Due July 2005 - part 2

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Just for you pm :o.

Thanks pinkmama and merglemergle for the welcome. I am just into my 13th week and starting to tell people our news. I think most people had thought that we would only have one child (our ds1 is just 4) so there will be quite a gap between our 2 boys compared to a lot of other friend's children. Don't think I could have contemplated having another baby sooner. I have my hands full with ds1. Ds1 seems thrilled that he is having a baby brother and talks to my tummy all the time and says that mummy has a baby in her tummy but that he and daddy have willies!

Any of you other ladies have quite a big gap between siblings? Any tips?

I know merglemergle that you will have 2 under 2 and pinkmama you are now on your third. When are your babies due?

Have bad headache today (maybe it's the cold weather!). Shouldn't really be on the pc today with a bad headache but I can't resist mumsnet! I'm addicted! It's so nice to talk to ladies going through the same sort of feelings etc.

Better go and do a few chores before collecting ds from nursery!

Hi Webwoman. I am due 29th July. There is 4 years 2 months between my dd and my ds, and then there will be 3.5 between my ds and this one. I didn't want such a large gap this time, and where going to try a year ago, but when it came to it I just wasn't ready. My urge for more doesn't seem to kick in until last one is close to 3. I got in a real panic about it once, and thought I should have had them closer together, but seeing friends with varying gaps, they all work in different ways.

Congrats webwoman - I am 39 also.

Told my parents today and my mother says "You are not are you?" and looked shocked, then she asked the usual questions about when etc.. My dad said nothing. Neither of them said oh thats nice or congrats or anything but kind of what I was expecting.

Eulalia - oh that's sad - why no congratulations from your parents?!!!

I have told work this week. Strangely most people thought it to be no surprise. Well it is number 3!!! The general consensus is that we are mad as ds1 will be just over 3 when number 3 arrives. I have to agree.

Been getting nasty, stabbing ovarian pains on the left ovary for the last coupld of days. I am sure I ovulated of the rhs the month we got pg. Any ideas what this could be - a cyst?

Welcome webwoman....

Webwoman-I'm due 1st July. There's 4 years (almost to the day!) between me and my brother and I think it worked really well. We were never especially close in that we played much together (you just can't when you're 12 and deeply cool and you've got an annoying 8 year old brother). However I was always quite protective of him and we actually got on pretty well. No sibling rivalry really, as he was just too much younger, and so into very different things (although he was once given a My Little Pony by a friend and I was FURIOUS, he was only about 2).

I do want 3 kids but I'm going to have to re-train in the next few years and so I might end up with a 4 year gap-or I might take a career break and finish having kids. Not sure. I'm 27 so I suppose I could take a break but kids are such hard work! Although I feel guilty a lot of the time, I do appreciate having him in nursery and "me time" ie sorting out other peoples problems (which is basically what I do for a living).

Eulalia-thats terrible of your parents! Do they think you're not happy about it? Even so, they should be supportive!

I was getting the stabbing pains a few days ago and mentioned it to the ultrasound operator, who checked for cysts etc. Nothing. Maybe the baby is kicking the ovary.

We had great fun last night. Ds was poking me in the stomach (as he likes to do, he is quite gentle)-and the baby was kicking back! Too gentle for anyone else to feel but still!

Hi all, what are you going to retrain from and to, Mergle?

Welcome Webwoman.

I've had grumbling bilateral ovaries last week (17th week this, just started if I'm counting OK). But then everything aches and unless it hurts like hell I'm just assuming its all normal until someone tells me otherwise. I haven't seen a midwife since week 8. Do I have to see one at week 16-ish for the blood checks? I see a consultant obs next week (on the grounds I'm such a chubster I got referred) and was just going to ask her. I also have my 20 week scan already booked (for start week 23). But what do you guys know about timing this stuff? Am I Ok?

Better get back to work, and holding my temper. My hormones have me on a really short fuse these days:-( xfx

Eulalia - Sorry to hear the response from the parents, I can appreciate how your feeling.

