due in jan 2009

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anyone here yet?

Thanks Lenni,
We both have DCs around about the same age I'm worrying about how I'll cope with my v active toddler and a baby! My DS as a baby was a never ending feeder and I found it soo exhausting.

I'm also wondering how I'll cope with 2 - although there are a few Mums on here with more than 2 already, so I'm sure thay'll be chuckling at me worrying about just 2!!

DD is also a very active toddler. She has been walking since 11mo so is completely at ease on her feet now and we have a job catching her most of the time! I'm actually more worried about how I'll cope when I get big, rather than when the baby comes as I know family will probably help out when we've got a newborn in the house, but the last couple of months of being pregnant are going to be hard work. Last time round I was really tired and had a bad back and sciatica but could rest lots so it was ok - this time round I'm hoping things are easier!!

I also think that by the time the baby comes her speech will have come on more so it will be easier to explain things to her - here's hoping anyhow!

Congrats to all the newcomers

Well, luckily my sickness has passed over in the last couple of days. It makes all the difference not feeling sick all day.

We told the family last Saturday, they were all pleased. It's wierd telling them the second time around because there isn't that suprise element like with the first as everyone is expecting it!

It feels better that everyone knows now because i don't have to pretend i feel ok all the time when really i have been feeling rubbish.

I see the midwife on Wednesday, it's come round so fast!

When I told her I was pregnant with ds my mum couldn't wait to get to all her local NCT sales - I've picked up a few bits and pieces at ones here.

Today didn't get off to a great start, first I dreamed that I'd started to bleed, so realistically that I was surprised to wake up and realise it was a dream. Then dp and I had a big fight, over nothing very significant but not for the first time this week.

As it wasn't park/playground weather we ventured out to a soft play place when we finally sorted things out between us - I still prefer being outside but it was much nicer than the other soft play we've taken D to.

I had a strange dream too last night. I just found out i was pregnant then the next minute i had the baby and it was a boy. I had the perfect boy name, then i went to tell somebody his name i couldn't remember it? I then spent the rest of the dream trying to remember the boys name. How odd? I forgot about strange pregnancy dreams

So what has everyone gone off of then food wise?

Hi everyone... Managed to keep the secret through our weekend away with friends - phew. There is no way I'm telling anyone before 12 weeks as I am also a paranoid one.

But we are now going away on Weds for a week with friends who also have a baby, and they are surely going to guess due to a uncharacteristic lack of wine and soft cheese.. Oh damn, this is really dragging already!

I had put my maternity clothes in a bag ready to go in the loft, but looks like I'll be needing them sooner than I thought as well - to be honest I'd only just stopped wearing them!

hi ladies

i am seeing midwive wed 2 ms sparkle
i am off chocolate,fruit,bread

OMG there's a February thread already

hi ladies
hoping for some sun today

hope everyone had a good B hol despite the rain! At least cancelled BBQ meant no awkward alcohol questions, & cold given to me by DD meant i could explain away feeling crap! silver linings, and all that. I am soooooooooooooo tired - like elkiedee, not sure if it's because of my cold, or the pregnancy, I just want to curl up and sleep....

Nausea really kicked in yesterday - I'd forgotten how awful it is. Not really sure what food I've gone off particularly - just seems like all of it at the moment!

We haven't told anyone yet, but I'm going to have to tell work this week. I'm dreading it, as I'm going in to discuss my return to work from maternity leave & will have to break it to my manager that I'll be 20-ish weeks pregnant when I come back, & will want another 9 months maternity leave 3 months after returning....somehow I don't think the congratulations'll be flowing....

Yup time goes quickly- greetings from the Fab Feb thread!

Can't beleive there is a Feb thread! It seems like two minutes ago this thread was started and everyone thinking how early it was! Plus i remember joining this thread and scanning through the Dec thread thinking how far along they all were.

How time flys...

