September 2020 7 - babies are arriving!

[sianyflewog]

Just making this ready xx

I have. Was just going to attempt a shower when I realised there's no way I'd get them back on! 🤦🏼‍♀️

Love to all, I'm really grateful for this thread!

My feet and ankles are enormous too @LatteLover12, but I took my socks off to have a shower before I came home and the midwives said I didn’t need to put them back on as I was pretty mobile. Which has also reminded me that I forgot my fragmin injection last night 😬 I don’t really know how they closed my wound - I had dissolvable stitches last time, and just assumed it would be the same!

Definitely understand what you mean @Sara7455 - I feel so much better for having made the decision. I’ve asked my husband to be here when the midwife comes today in case they’re pushy, but I am so glad I recognised the signs in myself before I let it get to me like last time! I am full of admiration for anyone who does breastfeed, because I think it’s so hard, but I am hugely proud of myself too for not putting so much pressure on myself to be ‘perfect‘ this time round. Being a mum is hard enough without adding additional pressures on yourself!

Congratulations to you too @Chanel05 - sorry been quick skimming posts! Xx

@sianyflewog - hopefully your midwife will be supportive. I’ve been lucky since we’ve been home as both the health visitor and respiratory nurse are supportive and not at all pushy - it’s just been me being hard on myself for the most part. Nurse says that, like you, I’m the sort of mum who tries really hard to get everything perfect and should just give myself a break more often!

Ooh that's interesting @sianyflewog the hospital suggested I'd need to wear them for six weeks!! 😳

I've managed to get out of my pjs and into some leggings and I'm counting that as a huge success for me and fashion today 😂

Have put several alarms on my phone to keep on top of my pain killers. Hoping for progress today.

Baby is sleeping, happily swaddled, in the Moses basket so I'm just having a cup of tea and giving my poor nipples a well deserved rest!

I wore leggings yesterday but every time I needed to pull them down for the loo they hit my wound 🤢 Trying to decide on some other trousers to buy that will be post section suitable!

I'm curious about the stockings, I didn't have to wear them last time but have to this time - I've never wore stockings (general ones) as have wife thighs and have never found any that fit so I'm skeptical the ones in the hospital will fit me either - hope they have decent elasticity!

Wide thighs not wife thighs

Getting surgical stockings on over my hugely swollen feet and legs might be one of my biggest life achievements @flameprincess and they gave me extra large!! I'm usually a size 10 😂😳

@LatteLover12 well I'm an 18 so I'm totally buggered then - good luck to them!

Hi everyone. Our little girl was born by c section on Wednesday 16th weighing 7lb 11. She got a little stuck so they had to use forceps to help and apply a LOT of pressure on my chest to try and move her down but apart from that all went well. We came home last night and I am shattered!! The pain is quite bad at the minute too but trying to keep on top of the painkillers. Baby is doing fab. I struggled to bond with my elder DD who’s now 5 so I’ve been quite nervous but so far, so good. I can’t stop staring at her! Hope everyone else and babies are ok and good luck to all the mums still waiting!

To everyone who has had their babies, massive congratulations!

I've been following your story in particular @ShiningStarz due to similar due dates, and the fact we both had GD and were being induced. So glad your daughter arrived safely in the end.

I had my baby boy on saturday 5th september. It was an incredibly difficult birth ending in emergency cesarean after 48 hours, but am slowly recovering. He is called Arlo and was 7lb 8oz when born.

Here is a pic of him!

@CookieBlue congratulations on your baby girl! Funnily enough, I had exactly the same experience with my c section - they had to use forceps as her head was too high (or something like that?! May have been a bit dopey on all the drugs and not listening right), and they were worried she’d turn awkwardly if they used their hands. She had a little mark but that’s gone already! Hope your recovery is ok, take care of yourself!

Congratulations to you too @UrsulaSings! Hope you’re both doing well! Xx

Oh my gosh @UrsulaSings he is just gorgeous!!! Congrats xx our stories seem similar! I had an induction that went wrong, emergency c section 12 hrs later! Hugs hugs xx

Congrats @CookieBlue there's quite a few c sections here! My advice is take it easy! I felt great after it and when I came home. Today I cleaned our bathroom and I'm sore! Best to rest up x

@LatteLover12 iv had the stockings on now 9 days!! Tomorrow is last day of wearing them and the clexane injections!! I'm trying to drink as much hot water with lemon slice and keep legs elevated. Legs better but feet still swollen, it's slowly improving tho. However I can't feel below belly button, I hear nerve damage after c section is common but also this permanent pouch of skin!

@sianyflewog buy the hush harem trousers! Get a size down from your normal. They are so unbelievably comfy!!!! I live in mine. They aren't baggy and they've a thick waistband that can be pulled over scar.

@sianyflewog my nipples are flat so latching so hard for my little one. I got the Medela pump and I literally spend 40 mins getting enough for 1 feed! Midwife wants me to do this x 8 a day!! I'm trying to get at least 3 breast milk bottle feeds and the rest aptamil.

