Due August 2022 ☀️

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Thought I’d start this as a follow up from the ‘TTC NOVEMBER 2021’ thread for everyone who got their BFPs! ☺️

@mrsmw132 I'm so so sorry to hear that. I can't imagine how you're feeling. I hope you're looking after yourself and managed to enjoy Christmas as best you could x

Hi all,

Sending love and hugs to those who need it right now xxx

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Hi, I have no idea what is going on with my body.... bfp on 6th Dec, spotting for 3 weeks, no pain. Epu did a scan but didn't see anything, they couldn't get a clear pic. Hcg levels were at 84. This was on 23rd. I was feeling queasy with sore boobs last night. I tested this morning, not my first morning pee tho and got a pretty strong positive?! No idea if I'm pregnant or not?!

@Purple29 Bizarre! Did they do a transvaginal scan at the EPU when you went? It's very possible you're still pregnant and they just couldn't see baby but the only thing that concerns me is your HCG levels from 23 December. Is it worth calling them for bloods and another scan since you should be 7+1 today and something is clearly going on in there! x

@Caslo yeah they did do an internal scan, but again because it was tilted back and to the side she couldn't get a proper view even that way.
I'm going back on the 30th for repeat bloods and all spotting has stopped. My line was really strong this morning and I'm getting symptoms. I'm loving and wanting to eat oranges, the only other time I had that was the last time I was pregnant. I think I'm going insane!!!

@NiaOB
Thank you for sharing. I've been getting worried incase I have an ectopic as I've been having pain just on my left side, on Christmas Eve I ended up in a&e, sat in a bed waiting for 2 hours then a dr examined me and said everything looks ok and my hcg levels are good so he discharged me and has booked an early pregnancy scan, I still haven't heard back because of the bank holidays so I phoned them and they said to phone the gynae dept tomorrow. Today I've been having more pains and this evening it's definitely got worse, and only seems to be on my left side. Trying not to worry myself too much but at the same time I know that if it is ectopic it gets serious pretty quick. They won't be able to scan me until tomorrow anyway so feel like it's pointless going back down tonight. Sorry for the long message, just need to let it out! x

I had pain only on the left side when I first found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks and went to EPU for a scan. It wasn't ectopic but they couldn’t say why I was having the pain there. Im 7 weeks tomorrow and ive paid for a private scan at window to the womb as ive been getting more pains in both if my sides, but its not cramps its sore pains and I havent had any spotting/bleeding. Im a nervous wreck this is my first pregnancy its hard not to worry about every little thing!

I’ve had a crap Christmas in all honesty - should currently be 7+4, but all my symptoms seem to have completely gone and I’ve had very, very light brown spotting the past couple of days, which now seems to be stopping.

Literally don’t know what to do. OH isn’t being very supportive and doesn’t know why I’m stressing and the thought of calling EPU tomorrow fills me with absolute dread - they were so, so horrid about it when I called at 6 weeks, as though they literally didn’t have time for me :(

Can’t get a private scan until 1st Jan - I just need to know either way and to make matters worse, I have a bloody wedding to go to in two days 😤

That's reasurring @Clodagh21 - with my first pregnancy I remember a lot of cramping and it was such an anxious time for me, I thought I'd be more level headed this time but this pain/pressure has me so worried, I won't be able to relax until I've had a scan.

Oh @CountryGirl189 sorry to hear that, men just don't get it do they? My partners the same, he doesn't understand why I stress so much. I just tell him it's easy for men as they're not responsible for growing an actual human being inside of them and looking out for any signs that there could be something wrong. I hope everything's ok xx

I've not had a chance to have a proper catch up to all the messages but it sounds like a few are not having some hard times, sending lots of love x

@twinklesss

He’s really frustrating me at the moment! And still no symptoms today, although I say that - I’m itching all over and have been for a few days now! Not exactly how you imagine pregnancy going…

Was going to call the Drs today, but I honestly don’t think they’ll do much so just going to see what happens. If it is the worst, there’s not much I can do anyway and if I did manage to get a scan at EPU, I’d have to go alone as OH is away today and don’t fancy that in all honesty!

Thank you for your reply though, makes one feel less alone!

