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Due March 2008- Alright everyone, let's see those babies!!

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turtle23 · 28/02/2008 07:37

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merryberry · 01/03/2008 21:39

Wonderful news Derah, congratulations!

And congratulations on the new bathroom AFB!

derah · 01/03/2008 21:40

Hello ladies!!

Woo hoo, I have a baby and she's so gorgeous!! And I'm so flippin' relieved it's all over I just can't tell you!

As I posted last night, waters went at 11pm while I was reading in bed, but just a trickle, with contractions starting about the same time. Poor DH went very pale when I called him upstairs to pass me a towel!!! I tried to get some sleep, cos with DD1 (hee hee, now I have to write DD1 and DD2, not just DD!), it was still well over 12 hours of mild contractions until labour really kicked off properly. After a little while, I gave up trying to sleep cos the contractions were really quite painful, and went downstairs to watch TV. At about 2am I had a big gush of water while bouncing on my ball, followed by much bigger contractions. I went upstairs to change, got DH out of bed and asked him to get up and get the pool started. At around 3am, the contractions were getting really painful and got DH to call the midwives.

Now keeping in mind that DD1 took 27 hours to arrive, and after an 11pm water-breaking, it wasn't until 2pm the next day that we even bothered with going into hospital, and that was just to find out if I really was in labour! So to have everything happen so fast this time was a bit of a shocker!! The pool was filling, the midwives arrived, TENS machine was doing a great job but I was really not happy! It darned well HURT!!

Not sure about the time scale from here on, but midwive did an exam, told me I was 6cm, which was good but I thought that meant I still had ages to go. Got started on G&A, which got me from feeling all teary and upset to mellow and giggly - for about a minute! After that it was just lovely to puff on during horrid contractions.

I sat on the sofa for a little while longer, but then started to feel a bit of pressure and the TENS was annoying me, so I got into the pool. Aaah, it was wonderful! So warm and floaty! The midwives (there were 2 by this stage) said I was free to push if I wanted, which I thought was a bit soon since I'd only been 6cm a minute ago (or so it seemed), but if you gotta push, you gotta push!!

The pushing went on for a little while, and it was weird how in control and empowered I felt! With DD1, but the pushing stage I was totally in a state - only vaguely concious (total exhaustion and lots of G&A), not in control at all and just screaming to everyone that I couldn't do it. This time I was calm, all was well, and the pushing didn't seem too difficult. The mw seemed to feel it was going on a little bit too long though and got me to change position a couple of times. The baby's head was coming out but going back in, and she said not to worry cos it doesn't sting in water. I told her it damned well does!!!! Finally baby's head came out properly, and mw said that she was looking up instead of down, so she was OP and that's why the pushing was so hard. I was amazed because while it was taking a while, it didn't seem that hard to me. Baby was stuck under the water with just the head sticking out, and my contractions stopped for a little bit so I couldn't finish pushing her out. It was very weird cos she was wriggling and it felt sooooooooooo strange to have this wiggly thing sticking out of my bits!! Eventually another contraction came along and out she popped, and mw put her straight up onto my chest.

I wanted to wait until the cord stopped pulsating to cut it, so we just lay in the pool for a while and I put her to my breast to see if she was interested. She wasn't, but we had a lovely cuddle anyway. Eventually cord stopped, mw cut it and took baby for a check-over while I pushed the placenta out. It came out pretty quickly so I didn't need any drugs for that, which was cool. Then baby and I cuddled on the sofa, she finally had a feed and we watched everyone else clearing up!!! She weighed 7lb13, arrived at 5:35am and is gorgeous and perfect in every way (though her head was a VERY odd shape when she came out!!!).

DD1 slept through the whole thing, and woke up about 7am when baby cried. She was so excited, yelling "baby come out!!!" and is totally smitten with her little sister (as are we all!). We didn't settle on a name until this evening, but we're calling her Alexandra Rachel.

She's been asleep all day (and so have I, mostly!) but woke up this evening to feed lots and show us how effectively she can fill her tiny fluffy nappies!!!

So that's my long story. I'm so happy that I got exactly the birth I wanted, and pretty quickly too. I won't say it was fun, cos birth just isn't!!! But it was the best I could have asked for and I'm over the moon!!!

I hope it goes as well for all the rest of you too!

