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tyaca · 03/02/2008 16:21

'ere we go, guys!

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Egg · 05/02/2008 09:15

Blardy hell, are you all off giving birth or something??????????????

loobyt · 05/02/2008 09:42

No such luck. 39 +3 today. Unplugged phone last night as it wakes me up most mornings but stupidly forgot to turn my mobile off which was by the bed and rang this morning waking me up, this was 2 minutes before the postie knocked at the door and 5 mins before my new tumble dryer was delivered. Grrr!
congrats to all the new mums and their families.

CountTo10 · 05/02/2008 10:45

Hello again!!

Ds1 is out with dp so while ds2 is sleeping and taking a break from feeding and filling nappies I thought I'd jump on for a quick catch up!!

Haven't read through all posts yet but congrats to alkar, saskia and expectingkat, hope all is well!!

So my birth story....in a nutshell, it was quick!!! I woke up wed morning with slight pains coming every 20 mins or so and thought hmmmm is it but just ignored it. I was supposed to be going shopping so I thought I'll see how it goes over the next hour or so and see. Another hour and it was obvious they were mild contractions so shopping was off and I rung dp and mum to let them know but I said no rushing back cause they were really mild and I thought either it would fizzle out or take all day.

Luckily for me my mum ignored me and came home because by the time she arrived they were coming every 5mins and were quite painful. She came into see me throwing my phone across the room as everyone was ringing me, burning the flat down with sausages, ds1 in front of the tv and me crying!!! Within an hour they were every 3 mins and lasting 40secs and I was in more pain so had to drag dp home so I could go to hospital. We got there at 3.15 and then and hour later out he came. It ws hilarious as I was on gas and air but then the pushing bit kicked in and I was trying to pretend to push without doing it so it wouldn't hurt.....like that's even possible. I just kept asking for drugs and that noone understood how much it hurt!!! 3 pushes that was it but I wouldn't believe them!!

I went into shock afterwards and it took me quite a while to come round, I was freezing and just zoned out. I remember sat looking out of the window at blue sky and sunshine thinking what the hell has just happened to me, where am I and who the hell is this baby????!!! The midwives were fantastic and really looked after us and dp was amazing throughout. We went up onto the ward which was the most unrelaxing place in the world and I was home Thurs pm.

Everything is going really well and Jack is just doing so amazingly. He's only dropped 2 oz and we've got to grips with breastfeeding nicely. It's just so different from last time, I'm actually enjoying this time insead of it passing my by which makes me a little mournful for that time back with ds1. Ds1 is just coping like an expert. He's chief bottom cleaner and keepps telling me when I need to feed baby jack. He has his moments and he's not been that great when we've had visitors but he's handling it a lot better than I thought he would which is great.

The only thing I'm struggling with is the evening cause Jack gets a bit unsettled round about 8ish for a couple of hours which is a bit waring but then he sleeps well through the night in almost 4 hr blocks so I can't complain!! It's just so weird changing a newborn again!!

So my top tips???

If it's your second time around, don't think it's gonna be the same as the first, they seem to come quicker!!

Tesco maternity pads and disposable pants are absolutely fantastic.

If you're breastfeeding, make sure you go to the toilet before hand!!!

Accept all offers of help however small.

Have a box of changing bits by your bed so you've got everything you need when bubs fills their pants at night!!

Lansinoh nipple lanolin is absolutely tops for getting through the first few days of soreness!!

