Fed-Up February Fatties Facing the Final Furlong

[Gill79]

Hi everyone

There's still some space in the old thread - Waddling Zombies and Dancing Babies so no need to start posting yet. Just thought I would get it set up before I go home tonight ready for all you insommiacs!

Hi all - having a very "doing" day - having been so rude about the flyladies web last week!

Taken dog to vet as her injections were well overdue, and got a LARGE bill for my trouble. Luckily she has always been quite healthy so hasn't cost me too much in the past (touches wood frantically!)

Then Food shopping, DP is on another diet, so I pleaded pregnancy brain last night and made him write out a menu for the week so I didn't have to think about what to buy and cook for him...I am not very interested in food at the moment and just tend to eat what is nearest my hand when I am hungry. So with lots of grumbling he eventually did scribble a list that included lots of veg etc, which I know when I give to him at the end of a very busy day when he is knackered and grumpy will not go down well!! At least I have it in writing that it is what he ordered!! Tesco seem to have run out of 4oz bottles and teats for about a week now,and they are one of the remaining things to get on my list, so I hope they will come in soon!

Home and made bread as found DP's old bread maker up in loft when I was getting some bits and bobs out for LO, and we seem to have loads of breadmaking stuff in cupboard (obviously another previous diet!!) so have made my first ever fruit loaf and just had a slice - its DELICIOUS!

And also just done more painting of doors - a couple of people have looked shocked and said I shouldn't be near paint fumes, but I have the windows open etc. Should be ok?

PK hope you are feeling better now?

That's great Sarah - hope Harry has a fantastic birthday.

Wow - Merly I can't even start to think how you feel with those two weights in you - Well done!!

Mana - glad your mum is coming round - hope today's phone call has gone well

hello everyone, have just been PMSL at the thread in "childbirth" on "funniest bits of childbirth"... highly recommended, if you aren't squeamish. It is HILARIOUS. I am definitely going to have gas and air when I give birth!

PK - Have you talked to your midwife about how to talk to DP about his anxieties?

Sarah - glad all is well. Can i just say, does DH realise that he may well have to help with the comittments you have after LO is born. I don't think my DH fully realises how much i will be incapacitated after my c-section (breech baby).

Merly - wow! That's a lot of weight for you to carry around.

Mana - well done to your DH for hopefully sorting your mother out.

I really should go and lie down but am putting it off cos when i stop moving, LO starts!

Hi Sal - love the thread. My sides ache from laughing.

DH away for a few days at a conference. He just rang and asked me what i'm doing - mumsnet of course - and what did you do today - Brent Cross again!

Hi all - thought it would be easier to keep up now I'm on mat leave but you've all been so chatty it took me ages!

Beany - hope you're ok and you're pain in the bump is just muscular. But I did have this with ds2 - a cramp all night and was 5cm dilated when I went to get it checked out the next day - so could be the start of labour? Presumably they'll whip you in for an earlier section if that's the case? Good luck anyway.

Merly - great scan results!

Sarah - I'm glad everything's ok and you'll be able to enjoy Harrys birthday at home.

Caramelchewchew - lol at the woman in boots being surprised at you being out and about at 36 weeks. I've always made sure I've been out and about as much as possible right up to going into labour - it's much harder to get out afterwards between feeds and dirty nappies!!

Tyaca - glad you've discovered tesco delivery! I had really bad problems with my stomach muscles last time I was pregnant and I think one of the reasons it's been better this time is that I've made sure I've not been pushing heavy trolleys around supermarkets!! It hasn't really sunk in yet that I've finished work - I only work 3 days a week and keep thinking to myself 'when am I working this week' only to realise I'm not. I've now cleaned out every cupboard in the house over the last few months and have all the babies things ready - might just have to reaquaint myself with some daytime tv now to keep me occupied!

Mana - glad you're getting things sorted out with your mum. At the end of the day she is the one who'll be missing out if she doesn't pull herself together.

