September 2020 7 - babies are arriving!

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Just making this ready xx

@MooseWL seeing 1am twice last night was a real struggle!! We leave the landing light on and our door open so that gives us enough light to check on LO.

At the moment she won't settle in the evening and all the usual tricks seems to no longer work.

I've been in hospital for the past few days with a raging temperature caused by mastitis so that hasn't helped. Hoping once we're home, we can start a small routine. Only bonus is she is now sleeping in her Moses basket without fuss but won't settle till about 2am 🙄

Oh no @WillowT wishing u ou a speedy recovery and hope you can get home soon. It's nice your baby will sleep in her moses without fussing. Soon the 2am will move earlier and earlier.

We've definitely had the worst night last night, the clocks changing didn't help. I hope tonight will be a bit better.

@WillowT a comrade with mastitis here too, it's agony! Absolutely feel for you, you must have had it bad if admitted to hospital!
Get well soon

Thank ladies!

@Margo34 it sent my temp to over 40! I didn't know I had it till admitted. I thought the infection causing my temp was due to my stitches! Hope it clears for you soon

Wow @WillowT I've got no idea how you could have it and not know, I'm jealous! Feeding through it is absolute agony! Constant burning pain, fever chills fluey... I can't even sit up or pick up baby girl at all 😭 hoping the emergency antibiotics kick in ASAP 🙏🙏🙏

Hello, I'm still here. Sorry I find it so hard to type
These days! Much easier to read 🤣. I'm not on FB page either, I don't really use it anymore bar for community pages!

@WillowT @Margo34 sorry to hear about the mastitis. It can be so nasty, I find drinking loads of water and constant massage helps but its so horrid sometimes.

We aren't really in much of a pattern here but Ed is starting to do long chunks of sleep. Last night managed to time it so he did 7.30-10.30, I then woke him for a dream feed and nappy change and he slept till 2.15 🥳 it's going to be a one off but I needed it last night so very grateful. Daytime he will only sleep in the carrier and sometimes pram. Nighttime we are co sleeping 🥰

He's 7 weeks and I had him weighed last week and he was 14lbs 5oz. He's jumped a bit up the centile chart which is interesting considering he was on the98th! We've got a paeds app in a couple weeks to try sort his diarrhoea. I've given up so many allergens and it's eased it some but it's still bad and the rash as a result is awful. Even if we change immediately and use his steroid cream it's still so sore 😢

Hope everyone is ok? X

@Margo34 that sounds awful! I think mine developed the day I was admitted if that makes sense, not a few days in advance. I had all the symptoms that day...flurry, fever, pain lying on it but nothing beforehand. To be honest, if it hadn't been the fact I had other infections, I probably wouldn't have gone into the hospital but was so worried something was still wrong with the stitches wound. Glad you have some antibiotics now and they kick in soon. I have it since Thurs and its starting to get better now. Still sore but all other symptoms have gone.

@WillowT @Margo34 hope you’re both feeling better soon - sounds awful you poor things! Fingers crossed the antibiotics work their magic soon!

@ChipsAreLife - glad you’ve got some decent sleep last night. We’re starting to get there in the night which is amazing but when he wakes at 3:30 he wants to stay awake and play now so isn’t going back down as quickly as he used to! Hope your little one feels better soon too and paeds find out what’s causing the problem!

I'm a big dream feed fan too. Last night we gave it at 11pm and Eva slept until 4 am! Felt so good after the bad night we had just before where she was waking up every 2 hours.

After 3am we seem to do a 10 minute feed every 45 minutes at the moment it's a nightmare! I tried a co sleeping feed/ nap after my partner went to work this morning which was less scary than I imagined!

I asked my partner to change him at 7am (his alarm for work normally goes off at 7.15 for work) and he rolled over and was like i'll do it in 10 minutes then got really grumpy when I said he needed changing now. As you can imagine I was raging. How they sleep all night then have the cheek to be "tired" at 7am omgggg.

Having a catch-up read!

@ShiningStarz you may have one now but we have the BT smart baby monitor 2.8” screen. Works on my phone (iphone7) but doesn’t on hubbys (iphone10pro?) so that’s the only issue we have found which isn’t a problem as the monitor is wireless anyway so he uses that. It’s really good and I’ve attached a pic I’ve just took so you can see what it’s like at night.