LenniEd, dont worry you will cope my little boy was 17months when i had my little girl. he is mad, always on the go and a real monster at times. they are in the lounge at the moment making a tent out of blankets (now 3.5y and 2y). i bought him a play kitchen as a gift from her and to keep him occupied in the last few days of pregnancy/first few days of baby.
Playbarn and baby groups were great in those last few weeks when i didnt want to run around the zoo. i could just sit there with friends have a cup of tea and chat whilst he ran around and played in safety. if you dont feel like going out you could do some craft or painting
i didnt get much help before or after the birth. OH had half a day off as he is self employed and i always working 7 days a week. You learn to cope, get on of those baby swings, i would recommend the fisher price aqarium one. i had two in my house but it was a building site at the time and it wasnt really safe to put the baby anywhere else. She used to sit in it whilst i cooked (or on the phone for OH business) and it was the only thing that she would sleep in (apart from our bed) for months. when she got older the swings were replaced with bumbos which were fantastic. it also means that you know they are safe from siblings when you cant keep a close eye, my little boy was ok most of the time but i had friends whos older children hated the new baby and would throw big toys at them whenever they could.

ah... I still feel I'm really early.... am very of the rest of you as I'm destined to be last doing everything on this thread!! Although DS was on time last time so maybe won't be last to pop in the end!!

I had a horrible dream last night that I gave birth to a possessed demon child! Literally - he was speaking in tongues and everything! I know I have been a bit neurotic of late but that certainly wasn't one of my worries

Have been wiped out with stinking cold all weekend, but on the plus side my nausea seemed to dissapear along with the ability to breathe through my nose. Back today though booo. Haven't actually been sick yet i've just gone off everything other than salt and vinegar crips and spaghetti bolognese.

Can I join this thread? I am due around the middle of January, not sure of dates because haven't had a period since having coil removed. Having a dating scan in a couple of weeks but guessing I'm about six weeks now. I already have one DS (21 months). Haven't told many people in RL yet so nice to be able to get excited about it on here (although really nervous about anything going wrong in first few weeks - will hopefully feel better after scan).

hi everyone,
glad youv'e all kept the secret going.Sorry to hear about the nausea and the colds.must be pants.I've not had anything like that.Instead though,i've felt really down,excitements totally gone(and was only really present the week i found out).I was crying my eyes out last night.Can't really put a reason to it.I'm hoping it's just hormones and tiredness and that frustration of it being so early and dragging on.My BBS are really getting me down,had to wear a bra(nursing one,one size up) from last pregnancy in bed.Think it did help.They are killllling me.Saw on a website it might ease after 12 weeks...oh no another 6 weeks of pain!.I want to still eat normally,if not more than normal,but frustrated because i have to limit caffeine and other things.
Dreading having to entertain my DD all this week.Just want to be alone really.It makes me think,if i feel this crap with one,what about when the baby comes.I feel like my rose specs have come off lately and i keep thinking about the birth and panicking...i know too soon,i should focus on now.
I'll go now....sorry that was depressing,does anyone else feel like me though or got a comment to lift me up?.
I feel selfish though,like all you lot are suffering too,why should i whinge so much.
Maybe i should move to depression topic,i don't want to spoil the light mood of this thread.
anyway good luck with the scans everyone and midwife appointments.My midwife,not till 19th June.
i think i feel better for telling you this.thanks for listening.
best wishes
happy and snuggles x

hi HAH, sorry you feel so down! If it's any consolation, I think it must be hormones...I've been crying at the drop of a hat - quite embarrassed to admit to crying through Britain's got Talent last night and got really cross with myself, which made me worse! and this beginning bit is so up & down, had forgotten, think I was looking at my last pregnancy with rose tinited specs, also! I've also been wondering how i'll cope with 2 (although everyone on here has been very reassuring ) I think for me it's that this LO wasn't planned, and has come as a huge shock (it took a long time to fall pregnant with DD, so we didn't think one careless night would end in this...) so I think it's taking me a while to get my head round it all, which is making my ups and downs feel more extreme than I remember them being last time.

and don't say you're whinging, isn't this what this site is for? I mean it's not like we're ever going to meet, so surely this is the opportunity to be as crabby and selfish as you want?! (not that you are being!) anyway, it does get better, i remember that much!!! Hope you feel better soon - hugs.