PK - can't believe the cotbed has sold out after you getting everything sorted out so it would fit! Cotbeds are a pretty standard size though so if they don't get it back in I'm sure you'll find another you'll like which'll slot right into the space.

Anyway this has been far too long! Take care all.

I have only read two pages and nearly fell off my bouncy ball I laughed so much!!

Hi ladies. Thanks for sympathy re UTI. Still lingering despite antibiotics so will speak to MW when she comes tomorrow.

Thanks for info anout HVisitor, she phoned today but we were out registering LO so i will ring her tomorrow. It was lovely to reister him together, we even managed to have lunch. DH is back at work next week so we are trying to make the most of this week. Am going to arrange for friends to visit so i don't get too lonely. Not worried about being on my own but it's the not driving that will be a pain.

On c-sects - having had 2 vag deliveries and a csect there are pluses and minuses to both. C-sect is such a routine procedure these days but it's the after effcets you have to be prepared for. You can do very little and not driving gets frustrating after a while.

mana- glad your mum is thawing a little, hope she sees what a moo she's being.

Sarah- glad your ok, just watch for infection- genrally feeling rough, temperature etc.

Merly - excellnt weights!

Have to feed LO sorry for swift exit

dear all- just happened to notice your thread again- way back in May/June I posted on here as teejay- I lost the baby in june. i still think of all of you and wish you all the luck and happiness in the world. Keep those babies safe

yehudiwho- sorry to hear you lost your baby, i hope you have managed to come to tems with it.

its so nice of you to wish us all well as it must bring back so many memories,

thank you and all the best for your future,

xxxx

Hi teejay, thanks for the post, hope you're well x

Sarh - glad to hear your home to enjoy ds' bday

Sooo on the most miserable day of the year, I have had to go and have my mums cat put down while she is on hols!! Got round to hers today to feed him and he'd had some sort of stroke. Quite upsetting cause he has been in the family about 17 years but I did think oh ffs couldn't you have waited!! Dp came with me to do it and i know it sounds a it poor taste but there was a bit of a stephen king moment where he started having some sort of reflex motions and we both jumped back case we were a bit freaked out!! My mum was gutted and decided it was all cause of her ex husband dying last week!! What with cat burials and funerals next week, everything;s a bit morbid at the mo!!!

On the more sunny side though, even though it might be a bit tmi, did manage to have sex with dp last night !!!!! I've beeen dying to for ages but couldn't muster the effort and to be fair as enjoyable as it was what a lot of hassle all the manouvering around. Kept giggling as I had images of what I must have looked like flailing around like some sort of beached whale!! Then I ended up getting cramp in my leg as well as in my shoulder. Think dp thought he was just that good until he saw the grimace!!!! Not sure if I can be bothered again until after the baby comes!!!

Anyway hope we are all well and fingers crossed for some more exciting news x

Hiya ladies! Think today is the official "i'm fed up being pregnant" day, although good to hear good news from Sarah! and fabby scan from Mearle too and also good to hear your mother is being a bit more of a civilised human Mana .... ok, maybe it's just me having a crap day!!!! I'm just getting a bit fed up, not even due for another 10 days but dd was a few days early, so kind of thought this one would be too and i'm also getting fed up with all the texts, phone calls and comments. Oh well, babies are born on their birthdays, and not before so shall eat some more pineapple, brew up some more raspberry leaf tea, have a bounce on the excercise ball and try and muster the energy to seduce dh... Not all at once, obviously.... i would fall off the bouncy ball! anyway, virtual hugs to all, lolo x
PS yehudiwho, hello we haven't met before i don't think, thank you for your brave and generous post, hope you are ok and recovering from your loss, best of luck for all you do in the future x

It feels like i haven't posted for ages, there have been so many messages since Friday.

Love - the stuff from John Lewis is fine. There is nothing I would specifically recommend, but it was nice to have everything delivered in one go and not have to go schlepping round Oxford St collecting it myself.