Anyone with swelling! Keep moving, keep elevated and do circles with your feet to keep circulation going.

@Lilice congrats xx @Chanel05 congrats too xx

@Roxy8203 I hope you are ok?? Have you spoken to your midwife about how you feel?
I cry cause I'm so happy and so blessed with the most amazing daughter and my partner has just been so hands on with her and such a fan help. It's all just hormones and if you google you are not alone xx

Thinking of you all that are still waiting on your precious babies XX

Our little girl won't be put down !!! So I sleep 9pm - 11-30pm and my partner sleeps 1130pm-5am!! Then I get 3 hours until morning!!! Anyone else in this position??

Oh my gosh @emma278 our stores sound similar too! I had to beg the midwife in induction ward that this was progressing to quick n I was in agony!!! So glad you both are safe xx

😍 We must have more babies than people still pregnant now?!
@ursulasings he's gorgeous I love the name Arlo it was on my shortlist but my partner didn't like it!
@shiningstarz that sounds like such a long stretch over night how are you staying awake 😳

How is everyone feeling about the "second wave" of covid that is imminent? Starting to stress me out a bit. The thought of being stuck inside on my own with a newborn winter sounds like enough to drive me insane.
How has everyone with babies been handling visitors, have you been letting people visit/hold babies etc?

Congratulations @UrsulaSings and @CookieBlue!

@MooseWL - the covid is stressing me somewhat. Mainly because I just don’t want either me or DH to get it and then me go into labour! I really want baby to just be here now! I’m also concerned that everywhere around us keeps getting locked down (south wales), or threatened to be.... we havent yet, but my worry is we will (or they’ll just lock down Wales as a whole) and then because my parents and my partners parents live in different areas they won’t be able to travel to us to come and see her when she’s born. I want them to meet her and I want the support. Will let them have cuddles providing they are well but will insist on clean hands, a blanket and absolutely no kisses!

@MooseWL not feeling too great about the second wave. My in-laws were shielders and have pretty much continued to shield anyway (as they're on immunosuppressants) but my parents and family have absolutely not and are living back to normal lives albeit with a mask.

My DH and I made it clear and said all along that 2 weeks before due date we will pretty much isolate ourselves 'just in case' because I'm petrified of DH being unable to be my birth partner if he has any symptoms. My in-laws have respected this decision and are really supportive (we saw them right before our 2 week window kicked in) but my parents are really not respecting our choice and keep pushing to visit and see us, totally not listening when we say no. They went on holiday (to an area with local outbreaks and lockdowns) knowing full well that we were intending not to have visitors for these last 2 weeks, so they chose to holiday instead of seeing us when they could (no problem with this, they need to live their lives). And now they've booked another holiday the week after my due date too (again their lives, no problem with this) but they are now getting really stroppy when we stick to our guns and say no to visitors at the moment, despite our reasoning and not respecting our decision. Maybe we're being overly cautious, don't know, but they've certainly made us both feel like we don't fit nicely into their plans and it's all our fault for that. It's so tough and emotionally draining being guilt tripped by my parents. 😔

Once baby is here, we intend to take a few days to ourselves then invite in-laws to meet and cuddle first to protect their health from my family (holding baby with washed hands no kisses), then my parents, then my siblings.

How do you feel about the 2nd wave @MooseWL? I think your due date is quite close to mine.

Hi all! After a very long labour Gabriel Ezra was born at 23:38 on 16/09. He was was born with the cord around his neck and in distress having swallowed some meconium and is staying in the NICU for a few days. Luckily I get to stay here with him and he'll be moving in with me soon 💙

@OrDis @margo34 yeah think we're all pretty close with due dates (though I'm still convinced mine will be late, head not engaged yet and zero signs of anything!)
I hadn't even thought about my partner not being able to be there if he has any symptoms.
In our area cases are pretty low at the moment but my parents are in a city where cases are rising quickly there.
I'm the same I want them to visit but they've been on holiday this week with my nan which like you said @margo34 is totally fine, and their city is looking like it could be back in local lockdown soon. just makes me feel a little bit anxious. Other than that they're working from home/furloughed so should be okay. Saying that I've seen both them and my partners family quite a bit recently and it's not bothered me. I'm just more concerned for the baby when he's here.
My mum asked the other day how soon after the birth can she come visit and I was like I've never had a baby before I can't really say how I'll feel afterwards, I don't want to be like don't visit but I also don't want to be overwhelmed by visitors. I feel so conflicted. I guess there's no point worrying about it just see how I feel after.
A lot of my friends are also like "when we visit the baby" and I'm like ummm. In that sense another lockdown would make it easier to say no!

@CNovittBolden congratulations 😍 hope he can be back with you soon! X

@MooseWL 2020 is just such a tough year to be pregnant and have a baby!

I had my MW appt today and baby is 3/5ths which I think means partially engaged? Apart from headbutts in the pelvis I've had no signs of anything either. Just want to meet baby now!

Congrats @CNovittBolden @UrsulaSings @CookieBlue and everyone else whose babies have arrived recently 😊