due in Fab Feb 2009

[Davidsmom]

Hi

Couldn't see a Feb thread so thought I would start one as am so excited to get a faint but definately positive HPT.

Fertility friend estimates a due date of 4th Feb.

Unfortunately (or fortunately)am off this afternoon for a hen weekend in Barcelona the first holiday in at least a year and a half and can't drink. Ohh well will have to be the responsible adult..... Hence checking to see if up the duff before I went drowning myself in Sangria.

Hope to see some others on here when I get back!!! If anyone cares to join me?

Also - question...when do I need to go to the doctor by? I live abroad so waiting til my friend (with young baby therefore knowledge.....) gets back from holiday next week so she can recommend a good english-speaking one (you choose your own here....)

Am slowly realising how little I know about all this

Hi Guys,

{{feeling rather green and knackered emoticom}} despite DS sleeping through to a recored 5am

Congrats Ruthmollymummy and welcome.

Newb- I just turned up at the GP around 6 weeks last time and they just got on with all the booking in etc. This time I asked a midwife who recommended seeing them first at 8 weeks. But I think it varies from area to area let alone another country and of course if any problems etc. Where do you live? {{nosy but not offended if Newb doesnt want to reveal whereabouts emoticom}}

PS also have that non specific crap jetlag feeling

Hi got a bfp on Wednesday after having a mc in February. Obviously scared but trying just to go with it and see what happens. What annoys me this time is that the close family that we've told haven't congratulated me at all. I know they don't want to jinx it but it feels like no-one believes it will result in a baby this time either. I can't wait to get to 12 weeks as I didn't manage it last time. My edd is 10.02.09 which is 2 days before my birthday (also my brother's birthday!) Please add me to the list

IHaveaSecretLittleSmile DC2 due 21/2/09 or 25/2/09
florrieandme DC2 due 26/1/09
goodtiming DC4 due 30/01/09
NoNickname DC2 due 29/1/09 or 2/2/09
Davidsmom due DC2 around 4/2/09
jenandbean DC2 due 2/2/09
ChocolateEclair DC1 due 1/2/09 (??)
MissDelighted DC1 due 5/2/09
MamaGoose DC3 due 3/2/09
Newb DC1 due 6/2/09
Knax DC2 due 4/2/09
MissMitford due 31/1/09
ruthmollymummy due 2/2/09
idontbelieveit DC2 due 5/2/09
Ewemoo 10/2/09

Welcome Ewemoo. Is this your first?

Please add me to the list too!

due second week of February.

Yay!

(actually, I was absolutely sure I was pregnant within 48 hours of conception - I had no idea my womb would expand so fast this time around. Guess I haven't being doing my abdominal crunches since being pregnant last time... anyway, that, and the digestion changes were absolutely unmistakeable. Positive test yesterday morning, so now it's official... I can't bear this bit where I can't tell anyone IRL!!!)

Davidsmom, I'm in Switzerland - Zurich. How about everyone else?

It really is true that second time around you get bigger quicker! not even 5weeks and I can't button up my bum-huggers (because they are also belly huggers!!
I hope everyone is enjoying sunshine like I am up in sunny Scotland.
When do you all start telling everyone in RL that you're preggers? (the postman, the neighbour's visitors, the woman behind the counter in boots...)

Congratulations Ewemoo and Hoping for a second.

Sorry to hear about your loss last time Ewemoo- fingers crossed everything goes to plan for you this time. Perhaps your family are not sure what to say, sometimes its easier to say very little in the way of comments/congrats rather than "say the wrong thing". Sorry not sure if that makes any sense....

Ruthmollymummy- I was beginning to think it was my imagination that I was finding my jeans a bit tight round the waist- they really arent that tight and couldnt believe I could be getting big already. I was wearing my normal (admittedly "fat day" clothes) until about 5 months last time. I did lose over 1/2 a stone over the first trimester though as I couldnt face food- Not sure that is going to happen this time.