Still having trouble sleeping

I think there is a consensus that we are all pretty much fed up at this point. Bad night for me last night (couldn't fall asleep, them kept waking up throughout the night). Yesterday I was so knackered, that I fell asleep and napped on the sofa at 3pm until 5pm. I really don't remember it being so bad last time...or is it just pregnancy-related-amnesia? I'm also tired of the itchy boobs and itchy bump, tired of not being able to go to the loo properly, tired of not being able to see half of my body, tired of not being able to breath after eating, tired of not enjoying eating, and tired of being tired!

Great weights Merylpuss! If you have 2 weeks to go, you can probably add 1 more pound to each twin for their expected birth weights.

What a relief sarahmikeandharry! You won't miss the party, and you can be less worried now.

LOL countto10! I can't even be bothered to even think about sex. I feel bad for DH (who is looking a bit like a like a hungry dog now), but not bad enough to indulge him.

Tyaca: I swear by internet grocery delivery (PS, you can pre-book slots weeks in advance!).

Hope everyone's Tuesday passes without incident.

morning all. unfortunately things with my mum got much worse yesterday. she phoned and after lots of silences i said i'd been upset and was she going to apologise which launched a huge rant from her about how i couldn't let things go - when i pointed out i thought i was most important person at moment she said she didn't think so, she was upset too. By the time she started saying 'yes, havent you told me enough' in response to me saying I was pregnant and unwell I said I was sorry I was boring her and put the phone down - ho hum. Feel absolutely gutted and yes, this time will be taking your advice and there will be no more contact til baby arrives. Am going to send her details of b&bs and hotels and hospital so she can come and visit me in hospital (if she's not too upset!) but that will be it. Boys have gone to work and nursery so am going back to bed - feeling v sorry for mysefl .

Oh Mana.
Do you think she might be subconsciously jealous about the fact you will be having a new baby and therefor the focus of attention for the family for a while ?
I haven't got a mum so I cant offer advice but if her actions are upsetting avoid them (that was advice wasn't it - I'm such a liar ).
Thanks for the kind words about twinnies weights. Can't believe T1 is 25% heavier than T2. This leads me to believe I have one of each flavour in there. Perhaps the measurement are wrong but at least skinny twinny is over 5lb mark and that's what I was aiming for.
Hope everyone is feeling ok - useless at remembering specific names / problems but I am also in the 'move it on, I've had enough' camp.
Have a good day ladies.

Mana - sorry to hear your Mum is still being so awkward, she definitely has some kind of issue at the moment. I'd leave her to it and concentrate on yourself at the moment as this is the last thing you need. Mum's can be funny things sometimes, I had a slight discussion with mine about controlled crying and now she's been saying I'm wrong to my sisters. I'm just going to leave her to it!

Sarah - Glad you're home and feeling good, I think I'd be gutted if I were to miss DD's birthday, just imagining being away from her for a few days is making me teary at the moment.

Mana - have only had one really lovely comment about my bump so far, an old man came up to me in ikea and told me that he'd never seen anything like it and that it's beautiful! I find it odd that women have said most of the annoying/stupid things to me so far.

Gill - we suffer from damp as our house is fairly old, we invested in a dehumidifier which has really helped.

Merly - those are fantastic weights for the babies!

CountTo10 - must admit to managing the deed last night as part of a desperate attempt to kick start labour. Despite a few rumbling pains I can only conclude it hasn't worked. DP is happy to help out with that kind of thing

So far I've tried sex and spicy food but nothing is shifting baby and I am so eager to get going it's pathetic! My braxton hicks are back really strongly this morning though

I'm also having days where I am completely spaced out at the moment and can't organise a thing. Please someone tell me I'm not the only one! Organising meals for DD and I is turning into some kind of degree level challenge, especially with the shopping deliveries to organise. Who knows what we'll end with tonight!

FGS I've just spent ages typing a post and poof! it disappeared and then I tried to post a shorter version and the page crashed! I give up!

Mana I am really sorry about your mum, hope you aren't too upset and don't dwell on it too much.

