due in jan 2009

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anyone here yet?

Funny, hi everyone, am also having a really down day. I have a 7.5ish week scan tomorrow to see if the heartbeat is there and I am so anxious that something will be wrong. No reason to be - is my first pregnancy and seems fine so far - but the statistics are just so awful.

good luck scared1976! (just to warn you it is likely to be an internal scan )

yes i know! I already had one very early (5 weeks) to check everything was in the right place but have to go back as was too soon to see a heartbeat. thanks though

My doctor said you get an earlier scan now? What's that about? A dating scan maybe?

My MW just called to make my booking appointment for early July (soooo far away!) - she was bit surprised as DS is still so little at 5, but didn't tell me off which I thought might be a possibility! Seems like yesterday I saw her last, but at least it's the same person which is good.

She also told me morning sickness is usually much worse with 2nd babies. I said I was feeling fine (sorry ladies) and she said 'oh it will probably kick in at about 8 weeks'. I was in a good mood until then!

Meant 5 months - though 5 is still quite little too!

May I join you ladies?

EDD 25th January, still waiting for midwife's call.

God i feel awful, i looked like a washed out zombie. Never a good look.

I saw the doc this morning and he said he thinks i am about 6-7 weeks based on bleeding and positive test result date. I have my doubts. I am one of those that would rather be given a due date later so when it comes to the induction they leav me alone for a bit longer. The babies are always late. Well the twins were 29 weeks and dd was the day before her due date but the rest were 10, 14, and finally induction at 10 days with the last. I am NOT being induced again.

I have dredful thrush too, anyone else? Must be the hormone swing

Will the joy ever end?

Welcome upwind!

Loosey ignore her, you may feel just fine! Positive thinking has alot to be said for it. Fingers crossed you are ok, it is no fun looking after others while feeling so poorly. A little nudge for you too letting your dh near you so soon

lgt, I know what you're saying! Were you induced 3 times then? The consultant didn't even wait 10 days in my case (which they're supposed to) although it worked first time, and I progressed very very slowly.

Welcome upwind, and loosely, your mw doesn't sound very reassuring to me.

Scared it will all be ok It will be lovely to see the bean leaping around on screen!

HAH you are down you poor love, it is just the hormones. Dont worry about the later stuff, we are all here as a distraction. How old is your dd? She will love a playmate when the baby arrives and they can entertain each other!

No Elk, i managed to avoid it till the last time. They were on my back with it though. I must just have late babies and the induction was a blardy nightmare, no no no no again!

Anyone else so bloated they can't fit in to normal clothes already? And I am constantly belching

My jeans are too tight already and I'm only about six weeks. When pregnant with DS I fitted in them until about four months!

HAPPYATHOME i do feel like that as well, i feet a bit down the last few days and very tired since 4 weeks, i was in tears at desperate houswives this week!!! i have had a bad afternoon with my DS as its been wet and i have been trying to wear him out inside and he has been manic.
i have been feeling sick the last two days and just cant keep up with the housework, i have a mountain of washing becuase of the bad weather and the lounge floor is covered with lego, wooden thomas track and dino track (they are usually only allowed one box open at a time). the kitchen floor is covered with paper and glitter as we made some sparkly tree pictures after lunch and i havent had the time to sweep up yet.
usually i am baking bread and buns and would have the dinner on by now but i just cant get it together this week.
i am hoping that the visit to the MW next week will chear me up and then the scan will make it more real.
it doesnt help that the maternity jeans fall down every few minutes and my normal jeans, although they do still fit me really well make my belly hurt so i worry about wearing them.
anyway i had better go and find something to cook for dinner.

thanks SO much all of you.such kind,supportive comments!.You have all definately cheered me up...it's good we can have a good moan together isn't it,thanks for letting me be part of this wonderful thread.
BLOATED-vey,gassy stomach looks like 7 months PG, i kid you not(only 6 weeks yesterday).
BOOBS-thanks for the tips/reassurance lennied.Swear i will get chainsaw to them.Ironic as when i found out one of my first thoughts was,yea,i get another chance at breastfeeding which i gave up after 3 days through lack of support.
scared-good luck with scan.
mel-poor you too!-yes i've been inside with my DD(6 on June 6th) and although i could do crafts,i feel paranoid she isn't getting enough exercise,so i ended up knocking balloons about while i sat on sofa,which made her run round....i can
give you a list of "mum sits on bum" activities that i've invented if you want.

think it's definately anxiety that's got me down,since hormones kicked in.Since i've focused on just today,i've felt better.It's knowing what your'e in for that makes it a whole lot worse the 2nd time around i'm sure.

trouble is DD wants this baby so much,she had me pretending to be baby today and fed me water biscuits,makes me more impatient for it i guess...shouldn't have told her so soon,it must be dragging worse for her.
got cotton-wooled by mum,since i told her,which sometimes don't like,so dreading telling ILS on Thursday.It's true,you feel more eyes/pressure on you,even when youv'e no bump!.Will not tell school circle till 12 weeks.
thanks again everyone.will post again soon
best wishes
happy & snuggles x

i have midwife 10am tom

i know when i ovulated so do i definetly go by that for due date
midwife going by lmp

Tink, ask for a dating scan. Say that you are unsure of your dates and have had a long cycle and really couldn't be sure at all. They will have to offer you a dating scan that way - you are entitled to one so don't listen if they say they don't offer them in your area. They won't be interested in when you ovulated unfortunately - they don't have a neat and tidy box to write it in on your notes definately ask for a scan. The sooner the better too, just in case you are further on than you thought.

