August 2021 - Heading into the second trimester

[BertieBotts]

Old thread was about to fill up again

I will try to get to the car seat/pram Qs in a bit...

@wimbler - EDD 29 July, having a surprise! 💛
@Champson - EDD 22 August (but really June/July), TBC 💛💛💛
@Jessicapebbles - EDD 5 August (but having C-section at 39 weeks, so really July) 💛
@smurf123 - EDD 5 August (but likely to be July) 💛
@WhatEvenIsSleep EDD 2 August, TBC 💛
@Smushty14 - EDD 6 August, TBC 💛
@Rattyclife - EDD 6 August, TBC 💛
@Biscuitcat - EDD 10 August, having a surprise! 💛
@runnergirl123 - EDD 11 August, TBC 💛
@PurplePansy05 - EDD 12 August, Boy 💙
@BananaHammock23 - EDD 13 August, surprise 💛
@MrsB2019x - EDD 13 August, TBC 💛
@Magik01 - EDD 13 August, TBC 💛
@Carefree1 - EDD 15 August, can't wait to find out 💛
@DressyGerbera - EDD 15 August, surprise 💛
@lucyrp - EDD 16 August, undecided 💛
@BertieBotts - EDD 16 August, want to know! 💛
@Whatshouldbemyusername - EDD 16 August, TBC 💛
@WolfMother326 - EDD 17 August, surprise 💛
@Smallbean27 - EDD 19 August, surprise 💛
@WatermelonKisses - EDD 20 August, surprise 💛
@alittlexmasmagic - EDD 22 August, surprise 💛
@Millymay13 - EDD 22 August, TBC 💛
@Notinthestarsigns - EDD 23 August, TBC 💛
@northernsquirrel- EDD 31 August, surprise 💛

For once not me! Hope you managed to get back to sleep okay @lucyrp

Oh @lucyrp, hope you managed to get some sleep! I had two random vivid dreams in the first I was in a really long detailed appointment where I literally felt they were covering everything from conception to scan, and then really bluntly when scanning I was told baby only had one arm. In the second I was miscarrying Bit odd as I hadn’t really thought about the anomaly scan, and was feeling a lot better re risk
Of loss having got past 14weeks.

@Champson, my resting HR usually varies 53-63bpm across my cycle. Since pregnancy it’s been at the top end so 63-66bpm. That’s
overnight, so definitely resting. It shoots up to just over 100 walking on the flat. I have attempted a very slow run on the flat and can just about keep it under 150bpm, but really have to watch it, and I’m only running 3x 3min intervals with 2min recovery inbetween. I think it’s not unusual to have ~10% increase in resting HR, and would expect with multiples you’ll have even more blood volume to pump around, so probably higher?

Hmm good to know thanks @HopefulB! I’ve just checked my Fitbit and I’m almost hitting 150 just in my daily walks!! But I’ve been stuffing my face with food over the time period where it has really soared so maybe that has something to do with it? I did ask my midwife on Monday but she only heard 70 instead of 77 and wasn’t concerned. Will ask at next appointment with new team, esp if it continues to rise. It’s just this pic is freaking me out haha!!

Morning ladies, finally joining after lurking for a long time! EDD 24 August, will be finding out the sex at the next scan 💛

Had a weird moment in the shower just now, looked down and was like ‘why have I got such a pot belly today?’

Oh... right. 🤰🏻🙈

:o

Welcome, Sunset.

We are about to fill up this thread. Someone said they had gone missing off the list, anyone want to help me investigate so that can get fixed before moving to the new thread?

Haha @MrsB2019x 🤣 I have a very deep sofa and now struggle to get up, many times I thought why?? Oh, right...🤰🏼

Yesterday before bed I had yellowish nipples and I thought my breasts would burst, so painful! I googled and it says it might be a sign of colostrum, I thought that's too early at 17.5 weeks?? Do I need patches?? xx

@Alittlexmasmagic she's been described as worse 😂 I do feel mean, she does have some redeeming features! Luckily DH and wonderful MIL have taken over so I'm not involved at all

Anyone else wildly over emotional at the moment? Last night the new Facebook portal advert (where a woman's mum helps her with breastfeeding over video chat) had me full on weeping, and this morning we watched a video about baby's development at 18 weeks and it said they can hear me - set me right off again!