Sarah glad you're back home, hope you're feeling OK.

Anyone else got really sore boobs all of a sudden, they really hurt!

Merly - Great incubating!!! Twin 1 is bigger than my baby by 5oz! Well done!

Sherida - Now you've popped by for a visit don't be a stranger!

Sarah - great results and v. happy you can be home for little Harry's birthday. Save me some cake or, even better, some jelly and icecream!

caramel - sorry you can't get wedding rings on. remember the ring is just a blob of metal at the end of the day. The bond is in your heart! for people at work. when one tells you your bumps got big you could say "you should see the one I wear on the weekend!" Just have a laugh with the insensitive ba*rds. Rofpmslol at teh woman in boots. How daft is she!

mana - I've got piles of ironing, when you've got a minute!

Ty - Nasty land lady! She will get hers one of these days!

Right that's pg 21 done and the pc didn't throw a wobbly!

wotsits - Give yourself a break lass. You are pregnant you are not superwoman. If your body says "Hey I'm tired I don't wanna do anything!" you've got to listen to it even if you think stuff needs to be done around the house. You may just be too tired for the nesting to come in to play so relax, take it easy and recoup your strength and then see how you feel

mymissus - where's my slice of fruit loaf? Yes thanks feeling much better as I mananged to sleep a little. I was a fraid I was going to become a proper wreck yesterday through insomnia induced hysterics

Sally - had a look at that childbirth thread - Yup I'm gonna have some of that gas and air too!

I don't feel fed-up exactly except for some of the attitudes I encounter, see below but I am fairly panicky about the prospect of childbirth. Not really one of my all-time favourite experiences in the past (except afterwards when high on adrenaline and relief it's over and done with).

I need a moan:
It's kind that people are thoughtful enough to ask about the pregnancy, but they're so obsessed about due date, like it's some magical target! "You're not really due yet" they seem to be saying, cuz I'm 38 weeks and not yet 40. Baby's head is down low & his lungs are mature If I'm not thinking to be ready now, when should I be??

"Your bump doesn't look that big" -- I've heard this the whole way thru and it's grating on my nerves now. Some people clearly think I'm doing the wrong things and that the baby isn't growing properly (even though I have put on over 2 stone in weight). I composed a half dozen sarky and truly horrid replies last night (I couldn't sleep either). "Sorry, I don't turn into a fat cow during pregnancy, some of us are just lucky that way!" Or "Didn't you know I'm drinking a pint of vodka and smoking 40/day in an effort to stunt the baby's growth?" I won't really say those things, but thinking them up is fun.

love - no not talked to anyone about DP's anxieties, he's usually with me! He seems to have a bad case of providerphobia or percievedlackofmoneyitis combined with an acute case of themissisispregnantshemustbeabouttodieandtakethebabywithheritis. At his request I took over the finances ages ago and the purse strings have been very tight but we've managed (except for the odd time when he's decided he wants something and he's sent us overdrawn - like when he bought a camcorder two days after christmas - and the thing with the cat - which my folks ended up paying for anyway) Hes just got it into his head that because we're about to have a baby we're going to have to sell one of our organs to get by each month even though I'm going to try to breastfeed and we'll be using cloth nappies and we'll get child benefit and child tax credits. He's just not being rational about it. I also can't make him see that I am not about to drop dead any minute and he doesn't seem to understand that if I go into labour while he's at work or something bad does happen, the hospital is literally 10 minutes walk down the road and the doctors surgery is opposite the house and we have 4 phones in the house and there are at least 2 sets of neighbours that are always home, so, no matter what, even if the buses stop running and he is unable to get to me, I will still be able to get to some kind of help. I've tried to talk rationally to him but it's just not sinking in at the moment.

rozzy - We have already picked out a cotbed to buy if the other one doesn't come back into stock. I just really had my heart set on that particular cotbed. It's the ONLY thing i've been able to pick out for the baby for myself and is my "nursery" as I don't have one to prepare! I'm sure you understand!

