Due Dec 08: The Third Thread!!!!

[kayzisexpecting]

We completely filled the last thread so I have started a new one!!

I'll have to go get the list.

I'm very naive, I don't know what a fanjo is but I can guess!

Poor your DD, cc21. It's hard when they are poorly. I find it really hard when any of my DSs are unwell. I just want to take it away from them.

Makeup? I have heardly worn any since I had DS1. My sister, who is quite glam, would be shocked at the sight of my makeup bag. There are things in there at least ten years old. My makeup bag smells of moth balls.

Sorry your feeling sick, Turniphead.

My DH's Italian Nan rang me last night and she was so excited as she'd just head the news. She went 'ooooooh another baby! Oooooooh' down the phone really loud. She's a sweetie and she makes a mean lasagne.

have to say we have told no-one yet, but am only 8 weeks. Oh, apart from baby group friend I met in the park who is pg too . She's a bit ahead of me, but as her DD is a bit older than DS we'll have exactly the same age gap.

think we told people at about 10 weeks last time. Might wait till 12, not sure yet.

Hello everyone...being a bit sneaky mn-ing whilst at work...never get a chance at home!
Can't believe all this talk of alcohol....can't even wash DH glass up as it makes me gag! I'm sure it will all come back to me soon though and the desire for a chilled white wine will be overwhelming! Good luck with the scan Rosmerta...don't even have a date yet but assuming it will be mid June.
I've already got a right bump going on...just been cornered in the loos and not so delicately questioned about 'so, thinking about having another one soon then'!!!!

hi guys... i don't really post alot but am a regular lurker... have got my booking in appt with the midwife 10th june and then the scan on 18th june.
am abit worried. had to take heparin after birth of ds so am worried that will have to take again in this pregnancy. does anyone have any experience of this??

Just moving myself on the list as EDD has changed:

MrsMattie due 28/11 DC#2
badkitty due 01/12 DC#1
twinkle183 due 01/12 DC#3
pwcbird due 01/12/ DC#2
rosmerta due 02/12 DC#2
mibbes due 02/12 DC#1
RawChocolate due 02/12 DC#3
Flumpybumpy due 02/12 DC#3
theyoungvisiter due 03/12 DC#2
Modernlove due 03/12 DC#1
snowwombat due 03/12/07 DC#1
cc21 due 03/12/07 DC#2
goneundergroundtillfamilyknow due 04/12 DC#3
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phee96 due date 05/12 DC#1
pixsix due date 07/12 DC#1
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Nolda due 08/12 DC#2
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BeckyBendyLegs due 09/12 DC#3
ChutneyMary due 10/12 DC#3
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jenduck due 11/12 DC#1
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hotmama due 21/12/08 DC#3
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Missmama due 25/12 DC#3
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Anna dgtue 25/12 DC#1
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olipop due 27/12 DC#2
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minster due 28/12/08 DC#3
babblington due 29/12/08 DC#3
EffiePerine due 31/12/08 DC2
march29 due 31/12/08 DC#2

Have pretty much told everyone now, which is making me slightly nervous at 10+4, but sonographers and midwives are insistent that I don't need a 12 week scan so are obviously pretty confident that everything is ok, so I am going to make myself relax about it. Just can't wait for this 1st trimester to be over, when will I start to glow???

Hi everyone - lovely to see a new thread.

(At home so no emoticons!)

Having my roots done next week - I will be just over 10 weeks. I can't really wait until the 2nd trimester - I have loads of grey showing at my parting (I am 41 though - so what do I expect)

I have got a dropsided cot - used it for both my dd's until they were 4 months when they moved into their own rooms. I loved my cot - was great for feeding in the night - just dragged them over and pushed them back. My dsis is currently using it for ds2 - so in the last few years it has been used for 6 children (I let some friends borrow it as well).

Hope everyone is O.K. - hopefully we are getting out of the 'risky' time.

(big smile for everyone)

Marking a place and off to revise, not reading the eleventy million messages you lot have managed to clock up right now!

Got my dating scan on Tuesday Very exciting!

effie London meetup sounds great. End of June/beginning of July fine with me!

indith when are your exams? Good luck with the revision.

olipop although I'm missing wine the smell of alcohol does make me feel sick. If dh goes out I make him sleep in the spare room as the smell is just too much!

hotmama I'm with you on that one. My hair is badly in need of a colour touch up, I've always had a weird streak of white on my crown, since my twenties, and now it's really showing. I was going to wait till week 12 but not sure I can hold out any longer.