After-pains suck, though! Should have asked the mw to leave me some G&A!

merryberry · 01/03/2008 22:19

Magic Derah, pure magic

turtle23 · 01/03/2008 22:32

Derah- I am so very thrilled for you. It's so lovely to hear a good home birth story. Hope I am as lucky as you!! Well done for getting round to posting so quickly!
Merryberry-you still here? Was hoping that you'd been quiet today because you were busy being in labour.

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delcymru · 01/03/2008 22:46

Congrats DERAH to you and your family.Makes me feel calmer that we're going for a home birth after hearing your birth story.You sound brilliant.

CricketsMum · 01/03/2008 23:29

Congrats Derah! So glad it went well for you - water definitely sounds like the way forward!

MarchNowFebMum · 02/03/2008 01:22

Congrats Derah - yay for water, huh? I had similar calmness during pushing stage. Also another victory for gas and air -- I am thinking there is a huge market for home gas and air distillers! During a recent painful bout of mastitis (cleared up now - am doing normal feeds again thankfully), I looked at dh and said 'gas and air, gas and air!'.

MarchNowFebMum · 02/03/2008 01:41

Re: Fitandfortyone's question. I was squatting for most of the pushing bit and all of a sudden I just felt it was the end and had the urge to stand up. The midwife was quite nervous bc he (oh yes, did I mention I had a male mw - he was awesome!) thought I would want to go back down which I couldn't bc the he was holding the head which came out after the first contraction standing. But I knew it was the end, I had one more push, body was out and I was done. Michel Odent, the Dr who brought waterbirths to the UK talks about a phenomenon that can happen during water births where the mother has the instinct to stand (and sometimes get out of pool) and that signals the end and the likely occurence of fetal ejection reflex where it just sort of expels itself. The last two contractions I hardly pushed and she just slipped out. The MW then turned to the student midwife and said 'you don't know how lucky you are, some people wait their whole careers to see this occur'.

It was so cool! Felt so proud of my body, which has never done well at anything physical/athletic before.

merryberry · 02/03/2008 08:03

still here, loads of cramps and a show in the night. MW dropped off tens this am on her way to baby show, in case i need it later.

going to get house cleaned and recheck any packing this am. have a surge of energy which more than anything makes me feel like labour may be coming soon.

so pleased the mastitis cleared up marchmum!

imjin100 · 02/03/2008 08:58

Derah - fantastic news and a great story - well done you! Brilliant, brilliant.
MB, very best of luck - I am watching with interest!
love to all and bumps and babies. Can it really be our turn to have the babies...who remembers looking at the threads of those who had made it all the way through and thinking it seemed so remote, such a long way off and now it's our turn....
I feel quite surreal about the whole thing.
hugs to all.

e14mum · 02/03/2008 09:28

Welcome little Alexandra!
Thanks for posting the stories girls- made my morning.

turtle23 · 02/03/2008 09:37

Good luck, Merry.let's hope you're next!

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fitnfortyone · 02/03/2008 09:43

MNFM - thanks for the explanation! One of my friends did similar with her first, but she just wanted to get out of the pool.

Derah - great story, hope it goes as well for the rest of us!

MB - fingers crossed it's all moving now

I had some mild contractions last night for an hour or so but then stopped. Had a couple more this morning, but obviously still very irregular. Off to tweak some acupressure points to see what i can move along! Just hope it isn't one of those stages that last for days before the real thing gets along as i don't want DH to have to go into work and sit there on tenterhooks waiting to be summoned home

Jaysthird · 02/03/2008 09:57

Still here...bah humbug!

Great story Derah!! Gives us all hope!!

Marchnowfebmum, awe inspiring! I have heard of that before, what an experience you must have had

Happy Mothering Sunday to one and all - even if you are still 'without babe in arms' your still more of a mum than you were this time last year!

My DS was born on Mothering Sunday last year - 18th March, i was thinking that today would have been a good one for this 'blighter' but alas he/she just doesnt want to move... i see induction looming for me

There seems to be a few of us in the same boat, with regards contractions/BH starting and stopping, its so damn infuriating...grrrrrr - although Merry you sound like you are about to step of the 'starting blocks' and hit the first hurdle good luck to you!!

Right off to find something to do as its such a sunny, albeit cold, day.

Laters x

JFly · 02/03/2008 10:08

Oh yes, Happy Mother's Day to all our new mums! Derah your story is so inspiring! Love the sound of these home births - wish I could have convinced DH.

