Due June 08 - As we start nesting will the creme eggs start hatching?

[bitofadramaqueen]

Another new thread! By the time this one runs out we might have some babies!!! Although, we do chat a lot so maybe not...

paro, i was a teacher, until last summer - taught Y 5/6 and absolutely loved it! However, it wasn't easy to fit IVF in round a f/t teaching job so I moved into the education dept of our local authority

hope to go back to teaching once the family is complete - who knows when that will be!

Splodge - I was a teacher too, there's a few of us here, I taught from Y4 down to Nursery which is where my comfort level was - I loved Nursery but they were very physically demanding when I was pregnant, can see why Paro has been signed off.

Germs here don't seem to be going yet, we have some friends staying and we're off out with them tonight for a meal - should be fun between the coughing.

Oh, and my Dad gets married today in Las Vegas - yes the Elvis wedding . He's been with his partner for 18 years, says he'd waited long enough to see if My Mum would come back so he may as well get married again!! I'm trying to time the call so I can speak to him beforehand, they're 9 hours behind us, so I think if I call at 5.30 ish he should just be getting up.

Deb- oh my god, did you know that he was getting married.

Josie, we are taking bookings up to 16th June and baby turning up on 19th so yes still have some way to go.

splodge - I'll be 38 weeks when I stop work so I am leaving it as late as possible. It's what I did when I had my ds but it's different this time round as fitting in work and family is harder and I have more aches and pains this time round. I'm hoping that as I get bigger and bigger people will be more sympathetic to me at work...but I may be being overly optimistic . Plus I'm moving departments in 2 weeks time which may be easier because I won't actually have any responsibility for projects but I will be trying to create a good impression. Downside is that my old department are expecting me to do 1 day a week for them but I just know that they will pile more work on me than 1 days worth. Planning to stand my ground on that one and make sure I don't overdo it too much.

Ooh, I'd love a cleaner. However, have been looking at the finances this morning and there's no chance of that. Trying to work out back to work options at the end of maternity leave, and it's scary to think that even cutting down to 4 days a week will have a bit impact (when you add on childcare costs too). Thankfully both DH and I have salary sacrifice childcare schemes at work so that'll save us some pennies. Am dreading having to live on SMP though. We wont go hungry or anything, but I'm really going to hate not having my own spends. DH and I obviously work as team when it comes to finances, but we do keep seperate bank acocunts and have our own seperate 'disposable income'.

Josie I hope things get easier for you. Huge admiration for your plan to work up to 38 weeks!

I'm really looking forward to my first week after I finish work. As we wont be fitting in a summer holiday DH and I have planned loads of nice relaxing days out. Lets hope the weather better by then though!

How exciting a Vegas wedding. I think it is sweet. Not sure about Elvis though but I guess if you do it in Vegas, you might as well go Vegas the whole way. Are you happy for him? Do you like his partner?

Dramaqueen now what you mean about SMP. It is hard not to have your own spend isn't it. It is like you need to justify every penny/purchase you make to yourself. Even if it is like buying a cheap top because nothing fits you anymore.

Josie perhaps you should stop in the middle of you office everynow and again and rub your back while pulling faces and saying "oooh" might work

Josie you could clutch at a nearby desk/chair/colleague as well .

Shame you couldn't make it to Vegas for the wedding deb. needahand - I've squirrelled away some spends for a shopping trip post baby. Nothing from last summer will fit me and I'll need some new stuff.

Actually, I know I'll probably be too busy to think about what I'm wearing, but I do get bored of my casual clothes quite quickly... it's going to be very wierd not just putting a suit on monday to friday and having to find stuff to wear!

Josie, wow, 38 weeks - you're v brave! Although that's probably not what you want to hear right now is it?!

Know what you mean about having your own money - dh and me have joint accounts and nothing separate, but it'll be weird not contributing to that income anymore. I plan to be a SAHM if finances allow so god knows when I'll next earn my own pennies again!

I'm also going to be working up to 38 weeks - but because of some annual leave and bank holidays I will be working 4 day weeks for the last four weeks... hopefully I'll be fine and Bug won't make an early appearance! I've already got the resident 1st aider panicking every time he sees me (he is the campest man in the world, so it is hilarious!) So far I've promised my boss and various others to not give birth on the new carpet in my office!

nettie - LOL at your poor first aider! Last time I was going to work until 39 weeks but my two closest colleagues kept teasing me about my waters breaking in the canteen and the fact that they would have to put up one of those little yellow signs that say 'slippery floor' so I moved it to 38 weeks!

I am quite lucky in the fact that my dh works at the same company (never see him at work as there are 3500+ on site) so at least he can do the driving and will be on alert for me calling him . Having evil thoughts about getting a friend to wind him up but probably shouldn't cry wolf in case it really happens .

I'm only working up to 33 weeks but one of the women I work with used to be a MW and she's very excited at the thought of me giving birth in the office so she can help me!!