I am desperate to tell people now as lots of friends are becoming irritable with me for cancelling social arrangements with my excuse of being tired. I am really tired, but it's not normally the case. And friends also get angry when I wont drink with them, having being a wine enthusiast for many years.

Just a quick one from me. After feeling so well for a couple of days, I am now gagging on most things again and feel pants. Have just had a wee nap in front of Cbeebies. Oh dear.

Am going to a wedding on Sunday, where I know lots of people, none of whom knows. What do I do? I can't explain not drinking as I am a known lush, and the sight and smell of most food is making me heave. Not sure I will get through the day if I feel like this. Don't want to let anyone down, but dont' want to tell the world at large until I have had a scan and CVS if necessary. Any advice appreciated.

Hair - I wouldn't at this stage. A full head will involve getting it on your scalp and it can pass into your bloodstream and then to the baby. I'd hold off until the 2nd trimester and then have lots of highlights. However, the thought of sitting in a hot salon smelling the stuff is too much for me to cope with right now. I'll have to stay grey a bit longer.

I'd love to meet up. Can't do the 5th July, but could do Sun 6th or the weekend before (29/30th June).

Got to go. DD2 also under weather and been asleep for over 2 hours.

Just a quick one from me. After feeling so well for a couple of days, I am now gagging on most things again and feel pants. Have just had a wee nap in front of Cbeebies. Oh dear.

Am going to a wedding on Sunday, where I know lots of people, none of whom knows. What do I do? I can't explain not drinking as I am a known lush, and the sight and smell of most food is making me heave. Not sure I will get through the day if I feel like this. Don't want to let anyone down, but dont' want to tell the world at large until I have had a scan and CVS if necessary. Any advice appreciated.

Hair - I wouldn't at this stage. A full head will involve getting it on your scalp and it can pass into your bloodstream and then to the baby. I'd hold off until the 2nd trimester and then have lots of highlights. However, the thought of sitting in a hot salon smelling the stuff is too much for me to cope with right now. I'll have to stay grey a bit longer.

I'd love to meet up. Can't do the 5th July, but could do Sun 6th or the weekend before (29/30th June).

Got to go. DD2 also under weather and been asleep for over 2 hours.

Ms Dynamo - sympathies for the cancelling arrangements. I try to avoid as many as possible but have had to play dodgy tummy / unreliable babysitter / dodgy children as I can't face going anywhere. Plus I have never found a non drinking excuse which anyone who knows me finds remotely credible....

I also drink when pg once I have stopped vomiting. But not much - couple of glasses a week.

I was told that its ok to dye your hair unless its henna. But due to hormones it can go patchy!

mrsdynamo I know how you feel about being tired & cancelling things. Its so hard not to tell people & come up with credible excuses for not drinking.

chutneymary hope you & dd feel better soon

Scan went well, one baby in there (phew), dates are still the same so don't need to update the list.

Chutney: can you get out of going? Doesn't sounds like you'll enjoy yourself tbh. Claim a sickness bug (no-one will want you round then . Use planned time off to sleep.

Rosemerta: good news re the scan . My dates have been changed a bit after GP appt but waiting till scan to change the list as I could be way out (can't rememder date of last period, length of cycle or anything!)

oh and re: scans, we now have to opt in to the nuchal scan + blood test. If we decide not to go for it then it's just a dating scan at 12 weeks. Still in two minds, but leaning towards the test as more accurate if nuchal scan plus bloods. I wouldn't have an amnio or CVS if the Downs risk was high, but I don't know if I'd consider it if the risk of Edwards or that other syndrome was higher. All rather stressful all told.

Chutney: were you advised to have a CVS? Don't answer if you don't want, I'm just being curious

Good news on the scan rosemerta!
I think you might have to avoid the party CM..just makes life easier. To be honest, I have told all my friends and family. They were all waiting for the announcement anyway and I couldn't disguise the vomiting or rather evident bump (it's weird...I look about 4 months...it's just a joke trying to ignore it at work!). It also helped as everyone rallied round to look after DS when I found it impossible to even make him a sandwich without running for the loo!