Anyway, hope everyone is fine, those with hatchlings are still enjoying it and those with bumps are hanging in there x

cosima · 05/02/2008 11:26

congrats to Expectingkat and saskia and all the other new mums. Commiserations to all you overduers, that must be really frustrating. I am not nesting, just knackered. When is the nesting supposed to start?

princess llamma , re: Dust. If you do have to use your own vacuum then make sure you chuck the bag out, cos otherwise next time you vacuum it will go back into your house.

cosima · 05/02/2008 11:29

sorry to hear you have had a bad night egg, but its sounds like you have been a fab supermum so far so its only a slight hiccup

Lucyand2 · 05/02/2008 11:39

Hello,
Just to let you know that I went into labour on sunday night and gave birth at 6.54am monday morning after 18 minutes of pushing! They popped my waters as I took 4 hours to go 1cm dilated and I didn't want to be exhausted waiting for hours!
After the waters were burst everything happened really fast and I didn't even have time for pain relief, I couldn't even do the gas & air as the urge to push was so strong. Isabelle arrived weighing 8.14lbs(a bit bigger than expected) and it took longer getting the placenta out than the baby! I've got a slight tear which they took an age to stitch up but to be honest I feel less sore than last time.
We went home later that day as the hospital was really busy and I felt better at home, we got a fairly good nights sleep without other peoples babies waking us.
I feel very faint but luckily my family are here looking after us so we can recover slightly.
I'll probably post again soon!

mymissus · 05/02/2008 11:47

Congratulations to you Lucyand2 and Isabelle!!

jooseyfruit · 05/02/2008 11:50

congrats saskia and Lucy!! that was quick Lucy!!

I'm now 8 days overdue and off to see mw this afternoon for stretch & sweep no.2.

Hand reaching for castor oil, may take on friday if no baby, dh has to go back to work in a week and parents still here (6 weeks nearly), plus dc's break up for half term on friday, i don't think i can take much more.

Bessie123 · 05/02/2008 12:06

Love - mat leave is GREAT. it's only been a couple of days so far and I've been quite busy but looking forward to next week (if baby is late), where I can just loll about and be lazy.

Lolo - if your LO is born a year to the day after your dad died, it could be really lovely; in lots of cultures, it would mean that your LO has a special connection to your dad, even though they never got to meet. Sounds sappy, I suppose...

Lucy - Congrats. Am v of your easy birth.

Joosey - my friend took castor oil to kick start labour. It worked, and she had a 6-hour v low pain labour then only a few mins of pushing before LO was out. Am prob going to try it if I go overdue

jooseyfruit · 05/02/2008 12:18

thanks for that Bessie, it's not often you hear poitive castor oil stories!

Thinking of anniversaries, I had a mc on shrove tuesday last year, I think it would have ben nice to have the baby today. (can't see that happening tho!!)

jooseyfruit · 05/02/2008 12:21

that would be positive!

Pk616 · 05/02/2008 12:31

Hello Ladies,

TY - did you go to you meditation class? If so how was it? I've never been to anything like that! Don't feel guilty when your fella asks what you've been up to, It's a standard conversation making phrase and if you've been up to nowt because you've felt up to nowt then so be it, you are only human after all!

omy - hope your DH recovers from his much deserved ear bashing and I hope your DD recovers from him letting her down.

mymissus - I prefer watching things like lost in one big marathon run, you don't loose track of what happened in the last episode! You'll be surprised how quickly you get through all the episodes though!

Saskia - CONGRATULATIONS! I thought you might have been off sprogging! I'm looking forward to your birth story, sounds like it's going to be a cheerful one. Hope you're both doing well.

princess - could you not buy a length of PVC table cloth to feed your lo on that way as much mess can be made as is liked and it can all be wiped away in next to no time and nop one has to freeze in the kitchen. You can buy the table cloth off the roll from asian run shops around by us and they don't cost very much per meter at all.
Althernatively you could wrap your little one up as if you were going on an expedition to the south pole before each meal and make an adventure of it!
Put your John Lewis melt down down to hormones, believe me when I tell you that everyone else will have!
Moses basket, clean it thorougly and then cover it (it will fit rather snuggly in two 25lt bin liners) you don't need it out until the baby comes anyway.
I understand you being worried about the dust but the only thing you can do is clean it all up every day. And air the place out as much as possible. You could also get one of these or something similar to cleanse the air.
Once the builders have finished things will improve very rapidly.

