Pregnancy after loss - Autumn babies 2021

[Pancakes7]

Hi All, I have only just got my BFP and it's still faint atm. I had an mmc in May 2018, I then gave birth to my son May 2019. I had another mmc July 2020 and have been ttc ever since. I just got my BFP yesterday, so very early days. I'm not ready to join both groups quite yet. I thought this could be a space for us all going through pregnancy after loss. As we all understand the nerves/anxiety that go with this. I hope it's useful.

A bit of back ground on me. I'm 33, married. I have a 20 month old son. I haven't returned to work yet since maternity. I returned for 2 weeks then was put on furlough. I will be going back part time, doing 3 days.

@PumpkinEverything ha ha I'm such a saddo I just wanted to see it on the monitor in writing. I figured it cost me enough money may as well use it 😂

@dippyegg32 exciting times could be symptoms already. My boobs have been sore on and off for the last few days but not as bad as other pregnancies I think they'll get worse as time goes on. I also ordered three months worth of pregnacare on Amazon that should arrive today. I think I might take an extra vitamin D and folic acid for now as I already have them and I guess you can't get enough folic acid LOL

Not really changing up my diet @Firevie we had started doing hello fresh this year so I’m content with that as we’re getting healthier meals 3 nights a week. We have a takeaway on Saturday and then I normally plan healthyish meals the other 3 days and for lunch and breakfast. I like to eat snacks everyday so can’t see me cutting out my crisps and chocolate! I’ve swapped to decaf coffee and then I’m just trying to make sure I’m not eating things I’m not supposed to. I did actually buy a book last week called the whole 9 months which has info on nutrition and looks good so I’m going to read through it this weekend to see what it says 😊 I’m veggie so I just worry I’m missing something.
I’m currently taking pregnacare and have been since my MMC as I always take a multivitamin anyway and thought this would be best for me.

Absolutely @Pancakes7 You might as well 😂 good shout on the pomegranate juice, I might have to look into that. I hadn’t managed to lose the extra pounds I put on during my last pregnancy (the MMC) due to Christmas and snacking, and I really wish id managed to as I’d have preferred to have got off on a better start weight wise this pregnancy. Not going to worry about it as I’m too scared to try to cut calories to lose or maintain weight and risk anything happening to me, so just going to try and be mindful.

@gizmo167 somehow missed your update this morning. I’m sorry you’ve lost your symptom 😔 I really hope that everything does work out to be okay. Have you thought anymore about calling EPU or the GP?

Thanks @PumpkinEverything I'm just not convinced they'll do anything, they didn't last time around & I was bleeding then, come to the conclusion this just isn't for me anymore

@gizmo167 Please don't be disheartened. If this is another mc. It doesn't mean you'll go on to have another. Some people have multiple mc's then a successful pregnancy. Please keep hope that everything could be ok. Are you bleeding still? Xx

@Firevie I have been trying to eat healthier, minimal coffee, lots of fruit and veg and trying to keep sugar to minimum 😊 we will see how long it lasts...

@PumpkinEverything I know hun but if this is another mc it took me a year to get bfp after the first & I just dont have that time anymore, I'll b 43 next month & tbh I couldn't cope with another loss! I haven't had any bleeding, just one tiny beige streak in my cm last night, nothing since

@gizmo167 I think that reply was for me. Wait and see how things go before you make any decisions. I understand you might decide to stop trying. Only you can know what's best for you. Sending you hugs xx

Thanks ladies - good shout on the Pom juice! I’ve been taking pregnacare for what seems like forever! Can’t seem to shake off the chocolate addiction which is bad. Other than that I’m similar - veggies, fruits, snacks though will try and cut down on chocolate and crisps, milk, occasional pizza and pasta and otherwise just home cooked food as usual - fish, lamb, lentils, Indian food etc. Xxx

I guess I just want to lessen the junk snacks and exercise more. I'm 8st11 at the mo so that's fine but in both (successful) pregnancies I gained 3st and I really don't want to do that again so going to try and be good.

@Firevie sounds like you are eating all the right things. And don’t stress about the odd pizza, choccie or crisps, everything in moderation and better to be happy!
I’m going to try Pom juice, does anyone know if it’s nice?

@Strawberry08 Yeah it's ok actually. I just got Sainsbury's own pomegranate juice. I had it with ice to take the edge off.

Vitamin advice from nhs. I was just having a look to check my pregnacare had it all as it just arrived.

www.nhs.uk/pregnancy/keeping-well/vitamins-supplements-and-nutrition/

Sorry @Pancakes7 it was meant for you, my heads all over the place!

Started to spot v pale brown & feeling like I've done 1000 sit ups so just a matter of waiting it out now I guess! My dd has gone to her aunt's so least she doesn't have to watch me falling apart

@gizmo167 I'm so so sorry. Take some paracetamol, make a hot water bottle and get some chocolate and a cup of tea. Maybe try and have a rest or put something funny on the TV. I'm still keeping my fingers crossed for you

Brown blood is old @gizmo167 I have everything crossed for you

I was just wondering will any of you tell some people for the support? We told my in-laws last night on face time (they live 200 miles from us) I'm going to tell my Mum when I see her on Thursday. Then I think I'll tell my close friend on Monday. They all know about my previous losses. I like to have the support.

Good for you @Pancakes7 whatever is best for you. nope apart from DH I'm not telling a soul

Still crossing my fingers for you too @gizmo167 that it’s just old blood 😔

@Pancakes7 I told my best friend a few days after I found out as she asked how my cycle was (I’d been ranting about it being so confusing) so didn’t want to lie and had been planning on telling her in the next few days! I also told my mum on Monday as she called to the house to sign something for me and I had decided I didn’t want to wait until something potentially going wrong like last time and having to tell her I was pregnant and lost it in one go. It was just too hard before! Definitely need the support and I feel like stressed about keeping a secret. Going to tell my other best friend soon as well so that she knows too and then I’ll be content until 12 weeks. Won’t tell my husbands family until then as his mum would definitely tell the rest of the family and think it was fine because they’re family 😂

I feel less stressed*

Thanks girls, will keep you all posted and really appreciate your support, I dont have anyone else x

@PumpkinEverything I'm the same I found my first time round it was stressful not telling anyone. So we always tell them now but only parents and my close friends. I'm in 2 minds about teething my friend on Monday. I met her through NCT and she is pregnant and due in April. So I've been finding it really difficult I think I mentioned it on the other chat. So I probably will tell her for the support but I keep thinking how awful it will be if this goes wrong just before she has her baby.

Telling **