Due April 2008 - new thread for October

[lemonaid]

Old thread here.

Mollyfloss - I've got a similar thing (and had it all through my last pregnancy), a bunged up nose that's worse at night. Have you tried Olbas oil? Just a drop on the mattress next to my pillow sometimes seems to work. (I put it right on my pillow once and it felt like it was burning a hole in my cheek!).

Congratulations Ellie, good news

Yayyy, EllieG fabby news

Yippppppeeeee still very happy.
We are telling DSD (who am adopting next year after we get married) tonight. I have bought her a little figurine thing of a lady hugging a little girl abnd a card to tell her I am just as excited about her being my daughter as this new one too. Do you think that's silly or OK? I don't want her to be insecure, having lost her Mum, so I thought would be best to put in some extra time for her

That's so thoughtful and lovely Ellie, I bet she will be as thrilled as you are, let us know how it goes. Aww bless

Our ds(8)was soooooo happy when we told him last week, it's really exciitng for them too. He's already sorted out all his old books for the new arrival.

Hi everyone. Thanks for all your advice on India - I think I'll go, if all is well then.

Lovely to hear all the scan news - my first one is not till friday, and now starting to worry that I have moaned about being pregnant - and that I'm not actually pregnant but just have wind/ fat tummy/ weird sickness/ whatever else gives you these symptoms

Soph - glad to hear your ds had a good birthday. Same day as mine!

Can't decide whether to find out sex or not when its possible. Chinese thing says boy, but a fortune teller told dh that he would only have girls. Maternal instinct told me that the last one was a ds, but turned out to be a dd!

Congrats Ellie! Lovely to enter that reassuring place after the scan.

Smcg - lovely to have you back and glad you are feeling better about things.

Loistella - so jealous of you going to pea in a pod! I went to blossom at the weekend and they had one of those padded bumps too - great/freaky to see what you'll look like in a few months time isn't it?

Hello to everyone else!

Had our first midwife appointment last night. She is so lovely and everythig a midwife should be so I am over the moon! She does all the appointments at home which I love and we sat and chatted for two hours.
It's just so nice to talk about it all now isn't it and it be real rather than hypothetical if that makes sense?
How's everyone else getting on with their midwives?
x

Belated happy birthday Sagitta.

EllieG, your DSD will be thrilled!

Lemonaid, I didn't think of that, I am right back where I started! I didn't really think through the implications of having the NT scan, I was naïve.

I got a rush of blood to the head and ordered a Juicy Couture changing bag, I am sure I'll be sorry next year when I am stony broke! I am in a contract job now so have nothing to come back to

Windupbird - thanks for the tip on tyhe olbas oil. I'm going to go out now and get some.

ElliG - I think that is a lovely idea for your DSD, so cute and thoughtful. She is really lucky to have you after losing her Mom. I remember when my nephew was born, my SIL and bother told my niece that her new baby brother was bringing her a present and tried to get her all exited about it. When they came home they had her sit down next to the baby and close her eyes. Then they brought out a baby doll with all the accessories, bottle, nappies etc. She was so happy, giving kisses to her little brother (who was 3 days old) to thank him and of course everytime they changed my nephew's nappy or fed him my niece would sit down next to them and do the same with her doll. I thought it was a brilliant idea to avoid any jealousy or insecure issues. Very soon she wanted to help change the real baby and her Mum involved her as much as possible. I think the key is keeping the little ones' as involved as possible with the newborn.

Thanks Dolly.

I haven't met the midwife at the GP's surgery yet but the two midwives I met at St Thomas' were lovely. Anyone else going to St Thomas'?

EllieG - aahhh, you´ve just bought a tear to my eye {{sniff}}
sagitta - Happy belated Birthday. I thought that as well about wind, etc, silly isn´t it
lemonaid - I´ll come and join you in that zone as I´ve just entered it too. Next scan on 22nd!
dolly - I have a great midwife as well.

EllieG thats a lovely idea- ovely enough to get the PH hormonal tears going as well- [blsuh]!

DH is getting me a Cath kidston changing bag for Christmas, I ahd a very masculine ojne (so Dh could use too- he can still use it!) bag for the last 3, and am determined for a girly bag this time!

Hi everyone
Don't post very often but am reading everyone elses! Am now 11+3 weeks and still feel sick. Everytime I think its getting better it comes back!
Have had some bleeding a couple of weeks ago but had an early scan and all was well.
Had a bit more yesterday but had just come back from a weekend at Centerparcs and think I overdid it a bit. Seems to have stopped now so I'm trying to ignore it.
Next scan on 24th Oct.

awwwww, hormone alert!!! Ellie, did you ujst want to make us all cry????
Mind you,s aying that DS managed to do the same to me last ngiht, he ahs been saying ever since he knew that he would cuddle the baby when it comes out, so when we ask what he was going to say to it he always said 'UGGLE YOU!!' which made us laugh, but when I asked him last night what he would say, expecting the commn reply he said he's going to say 'Hello, I love you'

My midwife was lovely and I think has (unbeknown to her) pushed me back towards staying within the NHS (had vaguely been considering independent midwives). I know it's very unlikely to be her actually at the birth, and ideally I would like it to be a known midwife, but I don't want to pay oodles for the privilege when I think I'm going to be more than happy seeing her regularly through pregnancy. Assuming I like the consultant as well when I see her in December, anyway...

