Due June 2020 thread 8: The one where all the babies appear!

[Busylizzie85]

New thread I hope I have done it right!

@Busylizzie85 - definitely! DH says I'm thinking myself into not going into labour but I'm trying to manage my expectations of the "due month"! Not everyone else gets it though.

@missgemini - you're further on than me; feel free to swap misery stories of "When IS your due date again?", "It WAS...!" 😂 I swear everyone in the world is going before 40 weeks at the moment! I know of July due dates popping out 😐

@birdgarden I don't even feel like I can go into spontaneous labour now. I'm just living my life watching netflix, reading this group, eating and sleeping every day 🤣
My father in law reminded my husband that sex can help in this situation. Yes, thanks a lot! 🤣
3rd sweep tomorrow, but I'm not holding my breath! Induction on Sunday though 🤞

41+2

@Magpiefeather I had my covid swab on Monday, in advance of elective section. They seem to be swabbing on arrival otherwise.

@Kez437, agree with you, the care I've had has been excellent. We thought DH wouldn't be allowed in until I was actually going to theatre, but he was able to be there from when we arrived, which was great. Unfortunately he did have to leave once we moved back down to the ward. All the staff have been really kind and attentive.
Do I remember right that you're in NI Kez? Which hospital are you in?

And congratulations to all other new mummies today -sorry, I can't keep up!! 😂

Wow, what a day!! Congratulations to @MissisBee @Kez437 @BabyBird20 @Blizy - wishing you all speedy recoveries.

@missgemini - me too! It's the oddest feeling, like going into labour at this stage is something that happens to other people! Days pass pretty quickly with a nearly 2 year old thankfully. I mean I love being right, but a few times a day I go "holy moly, I am a ticking time bomb now..."

I've been trying sex, and now run out of Clary sage, raspberry leaf capsules, dates and my pregnancy multivitamins. After my previous experiences I've decided against sweeps before 41+3, and any induction before 42 weeks (which takes me to DD's birthday 🙈). I feel very lucky that all the community midwives have been very supportive and helpful in setting out alternatives and understanding my personal reasoning; and willing to discuss it from quite early on so I've had plenty of time to research/think/soul search! They also accept that this baby has a double whammy of "late genes" 😂

Wow was just checking in to see how everyone is doing and there’s been so many births congratulations to all you mummies and happy birthday babies ☺️ What an exciting day. I’m still very much pregnant but baby’s movements have perked up today after yesterday’s visit to MAU for some monitoring. Tomorrow is my due date but definitely think I’m going to be late as no signs of an imminent arrival 😂

@Magpie21 that's great about the colostrum. Both the mums on the ward with me had done that and brought it with them and they found it came in very handy. I'm really wishing I had got myself organised to try it before he came as then I could give him some while letting my nipples rest and heal a bit.

Congratulations @Kez437 @Blizy @MissisBee @BabyBird20 and @Chels2. Really sorry to hear yours was a bit of an ordeal @babybird20 but glad all is well now.

@Magpiefeather no COVID swab here. I had my temp done along with my wee and blood pressure and that was it, and DH had his temp taken before being allowed into the unit for my labour. They also asked if I was well or showing symptoms when I called to discuss coming in.

Also, I think it was you who was worried about your 3yo's reaction? I said I wasn't sure how our almost 3yo would react as we hadn't really been able to prepare him for her...well, he's been amazing so far. He was very excited when he saw 'baby' when we got home (full on happy dance), and loves to hold her or come see her while you hold her, gets excited when she makes noises and generally seems fascinated with her. He's been fine so far with her being with me most of the time and also been quite gentle.

Wow, what a day for birthdays! Sorry I have t tagged you all but I'm a bit knackered!
I hope all the new babies and mummy's are doing well.
@LillianFullStop my due date was 1st July,
I don't I added you t to the spreadsheet, I'm hopeless at tech!

@HaichMal thanks for the info on your experience. I really am thankful to not go through all this alone and have u girls here to talk. I started to leak today was an odd feeling! I think it's the milk coming in. Boobs feel much heavier now. Still struggling w latching. Had the mw come today also for the check up and he said I'm doing everything right, he even checked tongue tie but nothing on that front,

How does everyone time their night feeds? I try to sleep as my much as I can during the day to be ready for night wakings. I'm up now trying to bf and managed about 10 min he's now asleep . I don't want to put him down yet until I can try some more as I also don't want to lose my comfortable position! It's hard to find

Is there a postnatal group yet?

