Due April 2023 💕 into the second trimester 🍂🎇

[Cuppasoupmonster]

Welcome back ladies. Here we are, second trimester 🥰

@Tubbytele First time I saw this baby was at 8 weeks, the consultant has the machine in her consultation room and was chattering away, showing me the foetus, saying that the heartbeat was really strong and noting that the baby was extremely mobile and all I could think of was "hahahah dildo cam" .

And yes, even when I was extremely fragile after having a massive cyst rupture, it didn't hurt and I am an absolutely massive wuss.

SneakPeek Results are in….BOY! However…after reading the trustpilot reviews on SneakPeek I’m a little apprehensive. I followed the instructions to a T, scrubbed my hands red raw and spritzed them with antibac…but I do wonder if I could have boy dna on me from my son who I was holiday 15 mins prior.

Thanks everyone, you never fail to make me feel at ease, really appreciate it! Dildo can made me chuckle 😂😂

@Longbin ohhh I'll nip into Aldi this week at some point and take a look!! X

Place marking! Working away so will catch up with everyone shortly x

@Longbin oooo might nip into aldi and have a little look!

Is anybody having really daft dreams? I woke up in floods of tears at 5am because I dreamt the doctor told me i had too many veins in my body and they needed to take them out, i remember the doctor telling me they just pulled them out like spaghetti and i was upset because i didn’t want him to take my veins out 😂😂

Morning lovely ladies, two questions, for the second time I woke up at 4 am absolutely starving and had to get a snack, I’m wondering if eating a snack before bed might help? I don’t eat tea particularly early but I don’t seem to be lasting lol. I’m not sure what snack would be best to have as I want to avoid anything too carby or sugary as I already eat far too much of that 😳 maybe some cheese with grapes or something? Any advice would be great.

Also, ladies who have done this before, did you use a thing to try and prevent stretch marks and did it seem to work?

My love leggings arrived yesterday and they’re amazing. soooo thick, definitely going to get another pair when I get paid! So thanks for that recommendation!!

@LauraA31 yes! 😂 last night I had a dream that I was at a place getting food, but all the food was food that I can't stand and the dream was just me constantly going up there and looking at this food 😂🤮

@AliceinSlumberland I have to eat as soon as I open my eyes with an anti sickness tablet because of the hunger makes my sickness really bad or if I wake up at 4-5am, I will eat a snack and then go back to sleep. I usually bring 3-4 plain biscuits up and put them on the side of my bed 😂 sounds crazy but it's a way to control my sickness and hunger! X

@AliceinSlumberland I've been eating a banana when night time hunger strikes, normally about 3am, seems to do the trick!

@AliceinSlumberland I ate 4 Hobnobs at 4am so I could do with switching to something healthier too 😂
@LauraA31 yes to the weird dreams, I dreamt they got distracted when doing a blood test and by the time I asked if we were nearly done they'd taken 12 pints 🙃

Thank you for the heads up on Aldi next2me, I've just bought one and so pleased with that price!
My DSIL has a 'snoo happy baby' that we were offered but to be honest I'm a bit scared of it, the rocks the baby so hard sometimes and I can't help but think the baby must never get used to sleeping on it's own/without rocking etc. So a classic next2me suits me perfectly

@tattlytote I had a snoo last time and had it turned down to weaning mode. I didn't really find she needed to be rocked in it so switched her to Next2me at 6 weeks and she was fine! It just wasn't necessary for us

@AliceinSlumberland Stretch marks are mostly genetic, you can't really prevent them. If you got stretch marks in puberty it's likely you'll get them with pregnancy too. Keeping the skin moisturised can help it feel less tight and sore but no amount of moisturiser can prevent them if you're genetically predisposed to them!

For what it's worth, I got mild stretch marks in puberty and only got mild ones with pregnancy. They didn't appear until 40 weeks and they are pretty much invisible now.

Oh here you all are!

