Due November 08 - we're a bunch of worrying fusspots who don't know we fancy to eat, but pass us the ginger biscuits purlease while we wait for 12 weeks

[Heartmum2Jamie]

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OK my update - Creena I hope you are OK today.x My discharge got worse this morning - with streaks of fresh blood mixed with the brown. I also have period cramps which are worrying.. I spoke to the same ObsGynae Reg and he has said for me to come in today if the bleeding gets really heavy or the pain gets unbearable. Otherwise I have to go the my EPC tomorrow for a check up.
I did a bit of research last night, and it is normal for a bleed around the time a period is due, which would be the fact with me. Strange thing is that there is very little stain/blood making it onto my pad, I really only notice it after being to the loo and wiping myself, so maybe it isnt as bad as I fear.
Anyhow DH is away with DS for the afternoon, then DS goes to his Nan's for his school days - until we move house closer to his school. So, I'm on the sofa watching reruns of 'Ello 'Ello and silently praying to God that everything will be OK.
Thank you all for your support - DH is good about it TBH, and I can talk to him, but he's worried too and it's not really that fair to burden him with my concerns and every ache and pain! He gave me a lovely hug in bed last night (spoons) and rubbed my belly and told me he hoped it would all be ok. I told him 'thanks for that!' He said 'for what? It's only a hug.' Exactly - it's those little things that matter most.

Oh sorry for three in a row - but I also spoke to my mum about 'not feeling too well today with cramps'. She asked was I bleeding - and I then told her the situation. She was great, so I am glad I told her I'm preg, because she told me to rest up, not to go out with DS and DH - let them have the time together - and she's there for me whatever the result.

Mad4 ? so sorry things are so tough for you at the moment . Your DH obviously has ?issues? and I guess you need to get to the bottom of these before you can sort it out. It may just be the pressure of the responsibility of baby no.2 is hitting him?

Twinkling ? men just don?t understand these things about telling people do they? But, it is probably just because he is so proud and pleased (but that doesn?t make it right!)

Divedaisy ? it sounds more promising for you but at least if you go to the EPC tomorrow, hopefully they can put your mind at rest. I bled constantly for the first 8 weeks with DS (and it was fresh, red blood and pretty much constant ? like a period really) and I always remember the statistic of 95% of women bleeding in early pg go on to have a healthy baby

Roca ? our house will never resemble a show house ? far too much clutter and not enough storage. Me and DH just about manage to make it looking acceptable but that usually involves a big effort on Sunday evenings for both of us

Acne ? I suffer too and have done since my early 20?s although it cleared up completely whilst I was pg with DS and didn?t re-appear until a couple of months ago. Really hoping that the same happens this time as I felt so much more confident without huge zits on my face .

Woke up this morning and felt properly sick ? struggled to eat my breakfast. Was planning on going to aerobics but thought I wouldn?t be able to. Anyway, after about 10 minutes, it just vanished so had some toast and managed to go to aerobics after all ? I really hope that it stays like this but I know it is just going to get worse and worse as the days go on. Also completely shattered due to losing an hour last night but managed to have a nap when DS did this afternoon.

x

Divedaisy - thinking of you - are you going to try for another scan tomorrow?

Your Dh sounds very intune by rubbing your tummy - all mine seems to care about it what a great shot he was and how much I'm gonna moan over the next 9 mos!!

I was quite surprised with DC1 that DH didn't ask that much about what I was feeling physically etc each day but then I guess he wouldn't understand all the litle flutters and aches and pains you get each hour and how massive it is for the woman!

Thanks Roca - Yes getting a scan tomorrow. The clinic starts at 11:45 so I'll be there to wait my turn. TBH I'm glad I'm getting a scan, cos it'l tell me what's happening (if anything) and if it's good news I may get to see the heartbeat .
I don't recall this happening with preg #1, but DH says that something simialr aoourred. I do remember bleeding fresh blood at 13 wks.
yes he is good with the belly rubbing! It was a lovely and much needed huggle!

or a cuggle as my ds calls them! bless!! xx

Mad how awful to have an argument in front of your wee DS, but don't beat yourself up too much, DH and I have done it on a few occassions too It is not good for them, but then again, life just simply isn't rosy all the time. She see's us having 'cuggles' more often.
It is good to hear that other DH's react in anger when they are under stress or worried about things. Well, obvs not really, but I told a friend in RL that my DH often reacts in anger if he thinks he has just been caught out or if he feels he has let me down and she looked so shocked! And said, sounds like the reaction of a child She is a high school teacher and went on to say that that is the way the teenagers react. But it just made me feel that my DH was awful and lacking in maturity.

As for him and his blabbermouth, well we managed to get one of the girls today (they happen to be our neighbours, over the back) and I got him to tell her how far along we were and that could she please keep it to herself for a bit.
He told her that he was meant to be keeping it to family but that he got excited, she just laughed at him So I feel a bit better about it now.

Talking of feeling better, I am feeling better today, yeah. Not so much nausea, mainly cos I haven't stopped eating, but hey, whatever works!

divedaisy I hope everything goes ok tommorrow and that you see a nice good strong heartbeat.
How many weeks are you now? It is so hard to keep up!
Maybe we should put that on the list, how many weeks along we are, that way we could check easily?

Ash80, Zineryt was one of the first things i tried and it didnt work for me. I was thinking of seeing a naturopath as that is the only route i havent gone down!

Thanks for your words of encouragment guys.

Hope you all enjoy your evening

twinkling - my dh totally turns into a teen when he feels he has let me down - even if I've asked him to post something and he forgets he gets all like 'well, you should do it yourself next time etc etc' and I know that's just him finding it hard to say, yep, I should have done it, sorry!

