Due Dec 08: The Third Thread!!!!

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We completely filled the last thread so I have started a new one!!

I'll have to go get the list.

verso I'm currently training to be an antenatal teacher with the NCT & stories like yours make me really upset as I think everyone should get the chance of a class. They're currently putting in a new booking system and there have been loads of problems with people getting booked onto courses in the right area etc & women like you are just left to do it on their own.

All I can suggest is you email her back & say you requested a different time & location, also try the other person & if you still don't get a response, then either go to the branch Chair or try a different branch (if there is another one closer to you).

If you don't get booked onto one, then in terms of postnatal support see if they have any hosts to put groups together (something we have in our area if women haven't been able to get onto a course).

I can't remember whereabouts you live so don't know specifically what the local branch set up is. Sorry this post is so long & probably isn't any help at all but hopefully you've got a couple of ideas to work on.

Thanks, rosmerta. I am really quite upset as I don't want to be alone again postnatally . I've taken your advice and have emailed the branch chair as well. >fingers crossed<

(I think the Sutton, Epsom & district branch is my nearest btw.)

Ok, hope that works. I don't know that area but overally they're linking up branches together for classes which means that women could potentially end up in a class that's nowhere near them. They keep saying that its teething problems that you get with any new system but a few of us aren't so sure.

Am really stressing about this . Really scared I'm going to end up completely alone again, trying to deal with recovery. Sorry - am not normally this much of a wuss but the whole thing was so horrible last time. I thought I was doing the right thing trying to get into classes but it seems it's just not possible . Have sent about five emails so let's hope one does the trick .

I wish I knew someone in the branch I could contact as well . One of those emails should help, and you are contacting them as early as you can really so you should get on a course.

Verso that is the branch I was involved with when I had my DS (have since moved to the West Country) and I had a few problems getting booked onto a course back then as well (3 years ago!). Don't panic though, you've still got plenty of time. I know that they ask you to book early, but I only rang when I was six months gone and still managed to get on one, so it will be ok. They often put on extra courses if they are oversubscribed anyway. Good luck.

Hi everyone,

Just wanted to leave a message for Becky

Am so so sorry to hear your news. If you want to talk me, charliesmum and Nandos are on the miscarriage threads under 'am so sad and miserable...' Please dont think that we are being depressing- I have found the support from the other guys extremely valuable, especially in the early days. Please dont feel like you are alone- you are not and sometimes just to know others are going through it and can support you is a big help.

take care xxxxx

Verso: I missed on the NCT classes as well, as they are hugely oversubscribed in my area. There was a postnatal NCT coffee group that was great (and free!) and tbh I found that more helpful for meeting people after the birth. I also would have felt a bit uncomfortable at NCT classes as my husband was steadfastly refusing to come anywhere near them

would agree that the hospital ones are pretty crap.

Actually, I found my antenatal group on MN most helpful for people going through exactly the same - and they were there 24 hours . Am still in touch with a few nearly 2 years later.

Mummy2Olivia, that was so thoughtful of you. How are you feeling? I am glad you have found support on your thread and I hope that you get good news again soon.

Verso - round here, you sign up for NCT pretty much as soon as you have the post coital cigarette. I haven't done NCT with either of my two, though they do have tea groups here which you can go to as a post natal mum and meet people that way. Somehow I never quite got myself together for that though.

With DD1, I went to a few baby groups and made some mates that way. Still had a lot of those friends with DD2 of course. With DD2, I got chatting to people in the park, in the cafe, on the steps at nursery and just asked boldly if they fancied coffee and got phone numbers . That must make me sound a bit stalker ish but I promise you it was natural in context. I also went to a meet up for my PN thread and made a really good friend whom I see regularly. Having the reassurance of people reading this daily is also good. So don't worry - we will look after you.

Am feeling strangely better again today. Hope everyone else is on fine form too.

Mummy2Olivia, that was so thoughtful of you. How are you feeling? I am glad you have found support on your thread and I hope that you get good news again soon.

Verso - round here, you sign up for NCT pretty much as soon as you have the post coital cigarette. I haven't done NCT with either of my two, though they do have tea groups here which you can go to as a post natal mum and meet people that way. Somehow I never quite got myself together for that though.

With DD1, I went to a few baby groups and made some mates that way. Still had a lot of those friends with DD2 of course. With DD2, I got chatting to people in the park, in the cafe, on the steps at nursery and just asked boldly if they fancied coffee and got phone numbers . That must make me sound a bit stalker ish but I promise you it was natural in context. I also went to a meet up for my PN thread and made a really good friend whom I see regularly. Having the reassurance of people reading this daily is also good. So don't worry - we will look after you.

Am feeling strangely better again today. Hope everyone else is on fine form too.

Also Verso, if you have an elective section it is SO different from anything else. I had a long and difficult time with DD1 (though nowhere near as traumatic as yours, you poor love) and felt rather odd for a long time afterwards. With DD2, I wasn't tired as I hadn't been labouring for 36h, there was music playing, DD1 was well looked after and afterwards I felt fantastic. Sore of course, but completely ELATED and in love with my new baby. It put me in a much better mindset and I felt so much more in control than with DD1. It really does make a huge difference.