Newb- Zurich is very nice- my DH used to work there sometimes when I met him and I visited on a romantic weekend.

I live in the North West of England.

congrats newb & hopingforasecond

I miscarried on new years eve it was a suprise pregnancy and the gap would have been much to close for my liking

three under two - we must be mad!!!!!!!!

yes my trousers are getting tight and my boobs growing, I hate hiding but we don't tell till 12 weeks (superstisious (sp?)

at least when I am closer to 12 weeks I can come out of hiding here too and goodtiming can leave the building

5 weeks & 2 days (and counting)

Oooh Goodtiming are you in disguise on this thread??

NoNickname - no this will be my 2nd child. I have a dd who will be 4 next month.
Davidsmom - you're probably right about the family but I just want to be treated normally not like a freak who loses babies. I'm still struggling to deal with the way my mother especially dealt with the mc. In other words she just tried to ignore the fact it was happening and took every opportunity to tell me how well my sil's pregnancy was going.

Oh Ewemoo thats awful of your mother when you have gone through/ are going through so much. I hope you have someone in RL you can talk to and give you support.

{virtual hugs if you do that sort of thing}

yes davidsmom I am not hiding from you lot, who I hope we will all share this fantastic journey together {how soppy am I}

but I think I am being watched by someone in rl and this is something we need/want to keep under wraps for a while .

My goodness it all sounds interesting but probably not in a good way for you though. You can do a "big reveal" at 12 weeks then

This time I told my mum who promptly told my Dad despite my "dont tel anyone instructions" then my brother visited and we had issues before by accidently keeping the news of DS from SIL so have told them too. I went on a hen weekend last week so told them all- v difficult to say nothing and had just tested that morning so vvvvvv excited, some were doctors so wouldnt have accepted the "on antibiotics" excuse... Oh and of course several other random people

Know I shouldnt as old eggs/ MC potential etc but it just keeps slipping out.

This morning is a panicky morning for me! You know that swing from giddy delight to blind panic! well I'm at the latter at the mo.

I wondered if anyone has considered hiring an independent midwife? I'm thinking about it, I'm just wondering if its worth the money it costs though! cos I don't have a spare 2,500!

I'm panicking a bit too here, as I really don't have many syptoms, apart from a slight tiredness. Last time around, I was fast asleep on the sofa every night by 9.

I was thinking of something similar RMM. Not an independent midwife, as I don't think I should have a home birth (haemmorrhaged badly lst time), but there's a Birth Centre not too far away from me in Tooting that's attached to a hospital. It's a private midwifery team, with full ante-natal care, but when it comes to the birth, if you need something more medical, then you can go into the hospital rather than give birth in the centre. The prices vary from about £8k for a booking-in from now, to about £3k in the final month or so.

It seems the thing we women do best is worry! Maybe you'll just have a delightful pregnancy!! I was throwing up every day last time and have nothing more than a faint tiredness and slight nausea when I have an empty stomach.

I think that even if you want a hospital birth that your independent midwife would accompany you to the hospital as a birthing partner type person.

Now, what else can I worry about.... I was supposed to be going back to uni to do my honors year in september...haha....

Yes, I'm considering independent midwives this time round. It's all a bit soon though - haven't decided whether to go independent from the word go, or whether to use the NHS antenatal care and then go independent for the actual birth.

Much baggage here from last time - unnecessary and incompetent induction caused by midwives starting their intervention clock after my head waters had gone (but not the main part of the sac), so there was a misdiagnosis there.

And then, after the whole taken into hospital thing, I don't even know how many midwives I had looking after me - 3 maybe? so there was no continuity of care.

And I was given syntometrin, despite having clearly stated in person and in writing that I wanted a natural third stage and - surprise! - retained the placenta, so ended up wheeled into theatre on a full spinal block to have the placenta medically removed.

Oh, and it was a posterior labour, so it was seriously intense and long...