I am so jealous of everyone who has had their scan (and very pleased for you all at the same time!) . I still have to wait until Thursday morning - never knew that time could pass sooooo slowly! I have met the community mw at my Dr's and she is lovely but she won't be involved in the birth itself - will meet those MW's at the scan on Thursday. The community MW is the same one that my SIL had and I think she really liked her. It's a shame that it's a bit 'hit and miss' as to the type of MW you get.

LoRayning...now you mademe cry!
Bloody hormones - I cry all the time these days.

anyone else experiencing weird aches and cramps in the weirdest places... thought something was wrong with my heart last week...kept feeling a sting on my left side... friedn told me probably moving organs...

My belly popped out overnight - it's bizarre!
I've had my first person touching it experience. Wasn't as freaked out as I thought I'd be!

It's the hit and miss aspect that made me go privately Kirbo. Really want to know exactly who will be there on the day and that they'll be mine alone for the duration. But I'm sure a lot of people are more laid back than me!
I see her for about 15 appointments before the birth so I should get to know her pretty well which is nice. These women are amazing aren't they. I know there are some nasty ones - like in everything in life - but overall I think you have to be a fundamentally good person to do that job and give so much time and consideration to others. She was just so nice to us last night - any fears I had melted away.
I really hope you are all just as lucky.

What a lot of messages - so hard to keep up!

loisstella - I was told that when you uterus moves up out of the pelvis it can sometimes cause pain and internal discomfort can be quite deceiving as it seems to come from so many different places. I had loads of weird pains with my first pregnancy but although this time I do have them again I find it easier just to accept them and only worry if they don't go after a rest.

Congratulations for all those positive scan and test results.

I've been scaring myself silly today reading my pregnancy book. I had a c-section last time and the birth scares me more this pregnancy than last pregnancy.

Lorayne my ds1 has been making notes for the baby saying I love you and thank you mummy for the baby... tkaing into account that DS1 is autistic 9albeit higher functioning) you'd ahve to be bloody ahrd not to cry!! Actually my biggest worry for my scan tomorrow is if there was really bad news how would he take it- its making me far more nervous than with the others actually!. And of course as the scan is alte and I ws so cik, hiding the pg wasn't really an option.

BTW- sickness - after a chat with MW cut out dairy (have ahd a low level casein intol all my life) and miraculously its gone! Accidentally ahd a minstrel sweet earlier though and it came back for a bit, so sure its the link for me. happened in past but alter on with ds1 and ds2 so now scaring myself its a sign this one is ASD as well (theres a possible link between milk intolerance and ASD and both those childrena re milk into whilst ds2 is NT and not).

getting V V good at worrying aren't I?

Lorayne your DS sounds so sweet! Am sniffing myself now.
DSD was SO pleased, ran around the house squealing, them jumped on us for big cuddles, then did a little dance singing 'We are family! I've got all my sisters or maybe brother with me!'. We took some photos of the scan photos cos she wanted to show her friends at school this morning and she said 'I'm going to be so proud showing my friends these' which got me going again

All of you worrying about getting big I just have to let you know this.

Yesterday I went to the Pride of Britain awards and after the rigmarole of finding something to wear and the moans and groans fo nothing fits I settled on Black trousers (maternity), black vest top and a silver shawl and shoes. I thought I looked OK!

Anyway 4 people made comments about how big I was and that it must be due any day soon - cheek. DH just kept laughing and saying 'I did that to you'. I was ready to smack him by the end of the night .

v1kk1m - one of my 6th formers said yesterday "oh I thought you were about 8 months gone." Could have throttled him.
lorisparkle - at the mo I´m not worried at all about the birth as I had emergency c-section last time so (fingers crossed) this one won´t be quite so traumatic

loisstella - I´m full of bizarre pains & also thought my heart was giving out a couple of nights ago I don´t remember this from 1st pregnancy.

V1kk1m & Soph: Your stories made me laugh out loud. I'm sure people were only joking with you. I can't decide whether I'm showing a lot or not enough now. I have no idea what the norm is for 3 months. well I guess there isn't one...

On the subject of the midwives & NHS, I actually decided to go private (obstetrician led). I'm lucky enough that my health insurance covers it although I probably would have done it anyway. I just haven't got a clue about anything and I like the idea of seeing the same Doctor over and over again. I think it really is more for reassurance than anything. I have to say my Doctor is lovely. After my scan my husband and I were with her for almost an hour asking her anything and everything, even how to avoid stretch marks (sorry no great solution there!). She was so nice and patient and not pushy at all.