Babes in Scotland this year - shall we have our own thread?

[whinegums]

Hi, I can't see any up to date antenatal threads for mums to be in Scotland, anyone want to join in this one? I think there are a few Scottish mums on the due in June thread, so I wondered if we should have our very own for all of this year's Scottish crop?

damn, was premature with the hope of spring yesterday, could barely see the road this morning due to insane rain... must have come down from Edinburgh!

I have in law rage this week after a visit on Sunday. In what way is it acceptable to greet your step-daughter in law with "how many weeks are you? we'll have to get a trolley to push you about in soon"?

I wouldn't be so annoyed if a) I was actually particularly huge, but so far it's all bump and not such weight gain anywhere else or b) she was a tiny slip of a thing.

an hour and a half with them was enough!

I hope that wasn't our one and only Spring day yesterday!

I've just had mw appointment, and good news is SGH does allow water birth now, but there's only one birth pool. Keep your fingers crossed for me that it's free when I need it! All of the mws I've met so far have been lovely, and one of them from that team will be looking after me in labour, so I'm happy about that too.

Ooooh, LauraT, why do people think they can say stuff like that? It is good to remember that your bump won't be forever, but their bad manners and crassness are. As I pointed out to a particularly charming and balding chap, I can always lose weight, but his hair is never going to grow back. Something like that seems to shut them up!

That's good news about the waterbirth, I think SGH is the only Glasgow hospital that allows them?

I wish I could say something like that to the SMIL but for the sake of family harmony I just smile and clock watch until we can leave! SIL had the same problems with her, so lots of sympathy from her about it too! The good news is that DH isn't keen on her either, so I was able to have a rant in the car on the way home. She finished off the visit with a complaint that we hadn't seen them since just after Christmas, when we visited briefly. I pointed out that they hadn't been to visit us either, and they'd been out the country for 6 weeks of the year!

Argh.

Someone else said Princess Royal offers waterbirths too, and they have several pools in the mw unit? At least I have the chance of having one now, so quite pleased. Although monster is transverse at the moment, so he'd better get himself sorted in time!

Hmm, not sure if it's better if SMIL is horrible to everyone! But you're not being singled out for special (mis)treatment. Argh, relatives....! And then they wonder why you're not rushing around to visit....

But whinegums, dont you know that now you're pregnant all the rules go out of the window and people can say anything they like to you? .

I always remind people that I'm no less offended by innapropriate comments about my weight just because I'm pregnant. And just because people think its fine, doesn't mean it's not hurtful.

Very early on, when I just started showing, my mum told me that she thought it looked like I was going to be like her and carry loads of weight spread accross my front instead of a little neat bump like a pregnant relative. Em, thanks mum (she was right but its not the point!).

Oh, also, anyone got any experiences to share about Edinburgh Royal Infirmary (unless its a real horror story!). I've finally resolved to start thinking about the birth (will 11 1/2 weeks to go).

DQ, oh, yes, of course, forgot about that!

My aunt told me I'd given her a 'nasty surprise' when she found out I was pregnant! Still haven't forgiven her FFS, I'm 35 and been with DP for seven years! Not like I'm a 15 year old with no job, no house and no bloke!!!! She does cast herself as the moral guardian of the family....

What are people like whinegums?!?

Some young thing at work yesterday was asking if I was 'ready' and going on about people she knew who had kids but who didn't feel ready and how she couldn't imagine having kids. FFS - I'm at a completely different stage of life than her. I'm 35, married, settled - if I'm not ready now I never will be!!! (Not that you have to be older, married or settled to have kids btw!!) She made me feel like such an old fart .

DQ I can almost forgive young and daft folks. I'm glad no one is asking me if I'm 'ready' though, I might well answer 'no' - and not sure if I will be either! Trying to be sensible and think about birth, plan, baby equipment... But veering to pretending it's not happening some days!

We're due pretty much at the same time, I'm 28+4 today. 11 1/2 weeks..... Eeeeeeeeek!