@Rinoa I'm glad I'm not going through it alone either and I'm glad your latch and everything has been checked and deemed fine. I've used a nipple shield tonight to try and give them a bit more of a chance to heal.

She's been feeding for around 10-20 minutes for most of the day, then going 1.5-2 hours between. I think we've just finished our big cluster feed which started somewhere between 1 and 2am and has been a mix of usual length feeds and 2 longer ones, more like 20-30 mins, with breaks, hiccups and maybe a bit of trapped wind. I'm hoping we'll get a few hours now and fingers crossed my toddler doesn't disturb us all too early!

Good luck to anyone due or in the middle of an induction, a sweep, c-section or experiencing possible signs

This is baby Charlotte, now 2 days old.

She's a cutie @HaichMal 😍

I'm wondering all those that have having temperatures taking and particularly the dads if the dads temp was high what would happen?

Wow so many new arrivals!! Congratulations everyone!

I've had a bit of a nightmare few days to be honest. I was told by my community midwife last Friday to come in Wednesday at 8am For induction, got to the hospital only to be told that I was supposed to ring at 8am for a time ( definitely not baby brain on this occasion) they rang later that day to ask me to come in at 8pm for outpatient pessary induction. Baby was not playing ball on monitoring- he's always been very active but what should have been 1 hr monitoring before hand became 2 and a bit with a registrar confirming pessary was still ok. Got home 2.30am yesterday morning already with backache. Awake at 5ish and felt irregular contractions all in my back and bum. Stopped monitoring them for a while whilst I had a nice bath and then early afternoon, using Freya app, it told me I had established contractions. Rang labour ward about 2pm, they said they were quite busy and could I come in at 3.30pm- checked about partner and they said he could attend as potentially in established labour. Arrived and was told while they assessed me hubby couldn't stay 🙄 after monitoring and a very aggressive (most painful) examination she told me I was only 2cm but now I had come back in it was not their policy to let me home again! Gutted to say the least... cue first emotional break down! the only benefit was getting some codeine for the contractions. I was left in a make shift cubicle for an hour an a half with a bed but nothing else, no ball, no direction on what was really happening. Was then told pessary to come out at 11.15pm and then it would be break waters etc and hubby could come back. At 9.30pm they came to tell me they were moving me up to induction ward as there would be a 'delay with the next stage' due to things going on on the labour suite. Ten mins later told that nothing would be happening until the morning. Cue second emotional breakdown! A pretty unhelpful midwife had told me before hubby left in the afternoon not to worry about my bag as he'd be back later! Luckily we don't live too far so he brought it to me at 10pm last night. Removed pessary and more codeine meant a great nights sleep. Have now been told they're still waiting on labour suite but hopefully should be this morning, no guarantee though. And since the codeine at 11.30pm last night I havent felt a contraction 🙄

Sorry about the longgggg post but just needed to rant! I completely appreciate they can not control how many people go into labour when and emergencies but the communication really hasn't been great

41+3

@sarahlounich I think you are completely right to rant I'm sorry but that all sounds really shit and would of been made a 100 times better if they had let your husband stay with you or let you go home

Can't get my head around places like Mac Donald's opening but women still can't have their husbands not leave their side during labour it's ridiculous

@HaichMal Charlotte is adorable!! Sounds like she is a good little feeder 😊

@lillianfullstop could you possibly add me to the spreadsheet please? I'm not able to open the spreadsheet in the app...21st June - Baby Girl (@magpiefeather and @zoey92 - That makes us due date buddies!)

I'm getting so many bad dreams lately...guessing it's a mixture of a busy mind and hormones!

@HaichMal Charlotte is gorgeous! She has hair similar to my Freddie.

