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charmed24 · 27/04/2008 11:46

anyone here yet?

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tryingnottoobsess · 31/05/2008 17:56

Hiya, Just checking in again and catching up on the thread after a few days away working. A few things I've noticed...

scared My GP said the conflicting advice about flying/miscarriage is that if you're prone to miscarriage, it is probably doubly awful if it happens when you're abroad/somewhere unfamiliar, so some docs advise not travelling. But flying will not cause it. And I asked the sonographer too, as I was paranoid that flying might have triggered my 2 mc, and she said categorically no, too. So I'm flying again this time... still apprehensive though.

on the scan/bladder thing... I drank too much too before a scan last time and had to ask her to stop or else I thought some wee would leak out when she pressed my tummy She said it was the fullest bladder she'd ever seen!

Oh, and I'm 33 and this will (hopefully, cross everything) be DC1. Over the last year with the ttc and miscarriages, I've become paranoid about having left it 'so long' (I know it isn't really) and always mentally calculate the mum's age at birth of first child whenever I meet anyone new/read about celeb mums etc.... anyone else??!! Hope it isn't just me!

Happy weekends all!

scared1976 · 31/05/2008 18:44

thanks trying not to obsess for the flying comments!

I am 32 and this is no 1, and although I havent had your terrible bad luck with the MC, it did take us 18 months. I was starting to think it was never going to happen for us. I was a regular in the "still ttc #1" chatroom for quite some weeks.

have just started to read the new adele parks novel "tell me something". it is so far all about a woman my age trying to conceive for 6 years and the crying when AF arrives. thank god I didnt pick this up 3 months ago!

elkiedee · 31/05/2008 19:50

trying, yes, I do that all the time, but I was much older than you when I had dc1.

tryingnottoobsess · 31/05/2008 19:51

jeez scared, I think I'll avoid that book till I'm well past 12w (god willing). 18m ttc isn't exactly a barrel of laughs either, so we've both taken the scenic route to #1, just different scenery! Lets hope we're both finished with ttc #1, I'm feeling pretty positive at the moment, so bring it on!

tryingnottoobsess · 31/05/2008 19:55

yeah elkie, I know it's silly at 33, so thanks for being polite and not telling me I'm an idiot! In my defence, ttc totally messed with my head!

elkiedee · 31/05/2008 20:36

When it comes to having babies, I think nothing's too silly. I cry all the time over mumsnet stories, newspaper and magazine articles etc. And as for babies and characters having them in books...

fourlittlefeet · 31/05/2008 21:30

I got pregnant with dc1 at 32... its the perfect age! wise enough to know when to listen to your mother, and old enough not to let those pesky midwives bully you

fymandbean · 01/06/2008 07:10

I'm 34 and was pregnant with DS when i was 31

fymandbean · 01/06/2008 07:19

Ok - ethical question for you....

with DS I had some minor bleeding (which I now realise was implantation bleeding ) thought it was a miscarriage etc.... told the doctor who sent me for a viability scan at 8 weeks...

now.... I'd love another viability scan (we do also get a 12 wk and 20 wk scan here so this would be a third)

So.... do I play dumb and tell the doc about the bleeding this time ~(which was definitely implantation) or wait for the 12 wk scan?

PS don't forget I'm 'only' 5 1/2 weeks and VERY impatient!....

LenniEd · 01/06/2008 08:16

To be honest fym I would feel guilty getting an early scan - but that said can totally see why you would want one (I want one too!!). I have never had implantation bleeding or known anyone who has... until now of course... so I was always sceptical about it, and if it were me I'd be calling the midwife anyhow, but really it's up to you. Depends whether you are concerned or not. Would the doc not just say 'Oh well, you had this last time... nothing to worry about'??

I don't know is the answer!! I know that doesn't help.

Upwind · 01/06/2008 08:23

Hi fymandbean,

I have a similar dilemma as I have been worried by cramping. I think if I have it as bad again when I get to 7 weeks I will ring the EPU or go to my GP and be completely honest about the situation, making it clear that I would like to have a scan. If they judge that the medical need is there I will have one. If not I will be having a private scan at about 9 weeks so hopefully we can tell everyone our good news.

tinkhasabunintheoven · 01/06/2008 09:52

morning

fym at least you get a 12 week scan it is horrible waiting isnt it i have no patience atall.
before you know it you will be having a scan i have found that time is flying by

moosemama · 01/06/2008 09:53

Hello

Just after posting on Friday I had a really bad scare.

Mum was here for a coffee, luckily. I nipped to the toilet and got a shooting pain across my abdomen. It was over in a flash and I put it down to wind. Came back to the living room and started to feel a lot of pressure in stomach and upper abdomen then before I knew it my temperature shot up and I collapsed!

I was delirious (sp) and covered in sweat, I couldn't sit or stand from the severe pain in my upper abdomen and was finding it hard to breathe or speak I was climbing the walls trying to find a position that reduced the pain and was frantically pulling all my clothes off as I was completely off my head and my temperature was through the roof. Eventually I crawled into the back hall, outside the downstairs loo, and lay on my side on the cold quarry tiles, from then on for about 3/4 hour I couldn't move - I was in agony and screaming in pain. I could feel the blood had drained from my extremities as they were ice cold and tingling.