Work for my best friends Dad, not a good combo! I was really shocked at the response I got from my boss just turned round and walked off, been getting jibes about being pregnant ever since. Some people can't understand that what they want isn't necessarily what you want!

You know your doing the right thing, bringing a beautiful baby into the world into a loving family. Your only 39! Did you see on the news this week about the 66 year old mother. They will come round to the idea I guarnatee. Just takes time. Waiting for my sister to show some interest aswell, I defy anyone to not want a hold of these little bundles in July! he he he

Had my booking in appointment this morning - at 13 weeks +2!
Heard bean's heartbeat - 160
Loads of blood taken.
It feels a bit more official now!
Sickness completely gone now.
Hope you are all feeling GOOOOOOOD....

Hi, had my scan! Very relieved, I was so scared, hardly slept last night. All is well, just one in there, has all the bits it should have at the moment and it was wriggling like mad. I am not having my booking in for another 2 weeks. Feel I can start to allow myself to think about having a baby rather than just being pregnant IYSWIM.

Sorry some of you haven't had brilliant responses from people you expected more of. Hope it doesn't take the shine of your happiness.

i was tense for you too pinkmama! in fact i turned my phone to silent so it wouldn't wake ds when you texted me.

really pleased all us july mummies are doing well. i'm 15 and a bit weeks. not much to report. lots of movement, big fat tummy. slightly less tired, still reliably moody.... actually i've been a bit achey today, but nothing terrible.

Pinkmama - great news

I think my parents are more blase about the baby than actually against it although I know my mum didn't think I should have more as she said that quite openly when someone asked me about a year ago when she was there "oh no of course you don't want more" I was annoyed that she had answered for me. Although she had 3 pregnancies (and 4 children) I think it was a case of trying for a boy. As we have 'one of each' she didn't see the point, plus ds has special needs, plus I am older etc etc...and it will be grandchild no 8 so perhaps getting less exciting for them. My mum does tend to just see the negative side of things not the positive.

All I can think of are positive things at the moment

Thanks for the advice about larger age gap children pinkmama and merglemergle. In some ways I think it should all work out ok as ds1 will be starting school (just mornings) in Sept so I will have about 3 hours to spend time with the baby. If ds2 comes on time then that gives us about a month to get used to the shock of new baby and then settle ds1 into school a month or so later and luckily it's very near by to where we live.

Pinkmama - glad your scan went well. Until I had both my scans I always thought it might be a my imagination!

Eulaila you are probably right that as your next baby will be grandchild no 8 for your parents they kind of take it in their stride. Your Mum also knows what hard work kids can be and maybe she was worried about you and the extra work. I bet once July comes as Babydot said everyone will want a cuddle and a coo over baby no3! Someone said to me sorry it's another boy! I just laughed and said at least I know what I'm getting myself into!

Merryberry - I remember from last time round that I alternated seeing my midwife and GP. If I were you I would call your midwife just to double check. I am doing the same myself tomorrow as after my nuchal scan last week my next scan is at 23 weeks and I had another appointment booked for a similar time and then a glucose screen in May. It all seems a very long way off and bearing in mind I had a placental abruption last time they said they would be monitoring me very closely so I thought I would try and get someone to see me inbetween these times to be on the safe side!

If you have any probs just call your midwife - that's what they are there for! Hope this helps! Good Luck.

Pamina3 how nice to hear that you had a problem free 2nd pregnancy after your abruption with dd1. I'm also glad I'm not the only one who is a bit paranoid 2nd time round! Unfortunately my abruption happened at 36 weeks and our ds was born the same day that the bleeding had started as his heartbeat started to slow down so they had to get him out very quickly (emergency c section). He was fine but very small (under 4lbs!) and spent 2 weeks in special care. He was very tiny for a long time and people were always commenting on what a diddy little baby he was! He is probably underweight now for his age but certainly as tall as his peers - just a bit lighter! He has been slow with talking, walking and potty training (almost there!). Once he masters something though he almost does it to perfection! (Another perfectonist - just like dh!).