In other news LO is madly chewing his hands, is very crabby and not taking as much food, all Googling points to teething or just being a baby - highly unhelpful 😂,
he’s only 9 weeks so I’m massively unsure if he is or not, but finally got 6/8 week check up next Tuesday so will check with Docs.

Hope everyone is coping ok 💙

@Sara7455 thanks for that, wren sounds like a great sleeper!! We have been takin about when to start the routine. Little one is 7 weeks on thurs. we may start to introduce something at 8 weeks but definitely need a proper plan by 12 weeks!! Iv read that doing the same thing in the same order in the same room (bath, read, feed, say goodnight and put down) and taking turns with partner so LO doesn't get used to same person doing the bedtime routine!

@MooseWL how are you getting on this week? I have a night light and a geo egg both behind LO so she's not distracted by them but I can check on her!! You must be wrecked feeding every 45 mins 😱 your partner is a laugh!

@WillowT hope you are ok x

@ChipsAreLife I hope your LO is doing better. Great about the dream feed!! Our LO wakes every 2 hrs for feed so usually a about 12 and 4am but she takes 1/3 to 1/2 of her usual daytime feed (120ml ish). Iv tried feeding while sleeps to get her to finish her bottle but nope she just ends up choking and coughing so I give up and let her nod off.

Thanks @Lorna198i haven't got one yet or even started researching! I don't think I'll use it until she is in her own room - after 6 months. I have the 10 pro! Aghhh will have to do some googling. As it's wireless it hardly matters tho, pic quality is fab!! The hand in mouth thing our LO only does if hungry or needs winded!

Anyone else not given a dummy? Dodo? We n
Haven't and she's almost 7 weeks now so hoping we don't need to start....

Although....

She hates the bassinet for walks and literally screams until she's picked up!!! Dummy would be handy for this! I take her for walk in her car seat and she's fine in it / with my partner in sling. I don't go far though cause the first time I had to hold her and push pram back on my own!! I imagined bliss autumn walks with my baby - it's not going exactly as I imagined it would !!!

@Lorna198 mine is chewing his hands as well. Can’t believe he’s teething at 8 weeks from due date and it’s not usually hunger as he’ll do it just after a feed as well and if I offer food he’s happy with the hand (wasted a bit of milk trying). Going with it maybe being the just being babies / discovering their hands thing but it doesn’t half make a mess dribbling everywhere when he does it!

@ShiningStarz I think routine is definitely meant to be the thing. Maybe we have one that he’s picked up on and I haven’t. Husband is definitely a creature of habit. We aren’t bathing every day still (I didn’t think you’re meant to until they’re one?) but we do at least go with clean nappy and change into pjs then give him a last feed and he goes off a little while after that. Hope your LO changes her mind about the bassinet! I’m definitely doing a lot more baby wearing for convenience of him definitely sleeping when worn!

@ChipsAreLife dream feed sounds so good for extending the sleep. I have tried but he just lies there with his mouth open and won’t eat unless you actually wake him. He’s sleeping pretty well though so can’t complain too much!

Yeah it's funny on the dream feed as it never worked for my girls! Just woke them up 😬 last night he didn't settle till 10 'anyway so didn't need to dream feed. He did do a good chunk then though!

@MooseWL I'm a big fan of co sleeping. The trouble is the term is used to cover a whole range of scenarios including unsafe ones that have led to tragic outcomes. There is loads of good information on it but if done safely it's great! Whenever I read about deaths it's normally someone's fallen asleep on the sofa cuddling them or one of the parents has been drinking. Lullaby trust has some good info. It's saved my sanity all three times so I'm a big fan!

@ShiningStarz we use a dummy for sleep. It's great, helps him soothe and be comfortable. They're also good for reducing SIDS. I like when they get a big older you can give it to them to keep them calm when needed!

Re routine if you're noticing patterns with sleeping / eating then go for it! Just don't put too much pressure on it. Babies are newborns for 12 weeks and just want lots of cuddles and milk!

@MooseWL yes! DH gets up with the girls at 6 and moans about being tired after having a full night sleep 🤔

What are people planning on doing with their babies in the evenings? I know the general rule is to always keep them in the same room as you for the first 6 months, will everyone do that?