Love - Your BP should be lower at home as it's where you should be more relaxed. I hope your twice daily BP checks show nothing to worry about.
Great news about your baby turning.
I was not carrying just MILs shopping home I was carrying our shopping home. I'll try to explain it... MIL came over just before 8 in the morning yesterday (her brother gave her a lift) I made them a cup of tea and sat down with them. She sat there chain smoking and told me the following
i)She realises that calling me every day pisses me off somewhat be she HAS to do it because she HAS to know that I'm ok
ii)She knows from her own experience that a new mom does not want people in her house when she first comes home from the hospital with her baby so she is only going to stay long enough to let me have a rest and a good long sleep
iii)My family are shit and uncaring and not a proper family at all because they don't call me every single day and they aren't constantly harrassing me about my pregnancy and they aren't constantly buying me things for the baby that I don't really want in colours and styles that I don't like from tacky cheap shops with chavy styling.
iv)She has told her brother that she will not be seeing him on his birthday which is also mothers day and the day after her 50th wedding anniversay because she is going to be at home so that HER BABY can come and visit her WHOS FECKING BABY? (She's going to be let down because it'll be my first mothers day and DP has told me I'm not going anywhere, I'm going to be waited on hand and foot by my fella all day and that's that.)
She then goes in to the kitchen, presumably to wash up her cup, and comes out having looked through my cupboards and announces that her brother had better go home now as she was going to have to take me shopping as there was no food in the house and so we were obviously keeping the fact that we have no money secret from her again and she wasn't going to have her son and HER BABY (she said it again) going without.
So she hands me my coat and I grab my granny shopping trolly and off we go.
As we are walking round the supermarket I pick up the odd thing that I knew we were going to need over the next three days or so (I go out to the shop every couple of days so I don't have very much to carry)and she grabs all kinds of stuff more than triples the amount of stuff in the trolley. I assumed all the other stuff was stuff she wanted for her house and so said nothing about it.
we get to the checkout and she piles 90% of the contents of the trolley on the conveyer, puts a next customer sign up and then puts the rest up.
She then hands me £20 and tells me the massive pile of shopping is mine and this money is towards it. We were in Lidls but I could see that £20 wasn't going to cover this mound of shopping even at their prices!
The shop ends up coming to over £40 and I had to pay the rest with money that was actually budgeted for other things (now Neither DP nor I have any mobile phone credit and we don't have money for a taxi to the hospital should we need it)
I filled my granny trolley and still had to buy two large carrier bags to fit the rest of the shopping in, meanwhile, she fits her little shop into her handbag!
I handed her the carrier bags as I knew that the trolley was going to be too much for me on it's own without the carrier bags which was when she told me that she couldn't carry them as she's riddled with arthritis.
So I pull all this shopping all the way home uphill whilst 39 weeks pregnant!
When we get in she actually asked me to make her a cup of tea. I told her she could make her own. I'd have said more but I was too busy trying not to pass out at the time!
She didn't help me unpack any of the shopping, She made me make lunch and then when she'd finally decided to f@*k off and leave me in peace she asked me to carry her handbag to the bus stop for her as she was tuckered out and was afraid she wouldn't be able to get home with out the help. Of course I helped, I wanted her gone!
Ok so that was longer than intended but at least you now have the full picture of my MIL horror!

lolo - I'm sorry thursday holds such sad memories for you. Please try not to dwell on it as you'll only bring yourself down. If your little one does show up on thursday you could look at it a different way from los birthdfay always having sad undertones and see it as the circle being completed and a way to remember your dad.

Egg - sorry to hear you had a shitty night. Ihope you're feeling better now you've had your coffee!

looby - wow busy morning!

Count - Hello. thank you for your birth story. glad to hear all is going well and you're enjoying bf this time round.

Lucy - CONGRATULATIONS. I'm glad to hear all went well in the end and you feel better than last time.

joosey - tbh I think I'd be reaching for castor oil too if I went over more than a week! GL with your stretch and sweep, I hope it does the job this time.