Fingers crossed for next time. You certainly have given me some hope! When is your baby due? I think you are probably a bit ahead of me! Although I keep thinking that I will end up having ds2 early around my 40th birthday at the end of June if my previous pregnancy is anything to go by!

Take care ladies. Hope the sickness/knackered feeling is subsiding. Can't wait for the supposed lively phase!

Hello all and welcome Webwoman. Good news about all the scans.

I've had 3 days off work this week. Spent one day madly decorating. I seem to be having mad bursts of energy during the day but then keep falling asleep in front of the tv in the evenings. Another day was spent shopping for maternity clothes. How depressing. I couldn't find anything I like. I'm hoping its because we're "in-between seasons". Any body found anything half decent anywhere? I went to Topshop, Dorothy Perkins, H&Ms (which I got lots of stuff from last time but was the worst yesterday) and Next. Is there anywhere I've forgotten? I bought one pair of jeans but they keep falling down! I need stuff desperatly as my normal clothes can no longer be fastened.

Eulalia - I had a very strange reaction from my Dad when I told him I was pregnant with dd. He later confessed that it made him feel old. My MIL cried when we told her about dd. She barely raised her eyebrows this time. With dd my FIL didn't acknowledge my pregnancy. This time he is so excited. Families are strange. But one thing is guaranteed, come July your parents will be desperate to see and hold the new addition.

Hope you all have a good weekend.

my mum has bought me lots of maternity clothes this time, bless her. independent shops seem to have more unusual stuff, though it is a bit more pricey. are you in london, lolasmum? if so, there's a nice shop called maternus in islington (cross st i think) which is expensive but everything is half price at the moment. also a shop called expecting in york (where my parents live). i've bought a fair amount of stuff online - isabella oliver & harry duley. i do have enough clothes, but our wretched washing machine has died & i'm definitely going to run out before tuesday when the new one arrives...

Just checking to say thanks for the advice. Sorry so brief, flattened by busy-ness this week. Looks like we got our new house sorted tho. Hope you're all well, xfx

Hello there. Not much news from me. Am 13 weeks. Weighed myself and still not put on any weight yet but am definately getting a bump. Am really glad to be eating again and feel like I am constantly hungry. guess its a good sign.

Good luck to all those not yet at 12 weeks, its not far now.

I am 14 weeks today. No bump really - just trousers a bit tight.
I was very sick at the weekend - but I think it was ds1's timmy bug rather than anything else.
Starting to panic about how I am going to cope with three of three and under. Things are really tough with my two boys at the moment.
Everyone's reaction to the pregnancy is that we are mad. I am beginning to think they might be right.
Hope you are all blooming!

Hello all, just a quick note to say that I had my foetal echo this morning and all is well . Consultant said we shouldn't have any suprises heart-wise which is a huge relief. Will catch up with you all soon - am rather busy catching up with housework at the mo as dh was off work with man-flu yesterday . Hope everyone is well.

great news bagpuss . that's pretty early to have a fetal echo done isn't it? i had one with ds at 22 weeks, they said they couldn't do one earlier. but maybe they were looking for different things in yours. i remember mine was the most detailed examination - the cardiologist spent about half an hour just looking at the heart. it was also the scan when we found out ds was a boy, i remember being so happy afterwards. am not having one at all this time, different hospital, different procedures.

i am decidedly less weepy this week, thank god. it's ds's 3rd birthday at the weekend so i'm suffering party stress.

hope everyone else is well.

Great news Bagpuss.

This thread is really quiet. Well I must be thick as if I am over 12 weeks (13.5) and am due at the end of JUly then everyone else must be past 12 weeks. Hooray to the 2nd trimester!

Still wearing my jeans but they are low waisted ones but glad not to be in matty stuff yet. At least later on I can use the nice summer dresses from my first pregnancy.