Due APRIL 2008 - xmas puds, apple crumble and mince pies, and no-one can see the bulges, thank heaven for bumps!!

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This do scorpio?

I'd go through the channels of giving your DP parental responsibilty at the same time personally.
I wish DS was born earlier because exp does not have PR for DD but automatically got it for DS as he was born in 2004.
DP and I hope to get married in the next year or two and DD has already asked if she can change her surname to the same as DP's which we have said we would be ahppy to do if she still wanted it when we do get married, but we would need to go to court for DS's name to be changed.

im not sure, i have appt next wednesday so it depends if he backs off after my letter. i will say things like i am pg and not wanting the stress, i need you to prove responsibility, that you do it alone, you pay me properly and on time and start doing more day to day things instead of just taking him to the park. you will read my book by Webster-Stratton on the type of discipline i want you to use,you will have him overnight more often (currently once every 6 weeks, he only lives 8 miles away), you will pay more for extras like holidays, school uniform, etc, and will certainly have more respect for me than you currently do. (he got very sarcastic & rude with me infront of his 18 year old gf in my house).

etc etc......the list goes on!

Scorpio, the fact that he doesn't pay for the child, shows a great deal to the courts.
If I decide to fight for dp to have PR of DS it will be harder as xp's family practically force him to see the kids if they see them, so it wouldn't be a simple case of estrangement unfortunately.

i get married in 6 weeks so am hoping to change it before this happens. i dont want a full change, just a hyphanated (sp?). i think i will give dp PR too, i forgot i could.then, its us and him, iyswim?

he does pay, but with big arguements and often late or not the full amount. its a good job i don't depend on that money as such isn't it!

Good luck with it. Keep us informed. I'm off now for weekend!! Have a good one, everyone.

Ha ha - just realised I posted on the wrong thread! Was meant to post in Due in May (I thought I was sure Ellie was due in April!)

Oh dear pregnancy brain or what!!!!

Good luck everyone!!!

You too!

I did wonder about that - though April was a leetle bit early.
Never mind nh - blame it on the beans!

scorpio - it sounds to me like your ex is living in dreamworld and has no idea what he's getting into. It also sounds like you have it all very well thought through and know exactly what your rights are. I'm just sorry that you're having to deal with all this when you have so much to look forward to right now. I hope it can be resolved asap so you can move on and enjoy your new life.

twinbeans - how exciting to be having twins! And you never know, April maybe isn't out of the question although I'm sure you'd rather hang on a bit longer than that!

No news from scampmum this morning then? Can anyone remember what time her scan was at?

I've just noticed that my public profile has gone and all my photos etc. Is that because I changed my name?

yeah i think so

Hello - haven't caught up yet but just wanted to tell you IT'S ALL GOOD!

We are so relieved that I STILL can't stop crying! heart is all functioning perfectly and they halved the risk of DS to 1:170 because the nuchal fold is now in the bounds and they could see the middle bone on the little finger. Had already said in advance it wouldn't go down any lower than that (I actually remembered it as 1:150) so it's absolutely the best result we could have hoped for.

We didn't find out even when I was talking to one of the sonographers (they were great, by the way) and he was saying 'I have a little girl and a little boy, same age difference as you... I don't know what you're having, by the way' and the other sonographer piped up 'I do!' - my will had to be very steely at that moment!

Without actually seeing anything we both thought boy, but hey, I thought that last time too (as did my maternal 'instinct'...) so it doesn't mean a jot.

YIPPEE!!

congrats, you sound really positive now

ps DH VERY NEARLY missed the cardiac scan owing to having not got out of bed until 8.40 when I was going in every ten mins telling him in an increasingly shirty manner that we had to leave at 9 - was extremely grrr but luckily they didn't call me in until 10.20 and he'd literally just run in. At least he was out of breath from running up the stairs - I had been sitting there deciding how cross I would be if he had stopped to buy fags and smoke one! What a supportive wife I am...

caught up now, Scorpio - you poor thing, and (sounds) typical that he does this now, when you're 5 months pregnant and getting married in six weeks (I got married 6 months pregnant too - will have to post my pic!). BUT it sounds like he has a steely adversary in you and from what you say about him I would think your chances of scaring him off with the first few letters are pretty high. Also great thinking VS about getting Scorpio's new husband (!!) PR.

Just found out my SIL is miscarrying as we speak - poor parents-in-law having one jubilant son and one desolate one. I am hoping it was quite early as we didn't know she was pregnant, though I know when you're the mum that doesn't make it any easier.

GemP, sorry to hear about your daughter and grandad. Good call on the positive thinking.

Thanks so much for all your support, guys! Feel unmitigated excitement about the baby for the first time - wooHOO!

What a difference a day makes scamp .

Awful news about your SIL though - has she got children already? Not that that really makes any difference - it's still a horrible experience .

No, I think they only started trying earlier this year. DH on the phone to his brother now, think he is in tears (v. uncharacteristic). Poor things. I had a MC five years ago when I was living in NY and DH (boyf at that time) was in London. It was such a dark time, and that was a baby it would have been really difficult for us to keep - this is a really longed-for baby in marriage.

YEY FOR SCAN SCAMPMUM! Have been worried about you today. Fab to know things are all well

Have nice weekends y'all x

Hello, I'm having a boy, he's big and he's breech. Hopefully that explains all the extra cakes, choc and FOOD that I have required since day one

Yay festive villas! Congrats on your big bouncing lad and all being well. I think you should have a large cake to celebrate.

Just re-read my earlier post and I meant marriage as in that's what their relationship happens to be - personally am not that fussed about marriage and we were not planning to get married when we conceived DD but did it mainly for legal reasons (e.g. DH default rights to custody of DD if I died, less bother with wills etc.) and because ILs were super-miserable about the idea of a Grandchild Out Of Wedlock - BUT ended up having a lovely day (we did it on holiday in Oz - shotgun AND elopement! ) and we love being married.

Anyway all that guff was just because it sounded a bit... I dunno, just not like what I think/believe in!

Scampmum, I am delighted everything went well for you.

Your poor SIL though.

Have a good weekend all.

So pleased scampmum, been thinking about you all day!
Sad news about your SIL though Point her in the direction of MN if she needs support, I found it helped to know I wasn't the only one when I had my mc

Festivevillas - congrats on your big breech boy!! Is he likely to stay breech now, do you know?

hi everyone, not been on for ages. Life has been hectic, Toby and Chloe have had vomitting bug and coughs and colds galore, thank goodness I'm over my sickness now or I don't think I would've coped. All seem to be fine now though.
We don't get a 20 week scan here which is rubbish but I might pay for a private one. I think I'm having a boy (I hope it's a boy but it doesn't matter).
It's meant to snow here tomorrow but I'm trying not to get my hopes up. Toby is expecting snow cos I guess when you're 2 you don't understand that it might not actually snow at Christmas!

Scorpio yay a little girl xxx sending loads of love x