Sorry this is such a looooong post guys but it felt really good to get the MIL tale off my chest (I was way too irritated by it all to say much yesterday)

tyaca · 05/02/2008 12:37

oh, i feel a pringles jingle coming on... you know the one? about starting to pop and not stopping!

saskia congrats! and great to hear your thoughts on CSs - should anything happen that means it's that way for me, i will hold onto your words. what's the name of the LO?

Lucyand2 congrats! lovely name - my SIL's LO is an Isobel, and i confess i'm a bit jealous she got there first... 18 minutes of pushing is exactly what we need to hear! hope you get some much desereved-rest now the cavalry have arrived. Is Isabelle our first solo girl??

Counto10 - so nice to hear all the details - i couldn't help laughing at the image of you pretending to push! it's like miming rather than singing in assembly at school . sounds like your DS1 is doing really well in the role of big brother, and also glad for you that feeding going well.

egg - you are nails! you always sound like the most impressive woman in the world. sorry to hear you had a crap night - i hope DS1's cough and DS2's poo's sort themselves out sooner rather than later. was v impressed that you didnt start to make coffee til seven am!

princessllama - don't fret. fretting can't help. best to be in your own home. i know nothing on the subject of baby-rearing, but i do get the impression that we're all tougher than we think. how much longer do you have til the builders go??

cosima - i know excatly what you mean re the sheer tiredness. am v jealous of all with nesting instincts. my energy levels have gone through the floor in the last 48hrs. am barely out of bed, and keep having little spin out moments when i'm there. plus, my circulation's gone to sh*t and i keep waking up unable to feel my hands... tempted to ring MW.

gill - i cant belive you posted the cd! many many thanks. i do hope it was your DP what done the posting! hope all's well with the three of you. DH is v taken with the name Malcom BTW! am going to listen to CD during my afternoon kip.

went to meditation last night - my instincts were right, twas a bit budhist even for someone with a latent hippy streak. today's tasks are limited - get to bank, order tescos shopping and wash hair. bizarrly, the last one is the one that takes all my energy. my super-mop is at its longest and unruliest ever, and just de-tangling it takes an hour. hair cut tomo, thanks goodness.... but before then, a long and boring session trying to get the knots out, it cleaned and then dried (another hour!!).

finally, lolo, sarah and all the other over-duers, good luck, any moment now, i feel it!

have a good day all

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jooseyfruit · 05/02/2008 12:41

fookin' hell pk that sounds horrendous!, what did your dp say about her behaviour?

Do you think she'll be expecting you to leap around looking after her after lo is born? could dp have a word with her?

tyaca · 05/02/2008 12:45

pk - your post really, really made me smile. i think you need to move a million miles away - it's the only course of action! you sound like you're v patient with her, fair play to you.

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Pk616 · 05/02/2008 12:52

joosey - DP doesn't know the full extent of his mothers behavour. I can't bring myself to give him all the details. It's his mom after all and he loves her and I don't want him to feel torn between the two of us. I had a good cry down the phone to my mom though. She thinks MIL is trying to take over and trying to take her mind off the fact that her husband has parkinsons (which she is in total denial about) and the council are buying her out and knocking her house of 40 years down and the value of it is not enough for her to buy a new house, so it's all deflection.
MIL does most definately expect that she will be getting very regular visits from us once LO is here. Boy has she got another thing coming!

jooseyfruit · 05/02/2008 12:56

pk-that sounds like a really tricky situation for you. glad you've got your mum to talk to.
hope dp knows how lucky he is to have someone so thoughtful!!!

Pk616 · 05/02/2008 12:57

ty - there is another way... I could move her a million miles away! I'm thinking somewhere nice and warm like MARS! She loves to tan after all!
I have been very patient with her and so far today I've let the phone ring twice with out picking it up - I know it's her! If I was to answer the phone I know that the only words I would speak would be
"Why don't you just F@%K . the hell . OFF"
And I don't know if I want to open that particular can of worms.