So yes, I'm thinking of going independent on the assumption that they would follow my wishes unless medically dangerous rather than putting me on the whole hospital script.

Also not sure where to birth. What does one do with the older child if birthing at home? I'd hate to scare them with blood and primordial grunting...

i too had an awful time last time, failed induction at 40+15 which ended in emergency section after 3 days in the delivery room....awful awful. No way I can afford an independent midwife though. Am definitely hoping for VBAC....keep your fingers crossed for me!

hopingforasecond you can add yourself to the list by copying and pasting it and adding yourself at the bottom

hi ladies - there are so many of us now! WOW!

Just got back from my camping trip. It went very well and I was careful not to exert myself too much putting up the tent etc!

Welcome to all the new ladies and congratulations (esp Knax - we are off the same ttc thread!)

I was thinking about maybe having a homebirth actually, due to extreme fear of hospitals rather than labour, what do you think??? Can't afford to pay for private care even though would love to.

Good luck for the wedding btw.....that's a very exciting couple of weeks for you!

ewemoo - sorry about your MC last time. No point trying to say relax is there? as I'm sure that's what everyone says to you! Just remember there is a huge chance that everything will be fine!

My symptoms don't seem too bad at the moment. I had a 6 hour car journey so was worried about MS...only really bad when hungry! I am back to work tomorrow so will tell my boss in case I have to run out of classroom to throw up!

IHaveaSecretLittleSmile DC2 due 21/2/09 or 25/2/09
florrieandme DC2 due 26/1/09
goodtiming DC4 due 30/01/09
NoNickname DC2 due 29/1/09 or 2/2/09
Davidsmom due DC2 around 4/2/09
jenandbean DC2 due 2/2/09
ChocolateEclair DC1 due 1/2/09 (??)
MissDelighted DC1 due 5/2/09
MamaGoose DC3 due 3/2/09
Newb DC1 due 6/2/09
Knax DC2 due 4/2/09
MissMitford due 31/1/09
ruthmollymummy due 2/2/09
idontbelieveit DC2 due 5/2/09
Ewemoo 10/2/09
Hopingforasecond DC2 due second week of Feb 2009

Hey! I managed to update the list!!! [preens]

I really really really want a homebirth. I was hoping for one last time, but 24 hours after my waters had "broken" (i.e just the head waters), the midwives sent me into hospital. grump.

Next time, I'd know not to tell anyone that anything was happening until the contractions were really making me sit up and take notice.

Reasons I'd prefer homebirth: having my own things around me. And not being in a place full of sick people, since childbirth is not a sickness . And being at home helping me to take control of birthing my own child, where with the medics hovering I think it's really easy to subside into passivity. So I'm trying to short circuit that this time.

You have to be where you feel most comfortable and confident, to give your instincts the best possible chance to do their thing. For some people that'll be a hospital scenario and for others it'll be home (and I wish there was a birth centre near where I live, because I think that might be an ideal location for me!)

Hi everyone, there are loads of us now!
Thanks Choc, I was wondering where you'd got to!

knax x

i wanted a homebirth last time but it all went out of the window when i was 2 weeks overdue and had hardly any amniotic fluid left, when they broke my waters there was barely a trickle....would love one this time but i doubt very much they'll let me have one after the c section. Am thinking of just staying at home and making them come to me!

Still no symptoms except tiredness, totally different to last time. Maybe the sickness will kick in next week? Better enjoy it while it lasts i guess.

Hello to everyone.We are certainly growing...in more ways than one

Just back from a few days away so will try to get caught up quickly. Not many symptons for me yet apart from tiredness...although that is probably from running after a very active toddler. We have had really lovely weather over the weekend so dd1 very keen to show off her chubby legs in new shorts.

Had a work bbq this week and everyone else was making sure they didn't have to drive so they could enjoy a drink. I insisted on driving but I felt I might as well have stamped pregnant on my forehead. Still don't think many of them remember much from the night

Hope everyone is keeping well?
x