She's lovely, but the thought of all my colleagues being my birth partners is slightly freaky!

I'll be keeping my legs crossed for the next 2 weeks!

at the thought of splodgesmum colleagues as birthing partners.

May I ask you guys a TMI question. Does anyone else as some sort of pain/discomfort like you have been kicked ....you know where I mean? I am just wondering if it is to do with my hip/pelvis or if it is something to do with the baby?

Until recently I had a cleaner who would work different days of the week to suit her and I never knew until the last minute what day she'd come. We only had her doing 2 hours, and my DH is VERY messy so I like to tidy up before she comes, so I really needed to know when to expect her. I got quite firm with her about being so unreliable and she got huffy and never came back. She'd had lots of personal problems and I'd spent a lot of time trying to help her out - calling benefits agencies etc - so I was pretty pissed off. The agency has sent a new cleaner now and I'm making sure I keep things more arms length. I won't give her a key and I'm not very flexible about times.

Wonder if Neenz has had her babies yet?

Do you mean right at the front of your groin? Sorry if I've got the wrong end of the stick (or the wrong part of the body!!) but that's where I get most of my SPD pain. Isn't that where you get it normally? The pain is there constantly and then sometimes travels round to the back of my bum, down my hips and knees.

It hurts!

needahand I was getting discomfort, like Bug was trying to kick his/her way out - luckily this has stopped since he/she went head down - but it was very uncomfortable and unfortunately there wasn't much I could do about it (especially given the area the kicks were aimed!)

Rolf - I hope I have put things straight with her but if it doesn't improve I will have to tell the agency. I don't want to do that yet because as I said she has loads of personal problems, and it would feel like kicking here when she is down. I have been very firm today, we'll see how it goes. Also she has this tendency to slip off early. Today she tried to leave after 3.30 instead of 4 so I asked her to do the skirting boards. 5 minutes later she said she had done them all [hmmm] and left. Next issue to tackle is her staying for the time we pay her. Don't mean to be a cow, but having a cleaner is a luxury and if I pay her for 4 hours that is what I would like her to do.

splodgemum yes I mean at the front of the groin, on the outside. But I usually get my pain in the hip (lower sacral and sacro illiac). I hope it is not SPD getting worse (although mine is more joint movement than SPD really), it is bad enough as it is!. I am not seeing physio for another two weeks.

nettie it doesn't feel like kicks from the inside, it feels like someone has kicked me in the groin from the outstide (and not a tiny baby either).

needahand, yep that's exactly what my SPD feels like - I explained it to dh that it felt like someone had punched me between the legs. Don't know whether it means yours is getting worse or just moving about - mine started in the groin and stayed there, only recently moving to both hips which makes sleeping impossible, and now has spread to right knee too. When I turn over in bed my pelvis 'cracks' and the pain escalates for about an hour or two, then calms again, but I'm always aware of it.

Can you bring your physio forward?

Miserable isn't it ?

Oh no! That is what I feared. I did noticed that my left hip was also "catching" from time to time at the moment so it might be getting worse. I am hardly allowed to walk as it is what am I going to do. Nope I don't think I can bring my physio forward. Grrrrr. I can hardly sleep as it is . Yes very miserable.

poor needahand and splodgesmum - that sounds much worse than what I had - maybe contact your physio - they might get a last minute cancellation (it is friday afternoon after all - I used to work at a physio and it happened all the time).

Needahand, sorry to be the bearer of bad news . There's not really much I can suggest - I don't think I have SPD anywhere near as bad as you cos still quite mobile as long as I'm vertical, it's when I'm horizontal that the problems start.

I have been told that it gets worse as you near your due date cos of the weight of the baby, which would make sense I suppose.

Sending cyber hugs from a fellow sufferer.

Thanks splodgesmum. The reason why it is worse when lying down is according to my physio because the musles relax when you are lying and don't support your bones so much.

needahand just a word of caution on how you approach the time issue with the cleaner. If she thinks its just about being there for the time, she might drag out some of the jobs which means that she might be their for the full 4 hours but you're not actually getting any more work out of her if that makes sense?

You could suggest that clearly she is managing to do the cleaning in less than 4 hours so you can either reduce the hours or increase the jobs. (Unless of course some of the jobs aren't up to scratch in which case get her to spend longer on them).

oh, anyone still at work and having a friday afternoon feeling ?

bitofa... - have had that feeling all day today. Desparate to stop pretending to be working and go home, where I intend to give DS his night bottle, give him a cuddle, read him a story and then put him and myself to bed. Can't wait.

Bugger - DH promised me 2 weeks ago a night out, don't worry I will get a babysitter he says, 3.00 this afternoon, who is babysitting and what time are they coming, guess what nothing done, he gets to go out again and I get to stau home and cook.

Off to physio on Monday, MW hasn't done anything so my mother is paying (she is lovely)