Due March 2008-We're nearly halfway there!

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Having the worst day ever. Slipped over this morning on some wet leaves so back to square one pain wise and am pretty sure me and dp are finished. This time for good, he shows no interest in me or the pregnancy and I was due to move into his flat on the 3rd November but he emailed - yes emailed - me this morning saying he has found a tenant and they're moving in asap so I can stay occasionally but not actually move in. His new tenant happens to be a peppy blonde student called Amy who probably doesn't look fat and hideous like I do right now. I was supposed to stay with him for a couple of months whilst I'm still in pain back wise so I didn't have to do such a long commut and then he was going to move to be nearer me as he won't live with me anymore.

This isn't the first time something like this has happened since I've been pregnant, he said he'd move to Surrey (where my Mum, family and friends live so where I want to move back to) with me and then pulled out and now he has done this. Oh and he has refused to come to any appointments with me apart from a couple of A&E trips where he didn't have much choice and I have managed to convince him to attend my next scan but I doubt he'll actually end up coming to it. He constantly throws everything back in my face, threatens me with not coming to the birth and not taking his paternity leave. It's like I'm a single Mum with anyway so maybe it's about time I said enough is enough and at least I wouldn't have him constantly upsetting me so much and may spare myself some further upset. I've been so upset I've actually been vomiting and I can feel my heart rate and blood pressure going through the roof. I've never been so consistenly let down and devastated by someone.

Can't stop crying sorry for the rant I just needed to release it somewhere and in the office isn't really the place! I don't wanna bring you guys down so I promise no more posts like this from me... I'll use the upset thread, there must be one!

Hi ClaphamLauren

I'm so sorry to hear that, he sounds like an absolute pig!! From what you've said you, and baby for that matter, sound much better off without him, although I know that's easier said than done. And perhaps telling him it's finished for good will also give him the kick up the backside he obviously needs and make him realise what he'll be losing. You definitely don't need the stress..

Hope you're ok physically too after the fall x

CL- rant all you like. I'm so sorry to hear your other half is so very s**t. Big hugs and hope you didn't hurt yourself too much!

Lauren, we're thinking of you. I'm pretty much going to echo what mm said- look after yourself and that little miracle inside of you. I hope that you're ok physically after your fall. And don't worry about ranting- we're all going to have happy times and upset times on this board.

I'm on the couch today with a cold/flu thing. Yuk. However, I'm very proud of the fact that I deal with puking so much better now since having had ms! And it's nice to be able to relax and concentrate on the little flutters going on in my belly. If I can stay awake that is...

Hi CL,

We are with you indeed, as E14mum says, rant all you want indeed.
I agree with mm, break it off, he is indeed a pig, it is probably the hardest thing to do in the short time but in the long term it can only beneficial.

Is there anything I/we can do to help? I mean it.

P.

CL - he sounds like a complete prat my love, hope you get everything sorted one way or other [hug]

definitly been the baby moving and not wind saw belly moving up and down last night when it was kicking, definitly earlier then with my last 2 (im 17 weeks)

claphamlauren, lots of wise words already but just to say am thinking of you and hope you're ok. Remember your baby miracle and fear not, MN is definitely the place for an ourburst. That's the joy of it - we're all here for each other on the good days (congrats fitnforty on that note - fab news) and the not so good days (get well soon E14) and the down right shitty awful days...Clapham Lauren....we're here full of cyber hugs (gently so as not to hurt your back)

a question please, if anyone has any time. I have been feeling the baby move for a little while,(i'm 20+3) at least assuming that's what is is but since saturday night I have felt nothing. I don't want to unduly worry and have had no bleeding or anything. I had a very sore tummy yesterday walking to work in the morning and the evening but it's better today but no movements. Like I say i'm not getting stressed but just wondering if this is normal. As a first timer I don't know what to expect. I dont' want to hassle the midwife, who i've only met once and don't see for another 3 weeks. My scan is in two weeks.
Thanks all, and sorry when so much else going on but just wondering about other's experience.

imjin- the rule is if you are getting worried the mw's will be only too happy to help, no point in sitting stewing!

Having said that there are loads of reasons why movement could be less- facing the wrong way, kicking the placenta- hey it could even be male and its got 'man flu' so its sitting on its backside moaning

Prob absolutely nothing but if you are panicing etc then ring- they'd rather see you and put your mind at rest!

Urgh I know what I should just do it but it's so hard, I've been trying and trying so bloody hard to make it work for the sake of the baby. I guess a happy mummy is more important though. Thanks for your support and cyber hugs, made me cry again though, damn these bloody hormones! Going to stay with my Mum tonight for some yummy food and cuddles

Imjin - I'm about the same as you dates wise (although I'm SO confused about them) and I've had gaps in the movements etc. I was looking through some of the old pregnancy threads and it seems like it is REALLY common. Because the baby isn't massive, any slight change of position means that the movements can be really difficult to feel. I find that rolling myself onto my front/side often helps and then I get some wriggles!