I really have to stop stuffing my face - but so nauscious (can't spell) all day - like 10 mins after eating. I alsways remember that week before giving birth thinking 'now I'm nicely pregnant but next week I'll just be plain fat'! Trouble is, the plain fat bit has carried on for 2 years!

We should be able to work out how far we all are along by checking their name on list against ours - i.e. if EDD 7 days before you then they are a week ahead etc!

Oh - just know there are going to be a few of us who drop off along the way which is so sad a right now am so hoping that won't be me - is that selfish of me?

twinkle I think I'm obout 6 weeks, but going by my dates I should be around 8, so I'm afraid I don't really know. I think I'll be moving down the list at some point.

I think we can all be victims of 'throwing teddy out of cot syndrome'! It's not just isolated with men!

Also Roca - I hope I don't drop off the list either - it's not selfish, it's protection of your wee one and the hope to meet him/her and have a wonderful life together. I don't think there's anyone on this list who hopes to drop off it. Noone wants to grive.

On a better note, my cramps are easing off, and still no staining on the pad.

Just wondered how you ladies were doing -
Divedaisy
Creena
Roca
I was just thinking about you all and hoping you were o.k.

Divedaisy just wanted to post to wish you good luck for tomorrow.

Roca its not selfish to not want to be off the list, we all feel the same.

Lets all keep supporting each other, providing a place to moan about our symptoms or DH's and enabling each other to vent our stresses and relax that little bit more. hopefully we can all stay on the list. In November we'll be the ones on the childbirth pages yelling for lulamama and we'll all be stood round waiting on each other. positive thoughts xxxx

Hi Everyone,
I am due 18th Nov (Edd) I have a ds who is 3 and a dd who is 5 months.
Really suffering with morning sickness and tiredness, much worse this time around.
This was a shock and I am just starting to get my head aound it all.

How do I add myself to the list???

oh I'm tired but still have to clean the kitchen, clean out hamster, go through a stack of paperwork, sort some washing out etc etc. I wish I could just write it off til tomorrow - in fact, I think that's one of the hard things being a mum is that you just stitch youself up if you leave things til the next day - soon you become just 2 hands waving for help under a pile of household chores and snotty kids.

I wish my DD age 2 would start getting easier a bedtime - anyone got any tips? She climed out of her cot from 18mos so we now have her in a bed under her brother (cabin bed type thing). She hasn;t leant to go on her own so we lie with her. If not she will get up like 75 times to get out the door (can't do stair gates, they climb over). So DH is up there now with her thrashing around. DS (age 3) is just a dream - you just say 'up to be' and he's off - he still falls asleep with all her fussing going on.

She's just at the age where she needs a sleep in the day but if she has one you end up at this time of night still battling. Can someone take her and train her then pass her back?!!

Oh No, roca don't frighten me
My DD is really good at going to bed, just like your DS. Hopefully she will stay that way, but I am always thinking that #2 is going to be pay back for getting it so easy with DD.

O dear, DH was reading over my shoulder and have now had to reasure him that I was not telling you ladies anything nasty.
ah, men.

Hi SaraC - I think you made a mistake with your entry - you have a 3 yr old and 5 mos and you are like 7wks pg?!!

Are your youngest gonna be just a year apart?!! ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

I thought I had it bad with a 3 and 2 yr old (17mos apart) and one on the way

good luck tommorow ladies with your scans - that's Oblomov, daivedaisy and dozymare isn't it?

twinkling - tell your dh to keep his nose out or you will be telling us nasty things!

Do you think you have to be really chilled out to have a lovelt, easy chilled out baby? Me and DH are both stress heads and have had 2 hectic, climbing into everything monkeys and I'm hoping this time I have a satisfied easy one who will just sit any play with toys for hours at a time!

Can I join you please? Got BFP on Thursday and after talking to a friend have worked out that I got my dates wrong in the process of panicking about the fact that this will be dc#3. Revised EDD will be 14th Nov but of course that could all change when I get my scan date through. Have an appointment with madwife on the 14th of this month, and have to have some bloods taken on friday to check my thyroid levels checked.

I am 32 have a dd aged 6 and a ds aged 2.5

WEll, I don't know that it does have anything to do with it, butbetween us we could prove it right.
I am V laid back (with the odd flair up, I am only human) and had a lovely stress free enjoyable pregnancy (minus the HG MS, bleurgh)
The birth went ok for me. I only took G&A and only cos they told me to, there again it went a bit wrong at the end (another story, not for new mums to hear) but once DD was out I was happy and calm again.

Upshot is that DD is a v chilled out babe too. But who knows if it has anything to do with any of that!?

Haha LOL mummyhill at 'madwife'

Congrats, I think?
Are you happy now that you have your head around it? It sounds like you were not expecting or planning it?

ooh twinkling - throw some of the laid-backness over my way please! My head never stops racing at like 100 miles an hour!

Welcome mummyhill & Congrats

Yes sarah, come and be triplets with me and hanaflower
LOL at Roca. Ds was a dream. No trouble. Fed, slept, eats. (Not that I ever appreciated it at the time)
What happens if I get the DEVILCHILD for dc 2 ????
Welcome mummyhill.

new question - one word answers only please in box below!

Have had 2 c sections - first time I had placenta previa so elective then tried for natural but ater days and no prgression past 6cms and a back to back baby had to have another.

If you were me would you try for natural (ouch and am v.scared of it!!) but better recovery with the 3 kids i will have or C-section (shivers at thought of surgery) but no hideous contractions - ahhhh!

Not sure if my trust will let me try natural?