@BertieBotts can I be added to the list please? EDD 12th August expecting a boy 💙

Welcome @Sunset21

@PurplePansy05 we have a deep sofa too - my husband says I'm like a turtle that's stuck on its back when I'm trying to get off the sofa 😂

@biscuitcat quite the opposite actually. I actually don't feel emotional at all. I've actually been worrying a little about this - is anyone else the same??! I'm wondering if it's because I'm perhaps a little detached still because we've had 3 losses. I refused to think of it as a baby until I couldn't deny it anymore on the scans! I did start looking at some baby things last night though so I feel like that's a bit of progress!!

@Champson I’d guess that the hunger is also your body responding to increasing blood volume, so would make sense. You def need the calories! A very close friend carried twins to term, they pretty much robbed her of her muscle mass.

Bump it Up, used the Karvonnen formula to advise on 75% of maxHR, which is what is recommended in (low risk) pregnancy. So 220-Age = HRmax, [(HRmax- HRresting)*0.75]+HRresting = maximum for ‘moderate’ intensity exercise.

For me that was 150bpm. I’ve no idea how transferable it is to multiples (I have returned the book & can’t remember if mentioned). ROAR, which is a female physiology based training guide (I used to be quite fit!!) mentions not exercising when you have multiples, so if it were me I would err on the side of caution until you see the specialist.

I’ll stop geeking on exercise stats now

Hi ladies, sorry I've not been around... it's so hard to keep up with the thread sometimes.

@Biscuitcat I've been so so emotional these last few weeks, I've been blaming it on the hormones. I had a weekend where I felt so insecure about my changing body and whether OH will still love me (which of course he will). OH woke up to me sobbing in the night and we ended up having a 4am heart to heart. Loads of things set me off, I don't always cry but I'm not really someone who cries in front of others, but I feel so overwhelmed with emotion sometimes!

@Daffodil21 I was reserved for quite some time, but decided to go with the flow which cost me a lot of energy and courage tbh. Obviously we're nearly halfway there and there is never a guarantee, but at some point I decided to cut off the past as much as possible. It's not 100% possible for me and I've accepted that's the way it is. But I want to allow myself to enjoy the here and now and take it for what it is, not focus on the awful past or future what ifs. In some ways I think my deep worries translate themselves to some insecurities about becoming a mum and trying to do my best to prepare, but I'd rather that than being where I was few months ago tbh. I watched Ben Fogle's Tommy's appeal last night and cried my heart out (please don't watch this, it was a mistake!). It's only in moments like this when I realise there is still a lot of emotion and worry somewhere inside me, but it's under the lid most days IYSWIM. I tell myself that yes, other things can happen and can go wrong like in any pregnancy, but it really is rare now and we will not go through the same thing again in this pregnancies, it is different - which helps me with detaching myself from the past, but not from my son. xx

Thank you @HopefulB!! By that calculation mine is 131 😱 I’ve been reading a book about having a successful multiples pregnancy and it basically said for triplets do NOT exercise - put your feet up and do short walks. Hoping my 45 min dog walks are short enough 😬 Really don’t want to give those up! I had got into a really good lockdown running habit last year after not running for ten years and stopped cold turkey in December when we did IVF. I can’t say I’m missing running but defo missing feeling fit!

@PurplePansy05 I know exactly what you mean. It's all there, just as you say, under a lid. Now we know he's a he, and we've also accidentally chosen a name 🙈 we have started to go with it a bit more and try to enjoy it. I don't feel particularly emotional about it all though, which I know is a bit strange and shows I clearly have a bit of a way to go, but I think I'm getting there. We figured if things do go wrong from now, detaching ourselves is not going to make it any easier. But if it does go ok then detaching ourselves is going to be detrimental. I still say 'if we have this baby'/'if I give birth'/'if things go to plan' etc but we are starting to plan for if he does arrive whereas before I couldn't even think that far ahead. It is tough isn't it but you do have to push passed the past at some point I guess. Glad you're trying to think more positively ❤️ thanks for the head up about the Ben fogle thing - I'll avoid!!!!