Not feeling very hopefully today after I had a reassurance scan. Going by my LMP I should be 6w6d today but the scan showed that im only measuring around 5 weeks with fetal pole measuring 3.5mm. I was told it could be due to ovulating late as my cycle is irregular but I got my positive test on 8th December which was 4 weeks ago. Ive been told to wait and take a pregnancy test in 2 weeks to see if its still positive and if I have any pain or bleeding then to contact EPU:(

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@Purple29 Good luck today, got everything crossed for you. What time have you got your bloods? x

@Clodagh21 I'm so sorry you're going through this uncertainty. Unfortunately it sounds like it could go either way. If it is a miscarriage then know you did absolutely nothing wrong and it was most likely a chromosomal incompatibility. I know it's hard but try to stay positive over the next two weeks. You can't change the outcome so don't be too hard on yourself x

@Caslo it's not good news.... I've still lost the baby but they are concerned it's ectopic, my hormone levels are going up and scan inconclusive. So I have a choice to make. Either a laproscopic surgery, so they can see what's going on, that means if it is ectopic they will take the tube, as long as the other one is healthy. But if its just a pregnancy of unknown location they would leave both tubes. We could try right away.
Or I can go and get an injection which should get rid of all pregnancy tissue thats causing my levels to still go up. Not guaranteed and we couldn't try for 3 months?! Also if it doesnt work i might still need the surgery?! Don't know what to do? I'm so scared.

@Purple29 that sounds so stressful, I'm sorry. If you had the injection how would they rule out ectopic? It's hard to know but in your position I think I would jump straight to the surgery. Unless there are significant risks? Sending lots of strength your way xxx

They couldn't rule it out. They would have to hope the infection worked and my levels would start coming down. If they didn't I might still need surgery?!

@Purple29 What a stressful day I'm so sorry. I didn't think they took tubes unless it was absolutely necessary? I don't know anything about laparoscopy but I find it weird they couldn't take a look up the tubes and remove the pregnancy tissue without actually removing your tube... What does your DP think? You kinda need a guarantee the injection would work because it's precious time lost if you're told it's not been successful and you'd lose your tube anyway. Have they given you a deadline to decide by? And what have they personally recommended given your circumstances? If it helps one of my closest friends had an ectopic and lost her tube. She successfully had a baby not long after and she's now 30 weeks with her second. It's not the end of the world for most and doesn't affect fertility (at least not significantly) but obviously it's not ideal. What does your DP think? x

@Purple29 It seems I'm desperate to know what your DP thinks

@Purple29 so sorry, that sounds awful and such a tough decision. Personally I'd probably go for the surgery given that you still might have to have surgery if you have the injection anyway. But I don't know all the details. Has the doctor recommended one option more than the other? Xxx

My partner can see both sides of both options. He thinks its my body and will support me either way. @Caslo dr said if it was ectopic they would take the tube only if the other one was healthy. It should effect fertility.
The dr has said its really dependent on my personal circumstances. I've not had any pain so it might be they go in and its not ectopic so I keep the tubes and don't need the drug?!
I think I'm leaning towards surgical. Then I can draw a line and move on.

Hi @Purple29 I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this. I had an ectopic in October this year and mine resolved itself/I had expectant management. So I’m sorry I can’t offer much advise on those other options. Know that for the future everything will work out, after my ectopic in October I got pregnant in November and I’m now 8 weeks 3 days, we had a scan on Tuesday and we saw our baby in the uterus with a strong heartbeat measuring 8 weeks 1 day as they should be. The ectopic was such a hard time to go through, and it thinking ahead to the future, but keep positive always as it will all work out. I saw someone else posted in this thread that they’re pregnant after an ectopic but I can’t remember their name, please tag them if anyone remembers it so they can see this. Thanks xxx

@NiaOB I wanted to tag you in the above message xxx

@TianaC they did quite an extensive scan today and it was inconclusive, the dr just thinks that ectopic is highly likely. I've not had any pain, which is what is throwing them. I've decided on the surgery... I know its more invasive but it just draws a line under it all, with no extensive bleeding and months of dragging put not trying again, and the injection isn't always guaranteed.
I'm hoping that it might just be a pregnancy of unconfirmed location and that I'll get to keep both tubes. 🤞 it's good to hear positive stories of healthy pregnancies after tho so thank you.

@Purple29 I wish you all the best and hope you have the best outcome given the situation. I know how you feel, I remember just being so shocked and confused but hearing about positive outcomes after helped me so so much. All will work out soon, sending you lots of love xxx