Right...I'm leaving work...so will probably be a bit quiet until I next come in to the office and have the luxury of a computer without a toddler wanting to watch diggers or planes on YouTube! Good luck all!

InspectorGadget Cheesy wotsits. So bad. Sooo satisfying. Yum.

Simply put, I'm fat. I was fat before, and I'm fat now. Except, I was being all chuffed because I haven't gained weight at all yet; I hoped that maybe the baby is feeding from my quite ample stockpile and I'll actually be one of those lucky people who've lost two stone by the end, emerging from hospital in a pair of size 12 jeans that haven't seen the light of day since 2003. And then the nausea began to abate, and the HUNGER set in, and I've put on 4lbs in a week. Bloody wotsits.

And, to top it all, I'm a bridesmaid in a fornight. I was already having to front the shame of gaining a huge amount of weight from comfy living after getting married myself - I'm seeing family I haven't seen since my wedding; but now I can't get my hair dyed either and will look like a baggy, grotty, greying person despite my rather lovely dress.

Solution: I don't care that I won't quite be 12 weeks then, I'm telling everyone! (Though, I'm going to have to ignore the shocked faces when they find out I'm only 11 weeks, not 7 months .)

Don't! I'm hungry and some cheesy wotsits right now sound perfect. I've been thinking about Pickled Onion Monster Munch as well.

The DSs are watching Numberjacks on Cbeebies so I can do a bit more work. It really is all work, work, work at the moment. I am a rubbish freelancer. I can't say no! I was working last night, while watching the Apprentice with one eye, until I practically fell asleep on the laptop.

Off to make tea for the DSs now: pasta and meatballs. Yum. I always seem to make too much...waste not want not!

I've got a wedding in July but I'll be preggers enough to tell the world. No idea what to wear though.

I've been scoffing down Skips & Hula Hoops lately. Wotsits are just too strong smell-wise!

Hi guys

I've just started bleeding. I've never had this before. Should I panic? I have no idea. I have no pain or anything.

Becky, what colour is the blood? I'm sure you're fine but {{hugs}} anyway

chutneymary- I say just tell them- really I am of the opinion that unless you are horrible and really want to get rid of the child and everyone knows it- nothing would be wrong with you telling them.I mean, even if you do have a MC, no one is going to think you are a bad person for it or think less of you, You might have unwanted attention but for me it would be nice to have the support. - Just my opinion.

I lived in Africa for 2.5 years, and the village I lived in, The occurrence of a MC, still births or having the baby die just after delivery was really scary, so in their culture you weren't supposed to even notice that a woman was pregnant, even when she was just about to deliver! The woman just sort of "disappeared with sickness" into the house with her mother and reappeared 8 days later with a baby. And everyone was like "oh my god!! that is so great!!! A baby!!!" surprised like- but not really. This was called the outdoorsing and was considered the birth of the baby. They didn't even name the baby until the 8 days were up because so many babies died it was seen as a curse to the name if the baby was named and then died, they couldn't name any other baby that name.

But in our culture, we have A LOT better track record and A LOT better health situation. (IE. we are not starving!) so we don't have that. I spoke with my mum the other day about the "not telling till 12 weeks" thing and she said that it is a tradition here because back in the day of old, women weren't able to tell if they were prego or if they were just sick- these are the days before the pee stick- Also, these were the days that women weren't supposed to have the bad word "sex" so if you were pregnant and weren't showing it was as if you were a woman who was seen as dirty and had just had sex- but if you were showing, then you were a beautiful mother to be- not a slutty whore... SOOOO- all the woman waited till they absolutely knew for sure that they were PG and had at this time missed their period 3 times that they started telling anyone. It's a tradition that is a really "old wives tale" (no pun intended) that doesn't really fit our current days of medical knowhow and social thinking.

Anyway- I guess it is just tradition and culture really, but if you look at the reason my African friends didn't tell and the reason we are currently not telling...- Well I guess its all up to the individual- But I say, don't be afraid to be open about it. I'm very traditional normally but not about this.

But if you don't want to tell them- just say that you had too much to drink the night before and you are trying to detox- OR you can go to the bar and get a sprite with a lime in it and say you are drinking vodka tonics tonight, or you can say, I have something the next day I have to be sober for so I'm taking it easy tonight... there is always the Designated driver excuse

Good Luck (hugs)

It's very red. Is that bad?