Eventually my temp started to come down and the pain reduced a bit so I managed to crawl back to the sofa and bit by bit it all seemed to pass but I went really cold and was shivering violently. After about another half an hour under 2 blankets and a duvet I seemed to recover and was just left absolutely exhausted and looking like death.

Have issues with Mum not calling for help as had I seen anyone in that condition I would have called an ambulance but by the time I felt well enough to call the docs was closed and the symptoms had gone so didn't seem any point.

It was the most terrifying experience and has left me in a state of shock.

Mum says she didn't do anything as she thought it was a blockage or spasm in my transverse colon - she has had this herself as she suffers badly with IBS. She could well be right as I had barely been eating, had been extremely constipated and then had started to eat again a couple of days before. I know it was definitely something digestion related as the pain was really high but not in my stomach. However am still that she didn't call for medical help.

The thing is I'm terrified that the high temperature will have harmed the baby or worse caused an mmc. I can't get hold of anyone this weekend to help or reassure and really the only thing that is going to set my mind at rest is seeing a heartbeat on a scan.

I am in such a state, I know I need to calm down but hate the fact that I will have to wait until tomorrow to get help.

Am thinking I will book private viability scan first thing as our local private clinic is excellent and will hopefully fit me in as an emergency. Don't think I could wait for NHS cogs to turn.

tinkhasabunintheoven · 01/06/2008 09:57

m that must have been so scary
hope that you are recovering ok
how many weeks are you ?
make sure you get to see someone and like you say seeing the babys heartbeat would reassure you

elkiedee · 01/06/2008 10:02

moosemama, that sounds really scary. Have you considered going to A&E to see if you could see someone there?

My other suggestion would be to ring NHS Direct, it's an always available helpline and they may well be able to offer some advice or let you know whether you should visit the hospital (and I would think hospital not local GP).

moosemama · 01/06/2008 10:06

Hi tink am 9 weeks today.

Have been taking it very easy all weekend, just wish I could calm down. Why do these things always seem to happen at the weekend!

Am hoping they will be able to fit me in tomorrow but Monday is a bad day, as can't get anyone to pick up DS2 from Nursery, clinic is on the other side of town and I don't drive. Hoping to persuade DH to call his boss and take the morning off.

Will call MW first thing as well - ironically I was going to call her tomorrow to arrange booking in anyway.

LenniEd · 01/06/2008 10:09

Moosemama, I would also be thinking hospital. NHS direct will be able to offer advice today as elkiedee says and will put you on to an on call GP at the very least.

moosemama · 01/06/2008 10:12

elkiedee have thought of NHS Direct but they tend to refer everything to either A&E or GP. Could call GP out of hours service, but as symptoms have gone now there's not much they could do - even if they try to reasurre me don't think I would be convinced without a scan.

Hate going to A&E, our local one is tiny and useless, I also think they wouldn't see me as the situation is no longer 'an emergency'.

I think if Mum had called at the time they would have probably sent an ambulance and things would have been sorted out - nothing I can do about it now though.

LenniEd · 01/06/2008 10:18

moosemama - if you don't want to go to A&E then go to your EPU and explain everything - if you have had abdominal they will scan you. A&E isn't just for emergencies - it is for the sort of situation you are in too. DH was once sent to A&E with an infected wisdom tooth by NHS direct because there was nowhere else open. He saw the emergency dentist there and it was all sorted.

LenniEd · 01/06/2008 10:20

abdominal pain that should have been

moosemama · 01/06/2008 10:21

Thanks for the support guys - I don't think there really is anything anyone can do until tomorrow - guess I just needed to get it off my chest.

The whole thing has just left me feeling very vulnerable, especially as despite Mum being there, she didn't get or give any help at all. Am feeling very alone today.

LenniEd · 01/06/2008 10:22

A&E can't turn you away either - and since you are pregnant they shouldn't make you wait.

moosemama · 01/06/2008 10:23

LennieED have checked our NHS Trust website and they only have one EPU 30 miles away! It says you can only see them by referral from your MW and they have set clinic times that don't include Sundays.

LenniEd · 01/06/2008 10:26

Does your Mum know you are pregnant?

Some people worry about causing a fuss and will try and deal with things themselves before asking for help. My MIL is exactly the same. It isn't any reflection on you - just some people deal with things differently in a crisis. When out house got struck by lightning a couple of years ago I called 999 for the fire brigade, with DH (brought up in true 'don't fuss' style by MIL) telling me not to be so silly, despite the fact there were smoke alarms going off all over the house, glass exploding and bits of wall all over the roof of my car. As it turned out part of the house had collapsed, good job I called the fire brigade then

LenniEd · 01/06/2008 10:28

Are you on the border of another NHS trust that you could check? Am sure most EPUs see people on spec too. Someone else will be along who knows soon. I will have a hunt around and see what I can find out.