Pk616 · 05/02/2008 12:59

joosey - bless you! I think he has an inkling!

sarahmikeandharry · 05/02/2008 13:27

Congratualtions Lucy- Glad to hear all went ok for you.

sarahmikeandharry · 05/02/2008 13:29

Lucyand2 i have added you to the hatched list!!!!

i hope nobody Minds!!!!

28/01/08 - Jooseyfruit - (35, York,boy) DS 10yrs,DD 7yrs
29/01/08 - dearbeatrice - (33, surrey ) first baby
29/01/08 - Iampgatlast - (21, beds Boy) first timer
30/01/08
31/01/08- Ayrshirelolo - (36, Ayrshire) dd 19months
01/02/08 - wahidc - (31, West Sussex) Fillyjonk ds 3.5 dd 22 month
02/02/08 - VictorVictoria, ds almost 2
02/02/08 - Bristols - DS 9 months
03/02/08 - sarahmikeandharry(23, Redditch DD) DS 3yrs
03/02/08 - Pia03hj, hopefully first one
first one.
03/02/08 - Slacker - (37, N Somerset) 3xDS 13,11&7, DD 4
04/02/08
05/02/08
06/02/08 - mummylittle - first baby!!
06/02/08 - Sherida - also first baby!!
07/02/08 - MERLYPUSS - (42, Kent, TWINS) first babies
07/02/08 - lljkk - (40, Norfolk) DS8, DD6, DS3
07/02/08 - Basilbrush - DS 16 months
07/02/08 - cornishkitten - first baby
07/02/08 - mutha2beagain - ds 6yrs
08/02/08 - jo9977 - (40, Coventry boy) first one
08/02/08 - PK616 - (28, Birmingham ?girl?) first baby
09/02/08 - rozzy raspberry - 2xDS 3 & 5 BOY
09/02/08 - loobyt (31, Somerset) first
09/02/08 - Cosima (se london) first BOY
10/02/08 - ThursdayNext - DS 2yrs
11/02/08 - Bessie123 (East London GIRL) - First one.
11/02/08 - latebloomer - DS 10m
11/02/08 - Widgetsmummy - (26 Milton Keynes)
12/02/08 - Rapunzelle - dd4, ds2.5
12/02/08 - Expectingkat, TWINS, DD 12, DD 8, DD 7 months
13/02/08 - Loonyballoony - DD 2yrs 7mon
13/02/08 - pobletsmum - GIRL, DS 2;7
13/02/08 - K27 - 1st one.
13/02/08 - tadpolemummy - DS 2 years 2 months
14/02/08 - Manamana - (32, Chichester boy) DS 2yr elec cs
14/02/08 - Hungrymama - (36, south wales) dd 4 1/2
14/02/08 - BlueDomino DD 19mths,elect cs
15/02/08
16/02/08 - Mymissus - (35 Cheltenham) first one
16/02/08 - Lailasmum -(28, Devon Boy) DD 3yrs 3 months
16/02/08 - Amy78 - (28, Aberdeen) - First one
16/02/08 - Lightwind - Putney - first one
17/02/08
18/02/08 - MitfordSisters - first one
19/02/08 - 93pjb (32, Cambridge)first
19/02/08 - smithfield - (38) DS1 2.5yrs
19/02/08 - rosequartz - dd 6.5yrs; ds 5.5yrs; ds 4.5yrs; dd 3.5yrs; dd 2yrs.4mnths; ds 1yr. 3mnths.
20/02/08 - SallyinYorkshire (32) first one
20/02/08 - KikiH (29, Surrey) first one
21/02/08 - violeta - (35, N London GIRL) first one
21/02/08 - morningglory (35, West London) - ds 3y7mo
21/02/08 - wotsits - (37) DD 13 months
21/02/08 - BovrilSarnies - (33 Bicester, oxon, girl) first one
22/02/08
23/02/08
24/02/08 - Redbush - dd 14mths
24/02/08 - Lexie100 - dd 20 mths
24/02/08 - Tallulah1978 (29, Leeds) - FIRST ONE
24/02/08 - tyaca (30 SW London girl) first one
25/02/08 - Gybegirl - dd 15 mths
26/02/08 - Jaysthird (36, Notts - Breech) DD 2 ,DS 10 months,
26/02/08 - nikki7984 (27 SW London) first one
27/02/08 - ruva- 27 feb
27/02/08 - cheechymunchy - ds2.4yrs
27/02/08 - princessllama (30-west london) dd 10months
27/02/08 - bambiraptor - ds 3.5yrs dd 2.0yrs
28/02/08 - Lovemymum (35 - London). First pregnancy
29/02/08 - samsmam - (30, kent) dd 8 months