HTH.

Hi All

Sickness a bit better the last three days (touch wood). DH has taken DD to a christening this morning and I am having a lovely lazy morning reading the Observer and listening to the radio.

Verso - I hope you get onto an NCT antenatal class. Our local branch organises special meet-up groups for 2nd time mums. We also have a weekly "Bumps and Babies" NCT drop-in in our local church hall where I met loads of people when I had DD. On top of that I did weekly baby massage, baby swimming and baby yoga and met loads of people through all of them. What I am trying to say (in a long winded way!) is that even if you do not get on an ante-natal class there are loads of ways of meeting mums with babies of a similar age and thus building up a support network. Good luck!

Hello everyone, I'm just reading all your posts from the last couple of days. I miss you all already . I read mummy2olivia's message late last night and it bought tears to my eyes, she's so kind to think fo me. I've now posted on the thread she mentioned on the misscarriage link and I'm finding it very theraputic talking to everyone there. I'm pleased that you are all doing well . I hope you aren't feeling too sicky and yucky. Beckyxxx.

Hi becky, good the hear from you, I hope you starting to feel a bit better, my thoughts are with you

I still haven't found any Dime bars and the craving is getting worse. The nearest Ikea to me is over hour and half away and NOWHERE local sells them. I have tried loads of newsagents, supermarkets and shops and can't find any. This is getting serious I am contemplating throwing a hissy fit at DH if I don't get some soon. He is finding the whole 'dime bar situation' (as he calls it) hysterical.

Stop it! You're making me laugh. Dime bars??? I thought they stopped making those years ago. Do they sell them in Ikea then? We haven't got an Ikea near here otherwise I'd happily go and buy you some and post them!

Flumpy, I think my local shop sells Dime bars, but they're spelt Daim? Guess its just the European version. Would you like me to post you some?

Would you lot please stop!! I'm now REALLY wanting a dime bar!! DH and DD both not well so I'm stuck in taking care of them and can't go out to the shop!!! Not that I know where they sell them around here, but I would be willing to go hunting if I could!!!

DH just popped out so sent him to try and get my a dime bar

Hello everyone.
Becky I am so sorry to hear your news...I had a couple of miscarriages before DS1 and it is the most horrible thing in the world..my heart goes out to you...

Just to 'fess up ...I am Rosmertas coincidental RL friend!!! How weird is that! We were having a right laugh...I'd even wished her luck with her scan twice, once on here and once in RL!

I'm going for an early scan at the EPU on Tuesday. I don't think I should really be worrying as I am still so blimmin' sick. I went to a BBQ yesterday and managed 2 carrot sticks and a little bit of french bread..wahoo! They agreed to let me have one though due to previous missed miscarriage history so fingers crossed.

Thanks, everyone, for your kind words re the NCT debacle. You're all very sweet and I do indeed feel 'looked after'. chutneymary thanks so much for your reassurance re the c-section and afterwards. I really hope I can feel 'elated' this time round - it would be so nice to erase some of the awfulness with happy experiences!

On a completely different note - I can see I should have bought a pack of Dime bars at IKEA yesterday and sent mercy food parcels to you all!

Have been reading the thread but not posted for a while.

Becky so sorry to hear your news Hope you get the support you need.

Nothing much to report here, just v v tired. Seeing MW on tuesday for booking appt.

Becky I'm so sorry, please take care of yourself (& let other people take care of you too). After my miscarriage I felt like I'd been hit by a train for months afterwards.

I'm 9 weeks today - which is around when I started bleeding in the pregnancy I lost, although the baby hung on for another 6 weeks - I'm feeling really down. Feel very ill but I can't shake the feeling that it's all unreal (despite the scan) & isn't going to amount to a baby. I haven't told anyone irl so everyone thinks I'm just being a miserable cow sigh I don't like talking about the baby or being pregnant to dg because it just feels like I'm tempting fate.

I wish we'd waited later until we had the scan, I can't afford another private one but I'm so scared of missed miscarriage. Too soon to hear anything with the doppler (although I did try ) ... aargh

Minster: do you get a scan at 12 weeks? I don't think the worrying stops even then, I remember stressing before going for the 20 week scan in case something had gone massively wrong in between. It seems like ages till the baby starts moving which I find v reassuring (at least with DS who was constantly on the move)

Hello,

Sorry not been around much this weekend. I was out all day Saturday and then had to work yesterday as there was no one else to do it. I had an awful headache yesterday afternoon so spent the afternoon in bed.

The Dime bars I get are also spelt Diam but they are still the same thing.

I'm also craving those Caramac bars. Luckily they do still make them but they are rare to find. The newsagent here has them every now and again so I always buy a few. They must think I'm mad!!

Hope you are all ok.

Hi everyone,

Not posted for a day or two, have been struck down with same sickness bug DD had last week. Was awful as DH was working, and both lots of parents were away. I could hardly get out of bed (except to be sick) and DD was full of life. I shamefully admit that she watched CBeebies all day .

Anyway better now and the appetite seems to be back have already had four slices of thick toasted bread with lots of butter on - am now feeling like a Dime bar .

Hope everyone has a good Bank Holiday!