yehudi - Hello. Thank you so much for coming by and being brave enough to post on here. I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you're coming to terms with it and are keeping well

Count - sorry to hear about your moms cat and that it ahd to be you who had to deal with it. The timing sucks.

mana - sorry that the situation with your mom has devolved again. She doesn't sound like the most rational person at the moment and perhaps for your sanity and health it is best if you kept your distance for the moment. Now I don't want you to get upset at this but I've had a thought relating to this. Yes your mom does sound like she's being childish over this whole thing and I'm sure that what she said in the first place that started all this off was uncalled for and I agree that she should be considering you at the moment and not being so daft BUT have you thought that maybe you should stop expecting an apology? The whole thing may be being compounded by the fact that you keep on telling her how important you think you are and how she should say sorry to you and your fella. Irrational and childish your mother might be BUT she IS your mother and she may be feeling that you've lost sight if this and be hurting herself. You could just forgive her with no apology so that you can all move on and let the whole event pass like water under a bridge and never bring the subject up again. Feelings and emotions are not rational and I think that for most of the crimes that family mambers commit to each other the only resolution is to forgive them whether they say sorry or not. I hope you understand what I'm trying to say and don't get upset by it.

Hi all, it's getting close now isn't it, I'm in denial but I am going to have a baby within the month! 38+2 today...I'm not too uncomfortable, relatively speaking, am getting a decent night's sleep every night, although my bump seems to have grown loads in the last week or so and has dropped somewhat so my bladder is being compressed to the size of a walnut! I'm still holding out for a 41 week baby as otherwise I think I'll have to make DH take time off work to help with the school run if it's before half term, and then we'll lose loads of money, no paternity leave for the self employed!

Having weekly antenatals now, I think we've discussed every possible scenario re the birth - baby is currently head down having been breech for a few days, but I wouldn't be surprised if it doesn't make its mind up until later on. My midwives have had a couple of home breeches recently so none of us are that concerned. I have the birthpool now but still need to put it together, hopefully that will happen before the weekend.

Mana - my mother was a PITA before I had my last baby, wanted to make it all about her and was less than supportive, I think we'd patched it up by the time the baby came as I remember phoning her to make the announcement, but I was disappointed at how unsupportive she had been compared to previous babies. Maybe the novelty had worn off. (she's dead now so it won't be an issue this time). IF your mother can't be nice just keep her at arm's length, dont give her the power to spoil your special time.

Countto10 - I suggested sex to DH and he said "nah you're alright", then claimed that he was just being thoughtful because he knows it would be difficult for me!! Oh well I'm not going to force him...

lljkk - people do get very hung up on exact dates don't they, just say you're expecting it sometime in the next month and you don't really mind when, there's no answer to that other than "oh"!. I'm nervous about the prospect of giving birth too which is ridiculous given my previous history, but even when it goes well it generally does hurt, so knowing that you're definitely going to have a (probably very) painful experience in the near future is a bit difficult to cope with mentally! But when you're actually doing it you just get on with it, it's the anticipation that's no fun.

Anyway, am going to heave my arse off the sofa and do some tidying up, the thing I'm most nervous about is bringing a tiny baby into this complete mess! Have a good day!

Hello everyone, you all sound as fed up as me. Got an annoying rash developed late last week, all up my arms and across the top of my bump, not sure what it is but its quite itchy. Slightly better today though so hopefully nothing much. Have a presentation scan on friday, will be nice to see little one again as it feels like I have been pregnant for ever and 20 week scan was a lifetime ago.

PK-my hubby was quite anxious before our first was born-this time round he is slightly too chilled and its a bit annoying, he works 3 hrs away and probably wouldn't make it back home if I went into labour (my first labour was 3 hrs), I have my mum around but leaves me in the lurch for childcare for dd if he happens to not be here which he isn't half the time, sure we'll cope but sometimes would like him to address that issue. he has 2 weeks off anyway mid feb and cos dd was 10 days late he thinks it will be fine and he will be here.