I think people develope some kind of illness when speaking to a pregnant person and they just dont know what to say to them. My MIL drives me crackers with her comments thankfully since we have moved I have gone from seeing her once a day to once every 3ish months I have just got to know my SMIL the last year and I get on really well with her. She calls me fatty at the moment though and for some strange reason it doesnt bother me. I know she is taking the mic and the other day she said I dont think you have a baby in there one big fart and it will be gone....but the way she says it I know its banter and it doesnt upset me. Just as well or I would be inclined to give her a right hook if not.

It doesn't get any better the more experienced you are either! My mum looked at me yesterday and said "oh dear you are very BIG - you wont be able to move by July" - nice

Also people who you have never met before think that it is okay to touch your bump - I hate that! Why? Would you go up to complete stranger and touch their stomach? NO! But I've had complete strangers say "aw a new baby coming - nice" while they put their hand on my bump -

I am 24 + 4, seems to be going very slowly - roll on the nice weather!! xx

lordy me too - we went to visit a new nursery today and if the woman went on once she said a hundred times she couldn't believe I was only 23wks - apparently she never reached the size I am now even when she was full term and how am I going to manage and goodness knows what size am going to be and on and on and on

dh did sway in the car afterwards he was mentally willing her to be quiet as he thought I was going to lose the plot

Well I'm the opposire I keep getting the "oh your so neat, how far on are you now?" (25+5 for anyone couting) so when I tell them they look like they don't believe me and am I sure? Talk about not winning?! All I say is well the baby is the size she should be and thats all that matters. This pregnancy is following DD2's in that I am all neat little bump just now unfortunately neat little bump will become huge bump on legs towars the end.

Oh and whilst I'm on a roll about the comments strangers make today at toddlers this woman was saying she gets names mixed up and I said yes I do too and it's good I'm having another girls as I can just shout "stop it girls" she said oh well it might be a boy so I said no it's a girl we know already so she patted my arm and said aww it doesn't matter as long as it's healthy and happy so I said we really wanted another girl as the two we have are so great couldn't imagine having a boy! Some people like I need consoling or something.

Anyway I agree with the weather one nice day to convince us Spring might be on the way but no another day of rain today, what really annoys me is the shops are full of little summer clothes as well.

hi all, was just reading the March ante-natal thread and it seems paranoid had her DS (Dillon) March 22! Congratulations to her!

Please let it be me next!

oh thats lovely news - hope she's doing ok

two boys, first arrivals for scottish thread!!

two boys
well done paranoid1sttimer

Paranoid1stTimer - DILLON 8lb6 on 22nd March!!
Monthlymayhem - LEWIS GABRIEL BORN 19th MARCH!!
Bearmama - Edinburgh March 23
Jaq39 - 12 April edinburgh, DD1 - 15yrs, DS1 - 19mths
northeastmummy - 19 April, Aberdeen, 2nd DD, DD1 19 months
Soph28 19 April, Bathgate, 3rd dc, ds 3 nxt wk, dd 20mths
bobsmum - 25th April, Stirlingshire, 3rd DC (surprise) DS 5, DD 2.
potpourri - 29 April, Lanark, 3rd baby (surprise!), DD1 age 3, DD2 age 21 Months
baiyu - 7th May, Fort William, first baby - surprise!
aberdeenhiker - 5th June, Aberdeen, DS1 20 months
Josey - 5th June, Aberdeenshire,DS1(8)DD1(2)(GIRL)
whinegums - 20 June, Glasgow, 1st DC (BOY)
bitofadramaqueen - EDD 22nd June, first baby
OatcakeCravings - due 1st July, my 1st DS
sweetkitty - 10th July, Lanarkshire, 3rd DC (GIRL), DD1 3.8, DD2 2.2
mcchesers - 12 July, Glasgow,1st baby (Boy)
minipinkscottish - due 18th July (girl) (ds 15,ds 13, ds 10, dd 5, ds 2)
dizzydixies - 30 July, NE Fife, 3rd DC, dd1 4.5yrs & dd2, 22months
TheApprentice - 10 August, West Lothian, ds 14 months
hazieandbaby - 14 August, Aberdeen, 1st DC
Jennylee - 17th August, Broxburn 2nd DC, Ds1 is 8years old
poppysocks - DC2 (DD is 2) on 17 August and in St Andrews
carolcupcake - DC2 due end of August, waiting on section date, Glasgow. DS1 is 7 months
mumofdjandp - mid sept, central scotland, dc3, ds1 4yrs and ds2 14 months
mybabysinthegarden - end Oct, Borders, dc2, dd1 15 months
expatinscotland - 31 October, Argyll, 3rd DC, dd1 4yrs & dd2 2yrs