If you're worried though it's best to get things checks so call the midwife and you could pop in for a quick heartbeat listen. That's what they are there for!!

thanks Claphamlauren and Preggersagain. I htink i'll wait and see for a few days as I'm feeling very relaxed about it and then call if lo's man flu is still about by the end of the week! I'm sure you're right and frankly after the leaping about I did (and LO did on saturday night ) i should imagine it's just enjoying some peace and quiet!
ClaphamL, don't rush, don't panic and mostly don't forget you and the baby are the most important in all of this. You need ot look after yourselves.

hi all

im 17+5 and new on here
ivce also been getting aches and apins in my hips and pelvis and was starting to stress cos i couldnt find anything on it, so a big thank you you guys have made me feel almost normal
i've been feeling 'pip' move for almost 2 weeks it started off like bubbles bursting, and the other night on a walk it felt like he was in a rock mosh pit or something lol.
we've got our scan on the 9th nov, and DH is determined that we dont wanna find out the flavour but im dying to know - a tough one me thinks lol.

hope everyones feeling brighter

hello barrowclaire, welcome to our world!

glad you're ok but sorry for the aches and pains. Isn't it funny how, if it's your first, there is so much you didn't know about being pregnant, that no friend ever tells you. Luckily we have MN to keep us all sane!

have a happy day.

Hi barrowclaire, ours is called pip too!

I've just noticed how weird my belly button is looking! :.)

CL, so sorry to hear what you're going through but remember there's no point in staying with someone causing you so much grief in the hope that it'll be better for the baby...hopefully your support network of family and friends can help you through it much better than he can. Sounds like he's just not ready to be a dad, but again that may change when the baby finally arrives since there's no rhyme nor reason to the male mentality Makes me feel so glad to have my OH even though he has his little faults, he's always there for me.
Just look after you and the baby in the meantime which means stressing as little as possible - which is your least stressful option? And hope your back isn't hurting too much, you're really in the wars! {{{hugs from here }}}

Imjin - last week my bub was twisting and turning like a washing machine on full spin. Got to the scan yesterday and he hardly moved at all, must have tired him out all that exercise on holiday last week! So glad we could see the heart beating away on screen otherwise I might have been worried

Hi Barrowclaire, welcome to the madhouse

Mine too! wider and more 'shallow'!
Scan on Thursday - getting very nervous snd keep having awful nightmares!
The post strike has delayed the arrival of my new clothes and I'm bursting out of my one remaining skirt.
CL - hope you are feeling better after your fall and the horrible time you are having. Look after yourself!

HELLO oops caps lock, barrowclaire. and CL, what a bugger of a time you are having. you MUST (those caps lock on purpose!) come and talk about whatever you want, don't worry!

i got out of hosp last night, the only one to be discharged as opposed to discharge myself: 3 people left in a very reasonable huff. the hosp basically weren't doing ultrasounds for 3 days, adn the imaging dept were even telling the medics to shut up and go away. there were 2 women in the queue with suspected ectopics, who were slated for surgery instead when i left. dreadful, stretched thin care, thank god i'm not booked into that hosp for delivery (we just went there for emergency docs).

am not very well or fit yet, but am at UCH for rest of treTMEnt tomorrow. it's probaly a cyst recently burst. but oh it hurt. wow. way worse than labour. lots of family picthin in to help. lovely to be back and have ds on tap again. real morale boost.

ps, i posted this on another thread. this was the one big laugh i had this weekend

Q. What is the most inappropriate thing you've seen or heard on a labour/ante natal ward?

A. For me it has to be saturday at midnight when the lass whe couldn't sleep put her phone player on and treated us to 'Like a Virgin'

Lauren- If you ever need to vent, I'm only a couple train stops/25 min drive from Clapham. (Well, in the evening anyway!) We are all here for you!

HellyBerry - LOL

CL - Remember I am in Regent's Park!

Preggers Again - I am coming to see you at Stokke booth on Friday!

Those with itchy boobs - see Mama Mia Gravida Salve. Is doing wonders on my flaking stomach.

Re: Christmas Meet up - I think John Lewis sounds like grand idea (and they just opened up a new food hall - think if what damage we could do there), would be fun to do the comparison shop afterwards. But this is the same area we cam eto last time - is that OK or would people prefer to spread out? Xmas season will be hard but what about a Thursday night like Dec 7? If there a few takes I'll start a new meet up thread.

yes, nod for thurs 7th

Am afraid I have to admit that central London fills me with dread in December..
Is anyone else watching Bringing Up Baby with outrage at the continuum knife thing? Cannot be right.

have it on tape to watch later, what's with the knife thing?