We had an unsettled night last night. He kept waking for no reason (that I could work out) after being totally asleep when put down in his crib. Today will be a long one! My boobs are absolutely enormous and full of milk. I had to hand express some last night as the pain was bad. Think I might as well express into a bottle today and keep it so DH can do some feeding. Didn't really want to use a bottle but seems daft to waste so much milk I have to get out anyway. He's desperate to be able to feed him too so would be nice for him. If we get on ok with an odd bottle think I'll buy a pump.

Oh, and I can't believe baby Freddie is already 1 week old today 💙

@sarahlounich oh I’m so sorry to hear this, such bad communication and lack of care. Everyone knows that women need to feel calm, safe and secure in order for labour to progress, so shuffling you about here and there, not giving you enough/correct information etc is just completely ridiculous.
We all know how stretched and busy they are, but it doesn’t take much time just to kindly explain things to people and this can make such a huge impact.
Hope things are better for you from here on out and your little one will be in your arms before you know it! ♥️ Xxx

@sarahlounich I've been thinking about you, due date buddy. Can't believe we're both still pregnant.
I'm so sorry for the shit experience. Sounds like an absolute nightmare situation. Like someone else said, the stress is really not helping with the labour. So frustrating!
Try and do some mindfulness exercises if you can. This experience is so important to us, but perhaps the midwives are numb from having done them a million times.
Ignore the nonsense and try and get into a better frame of mind. Hopefully that should help progress things.
I hope to hear your good news soon. Hang in there x

I'm going for my 3rd sweep today. Literally don't even see the point of them anymore, but I'll keep going. Induction on Sunday!

41+3

Has anyone yet on here had a 'normal' spontaneous vaginal birth?

I don't mind if things go a bit off piste - I'm sure they will at some point. Just wondered if anyone's had a smoother journey! It's reassuring to hear you've all made it through to hold your lovely bubsies and even those of you who've had a rough time of it are persevering and being so strong. Well done mums!

@Magpie21
Me too with the dreams, I was a big dreamer before but they seem more vivid at the moment. The disturbed sleep doesn't help.

@sarahlounich that sounds so stressful and I think you have every right to complain. I hope it’s all much smoother from here on.

I’ve been feeling lots of pressure/pain at the bottom of my bump, but not tightening or anything like contractions, and today’s 38 week scan explained it... doctor was trying to show me baby’s face and saying her hand was in the way across her eyes... then she realised it wasn’t her hand but her foot! No wonder it feels so full down there!

Just had a call from the labour ward and they are to busy so have had to put all inductions on hold! 🙁
They said they will call again as soon as they have room but that could be anytime day or night. I'm so anxious to get going now just want her here safe and sound.

@Busylizzie85 what? I thought induction time was sort of guaranteed. Oh dear. Sorry you're having to deal with this uncertainty. Hopefully not long now x

How much have I missed here! Trying to catch up but so many awesome news! Just looked at our sheet - 12 babies 👶👶👶!! Many congratulations to you all ladies and good luck to whos having your babies very soon ❤️❤️❤️

I have do admit that I had the most challenging week of my life. Day 1-4 little b wouldn't sleep other than in our arms - which now looks the tiniest problem. On Day 5 during the midwife home visit we found his jaundice index was high and confirmed by a blood test in hospital. Baby and I stayed in the hospital for 24 hours for the light therapy. He hated the eye mask and was in distress lots of time crying his guts out - rip my heart into pieces. I held him the whole time so couldn't eat or drink much. Dad couldn't be with us due to COVID. It was dreadful. Hes now well enough to be home and we are feeding him as much as we can to get bilirubin out his system and hopefully we will pass the Sunday Re-check with flying scores! The positive side is that we bonded so much during that 24 hours. He'd smell me and touch me and hear me say "mummy's here", he'd calm down. Since we returned home he can suddenly sleep in his snuzpod next to me as long as knowing I'm always there with him ❤️

Day 7 we hired a private MW to snap his tongue-tie at home which should be a very straightforward process. She claimed that out of the 200 cases only 2 had significant bleeding. Unfortunately we became her 3rd case - at a point she thought she would need us to call an ambulance to help... I won't live that evening again. Luckily bleeding was eventually stopped after 20mins or so (which felt like a century) and little b can feed much easier now.

Sorry for the long post but wanted to share with you. How much have I missed you ladies. I do hope that we've passed the worst stage now. Again Best of luck to everyone. Xxx