HATCHED!:

ladlemonke
gingermumi
Egg - Rebecca and Jacob 10-01-08 / DS 23 months
Miniandme
leesmum - James 19-01-2008
Beansprout - Theo Daniel, 23-01-08
Gill79 - 26-01-2008
ALKAR- Daniel Joseph- 31-01-2008
Countto10-JACK- 29-01-2008
expectingkat
saskia71- Boy -21-01-2008
lucyand2 -Isabelle-04-01-2008

cosima · 05/02/2008 13:38

PK - I don't understand! Are you completely mad? Why don't you tell her to p**s off?

widgetsmummy · 05/02/2008 13:41

More babies! And our first solo girl (does that sound too much like PK MIL???)

PK - Mars sounds like a plan. I've got the reverse 'problem', when DH suggested to his mum they come and see LO in the first couple of days she wouldn't commit at all and started with lots of excuses as to why that might be difficult. I know he feels quite hurt about it - first grandchild as well. Sad that she reacted that way.

Waved to you all at 4am - couldn't sleep so tidied living room, sorted tumble drying and did a sudoku... the last was a terrible plan, got it so wrong had to rub it all out and start again. I guess puzzle books not made for the wee hours.

Knackered now of course. Must stay awake to see mw at 3:30pm and then will sleep before supposedly going out tonight for pancakes at a firends... hmmm...

Pk616 · 05/02/2008 14:09

Cosima - believe me when I tell you that nothing would bring me more joy than to never ever have to see or hear from the woman again so long as I live and if it was all just about me I'd have told her where to go a long long time ago. But it's DPs mother and I love DP and have to consider how telling his mother to f@%k off because she's an interfearing inconsiderate psychopathic stalker will effect him. There is still time for her to calm down and return to a more normal level of behavior and I want to give her that chance. If, however, she continues being this way or starts to get worse, I will be saying something to her. It will be infront of her son and how they both react will be up to them.

Widget - lol, no it doesn't sound too much like her at all! It is sad that your MIL reacted as she did. A friend of mine has had the same problem. All you can do is keep her informed and it's up to her how involved she wants to be. She may see it differently when she sees the baby. No puzzle books aren't really designed for the wee hours, I've tried that one myself. It makes you feel very stupid when you try the same puzzle in a more awake state and it comes really easily!

gingermumi · 05/02/2008 14:14

Hello all.

Thanks for the supportive messages - that's why i love this site!! am feeling much better now and have gone all nigella and made some cakes today! this is the first day since Toby was born that I have been on my own - every other day someone has been here at some point. I'm having such a peaceful day, you don't realise how stressful all the visitors can be.

Big congrats to Epectingkat, saskia and lucy.

Any news on Mana?

Feel really sorry for all those struggling on, it's hard but not for much longer

Welcome omy - good to see another 'older' mum with a teen (i have two dds, 16 and 19). Am loving having a LO again.

pk - you're mil is unreal - i'm amazed you're so cool about it. my mil keeps her distance which can be a bit hurtful at times but i think i prefer it to your situation.

sending labour vibes to all still hanging in there