Our little girl is only 6 weeks but I can already tell that things are disturbing her and waking her up in the evenings when she’s downstairs with us. We’re having a lot of problems with overtiredness and not being able to settle her back down again. With my older DD I think we put her to sleep in our room before us when she was around 4 months but we were living in a small flat so she was never more than a few steps away! Now our bedroom is on the third floor so if I did put her to bed before us she would be two floors up and I don’t know how I feel about that (even if using a monitor). It’s hard to know what to do!

@CookieBlue it's a tricky one. I know the guidelines say that you should be in the same room for every sleep until 6 months. We've been letting her do some naps and the early part of her night in her own in our room. But we are in a flat and the lounge is right next to our room. Not sure how I would feel being a floor or more away...

On the other hand, babies need to sleep (at least mine does!).

I take him up a few minutes before our bedtime then come down and have a drink , gonna take him up a bit earlier every few days until I feel fully confident he’s ok for longer periods. It’s only one floor up and the monitor is on so I can’t see that much can happen to him in that time anyway. I think it will be better for him to be more settled and hoping in maybe 6/8 weeks he will have a proper decent bedtime routine where he is left in peace to sleep with none of our noise/lighting affecting him as he is quite unsettled in the evenings at the moment.

@shiningstarz the sleep this week is so bad. He'll sleep for maybe 2 hours in his next to me when we go to bed then wake up for a feed and refuse to go back in the crib. So frustrating as the first few weeks he'd settle in there for 3 hours at a time. I gave in at 4am and we co slept again which was better and got a few hours then my partner is off today so he had him for a couple of hours this morning whilst I napped! I've bought a Vava light now which arrived yesterday which is great as it's portable so can take it with me to change him and its also got a really low setting plus you can set a timer so it turns off after an hour. I'm thinking I'll be able to use it as a nightlight for him when he's in his own room too.

@chipsarelife yeah I've read all the stuff about safe co sleeping. What do you do about keeping yourself warm? I've been tucking the duvet around my waist so it's away from him and can't ride up but my top half is freezing! Maybe I just need some warmer pjs if we're going to end up with him in the bed every night.

@MooseWL I have little one in bed next to me in the morning when she wakes for her 7am ish feed, she's ready to party but I'm not!! So she gets into bed with me as won't settle then in her next to me. I sleep with my face facing hers and take away my pillow. I do let duvet cover up to my chest but Iv my arm over duvet and over her so even if she moved a little my arm would know about it! Wouldn't be comfortable doing this during the night tho.
Iv a light long sleeve pj which I love, in fact all the ones iv had that have washed fab are from
Asda x

Got so stressed this morning!!! As I had a c section I didn't do anything with pram or car seat, my partner took charge of all that.
However now that I am signed of to drive I managed to work out the car seat, clicks into the base and unclick etc, they are so heavy!!! I feel like a weakling!!! Anyone else!!!

I tried to take little one on walk by putting car seat on pram but couldn't get it properly clicked on pram frame and then she was screaming and I pulled the whole thing off incorrectly and just took her back inside and cancelled the walk. So frustrated that I am crap at this!!!

@ShiningStarz oh bless you! They’re so tricky. Try practising without the baby in or ask your partner to show you. We had a practice run before baby was born but I also had a c section so haven’t done anything with the car seat/buggy frame in 6 weeks and had completely forgotten how to do it!

I took both the girls out for the first time on my own today (I have an older DD who is 5). We only went to the local shopping centre for an hour but it felt like a huge achievement!

@ShiningStarz It's so stressful taking them out the first few times. It took me ages to build up the courage (and find the right time!) to take DD out on my own. The first time felt like a massive achievement even though it was just a walk round the block. It gets much easier the more you do it particularly with the pram/ car seat etc...

@ShiningStarz first time I took my first baby out I was in John Lewis car park on YouTube watching how to put the pram up 🤣🤣🤣
It takes time to learn and also you're sleep deprived do it's not easy!!!

@MooseWL yeah get some warm pjs! In fairness I go under the free duvet and he's on top of it next to me in his sleeping bag.

@ChipsAreLife bless you on YouTube in John Lewis car park! When we were bringing W home from NICU we were outside the hospital struggling to get his buggy back in the car and one of the neonatal doctors happened to appear and was like “oh I’ve got the same one it’s easy you just do this” and adjusted one bit and it fell completely flat. Slightly embarrassing but so glad she was there! Once you’ve got the hang of them it’s usually ok @ShiningStarz