Ladies if anyone is interested, Forbes is reporting that covid antibodies have been found in breast milk ❤ It's only a small trial for now but multiple bigger trials are ongoing and things are looking promising 🙏❤ This has made me very happy.

www.forbes.com/sites/ninashapiro/2021/03/04/antibodies-for-covid-19-found-in-breast-milk-after-vaccine/

Bertie I've been slacking with the list updates, mea culpa, sorry. There have been so many new posters in the last couple of weeks, but a lot post on a one off basis and then disappear or don't ask to be included in the list, so I don’t if they want to be tagged or not

@Daffodil21 I also have had 3 losses before my son. Ds turned 3 yesterday but when pregnant with him I couldn't do anything baby related.. I went and picked the pram but got it delivered to my mums house. My mum washed, prepared and packed our baby bag for the hospital and again kept it at her house until much closer to the time 35 ish weeks - then it went straight into a cupboard and dh knew where to get it. I just couldn't have the baby stuff in the house until ds was born. Ds spent his first week in nicu so during that time dh built the pram and the moses basket etc.
This time I feel I will be doing something similar. I'm 18 weeks now but with an anterior placenta and not yet feeling movements or at least not confidently. I'm a bit panicked that the baby was measuring 17+1 on Monday at my scan instead of 17+4 like I should have been but consultant wasn't worried. I could see baby moving away, heartbeat etc but still has me a bit worried.
I think pregnancy after loss you just have to do it in whatever way works for you. Take it each day at a time and try and keep positive. As @PurplePansy05 we are much further on now and while nothing is ever certain the odds are certainly more in our favour after the 12 week Mark..

@Smurf123 it really is tough isn't it. I'm so glad you've had your son and I hope everything goes ok for us all this time. I'm sorry you couldn't deal with baby stuff at all but I completely get it. I definitely feel robbed of the joy we should be experiencing I guess that's just the way it is

@Daffodil21 @Smurf123 I find it mind blowing that there are at least 4 of us recurrent miscarriers on one thread all expecting in August. I do sometimes wonder if they have their stats right you know.

I agree with you both that we got to do what feels right. I also agree that the detachment strategy isn't likely to minimise or ease the pain if something was to go wrong this time, however I totally understand it from a self-preservation point of view and I think it's a common default one for most women with our history. It's bloody hard. I have gone to great lengths in trying to separate all these things in my head. Lots of people suggested books about pregnancy after loss to me, but I chose not to read them, I don't want this link to be perpetuated through my own choices, although it does of course exist. You are right in saying that it taints everything, for some of us it's a joy thief, for others an extra layer of anxiety, but it's always THERE. I think I got to the point after 2 years of feeling really low and not like myself where I've just had enough. I'm still not as happy as I was before all this happened to me and I don't think I will ever be because what's lost is lost. But I couldn't dwell on this daily any longer, I felt like a shadow of my own self for far too long. So I'm using all my strength to focus on today now, sometimes failing. Baby loss taught me compassion, but not towards myself unfortunately. It was far too easy to beat myself up over what's happened and it's difficult to then be forgiving towards myself and let go to find some joy xx

@BertieBotts could you add me to the list please EDD 10th August gender TBC thanks x

@Sunset21welcome and congratulations x

Ladies just wanted to say thank you to ALL OF YOU yesterday for the love and support yesterday. To all those who don’t have mums like me, either coz they’ve passed or are in nursing homes or in other countries -big big virtual hugs. We will be fine 😘

@biscuitcat @RunnerGirl123 yes emotions are so strange these days. I feel much better today after I let it out a few days ago.

Do any of you have anterior placentas by the way? I do and hoping 20 week scan shows it’s moving ...

@Champson, I think if I were hitting 75% max I’d be limiting the walk to 30mins. From what I can tell the guidance is 30mins moderate exercise/up to 90mins light exercise each day. Moderate (75%max) and Light (up to 60%max) for me are VERY different to Pre-preg, and I would guess even more so for you! But I could be being overly cautious! When do you go to the JR?

Has anyone else with a dog thought about any additional training Pre new arrival? We have a very enthusiastic border collie. Currently I’ve just been working on her not getting over excited at walk time & letting me clip her lead one handed! She’s quite wary of change, so thinking it may be advantageous to get pram early so she just ignores it when baby arrives?

I have an anterior placenta @Whatshouldbemyusername. Haven’t really looked into what this means for me. A little bump (as opposed to the massive evening bloat) is just starting to appear at 14+6.

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