Congratulations Paranoid! Its lovely to hear these birth announcements.

I went to Babybond in Livingston last night (like JennyLee) for an anatomy scan. Everything seems to be in order so I feel quite relieved, although of course the scans can only tell you so much. We dont want to know the gender so had to keep shutting our eyes at certain moments!

Congrats paranoid and glad your scan went well apprentice.

On the subject of annoying things people say... Every now and again I might have a whinge about my size (I'm pregnant, its allowed!) and people say, ooh, its all baby, once its out you'll be back to normal. Err, hello! I wont just snap into shape and anyway I know that I've put weight on that will be hard to shift post baby. So now I suspect that everyone in their really sensitive way will be commenting on my post-baby weight and that's when it will really hurt me .

whinegums I'm still in denial too! Lots to do and running out of time. And I've not thought about the birth yet, la la la...

I got tons of comments about my weight last time while I was pregnant but fortunately no one was stupid enough to continue the comments after birth when I was hormonal, sleep deprived, and willing to inflict pain..

dizzydixies - at least you'll know what nursery you're not putting your child in!

aberdeenhiker the problem is that they have an adhoc facility that we don't have at the one they're in now and it would save us a FORTUNE in child care so will probably have to change over - at least I managed to keep my mouth shut, much to suprise of dh lol

Thanks very much for the congrats - I havent been able to get on here much since he was born - I'm not sure where the last week has gone TBH!!! Not looking forwards to OH paternity leave finishing up. Think I will be in floods of tears

He's a brilliant wee boy and we are just getting used to him - he can be a bit grumpy and makes kind of growling noises when he is annoyed or frstrated rather than crying. He only really wails when he feels naked getting his nappy changed or his bath.

Labour was pretty traumatic. Was almost fully dilated when got to the hospital but they still sat me in the waiting room in front of all these other women who were really concerned as I was just doing my breathing from the hypnotherapy to try and get me to "zero zero zero" where the pain is meant to be easier to handle. Must say, the hypnotherapy was great for the early contractions but you REALLY have to concentrate. The poor women in the prenatal assessment waiting room must have been like "Sh!t - is that what we have to look forwards to?!?!" I could have had Dillon at about 3pm and I actually felt him pushing down the birth canal but I wasnt allowed to push until the antibiotics for Group B Strep had been in my system for 2 hrs. I should have gone in earlier but I honestly thought it was another false alarm after last week when it all started then he popped out of being engaged so I was lying on the floor when OH got home and bundled us off to the hospital.

Anyway, due to the GBS and the fast labour, they gave me something to slow down labour and that seemed to f*ck everything up TBH. I ended up pushing for hours then I got a fever and the baby got distressed. He just wouldnt come out of there. They got all scrubbed up and ready for an emergency CS when the doctor had a look and said he was back in the right position so she delivered him with forceps (and a spinal block & episiotomy obviously) all stuff I really didnt want but as the situation had got dangerous, we just wanted him out safe and sound. I was totally out of it until the spinal block kicked in. I remember having to sign some kind of disclaimer or consent form but what are you going to do in that situation??? Not sign it?!?

