I wrote a really heartfelt post earlier in response to your question Welshie but am having connection problems today and it got lost.
Anyway, this is how I feel about meeting.
What's happened to Sweetheart and her family, has cast a real shadow over our lives, pregnancies and probably will for quite some time to come. The thread will not be the same without her. Meeting up will similarly be clouded by yesterday's sad events and will be a much more sombre, reflective event. I certainly don't look forward to it with the same excitement and happiness that I was. My first thought was that it would be more appropriate to cancel.
However, when I read april's message, Icould hardly believe the deep sadness that overwhelmed me. Of course, I told my dp and he was truly sympathetic, but couldn't quite understand why it had affected me so much. It made me realise how much the June thread, and all of you have come to mean to me, and I can honestly say it surprised me just how much, after a reasonably short space of time of 'virtually' knowing a group of people. Some of us (Sweetheart included) remember each other from the TTC threads. The support and intensity of our connection has been invaluable to me and I'm sure to lots of you too. As a result of that, it has made me feel that I want to meet you even more. I'm sure we're all feeling very sad at the moment and I can think of no better people to understand and share my grief with than all of you.
That said, I would still agree to meet, it may help us all. If the rest of you think it would be inappropriate or couldn't face it, then I completely understand.