MB I reeeeally hope things move along for you today. You have the patience of a saint!

Had a few twinges and crampy-ness from yesterday afternoon and lots of "low down" pressure and sharp pains, so hoping that means we're getting things going over here. Although not sure why I'm so keen - can't get ahold of painter so our pristinely plastered nursery is not any closer to getting decorated. Blast him!

Oh well, not feeling much this morning, so probably just signs of things to come, rather than "this is it" type pains/pressure.

Enjoy the sunshine!

timmyinatizzy · 02/03/2008 16:58

Congrats to Derah. You nearly had a Feb 29th baby. Thanks to Mr Derah for the update. I've given my Dh strict instructions to post on here as soon as he can too!

Thought I may have had the 29th feb baby on Friday. I woke up at 4.30 with quite bad period style pains. Had almost forgotten what they felt like!! Couldn't get back to sleep at all, I really thought that it could of been that day. But alas I'm still sitting here with a bump. Dh gave me a Mothers Day card from Junior on Friday night just in case I had, had him by Sunday. It was v cute as it was from the bump, and said that he would see me soon. He can be so thoughtful at times.

JFly - My pelvis and pubic area have really started to hurt today, maybe it is a sign of things to come?

Turtle - I wish, can't get my Dh to oblige so I don't know if I''m sore. I'll keep trying though

merryberry · 02/03/2008 20:32

wow, nearly 11 days of pre-laboury malarkey for me now.

loads of show and loads of cramps today, resigned to even more long slow progress TBH. will be 'fun' at pbs appt tomorrow morning, when they go on about induction.

i've done my homework now...

fitnfortyone · 02/03/2008 22:23

good luck tomorrow MB, are you intending to resist induction then or grab with both hands?

If you've had 11 days of this, no wonder people want it over with, very uncomfortable! Just had cramps and tightenings varying between 1-6 mins for an hour or so at a time then nothing for 3-4 hours. Need waters to break or something to gee up the real thing!

derah · 02/03/2008 22:50

If it helps anyone, I was busy with a session of nipple stim when my waters broke! Can't guarantee it will work but can't hurt!!!

monthlymayhem · 02/03/2008 22:53

Derah - what a lovely story - congratulations

Sending labour vibes to all those getting fed up of waiting (I'm ducking the vibes though as our bathroom is still in the process of being ripped out so LO has to wait at least another week or so...)

Can I also ask what is probably a really obvious question about bedding ...- I've got fitted sheets to cover the moses basket and carrycot mattress, and then blankets for going on top of baby, but I keep reading bedding 'essentials' lists that also talk about needing flat sheets. Do I really need those too and if so what do I do with them??

merryberry · 03/03/2008 02:10

flat sheets? dunno, unless you want to swaddle with them?

resist induction FA41. all the things i would prefer not to have to go through again:

  1. a year of neurological follow up for the baby
  2. intensive care for baby
  3. feeding difficulties
  4. shoulder dystocia
  5. cut/tear/unplanned c section
  6. and the discomfort ones for me in labour

are common sequels to induction, sadly. much more common to experience these as result of induction than as a result of being fat, or 40, or having a large baby. read up on innaccuracy of sizing babies by ultrasound this weekend, and now know too much about how dire that is . can't sleep tonight mostly for having this run through my head. oh well we'll see. TBH most of pressure is building from worry about DP having to take endless time off!

Jaysthird · 03/03/2008 03:09

you still up Merryberry??

merryberry · 03/03/2008 08:11

nope! watched some dumb tv until my brain closed down What were you doing up at that hour J3rd?

ds cracking me up this am. funny little monkey.

Jaysthird · 03/03/2008 09:24

ahh, 3 oclock is my waking time. I suffer with bloody SPD and sciatica. Cant lie down now AT ALL so have to sleep sitting up with a hundred pillows etc. Anyway woke at 3 got up at 4 went back to bed at 4 45. DS woke at 5... as always and he didnt really go back to sleep till we got up at 7. bloody knackered.

Have got acupuncture this morning, second session. PLEASE let it help!!

Some one else had acupuncture today also??

turtle23 · 03/03/2008 09:45

Not sure whether to be relieved or slightly sad that all the contractions seem to have stopped. Nice to be able to relax, but was really hoping he was going to make an early appearance. Ho hum, guess this just means I have time to clean. Still waiting for this mysterious nesting instinct to kick in...so lazy...

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