Sympathy on the bloated stomachs - its cos of the digestive system slowing down - have you tried eating more fibre/fruit/veg? Herbal tea esp. peppermint used to help me last time. Can't touch the stuff this time, reminds me of puking last time . The bloating went after a while tho... although by the time it went I had a proper baby bump

I booked in today and have been told that downs screening has changed since I had DD - it is now all done privately in Leeds (an hour away) at the cost of £180 for a nuchal fold scan. Otherwise you have to wait until 18 weeks for NHS blood tests which are only 60% accurate and then an amnio afterwards if there is cause for concern... but it sounds like that route is pretty much advised against unless you just want to know to prepare. I refused downs screening last time but things are a bit different now that we've already got DD... feel a bit unsure of what to do. Its such a personal issue too, not really expecting anyone to be able to tell me what to do... arrgghhh.

well i have cheared myself up by cooking a nice spag bol. and having a tidy up. OH has bought a new van so has taken my DS (3.5y) out for a ride and my DD (2y) is watching charlie and lola while i run the bath.
i think i am a little worried how i will cope with three as i am on my own alot because of OHs work. i keep wondering if i have made the right decision.
i think its nerves now its finally happened. i had almost convinced myself that i wouldnt have anymore because we had trouble conceving. i had told myself it was probably a good thing not having anymore children, to stop the upset every month. i didnt think i was pregnant and couldnt believe it when it was a positive result. then i was over the moon and then worried about miscarrying again so the barriers went up again, just incase we lost it. now i am just abit down. i am sure it will pass when we have the scan.
i feel better now i have said it (i feel like i have been to confesion), i should still be over the moon and feel a bad mum for being down.

Hi everyone, what is it about Britains Got Talent? I cried when they showed the clips of them being told they were in the semi-final. Its The Apprentice tonight, if I cry when Sir Alan says "you're fired" then I will know that I have definately lost the plot!!!

Boobs are itchy and sore today and I nearly burst into tears when I forgot the Tesco's Clubcard vouchers at the till, I am the only one having these weird hormonal breakdowns?

For those of you going from one to two children I can recommend a good book called:

"Three Shoes, One Sock and No Hairbrush" by Rebecca Abrams.

Its very very honest and has some good tips.

Off for lunch with DD and a friend that's about to get married and has a touch of the "Bridezilla" about her. She introduced me and DH all those years ago so I'm looking forward to telling her tomorrow..

Off to do the ironing and other chores..

Love Lizzih

hope it goes well with the midwife tommorow tink mel-i feel for you.(hugs)to you.could have written your post word for word myself,except i'm on DC2.I MC'd moons ago before DD,so have had it on my mind(was a 5-6 wk mc).My DD's favourite is Charlie & L.so she was watching it tonight...spooky...parallel universes here.
Know what you mean,it's the guilt that you don't feel overjoyed just now isn't it,that's what i've had this week especially.So dissapointed,as i thought i would feel like that all pregnancy-so excited and shocked when we found out,i didn't sleep all night and was walking on air for a few more days...then BANG down to reality.I was the same,prepared myself to accept having one,because we'd had a few BFN's over last 6 months.I was firmly holding on to the advantages of having an only in my mind,thinking i wouldn't get PG.Drove myself nuts for about 3 years,especially this year, about whether to have another,then felt instantly at peace when i found out.Trouble is,ever since then it has been a total anti-climax as the niggles and symptoms/worries have crept in.Now i feel guilty if i don't have energy to play with DD,like today(one of my fears about having more than one has cropped up already!!).Mind you,i had PMT every month for 14-15 days every month and was a total cow/wreck on wheels,so i suppose i didn't have much to lose on the hormonal front.I hope the joy comes back for both of us(and anyone else feeling the same).
Hope you feel a bit better tommorow.
Think i'm going to bed at 9 tonight.Fighting the tiredness makes me worse.
happy & snuggles(the bean) x

What a post code lottery it is with the 12 week scan! Can't believe that not everyone is getting a nuchal scan on the NHS! £180 is emotional blackmail.

I understand that the best test to detect Downs early is now the nuchal scan, combined with a blood test. Fortunately I'm being offered this, this time.

However last time, for complicated logistical reasons, I couldn't get to the hospital in the right time frame for a nuchal scan, and had the blood test instead. I then came out as high risk for Downs and had an amnio. It was fine, but it does make you ache badly for a day or so, and I found it all hugely emotional.

Think we should all start writing letters to our MP's, while we are still hormonal, complaining about some having to pay for nuchal scans!

lizzih-congrats and good luck to you.
thanks for book reccommendation-although already read it years ago when trying to decide.may get it out of library again though.
I walked away from till without my credit card

On a different subject, a while back there was a discussion about how crap it is being on the Tube when pregnant and not getting a seat.

A friend of mine got a badge from London Underground, which said "Baby on Board". The idea is that you pin it on your tummy, just at the right height for anyone sitting down to see it. Then they can't fail to know that you're pregnant and not just a bit tubby!

My friend got hers a while ago but according to the TFL website you can still get them for free from the LU Customer Services Centre 0845 330 9880.