Thought I'd lost you all, thread moves so quick! I haven't had a chance to catch up on all your past messages (I didn't even get to the end of the last the previous thread) 🤭

I saw some essentials lists we're starting and thought I'd add to it, not sure if anyone has suggested these already, for postpartum mum instead of baby:

• Epsom Salts (especially useful if breastfeeding for blocked ducts etc)
• Spritz for Bits (probably not needed for C-sections)
• decent handcream (for after all the nappy changes)

Still haven't told my family yet. Can't seem to shake anxiety from previous losses to actually get excited yet. I told some of my colleagues at school and the other teacher for so excited - more for the learning opportunities for the reception children we teach than anything else though 🤣

How's everyone doing?

@tattlytote did you buy in store? I had a look online and it says no longer available so going to nip into my local store tonight x

@DBS94 yep said the same online for me, but there were at least 2 in store

Morning ladies. I’m feeling really fed up today.

My life is literally a constant cycle of meds - 5 times a day for previous conditions, aspirin for pregnancy, meds for the HG - I’m getting really fed up now. Just feels like there’s never a moment when I’m not doing meds - first thing when I wake up, before eating, after eating, before bed. It’s relentless and exhausting and top of it I still feel sick sometimes, I’m so tired, dizzy whenever I stand, constantly needing the loo.

DD has had a temperature/cough bug since Saturday so I’ve been up in the night with her since then and I don’t think I’ve had an unbroken nights sleep in months.

The house just gets messier and messier by the day because I don’t have the energy to clean or tidy.

I’m just really struggling, I need a fairy godmother to come and wait on me hand and foot for week and to wave a wand so I can have some mental respite from my constant meds schedule.

DH is fucking hopeless at cheering me up - just sits there with a sad look on his face saying ‘I know’. Nothing else. He thinks he’s empathising but he’s not - I want to see a bit of positivity, asking me what he can do to help, reassuring me we’ll get there in the end. He has so many qualities but his bedside manner isn’t one of them. He seems to be utterly lost when I’m not there to ‘direct’ the house.

just ranting but yeah feeling very low.

Sorry to hear you’re feeling low @Cuppasoupmonster . Hopefully the sickness will ease off soon and that’s some meds out of the way!
This won’t last, it’s just the Winter we need to get through and then onto better and brighter days come spring with our new babies 😁

I managed to move my 20 week scan to a hospital thank goodness! Was on hold to radiology for 1.5 hours which was ridiculous especially whilst trying to do phone calls at work 😅 but feel much better now it’s been moved.

Your DH sounds like mine @Cuppasoupmonster

Sorry you're having a down day. I have no experience with HG but friends that have had it and it sounds utterly miserable so I really feel for you, virtual hugs 🫂 how long are you on the meds for?

Is it possible to hire a cleaner for a one-off clean/tidy to help take that load off? Or call on family to help out to give you some light relief?

@AliceinSlumberland I got stretch marks from puberty, but I don't have any from my last pregnancy. I credit slathering myself in almond oil at least once, often twice a day. I also didn't get any loose skin. I did have a very small bump though - as did my DM, when she was pregnant with me, so I think that part's genetic.

Checking in and there's a new thread again! Going through them so quickly.

I've been feeling my little girl move all the time now- I'm 17 weeks tomorrow. Feels so amazing after all the worry. Anyone else?

Hope everyone is well and congrats to everyone finding out genders etc 🥰

@limoncelloo that's amazing 😍

I keep thinking I feel something then it turns out to be wind. 🙈

@KennAdams 😂 it's a bit like that at first!

My last baby I had an anterior placenta so didn't feel anything for ages. This being #4 I excepted it early given I've got a posterior placenta this time. I had a scan last week and they said she has super long legs measuring ahead compared to everything else 🙈

This is a good article about stretch marks and how for some women they're inevitable.
www.trulymama.com/baby/pregnancy-stretch-marks/

Lots of companies that sell stretch mark creams make it seem like you can do something to avoid them, but the likelihood is that the people who didn't get any wouldn't have got any whether they used the creams or not.

@Cuppasoupmonster sorry you're feeling so rubbish and your DH isn't helping. Can he not clean the house?
Feel free to keep ranting to us if it helps!

Thanks everyone. He’s definitely pulling his weight, but doing it ‘wrong’ if you know what I mean - he’ll wash up but leave the sides filthy, walk the dog but not clean up the muddy paw prints coming in, he’ll give DD lunch but not wipe her face afterwards, that sort of thing. It’s like he can’t ever do a ‘full’ job just the basics.