Hi Happyathome, I feel like that too, well parts of it.....

I keep falling asleep, I was lying on the sofa yesterday and DH was talking away to me and I completed zonked out for 2 hours, I couldn't believe it, i am usually so active, and I tried decorating this weekend, got sent to bed (and promptly fell asleep - again!) by DH after an hour because I cried at one of his jokes (I know he isn't really as funny as he thinks he is - but he isn't that bad that it should reduce me to tears!) .

This pregnancy thing is so mad..... but like LooseyC there is no way we want to tell anyone before the 12 weeks because we are just way too paranoid. Well done on lasting the weekend. We are spending the weekend with my family in a couple of weeks time and my SIL is 10 weeks ahead of me so I can't see us surviving that one undetected!

Went to see my lovely GP this morning and so will now be waiting to hear from hospital re scans and midwives etc. If I get a scan at 12 weeks it's still 5 weeks tomorrow - seems so long to wait.

I cried at Britain's Got Talent last night too! It was the lady with the dog - poor thing hasn't got many friends apart from her dog. Pregnancy appears to turn me into a jibbering wreck.

I want to leave it as long as possible before telling people at work because I noticed how differently they treated me once they knew I was pregnant last time. Problem is my belly is starting to stick out already and I'm only about 6 weeks (is this normal with a second pregnancy?)

HAH - sorry you're feeling down at the minute - our hormones make us all over the place, please don't beat yoursefl up about it. I am also dreading coping with a toddler and a baby - what if they both wake up at the same time in the night, what will DS do while I'm feeding the baby, etc but just trying not to think about it for now!! My main worry at the minute is getting through the next few weeks - it really drags waiting for scans and MW appts doesn't it??

Happyathome sore boobs struck me down with DD, and it was bad like you describe. Like red hot pokers the whole time. I found best thing was nursing bras/sports bras that were really supportive, hot water bottles and bra in bed. I also wore secret support vests under my tops for a bit of extra support. It will go after a few weeks.

As for feeling down... it is hormonal and is normal - but if it doesn't improve then talk to your GP just in case it is antenatal depression.

I had antenatal depression when pg with DD and my GP really helped, she totally understood and really made me feel better about things. It went as soon as DD was born and didn't affect how I coped after the birth at all. In fact I felt wonderful, so glad not to be pg anymore! AND is also very common, but not as well publicised or checked for as PND so a lot of women just put it down to being one of those pregnant things, but there is loads of help available. And I'm always harping on about it so feel free to ignore me... feel like it is my duty to after I really suffered during 1st pg.

Thanks Mel for the tips... I do lots of groups with DD now but they are all fairly active except for one. Think I'll have to switch a few round and do more playbarns etc. DD is a bit too little still to go round the soft play areas on her own tho, so hopefully she'll grow before I do!!

Iwouldgoout that's exactly why we aren't telling either. It's not worrying about miscarriage (although obviously I'm worried about that, we would tell people anyway if anything went wrong so not a problem) it's how people treat you when they know. I woud far rather wait as long as I can before I get wrapped up in cotton wool. Also I was hellish to be around last time so don't want people thinking 'here we go again...' when I feel fine this time.

Yes I was horrible to be around last time too (as people at work keep reminding me!) so definitely don't want them watching me and looking out for crazy mood swings! Its getting more difficult because they have appeared to have removed decaff coffee from the vending machines this week so I am drinking fruit tea which everyone knows I despise and only drink when pregnant! Nobody has mentioned it yet though!