I have kinda forgotten how bad it was now and am getting over the guilty feelings about not being able to push him out myself which I know is silly and I know I was really lucky that they took good care of me - it is so frustrating since I did everything like perenial massage, lying on the left side to sleep, antenatal vitamins, folic acid and all that cr@p along with hypno and sh!t then when you physically cant get the baby out and have had every drug going you feel a little bit disappointed in yourself. Silly, I know I know. Other people have a much much worse time and I think I am just feeling sorry for myself a bit.

Well, thats it then! We're parents now. I have forgotten what it is like to be pregnant and we are only just getting a tiny bit of sleep since he feeds all through the night and sleeps really well during the day but I couldnt sleep while he was sleeping as I am terrified he will stop breathing! Living up to my nickname again!!! Paranoia!

My friends keep telling me to get used to the worry and just got with the flow as it will be like this forever - worry worry worry. Ha Ha.

The only thing I wasnt expecting from all this is how redundant I now feel since the baby is out there. Everyone just wants to take him off me and tell me what to do. Esp MIL!!! I guess this is normal but I only have my Dad and Brother so we are outnumbered. I think MIL is overcompensating on the telling us what to do as my mum died last year and I dont have her to help me now. It is really hard. They want to give him formula where I am breast feeding and they will just not stop going on about how hard it is and how no one else can feed him (ie it is not fair on them that I am breast feeding). OH got another earful the other night about it so I am getting really p!ssed off.

Sorry for the long rant - I have to say the Princess Royal was fine. It is really busy and some of the auxilliary's were a bit hard to handle and wouldnt leave me alone. Every time I went to the toilet I would come back and my stuff had been moved around which was annoying and I never saw who was doing it so I couldnt really do anything about it. You are not allowed to shut the curtain around your bed unless you are feeding and even then they just all come in anyway. I guess it just depends on whos shift it is when you get to the ward.

They did offer me a birthing pool for labour - not sure if you can actually deliver in the pool but I didnt want to use it. Didnt actually realise this was on offer! Also, being Easter weekend, I think staff were pretty stretched. The midwives were great. Especially on Day 3 when I couldnt stop crying - which bugged me even more since I wasnt allowed to shut the curtain so I just had to sit there in uncontrolable floods of tears thanks to the hormones but they did say it was completely understandable and normal. Wasnt ready for that!!!

Got out after 3 days and I have to say the EarthMamaAngelBaby sore bottom spray and butter have been an absolute godsend (as long as you can tolerate the herbal ingredients and arent allergic or anything) but I have extremely bad bruising and stiches so been sitting on frozen peas for days!!!

Well, I will sign off now and go feed AGAIN!!!

Good luck to all of you - hope you have happy health pregnancies and happy health babies!!!

oh well done paranoid

get yourseolf some arnica too - will help with the healing

Massive congratulations and hugs Paranoid! Hopefully your MIL will calm down a bit and let you get on with things how you want to. If not, tell her to get lost and blame the hormones afterwards. I do hope your nethers feel better soon. Rest up and enjoy your brand new human - well done you!!!!

well done paranoid! Yipee! My Dh bought me a mr bump and mr happy gel packs for my birthday a few years ago because I am always running into things. I told him yesterday what use mr happy was going to go when we got back from the hospital. He sort of went pale.

I have just finished up work. I'm on a list to work a 2 month contract if something comes up, but honestly if it doesn't in the next few weeks, I'll just start MA. I've got a very wiggly kicky boy in here making a fuss.

In laws need to come supplied with a conversation filter. My MIL is the grim reaper and is always filling my head with dreadful paranoid thoughts.

My friend from the states just left and she had a great time here in Scotland. She took a tour up to the highlands and everything. (i waddle too slow and had to finish work) Talk about a good friend, she brought be a 3pc set of baby froggie onesies and a soft froggie rattle. awwwww! She also let us with a gift certificate to a nice restaraunt knowing full well that we are skinto for many months. What a doll, will miss her bad.

Whinegums..did they say the SGH does water births for sure?! I was told it was just to labour in and not for birthing. WTF?